the wedding fantasy thread [Archive]

lawya girl

05-04-2005, 12:56 PM

I'm already married but since I had my fantasy wedding, I'll join in the fun. We wanted something really small and meaningful (I just been to a good friend's wedding in our hometown with 400 guests and I kept running into people who we HATED in HS but who were invited because their grandparents were). Originally, we were going to do it in a castle in England (the hubby is English) but that was too complicated to plan from here so we had it at the Jefferson Hotel in D.C. The cherry blossoms were out and it was awesome. It was about 40 guests (family and very close friends only) and very elegant. I wanted small but all-out on everything. We loved it soooo much! I wish I had pictures that were post-able.

heatherf

05-04-2005, 12:57 PM

I loved my wedding.....we had it outdoors under a huge wooden gazebo (not little white chapel type) that had vines growing over the whole thing. It was round, but had enough room for all the chairs and people to sit....we had a string quartet for our music.....

It was beautiful and perfect......

Outside of the gazebo were big grassy areas, large oak trees, and gardens.....

tina1979

05-04-2005, 12:58 PM

This is the place I think I would like to get married. Its really peaceful and very beautiful.
http://www.memphisbotanicgarden.com/index.cfm?page=gardens&sectionid=30

kitalyn414

05-04-2005, 01:00 PM

yeah... i thought of the vegas thing, but i have this paranoia that people are just going to dissappear to play the tables and stuff.

the other day i was bored so i made a list of possible guests, a generous list has 36 people (guests included) from my side. i could narrow it down significantly if we wanted to keep it even smaller. if we were to do just a quiet ceremony followed by dinner, maybe we would have a bigger party when we got back from the honeymoon. it is difficult because both of us have kind of weird family situations... so who knows how to properly handle things?

some things that sound nice...

- a destination wedding somewhere like lake tahoe. we both really like mountain/lake environments. it would be cool if everyone could just stay at the place we were holding the wedding.

- a backyard wedding. i really like this idea. simple ceremony followed by a barbeque. nothing fancy.

as far as bridal party... i think i'll probably have only 2 attendants.

Winter Storm

05-04-2005, 01:09 PM

You know what my fantasy is? Having a man that actually loves me and wants to marry me? That's all!

(sorry, I'm in the most bitter, fucked up mood today!)

biodork

05-04-2005, 01:10 PM

My parents had theirs outside in the backyard of my grandparents house at the time, and that setting is absolutely fine with me. I definitely want it outside with lots of flowers everywhere! And I'll have a bouquet of purple roses :)

I want a train on my dress! And embroidery and/or rhinestones...hehe im so girly...

I think the only thing I absolutely DREAD is that if I do get married to my bf someday our families will have to meet...oh god...

Is there anyway to just have a separator put up so the two sides of the family never cross paths? PLEASE SAY THERE IS

sunshine79

05-04-2005, 01:20 PM

My dream wedding would be a destination wedding, somewhere on a small island, definitely near the ocean or a beautiful lake around the time of sunset.

My boyfriend and I have been looking at this place in the Keys as a possibility since we love that area... www.littlepalmisland.com. The only problem for guests is that you can only get to the island by small plane or boat (which is cool!) so that might get expensive for others to travel.

Overall, though, I want something small and intimate, 2-3 bridesmaids, my immediate family and some close friends. I'd rather have a small gathering that's really nice and classy than spend the money on a huge event. I can't wait to plan my wedding someday! :)

kimmer23

05-04-2005, 01:23 PM

well i am already married, but i never really thought of "fantasy" ideas, just as long as the food is good and there is good liqour too! hehe! i went to my cousin's wedding a few weeks ago and it sucked. it was a buffet wedding and the steak was tough and the crabcakes were fishy. they only had wine and some crappy beer. yuck! i was sooo ready for a chocolate martini! haha!

biodork

05-04-2005, 01:23 PM

Oh yeah!! I want a chocolate fondue fountain for party afterwards! :huge:

MetFanL

05-04-2005, 01:32 PM

Oh yeah!! I want a chocolate fondue fountain for party afterwards! :huge:

Those things are GERM CITY!!!

I have a ridiculously detailed vision of my wedding, but since no one here seems to be as psycho as I am about it, I'll keep it to myself.

biodork

05-04-2005, 01:34 PM

Those things are GERM CITY!!!

Yeah but I plan on having a small wedding! If were talking germs I'd be more afraid of my toothbrush though hehe

lawya girl

05-04-2005, 01:34 PM

Those things are GERM CITY!!!

I have a ridiculously detailed vision of my wedding, but since no one here seems to be as psycho as I am about it, I'll keep it to myself.

Hey, I was psycho! :D

Skyblade

05-04-2005, 01:36 PM

I've never thought about my wedding much. Just that I would like to have communion part of the ceremony.

morningstar

05-04-2005, 01:41 PM

Winter Storm You know what my fantasy is? Having a man that actually loves me and wants to marry me? That's all!

