Wedding Invite Etiquette

[paiger81]

I just got the wierdest e-mail. Names have been changed to protect the innocent:

Good Afternoon to all,

I wanted to extend the invitation to our joyous day in Sin City to all of my friends I've made over the past 5 years at the ((Company))

Attached is the wedding invitation and while we'd love to have anyone interested join us - I can certainly understand if you can't make it.
If you are interested in taking the trip to Las Vegas with our motley crew call me for the details, if not I'll see you after the honeymoon!

If I've missed anyone that should have received this - please feel free to forward it along.

Best regards,
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And attached is a very elaborate wedding invitation. Now have I become out of touch, or is this really tacky?!!! My feeling is "Gee, you must really want us there if you are sending out a mass e-mail"

[pisces2473]

Nope, that's tacky. I don't care if the wedding is low budget, phone calls are much more acceptable...and Hallmark sells cheap wedding invites that you write in yourself.

[Bugsey34]

Yeah I think that's really tacky.

[paiger81]

The wedding is in late June.

I'd completely understand if there was an emergency, like him shipping off to Iraq or something, but NO, just your run of the mill wedding.

[midtwenty]

That has got to be the tackiest email I have ever read in my life. It's more like an invitation to go bar hopping on a Saturday night than a wedding invite. I predict their marriage is doomed.

[kitalyn414]

oh dear. that's in extremely bad taste. i mean, sending an email invitiation to a wedding (or other important occasion) is bad enough... but she sent a mass email? holy crap woman! if you are that short on cash, you could at least take the time to write a personal note to each recipient.

[MetFanL]

Even e-vite would have been more appropriate. Yikes.

[Skyblade]

Dude..thats the type of thing I always joke about having people do whenever they start talking about sending wedding invitations. I always joke, "well it'd be a lot cheaper to send an e-card."

[diesel]

that is the tackiest thing ever. wedding invitations do not have to be expensive...sheesh.

[lilyflower]

That is tacky, and you're right, Paige, unless it's a rush wedding (because of shipping out, etc) there's no reason for that. Also, sending out invites that way basically takes the whole concept out of eloping.

[Kitty]

I don't really think it is tacky. It kinda sets the tone for the wedding - fun, low-key, party style. At least that is the vibe I get.

I really hate formalities - especially around something that is supposed to be fun (a wedding).

I don't have a prob. with it, although I can see how it is not for everyone.

[shinyleaf]

The wedding invitation is attached - it might be really nice (?)
I think the only tacky part is the "fwd this to anyone I've missed"...LAME!

For the record we are doing send-out invites but email/phone RSVPs to save $400 on postage. Is THAT tacky?

[soraya23wis]

Wow.

I guess kudos to them for being brave enough to share their frugalness. I, for one, couldn't go quite that far! :0

[steph78]

For the record we are doing send-out invites but email/phone RSVPs to save $400 on postage. Is THAT tacky?

I don't think that's tacky - the really old-school Miss Manners way of doing things is that the invitees are expected to write a whole letter on their own accepting or declining the invitation and thanking you for thinking of them. A phone call/e-mail is pretty much the modern equivalent of that traditional gesture, and even easier to do. I bet you will have a lot of people that don't respond out of laziness, though... and you will end up calling THEM to see if they are coming or not.

$400 on postage? How many people are you inviting??? :eek:

[cheshrcarol]

I don't think an e-mail invite any tackier than getting married in Vegas.

[jrwilheim]

I think I remember reading about a wedding invite e-mail like this once where it also said something like "no gifts under $20". Beyond tacky.

[KiKiRN]

i don't know ... how close of friends are you?
because i know a lot of people from living in so many cities in just short periods of time (working at camps and cedar point and teaching ESL in other countries in the summer) that i dont even know their actual addresses but do talk to at least monthly by phone or email and if there was any way they thought they could make it or just to let them know if they were going to plan a trip then that would be an awesome time, because i am throwing a ragin party... (at least thats what i think now, although theres not even a ring in site for a few years )

[Deadend]

My buddy's wedding this summer had invites with a printed email address to respond. That just struck me as smart.

I don't have a problem with an email invite, but then again I've never been the type to put alot of wieght in formalities. However the informality of the writing seemed a bit inappropriate. Most importantly however is the "forward this on to whoever I might have missed". That's the beyond tacky, I certainly wouldn't be going to any wedding to which I get a second-hand invite, regardless of how low budget it is.

[mishl982]

$400 on postage? How many people are you inviting??? :eek:
Don't forget return postage to send it back! I'm thinking maybe the email idea might be the way to go... hehe, but at least I'd use an evite - it's slightly more formal :p

[paiger81]

I don't think an e-mail invite any tackier than getting married in Vegas.

Dude!! If I ever got married it would be in Vegas!! They have some really great packages and not all of them are the tacky versions!!!

[pisces2473]

$400 on postage has to be a joke.

$400/(.37*2) = 540 invitations...with one stamp on the outside and one for the RSVP thing.

Maybe the runaway bride spent that much on postage...

[shinyleaf]

$400 on postage has to be a joke.

$400/(.37*2) = 540 invitations...with one stamp on the outside and one for the RSVP thing.

Maybe the runaway bride spent that much on postage...


Whoops! I meant I"d save ~$200 on reply envelopes! Stamps are 50 cents Canadian. (52 with tax :bigger: ) Yeah, 350 + guests for supper... not under my control.... HUGE families, in which NOONE can be left out. Hence the thrifty rsvp email idea.

but, I was thinking the other night how funny it'd be if I told my bridesmaids the night before my wedding that I was "just going out for a little jog..." :evil: