View Full Version : co-worker is not my boss, but thinks he is

04-25-2005, 04:32 PM
My co-worker is not my manager, but because he has been at my place of work for many years, he thinks that he can tell me what to do, even though he does not have final say in what I do. I dont like being told what to do by someone who is on equal level with me within the organziation. How should I handle this situation??

04-25-2005, 04:45 PM
I had a similar situation at my previous job. I was the receptionist, but I assisted and reported to the accountant. (it was a very small office/business). When a new president came in, he treated me like I was his personal secretary ("get so and so on the phone for me.....type this up for me...." etc). The new plant manager and marketing director saw this and followed suit. So, it came to be that I had 4 bosses. I discussed the situation with my actual boss. I just carefully asked her what I needed to do. I knew that I sort of had no say when it came to the president giving me things to do, but I did explain to him that while I was happy to assist him, I did have many other things to do that were important to the company. Eventually, he made his own phone calls, and when he saw how busy I actually was, he kept his requests at bay.
I sort of told the other two "bosses" of mine the same thing, but this time I took a harder stance. Unless I actually had the time to do what they requested, the answer was no.(it was "no" a lot) It worked out. Then I left. :huge:

04-25-2005, 05:03 PM
My co-workers has tried to do that on various occassions. It's not very pleasent. Have you tried talking to your supervisor about this?

Mad Dawg
04-25-2005, 05:08 PM
This is a common one, and honestly the answer is complicated because everyone's work environment is a little different. Currently I work in an environment where annual reviews are done by your co-workers and then sent to the manager for review. In this case, I would just remember the way I was treated come time to fill out that person's annual review. You could also just talk to your boss, and if that doesn't work bring it up with HR. If nothing else works, confront the person. I know I've had to do this a few times.

Now for my personal worst experience...

At my last company, I was promoted to the same level as my hiring manager. My hiring manager thought I was going to be promoted to a position still answering to him, and just could not accept that we were equals on the org chart. He started giving me a hard time around the office and trying to make me look bad. I counted on our mutual boss to keep him at bay, but when he left my hiring manager was promoted and I was reporting to him again. I had enjoyed working for him before, but considering the way he reacted to my promotion I refused to do it again.

On the day I gave him my two weeks notice he had my e-mail account deleted, benefits cancelled, security access taken away, VPN access from my home shut down, hard drive wiped and had me escorted from the building by security as if I had been fired for stealing. I had my e-mail access just long enough to see the mass mailer from HR telling everyone in the company that I was no longer employed there and was not to be granted access to the building.

The next day I stayed home since I had been given every indication I was no longer welcome there. That son of a bitch had the nerve to call and ask why I wasn't there and whether or not I intended to complete the tasks we agreed on when I gave my notice. You can bet I told him where he could go and what he could do with that list of tasks. I already had a job lined up with my current employer, and had no plans to ever use him as a reference.

04-25-2005, 05:36 PM
You could have probably sued over that. Especially the benefits cancellation, and the slander.

My boss at my first job out of college also sent out an email giving everyone the impression I'd been fired... little did he know how I'd been crowing for weeks about how excited I was to be going to work for a competitor firm.

04-25-2005, 05:43 PM
he thinks that he can tell me what to do, even though he does not have final say in what I do. I dont like being told what to do by someone who is on equal level with me within the organziation. How should I handle this situation??

I think he/she/it is talking about our moderators.

Mad Dawg
04-25-2005, 05:44 PM
Maybe so. I got one of my best friends from high school hired there as a network analyst. He was working the night shift that week, and he called me that night. "Dude, my boss told me you were fired today. We had a long discussion about how even though we're friends I'm not supposed to let you in the building or talk to you about company matters. What happened?" Whatever, that place was third rate anyhow. I may not like my current job, but I LOVE the company I currently work for. I am the envy of the guys I used to work with.

Jedi of Zen
04-25-2005, 10:00 PM
Wow, MadDawg - that's quite a story!

I used to be a supervisor at one job, and one particular employee who was under me actually had the nerve to try and boss ME around (as well as my bosses). He was a bodybuilder, about twice my size, and very unstable emotionally. He'd try to use his size and ego to intimidate everyone. My bosses were so scared of him, they were afraid to fire him even after he was caught stealing multiple times. Later we all found out that he had tried to sue his last employer over some petty issue and had been planning to do the same to us. But we finally acquired such a long list of offenses against him that he had no choice but to either quit or be fired.

Lipgloss Boost
04-27-2005, 11:22 AM
I think I made a thread regarding this issue with Liz, the woman I work with? Well, for as much as my Union sucks, myself & a zillion other ppl have written formal complaint forms. As of yesterday, after collecting 5-7 forms from both clients & her co-workers, they approached her yesterday! After five months - wow, so speedy.... *ahem*

The fall-out: She was crying around the shelter all last night, saying how she has "changed", needs therapy, etc. She became more of a security risk & liability for Rob & I (co-worker), than a real benefit. My boss & her are drinking buddies though so he wouldn't send her home. She has this great saving-the-company routine, "No, no - don't worry about me. I'll be fine. I'll stay the extra 3 hours" - but then acts like she's the Manager. Yep: go to HR & b*tch. They'll do something... it may take 5 months though?