I feel the same way Winter Storm!

Kitty

05-04-2005, 01:41 PM

Those things are GERM CITY!!!

I have a ridiculously detailed vision of my wedding, but since no one here seems to be as psycho as I am about it, I'll keep it to myself.

Oh come on, lady! Spill your guts!

biodork

05-04-2005, 01:43 PM

lawya girl

05-04-2005, 01:45 PM

Oh I've also decided that there WILL be special chairs for all bridesmaids and groomsmen or else the ceremony won't be long, because when I was in my uncle and aunts wedding as a bridesmaid I seriously thought I was going to pass out from standing so long in high heels! I didn't enjoy it at all because my feet were hurting so badly and the ceremony dragged on and on and on with like people singing a ton of different songs and then more prayer and such. That's great for them but it the fact that i was DYING up there made the whole experience bad for me.

Well my sister had the brilliant idea that we all go barefoot in a park in the middle of the TX summer. She INSISTED we do it even after we begged her to let us wear at least flip flops. My feet were so scratched up and bug-bitten they hurt for a week. Gotta love it...

lawya girl

05-04-2005, 01:46 PM

Met, you're NO FUN!!! Tell us! :frustrate

My dream is just to be able to marry my BF (his legal, health, and house-buying shit over and done with!) sometime this fucking decade; we don't agree about size, fuss, etc, but we do agree that the part of the ceremony where those who object to the union being asked to "speak now or forever hold your peace" be removed.

Why? Is someone gonna show up? :razz:

biodork

05-04-2005, 01:47 PM

My dream is just to be able to marry my BF (his legal, health, and house-buying shit over and done with!) sometime this fucking decade; we don't agree about size, fuss, etc, but we do agree that the part of the ceremony where those who object to the union being asked to "speak now or forever hold your peace" be removed.

Haha yeah that's prob a good idea. I should consider that too.

My bf and I have decided we are basically going to write our own wedding, vows and everything, since we aren't religious. We even want to get married by a friend who gets ordained or whatever.

shimmer728

05-04-2005, 01:49 PM

Hey, a friend of mine just got married, and her husband's family is psycho. She asked her pastor to remove that part of the vows, because she was really afraid someone would stand up and shout out their objections. So the pastor took it out. :D

GetMeOuttaDC

05-04-2005, 01:51 PM

lawya girl

05-04-2005, 01:52 PM

His ex has crashed his family functions to wreak havoc on more than one occasion, but we both have psycho family members who feel (for different, stupid reasons) that neither of us deserves to get married and/or be happy. I just don't feel like listening to my dad potentially stand up and scream that I am a horrible person at my fucking wedding, or his SIL stand up and scream that getting married to someone besides his daughter's mom is evil and immoral, or some shit like that.

Fair enough. The priest didn't say that at ours.

shimmer728

05-04-2005, 01:53 PM

Was he cool about doing that?

He's not too bright. I really don't think he understood what was going on.

pisces2473

05-04-2005, 02:04 PM

The "speak now" thing is NOT a part of Catholic wedding ceremonies, FYI. It's a Protestant thing. And you CAN have it taken out.

I'll post my "dream" later.

Kitty

05-04-2005, 02:06 PM

Oh yeah, I don't want any talk of anything religious in my wedding. I think it would be cool to write our own vows.

GetMeOuttaDC

05-04-2005, 02:08 PM

The "speak now" thing is NOT a part of Catholic wedding ceremonies, FYI.

:lol: I think any preist would RUN screaming from my wedding the minute our flower girl (my BF's daughter) walked in... The divorce thing, nothing about her. Getting married in a Catholic ceremony would not even be an option for us.

Speaking of her, I'd want something written into the vows that I could say to her so she'd understand what was happening and that I love her/would be pledging to be there for her too.

pisces2473

05-04-2005, 02:12 PM

:lol: I think any preist would RUN screaming from my wedding the minute our flower girl (my BF's daughter) walked in... The divorce thing, nothing about her. Getting married in a Catholic ceremony would not even be an option for us.

Speaking of her, I'd want something written into the vows that I could say to her so she'd understand what was happening and that I love her/would be pledging to be there for her too.
Kelly, not all priests are like that (about children/divorce). Come on, don't be so silly. Actually, your BF has a great case for annullment.

Sure, you can do that...great idea :)

lawya girl

05-04-2005, 02:14 PM

Kelly, not all priests are like that (about children/divorce). Come on, don't be so silly. Actually, your BF has a great case for annullment.

