girl on top ;)

[mishl982]

hehe, this is silly and kind of embarassing, but I need help! :p Ok so first off, some of you know how inexperienced I am when it comes to sex. This weekend was the second time EVER I have done it. So we're getting it on and then I end up on top. I seriously did not know what to do. I tried doing it but I just couldn't figure it out. The only way I was able to move right was when he helped me out. I almost wanted to laugh out loud because I felt so stupid. I know the positions and how you can angle yourself, etc, I think it's the movement of the hips I don't get. Girls, what the heck do you do up there?! I need some moves!! :green: :p

You can PM me if you don't want to get graphic on the boards, hehe.

[mishl982]

Oh I just wanted to add everything else went smoothly, it was just that part where I felt like I didn't know what the heck I was doing.

[biodork]

I personally don't like being on top. I come too fast and well sorry if this is TMI but whatever-we don't use condoms so it all falls out. :rolleyes:

PS-and if he knows you're inexperienced, you shouldn't feel stupid! (*ahem*)

[MetFanL]

(1) Start doing kegel exercises.

(2) Buy an issue of Cosmo. :)

[spokes]

practice - it seems as if you have a willing partner.

[mishl982]

PS-and if he knows you're inexperienced, you shouldn't feel stupid! (*ahem*)
I didn't fess up til after :) But now he knows!
(1) Start doing kegel exercises.

(2) Buy an issue of Cosmo. I did a lot of research on the cosmo website last night! :p

[Winter Storm]

Watch some porn. That's how I learned.

LOL

[Kitty]

I think it is also one of those things that get easier w/ time and practice. You'll find what works for you and your partner. One thing that helps me is being able to hold on to something..like a bed railing or push against a wall.

[Winter Storm]

Next time, try the "reverse cowgirl". We love that.

Is that where the girl is facing the other way? When her back is toward the guy?

[pisces2473]

I think it is also one of those things that get easier w/ time and practice. You'll find what works for you and your partner. One thing that helps me is being able to hold on to something..like a bed railing or push against a wall.
I completely agree.

[coll214]

I think it is also one of those things that get easier w/ time and practice. You'll find what works for you and your partner. One thing that helps me is being able to hold on to something..like a bed railing or push against a wall.
I'll second that...

[heatherf]

I tend to grip the sheets. It helps to have traction- like with your knees. If they are just slippin' all over the place then you can't get your rhythm down..... :huge:

[wordsmith]

Stabilization is everything...headboard, side of the mattress...just don't break your bed. :redface:

[lawya girl]

Stabilization is everything...headboard, side of the mattress...just don't break your bed. :redface:


Do you speak from experience? :evil:

[MetFanL]

Stabilization is everything...headboard, side of the mattress...just don't break your bed. :redface:

Or anything else... :redface:

[pisces2473]

You girls think balancing is hard? Try when your BF has an abdominal wound and girl on top is the ONLY way you can do it...and you are trying to NOT fall on him...

But it was still fun ;)

[mishl982]

omg we were at my place and FINALLY I got to break my bed in. I just kept worrying it might break - it's from Ikea!

[wordsmith]

Do you speak from experience? :evil:

Damned cheap wrought iron-look headboard...

[Kitty]

omg we were at my place and FINALLY I got to break my bed in. I just kept worrying it might break - it's from Ikea!

LOL - dont worry, IKEA beds are sturdier than they appear! I had this loft bed from IKEA that I made MYSELF (so, probably not done right) and I always thought it was going to crash and break every night I went to sleep. I had sexual activities on it plenty of times and it held up!!!

[lawya girl]

Damned cheap wrought iron-look headboard...


heehee

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[wordsmith]

Fortunately, I'm of the belief that levity is always a good thing...

[pisces2473]

Well it's not so much the back that we like to see, but yeah, that's it :).
I know what you like to see... :evil:

And btw, do you think I can add that to the lawsuit? That we haven't been able to have sex in a variety of positions?

[MetFanL]

And btw, do you think I can add that to the lawsuit? That we haven't been able to have sex in a variety of positions?

If you were married, you probably could. Consortium, yes?

[pisces2473]

If you were married, you probably could. Consortium, yes?
Hmmm true. Although Chris DOES want everyone to know that our relationship was put on hold, etc...so that they can restitute him for EVERYTHING. :huge:

[lawya girl]

Yep - loss of consortium is compensable. I don't know about "loss of variety of consortium" but anything's possible! ;)

[mishl982]

Hehe so how would you get compensated for that? Have them pay for free hotel stays and condoms for a year? :twisted:

[pisces2473]

They could...BUY US A NICE HOUSE!!!!!!

[and1grad]

Or a "toy" :rolleyes:

[asm198]

I don't mean to sound snotty, but what do you mean you don't know what to do? Am I doing something wrong? Because I just climb on top and kind of move around. I've found that varying your speed is a good thing. I'll be the crazy who puts out too much info. TMI coming up...