Sure, you can do that...great idea :)

Sounds to me like he could totally get an annulment.

wordsmith

05-04-2005, 02:19 PM

Is it weird that I haven't really given anything much thought except that I wasnt to have 100% control over the music, both for ceremony and reception? I'm crazy with music being a memory hook with me...if I remember nothing else about the whole damned thing, the music playing will stay with me for ages upon ages. So it better be good stuff.

mishl982

05-04-2005, 02:25 PM

Anyone else with me in saying that I never put thought into my wedding? I mean when I go to weddings I see things I like and don't want in mine, but I don't have a vision of it at all.

pisces2473

05-04-2005, 02:32 PM

Actually, I wasn't being rude - I really thought that that WAS still the Catholic stance on children/divorce. I know that at my Catholic HS (which I may be from one of the country's more conservative dioceses, but it was only about 10 yrs ago) my divorced algebra teacher got canned for getting remarried to my physics teacher (who also got canned).
Um, hon, you are from one of the most fucked up dioceses. And I mean that with love. :)

Children of divorce aren't rendered bastards or anything...

For my wedding, I know what I like and don't like...but I don't really know what it will be like...I haven't put THAT much thought into it. I just know what I want to register for :evil:

lawya girl

05-04-2005, 02:34 PM

[QUOTE=pisces2473]Um, hon, you are from one of the most fucked up dioceses. And I mean that with love. :)

[QUOTE]

Are you from Boston Kelly? :p We have things TOTALLY under control here Jen - I don't know what you're talkin' bout.

pisces2473

05-04-2005, 02:36 PM

Are you from Boston Kelly? :p We have things TOTALLY under control here Jen - I don't know what you're talkin' bout.
I lived there when Bernie resigned...

shimmer728

05-04-2005, 02:37 PM

Anyone else with me in saying that I never put thought into my wedding? I mean when I go to weddings I see things I like and don't want in mine, but I don't have a vision of it at all.

No, pretty much the same here, except that I know I want it to be small. And possibly purple, if only to piss off my sister.

lawya girl

05-04-2005, 02:38 PM

I lived there when Bernie resigned...

Me too - aaah the good old days of B. Law when pedophilia was allowed to run rampant :mad:

MetFanL

05-04-2005, 02:40 PM

For my wedding, I know what I like and don't like...but I don't really know what it will be like...I haven't put THAT much thought into it.

I have. I'm a total control freak nutcase. It's seriously "Insert Boy Here."

pisces2473

05-04-2005, 02:40 PM

Me too - aaah the good old days of B. Law when pedophilia was allowed to run rampant :mad:
Do you remember Donna Morrissey? The PR girl for the archdiocese? A few days ago I was watching some Boston station and she was doing an ad for the Red Cross! LOL Guess she got a good new job, just like her former boss...

pisces2473

05-04-2005, 02:42 PM

A diocese right next door to there, yes. :)
New Bedfid/Fall Rivah?

wordsmith

05-04-2005, 02:42 PM

Anyone else with me in saying that I never put thought into my wedding? I mean when I go to weddings I see things I like and don't want in mine, but I don't have a vision of it at all.

That's how I am, too...I'll go to a wedding, and think, "Wow, if I were getting married, I'd probably do that," or "I'd definitely NOT do that." But that's about as far as it goes.

lawya girl

05-04-2005, 02:42 PM

Do you remember Donna Morrissey? The PR girl for the archdiocese? A few days ago I was watching some Boston station and she was doing an ad for the Red Cross! LOL Guess she got a good new job, just like her former boss...

Yeah, they all seem to do okay, don't they?

Angyl

05-04-2005, 02:47 PM

shimmer728

05-04-2005, 02:53 PM

[QUOTE=Angyl]My sister had this crazy bilingual (viet and english) catholic wedding. i was there for what seemed like years, and she had this huge train that had to be fixed every step she made. so i say nay to trains and bilingual catholic weddings.
QUOTE]

So did my aunt and uncle (my aunt is Vietnamese.) The priest who married them was Vietnamese, and he said half the Mass in English and half in Vietnamese. It was pretty cool. My aunt wore the traditional white dress and veil for the ceremony, and then changed into a traditional Asian wedding dress for the reception. Actually, she changed into two different dresses for the reception.

lawya girl

05-04-2005, 02:53 PM

My sister had this crazy bilingual (viet and english) catholic wedding. i was there for what seemed like years, and she had this huge train that had to be fixed every step she made. so i say nay to trains and bilingual catholic weddings.

MINE will be... *deep breath*

Outside, in a rose garden preferably, with the attendents not wearing the same dress, but the sae color so not everyone looks horrible, and my dress will be the slightest twinge of light green, with no poufiness to it at all, proably with cap or off the shoulder sleeves and gloves (I love gloves).

It'll be smallish, but the reception will be pretty big I think with a cupcake wedding cake and free liquor for at least an hour 9my friends are alcoholics). Since I'm viet, it has to have a sit down dinner, probably chinese food, several courses. But i want dancing too. And i want to dance with my daddy, becuase I'm a daddy's girl.

But i need a bf first.

Because our venue was so small, I had only my sis stand up with me but I wanted the other 3 or so friends of mine who WOULD have been in the wedding had it not been so small to be in pictures and all that stuff so I asked everyone to just wear a black dress appropriate for a black tie wedding. It was so nice - they all got to wear dresses they looked beautiful in but nobody clashed in the pics.

coll214

05-04-2005, 02:55 PM

Well as my mother has told me repeatedly since puberty- it'd be much easier for ME if you eloped- her and my father in the same room on the same side for an entire day has happend in at least 15 years. But I don't think so.

I don't think i'd want anything too big- though that means having to have a family cutoff as it's rather large, not to mention the friends of family crap that have known me forever... and that's just me!!

Though i've thought about it some, and I like by the water somewhere, w/ a few family and close friends. Haha and for bridesmaids, quite frankly there's not many at this point i'd even want in it...

kitalyn414

05-04-2005, 02:56 PM

maybe i'll elope.

the more i think about it, the less i can see being able to bring everyone together and have it be pleasant. i really want to enjoy it, so why complicate things with a bunch of people who don't get along? i just don't know what the answer is.

Angyl

05-04-2005, 02:58 PM

So did my aunt and uncle (my aunt is Vietnamese.) The priest who married them was Vietnamese, and he said half the Mass in English and half in Vietnamese. It was pretty cool. My aunt wore the traditional white dress and veil for the ceremony, and then changed into a traditional Asian wedding dress for the reception. Actually, she changed into two different dresses for the reception.

I want to wear an Ao dai for my wedding too. you can get gorgeous ones custom made in Cali for less than what a traditional white wedding dress costs. and they're red. the more dresses the better.

pisces2473

05-04-2005, 03:09 PM

If you are Vietnamese, why have Chinese food?

Angyl

05-04-2005, 03:15 PM

If you are Vietnamese, why have Chinese food?

no places cater viet food. unless you're in Bolsa (SoCal). Chinese is the closest...it's mroe of a family thing, to make my mom happy. I'd love to serve thai food instead. yum.

pisces2473

05-04-2005, 03:17 PM

Oh my gosh, there are Viet places around here! Crazy shit!

I didn't know Chinese places catered though...

Angyl

05-04-2005, 03:21 PM

i love pho and stuff....but the palces in KC are tiny little hole in the wall palces, probably couldnt serve a whole wedding. It'd be major delicacies too, like duck and shit.

most chinese palces will cater if you ask them real nice. All the asianified weddings I've been to have served chinese. *shrug*

mishl982

05-04-2005, 03:58 PM

I am invited to a reception in October where the bride and groom are being married in a private ceremony one day and having a barbecque the next. I really like that idea actually, although with my luck I'd get ketchup on myself or something. :)Me too!! Actually, I'm *in* it ;)

Deni81

05-04-2005, 05:05 PM

Honestly, I am not very big on the whole wedding thing...I think it is a waste of money.

I want to just do the vegas thing (get all dolled up, take along some friends, take lots of photos documentary style, and live it up afterwards). Then spend all the money we would have spent on a wedding doing something REALLY fun - like backpacking around europe for two months.

I do want a nice ring, though. :D

Wow thats exactly how I feel! Right now my sister is in the midst of planning her wedding and the more I am witness to all the planning and money involved, the more I realize that if I get married its all about Vegas.
Or another idea I like is a small wedding on the beach with family and friends.

funky flamingo

05-04-2005, 07:10 PM

I'd like a nighttime wedding, out in a tropical garden (Hawaii-sized blooms). Twinkling strings of fairy lights intermixed with a view of the stars, a few guests and no attendants. And this gorgeous sari-like wedding dress that I saw on one of those Life network make-a-wedding-in-a-week shows. A JP for the officient, a lot of champagne and laughter at the reception, and danceable music.

k.monster

05-04-2005, 08:56 PM

I didn't have a wedding when I got married (at 19, BIG mistake for me) and I totally regret it. If I ever get married again I'm totally going to have a wedding. I love the idea of an evening wedding, with lots of candles and stuff followed by a big 'ol party and lots of booze and dancing with my friends and family.

Does anyone think its creepy to want to plan your wedding when you're not getting married anytime soon?? My mom actually wants to do this with me. I keep telling her that no one is going to want to marry me if I've got it all planned already! (Of course that doesn't apply to Met!)

shimmer728

05-04-2005, 09:03 PM

I know how I'm going to tie the knot. I'm going to do it in the redneck bar across the street. The groom will wear a wife-beater and tight-ass nut-huggin' jeans, and I'll wear Daisy Dukes and a T-shirt that says Miller Lite on it. When we say our I Do's, everyone will take a shot. And we'll give out cans of tobacco chew as favors at the reception in our shiny silver trailer home.

I don't think my parents would like this, though. :(

I just crack myself up.

capella

05-04-2005, 09:23 PM

Since I did the Vegas thing to get on with my marriage and not have to be hassled with the wedding stuff (and I was trying to pay for it on a copy editor and video dubbing tech salary while living in the DC area :eek: so the vegas deal was MUCH cheaper)....