I've found that if I rest my hands just below his armpits or next to his head and lift my body from the knees slowly is a big pleaser. As in, from my feet to my knees don't move, but from my knees to my thighs move up and down. Like you're sitting on your feet and then you bring your body up so you're knee high. That's where the varying speeds thing comes in. Go really slow at first, then speed up. Then, take your hands away from the bed or whatever and sit up straight. Kind of lean back until you are totally parallel to *him* and go slowly. You can put your hands behind you if you are flexible enough and feel comfortable enough to do so. Feels awesome to you, and great to him. Then you can go back to all fours and go fast. I like to mix it up and pull him up next to me, hold him with one hand and put the other behind me. Slow is best with that position. Lather, rinse, repeat until you're done or too tired. If you get too tired, just say so and switch to something else. And if saying 'I'm tired' is embarassing, lean over while you are on all fours and whisper in his ear that you want him to 'take you' or something.

[heatherf]

Holy visual! :cool:

[asm198]

Heh. Sorry! :huge:

[and1grad]

aaaannnnddddd Scene!

[asm198]

Yeah, I think I'm a big, oversharing dork now, aren't I?? :redface:

[wordsmith]

Never, sweetie...maybe you've just spent too much time at camp! ;)

[heatherf]

Yes- now I know who to talk to when I need to get back on track with finding the trick of type of orgasm #1 v. type of orgasm #2 ;): :p

[asm198]

Never, sweetie...maybe you've just spent too much time at camp! ;)

So true! I knew that camp would at some time embarass me! BTW, check your PMs, Words!


Heatherf, what can I say? I like to be creative!

[shinyleaf]

Yeah, I think I'm a big, oversharing dork now, aren't I?? :redface:

No Way, thanks! :huge: Do you write for cosmo or something?

[asm198]

No Way, thanks! :huge: Do you write for cosmo or something?

Nope! I'm just good at descriptions, I guess.

[spokes]

when it comes to this topic there is no such thing as too much info.....

[coll214]

You know what they say, you learn something new everyday :rolleyes:

[mishl982]

I don't mean to sound snotty, but what do you mean you don't know what to do?
I guess it's the hip movements I don't get. But holy cow, I'll have to remember your moves for next time!!

[wordsmith]

Watch as wordsmith's friend asm198 makes a name for herself as the QLC Dr. Ruth, only taller and cuter!

[and1grad]

And hopefully younger.

[asm198]

Watch as wordsmith's friend asm198 makes a name for herself as the QLC Dr. Ruth, only taller and cuter!

Haha!! Although, I doubt that would be much of a surprise to you, girl!

[wordsmith]

Haha! I know your kind!

[Drufus]

You girls think balancing is hard? Try when your BF has an abdominal wound and girl on top is the ONLY way you can do it...and you are trying to NOT fall on him...

But it was still fun ;)


I hope that doesn't get spread around to the ctfisherman forum!!!

[Morgan81]

And if saying 'I'm tired' is embarassing, lean over while you are on all fours and whisper in his ear that you want him to 'take you' or something.
To reference one of my responses from another thread....

"GGGGGGGGGOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOAAAAAAAAAAAAALLLLLLLLLLL LLLLLL!!!!!!!!!!!"

God bless.

[mishl982]

Ok so one of my friends (after venting to her about this issue) did some research for me and sent me some links. I haven't gone through them yet, but maybe yall will find them interesting too:

Position secrets for a faster orgasm every time (http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextechnique/0,,s23v,00.html)
Women24: Being on top (http://www.bruid24.co.za/W24/Experts/W24Expert_QandA/0,10657,6781,00.html)

[cornflakegirl]

i like being on top. it is great for hitting the g spot & for clitoral stimulation. plus you can lean forward if you like it harder & faster or sit up right for slower & smoother. ditto on the leverage thing. holding the guys hand can always work if the headboard is already broken.

& being on top works great when you bf forgets to put on sunblock & is very burnt all over, except the shorts area.

[cheshrcarol]

Try a couch. Have him sit on it like you normally would, not lie down. Not so bouncy as a bed and not likely to break. :green:

[Deadend]

i like being on top. it is great for hitting the g spot & for clitoral stimulation. plus you can lean forward if you like it harder & faster or sit up right for slower & smoother. ditto on the leverage thing. holding the guys hand can always work if the headboard is already broken.

& being on top works great when you bf forgets to put on sunblock & is very burnt all over, except the shorts area.

Um, ya, what she said

[mishl982]

Thanks for all the tips everyone. I think the biggest thing I got out of this is that it comes (hehe "comes") with practice. I can't wait til the next time so I can show him everything I learned. :p :evil:

[pisces2473]

I hope that doesn't get spread around to the ctfisherman forum!!!
You better keep this to yourself!!!!!

To reference one of my responses from another thread....

"GGGGGGGGGOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOAAAAAAAAAAAAALLLLLLLLLLL LLLLLL!!!!!!!!!!!"

God bless.
That's so hysterical.

& being on top works great when you bf forgets to put on sunblock & is very burnt all over, except the shorts area.
Well, another fact about Liz and Deadend's Mexican Holiday. :p

[and1grad]

Liz and Deadend's Mexican Holiday. :p
This sounds like some kinda Cheech & Chong movie mixed with National Lampoon's or something. But then again, its late.

[biodork]

Man i'm gone for the afternoon and I miss all the fun.... :p

[mishl982]

Man i'm gone for the afternoon and I miss all the fun.... :p
We can always start it back up! Apparently I've tainted the boards with all this sex talk. :huge:

[HereComes30]

WOW! Is it hot in here or just mishl982? My computer screen fogged up!

[mishl982]

Down, boy. ;)