When we do finally have our nice, BIG wedding (being sarcastic with the big, it'll prob be around 75 peeps) I'd like to do it on a beach during the sunset. Lots of pretty beaches nearby now ;): Lots of flowing streamers, fresh exotic flowers and an archway covered in flowers overlooking the sea. Ah, I can dream right :huge:

Also, a girl at my work just had her wedding on a cruise ship. I thought that was pretty cool but I'm afraid of the food issues on cruise ships.

pisces2473

05-04-2005, 10:33 PM

I have so many ideas that I'd love...but of course, the groom and I have to agree. No matter what, I want a small wedding, like 100 people or less. It would be in my church and we'd try to get Chris' priest in there somehow too. I don't want a real frou-frou dress. Something simple and elegant and not "bridal" if you know what I'm saying...

I'd love the reception to be intimate and cozy. None of this bright lights, loud DJ, annoying staff shit. GOOD food.

And a GREAT photographer because I'm a sucker for pictures.

GetMeOuttaDC

05-04-2005, 11:13 PM

Me too!! Actually, I'm *in* it ;)
:D As you should be! :D She worships you!

I didn't know if you'd be bothered by my mentioning it on the boards though. :cool:

GetMeOuttaDC

05-04-2005, 11:15 PM

I didn't have a wedding when I got married (at 19, BIG mistake for me) and I totally regret it.
What do you regret, the not having a wedding, or marrying your ex?

How do you get married w/o a wedding? I am just curious, not being snarky.

pisces2473

05-04-2005, 11:27 PM

And can I add that I don't want my obnoxious alcoholic uncle to be there? And that my obnoxious, needing to be the center of attention, ruins every big family event with her mouth, aunt must have duct tape on her mouth?

pisces2473

05-04-2005, 11:32 PM

hee hee, it's funny how my insanely vague "dream wedding" description has certain people NOT being there as one of three definite things. :lol:
Hehehe, I've already asked my mom if my dad's brother and her sister have to be invited. :razz:

ETA: And they are both the youngest children...coincidence that the youngest has to be obnoxious???

GetMeOuttaDC

05-04-2005, 11:38 PM

ETA: And they are both the youngest children...coincidence that the youngest has to be obnoxious???

Possibly, but my baby brother stops at fart jokes and introducing himself as "Osama Bin Ladin". And once at a formal wedding, he stuffed 15 cookies into his mouth at once and washed it down by chugging a glass of wine. At another wedding (he was 2) he asked loudly why was the rabbi wearing a hat indoors. He's pretty funny, but it sounds like your aunt and uncle are not...

pisces2473

05-04-2005, 11:48 PM

He's pretty funny, but it sounds like your aunt and uncle are not...
Well, they were probably cute/funny when they were younger, but at 44 and 46, not so much...

My aunt has had hissy fits at my aunt's (her sister's) wedding b/c she sent her kids home with a babysitter before the family pics were taken. My aunt (the bride) was like, "I TOLD you what time we were doing pics."

She also reamed my brother and I a new asshole at the party WE threw for OUR PARENTS' 25th anniversary. We weren't doing things "her way" or fast enough. I told her off, I had had enough of her shit over the past few years. She also told my other aunt's (from above) husband something about being slow and how was he a nurse if he was that slow. WTF???

My uncle came to my NHS induction ceremony DRUNK as a skunk and banged on the glass in front of the school when he arrived. Greaaaaat. He's done a lot of shitty things to both of my parents, who have bailed his ass out of trouble MANY a time. And when he drinks, he starts reminicing about old dumb shit and my grandmother, who has been dead almost 14 years. He hasn't gotten over it.

asm198

05-05-2005, 04:14 AM

I have planned a wedding and it didn't happen. However, most of my plans have stayed firm. I still want an outdoor wedding with lots of flowers, non traditional music, and a reception in a hotel ballroom with a buffet and none of the traditional stuff like a bouquet toss. I wrote my own wedding ceremony, which has no mention of religion. I am still doing 90% of the stuff myself, both to save money and because I enjoy it. I will have a program for the ceremony, baskets for the out of towners, and other little things that I can make that you don't really need. My favors were going to be gummy hearts in little boxes. A bit of a breakdown:

-no more than 4 attendants each, if that.

-live purple and yellow roses, bought in bulk and made into bouqets and stuff myself.

-purple dresses, actually separates, for the bridesmaids.

-wedding music consisting of Canon in D for the attendants and the beginning of Bittersweet Symphony for myself.

-all the attendants will walk down the aisle, but alone and alternating between groomsmen and bridesmaid.

-my "maid of honor" will be male and known as as either ''man of honor'' or we'll just call everyone honor attendants.

-I will walk down alone if I don't get nervous. If that happens, I have several backups. Namely, my 'man of honor', my cousin, or my boyfriend's dad. (My own dad died several years ago.)

-We won't have a head table. Attendants can either sit together or with their people. We'll probably sit at a table alone.

-Lots of candles at the reception. My centerpieces will be several candles with rose petals scattered on a mirror. I'd also like to pull off undertable lights, but I don't know how to do that without it being a potential tripping hazzard with the cords and whatnot.

-A DJ, not a band for the reception. If I can find a string quartet that can play Bittersweet Symphony for the ceremony, we'll go with that. Otherwise, a cd on a loop is fine.

-No limo. I want a classic car, preferably something convertible. I'd love to be able to restore my 40s-50s Thunderbird, but that would take money and time, neither I have. That car was my dad's and I fought to keep it in the family.

-The cake will be a off kilter, crazy cake. He picked it out and it will stay.

-Open bar and seafood at the reception.

One big thing that will change is my attire. I don't much care for the dress I bought and I settled. I will have what I want, even if I have to make it myself. White, spaghetti strap, no pearls, with a chiffon overlay. Ankle length with no train. The dress I bought was strapless with pearls, a train, and poofy. I don't mind poofy, but I hate the rest. Not my style.

shimmer728

05-05-2005, 08:00 AM

Hmm, no alcoholic relatives, but I do have one non-blood aunt on my mom's side who is a real pill. For religious reasons, she doesn't believe in drinking or dancing, so she's tons of fun. She also has a history of talking about her hatred of weddings (and love of funerals) loudly during receptions. She won't be on my guest list.

mishl982

05-05-2005, 08:47 AM

:D As you should be! :D She worships you!

I didn't know if you'd be bothered by my mentioning it on the boards though. :cool:
No, it's cool. :) I also love the post-wedding bbq.. I'm so stealing that idea when I get married!

MetFanL

05-05-2005, 10:25 AM

Alright, ladies. I'll do it... Just know that I've helped friends plan a few weddings down to this type of detail, which is why I know (in such a detailed fashion) what I want and don't want.

The wedding will be on New Year's Eve, b/c as we all know, no one ever has any big plans anyway and if they do, they have to pay big $$. So, we'll throw a big wedding bash, and instead of paying $$ for a hotel party, they can buy me gifts. ;) Plus, then I'll always have something to do on NYE. Mass at 7, dinner at 9.

Everything will be black, and white, w/ silver and gold accents all over.

The dress. Clean lines. It's has some gold sparkly detail on it. It bunches on one side to accent my curves. I'll wear gold shoes. This might be my borrowed b/c my brother's fiance has these FABULOUS gold peep toe shoes that are just stunning. Instead of a veil, I'm getting a long white cape made w/ gold silk lining.

Bridesmaids will be in black, and they can wear silver or gold shoes and jewelry (my friends LOVE this). I'll have 4 bridesmaids who ALL look super different (hair, body type, etc.) so, as long as their dresses are in the same "family" they can do whatever they want. Definitely long dresses, though, b/c it is a formal event. No gloves, b/c I hate them and they're hot. Bridesmaids will get short black capelets to wear with their dresses w/ black lining so they can use them again. This will be my gift to them b/c I realize they are ridiculous.

I want to get married at the church my parents got married in. It's huge and gorgeous. I have a big family anyway, so we might as well go all out. Reception, ideally, at the State Museum across the street. It's a gorgeous room w/ a gorgeous view of the city at night.

Table cloths will be heavy white quilted fabric, so they have more of a presence. No centerpieces, just silver and gold candles of different sizes w/ silver and gold balls, beads and glitter on the table. Or maybe a floating candle centerpiece w/ silver and gold candles in it... Not positive. We'll also put noisemakers on the table for everyone. Chocolate in silver and gold boxes for favors. The cake will be a rectangular, 3 layer cake. Clean lines. Matte gold frosting w/ white ivy-type accented decoration.

All flowers will be white w/ silver and gold fabric wrapped on the handheld bouquets. I don't need to go crazy here b/c there will still be holiday poinsettias and stuff in the church. Maybe just switch out the red for white poinsettias.

Ok. You were warned. I'm a total nutter. Insert boy here.

biodork

05-05-2005, 10:28 AM

Met that sounds FABULOUS! :)

pisces2473

05-05-2005, 10:30 AM

Oh Met. That's not crazy! I was expecting a LOT worse. :razz:

mishl982

05-05-2005, 10:31 AM

Wow, Met it sounds very elegant! I like your NYE idea :)

MetFanL

05-05-2005, 10:31 AM

Oh Met. That's not crazy! I was expecting a LOT worse. :razz:

What does THAT mean? Worse how?

pisces2473

05-05-2005, 10:33 AM

What does THAT mean? Worse how?
Well you kept saying it was super crazy...I expected all this random shit that would be hard to find, spending a shit-ton of money, being an uber Bridezilla or something.

Your wedding sounds beautiful.

MetFanL

05-05-2005, 10:34 AM

Well you kept saying it was super crazy...I expected all this random shit that would be hard to find, spending a shit-ton of money, being an uber Bridezilla or something.

Your wedding sounds beautiful.

No, I just meant super detailed. I have a few more things on my list, but I tried to keep the explanation as simple as possible, but enough to give you a good picture in your head.

biodork

05-05-2005, 10:34 AM

Your wedding would be on my birthday!! hehe

pisces2473

05-05-2005, 10:36 AM

No, I just meant super detailed. I have a few more things on my list, but I tried to keep the explanation as simple as possible, but enough to give you a good picture in your head.
I have more ideas too, I'm so effing lazy to type them out.

coll214

05-05-2005, 11:49 AM

met that sounds awesome! I like the whole gold/silver accents...

See, my problem is I always change my mind... one minute it's a big event somwhere, the next a small wedding on a beach somewhere tropical. And should your maid of honor really be someone whose gonna hate the guy? (she's hated all the dudes i've dated so far, so just figuring that will continue)

And as for alcoholic weddings, my Dad is unfortunately usually the drunk ass making the rude comments and causing a scene, or god forbid dancing. My sister out of spite always likes to say she'll have a dry wedding if she gets married. LOL.

My cousin did the bbq thing AFTEr their overpriced reception. It was a long ass day and by that time I was all familied out. But doing that as a reception doesn't sound bad :huge:

cornflakegirl

05-05-2005, 11:59 AM

sunshine - that resort is absolutely beautiful. i love places like that. i always flip through travel & spa magazines & find tons of unbelievable places that i want to stay at.

GetMeOuttaDC

05-05-2005, 12:06 PM

That sounds amazing... very storybook like. :)

k.monster

05-05-2005, 06:49 PM

What do you regret, the not having a wedding, or marrying your ex?

How do you get married w/o a wedding? I am just curious, not being snarky.

Both! J/K - I got married way young, and it's hard to pick that one person you're going to be with when you're 18. I just want a different life (kids!!).

I regret not having a wedding.

We went to this crazy place called The 24 Hour Church of Elvis run by this crazy lady here in town. It was very out of the ordinary - we didn't have our families there (we only decided to get married three days before we did it), and just had two friends (our witnesses). I kid you not, I have NEVER seen my mom so angry at me as I did when I told her I got married there.

k.monster

05-05-2005, 06:50 PM

GMODC: I didn't think you were being snarky. :)

cornflakegirl

05-05-2005, 07:01 PM

Both! J/K - I got married way young, and it's hard to pick that one person you're going to be with when you're 18. I just want a different life (kids!!).

I regret not having a wedding.

We went to this crazy place called The 24 Hour Church of Elvis run by this crazy lady here in town. It was very out of the ordinary - we didn't have our families there (we only decided to get married three days before we did it), and just had two friends (our witnesses). I kid you not, I have NEVER seen my mom so angry at me as I did when I told her I got married there.

that church sounds great. i'd love to see their website.

last week, i went on vacation with deadend. my brother told my mom that i was eloping & i got the 3rd degree. i was told that i better not elope & that she wants me to have a big wedding & wear her wedding dress (the one from her last marriage. not the first one, in which she borrowed an empire waist, short dress to fit her 6 month pg belly). first, i had to get her to see that my brother would not have this knowledge, even if this was my intent. then i went on & told her she probably won't me at my wedding, if i have one, because it will be tiny, no guests, but there will be a party that she can come to. this was a conversation i could have done without, no thanks to my brother.

k.monster

05-05-2005, 07:55 PM

that church sounds great. i'd love to see their website.

last week, i went on vacation with deadend. my brother told my mom that i was eloping & i got the 3rd degree.

Liz - The place closed down (she might have reopened, she's done that before) but here are a few websites about the place.

http://www.frankwu.com/elvis1.html
http://www.stim.com/Stim-x/0796July/Trender/elvis.html
http://www.newcolonist.com/church_of_elvis.html

It wasn't until after my divorce that I realized how much I would have LOVED a wedding. If I ever get married again, I'll totally have a wedding. But like most things in my life, it will be low key and goofy.
It also wasn't until later that I realized how much a wedding would have meant to my mom. I guess she considers it to be one of those "mothers rights" type of thing.

I will never forget how pissed she was at me though. Ever.

cornflakegirl

05-05-2005, 09:59 PM

i was expecting it to be in vegas. sounds like a fun place.

i think my dad would be even more hurt than my mom. he is the sensitive one. i feel like i have prepped them years in advance to not expect much from me. i started declaring my distaste for marriage in high school, claiming that i never had any decent marriage role models & that my mom & stepfather ruined my faith in marriage. oh, teen angst, which has rolled over slightly into my 20s.

shimmer728

05-05-2005, 10:08 PM

I don't think my parents really give a shit where, how or if I get married, as long as it's cheap.

pisces2473

05-05-2005, 10:15 PM

I don't think my parents really give a shit where, how or if I get married, as long as it's cheap.
Yeah mine neither.

Mom has told me that she'd give me money to elope. Ha.

Starfish81

05-06-2005, 12:15 AM

You know what my fantasy is? Having a man that actually loves me and wants to marry me? That's all!

(sorry, I'm in the most bitter, fucked up mood today!)

Oh, I'm feeling you, dude (although it's about 100 posts later). I'm not bitter or f-ed up today, but that is my no-frills fantasy, too. :googly:

shimmer728

05-06-2005, 02:05 AM

Yeah mine neither.

Mom has told me that she'd give me money to elope. Ha.

Dude, mine told me she'd give me a shitload for the honeymoon. That's the important part, she said.

shinyleaf

05-06-2005, 02:15 AM

My parents tried to nudge me into eloping too :bigger:

Our wedding is in a few months, and in hindsight (as much as I've bitched about the humungous guest list - 350+) I wouldn't want to remove myself from the place where I'm rooted to go through probably the most important ceremony of my life ~ so I'm glad I'm staying home for the wedding... honeymoon? Take me as far away as it gets!!! (Australia is my FANTASY honeymoon)

I too wanted all my 4 bridesmaids ( I almost typed 14 just to freak Jen out! :D ) in different styled dresses of the same fabric. But they were not so up on choosing patterns so I made an executive decision at the last minute ~ they're all the same - red chiffon with an angled hem. But I think it's ok because all 4 girls are the same shape, oddly enough. I just didn't want them to look like clones - what I should really be worried about is that they'll look hotter than me! I think I'll get them each different jewlerry to wear as gifts, to diversify.

It is kind of stressing me out that I don't have the "first dance" song picked out - I had these grand ideas of us taking lessons and really wowing our guests - I am a dancer, and would rather put on a show if everyone is going to be watching! How boring and uncomfortable is it to watch a couple do their first dance as if they were in grade 10 at a highschool dance, doing the side-to-side shuffle?

MetFAn, I love the NYE idea. I am SO happy I have a wedding to go to this coming NYE.

funky flamingo

05-06-2005, 11:48 PM

Butterfly Release (http://www.butterfly-gifts.com/livebutterflyreleases.html)

Has anyone ever heard of this? Instead of throwing birdseed or something, everyone gets an envelope and releases a butterfly, or they come in baskets and stuff.

pisces2473

05-06-2005, 11:51 PM

Yeah, I heard of someone getting these and the butterflies were all DEAD. How sad/scary.

cheshrcarol

05-07-2005, 12:38 AM

I've had occasional thoughts about mine, but haven't really planned an event in great detail that might not ever happen. I'm not at all religious, so l probably won't have it in a church.

It will probably be an evening reception, black-tie/black-tie optional, my mom would really like to have an orchestra there instead of a band or dj. I don't really have a preference. I have no clue how many people would be there. Seeing as I don't have a prospective groom, my guess would be 150-200. I'd like to have several shades of blue as my colors, and lots of flowers and sparkly lights. My dad will walk me down the aisle and my best friend will be my "man of honor". And he will stand at my side! I had several arguments with a former friend over this, who didn't think it would look good for a guy to be on my side. But I don't care. It'll look good in my wedding if I say so :evil: .

I'd like a traditional white wedding dress, very elegant, but no lace or frou frou, more like classic lines. Maybe an embroidered bodice.

wordsmith

05-07-2005, 01:04 AM

my best friend will be my "man of honor". And he will stand at my side! I had several arguments with a former friend over this, who didn't think it would look good for a guy to be on my side. But I don't care. It'll look good in my wedding if I say so

My cousin did this (yes, Jen, the one who kicked me outta her wedding party). Her best friend was her "Bridesman." With any luck at all, your Bridesman will be appropriate, and not pull what this dude pulled, which was to abduct her from the reception for a good two hours and have a heart to heart about how he felt he was losing her by her getting married.

pisces2473

05-07-2005, 01:08 AM

My cousin did this (yes, Jen, the one who kicked me outta her wedding party). Her best friend was her "Bridesman." With any luck at all, your Bridesman will be appropriate, and not pull what this dude pulled, which was to abduct her from the reception for a good two hours and have a heart to heart about how he felt he was losing her by her getting married.
Jess, I'll never forget about her. Maybe HE should have been the GROOM instead???

pisces2473

05-07-2005, 01:13 AM

It is kind of stressing me out that I don't have the "first dance" song picked out - I had these grand ideas of us taking lessons and really wowing our guests - I am a dancer, and would rather put on a show if everyone is going to be watching! How boring and uncomfortable is it to watch a couple do their first dance as if they were in grade 10 at a highschool dance, doing the side-to-side shuffle?
I want this to happen too! I want a NICE dance.

My ex friend and her husband totally did the side to side shuffle...they just swayed, holding hands almost. It was really lame.