Not relationship material...what to do?

[HereComes30]

I am sure that many on QLC have been in this scenario at one point and time and I am curious your thoughts.

I have met someone that I have begun speaking with more and more frequently. There is definitely a physical attraction in both directions, but I can never see myself being in a serious relationship with this person for many reasons. Do I..

A. Just end things
B. Tell her I cannot see us having a relationship more than friends or physical in nature
C. Say nothing and see where things lead
D. Fake a deeper attraction and get the action (honestly not leaning toward this in any way, but it is a possible scenario)
E. Other (please provide specifics)

Have you been in this situation? How did you handle it? Would you have handled it differently in hind site?

[shimmer728]

C. You just started talking to this girl, so how do you know whether you can be in a serious relationship with her or not?

[GetMeOuttaDC]

E. Explain you like spending time with her, but can't see yourself being in a relationship with her. Be as broad about the reasons why as possible (try not to insult her).

[HereComes30]

She is kind of ditzy (annoys me)...she has a dog (not a big fan of animals)... and there are just some of those little quirks that makes you think "I just can't see this person as the one that I could have a love relationship with". But then there is the physical attraction...damn it is as strong as The Force!

[HereComes30]

E. Explain you like spending time with her, but can't see yourself being in a relationship with her. Be as broad about the reasons why as possible (try not to insult her).

And then? Bail out? See the reaction? Recommend friendship? Recommend purely physical? "hey...but if you still want to mess around..." hahahaha

[Angyl]

wait. stop.

Does this girl even want a relationship with you? I mean if she doesn't and jsut wants to date casually, then you're worrying about nothing.

[ATLWill]

I would have fun with her. If that means a little fire in the bedroom, so be it.

You could date her, and she could end up dumping you. You never know what she is thinking.

[Drufus]

So this girl is very attractive, but a dumbass. Sounds like 75% of the hot girls out there. Play this one out. Maybe she just wants a fling too. Whats the worst that can happen?

[Kitty]

I find it kind of amusing that somone having a dog is a dealbreaker for you.

[shimmer728]

WEll just break it off with her then- sure she might be as dumb as a brick but I am sure she doesnt want to be treated like a piece of meat.

Agreed.

ksf;kf;ds

[ATLWill]

C. Say nothing and see where things lead

This is the correct answer.

No one is forcing her to hook up with you. She is a big girl. If you do get physical, it is what it is.

You are in the driver's seat. I would hop in the car and enjoy the ride, however long it lasts.

[HereComes30]

I find it kind of amusing that somone having a dog is a dealbreaker for you.

Well if you are allergic and just really don't like them then I cannot see being in a long term relationship with someone that is a dog owner or dog lover. And I guess at the ripe old age of 28 I am looking more and more for long term compatibility than I used to.

Well she is not really dumb as a brick...she is going to school to be a vet afterall which does take some brains. But it appears there are book smarts and little street smarts.

He doesnt like her dude WE KNOW where things are going to lead! Unless you make it clear that this is a purely physical thing and both parties agree.

Yeah...I am not a player or a "let's play with your emotions just to get some action" kind of a guy. Wait...I guess those are the same thing. :-)

[Skyblade]

I'd say option C too. Just make sure you are honest with her though if she asks you.

[ATLWill]

"He doesnt like her dude"

So I also assume that you would advise a woman who has little interest in a guy not to accept a second date (at a nice restaurant) with a guy who is spending money on her?

[ATLWill]

Color me confused.

So it is wrong for a guy to continue in a physical relationship with a woman that he knows is just a casual fling? but it is OK for a woman to continue dating a guy (going out to dinner/concerts) that she doesn't like, but heck, it's a free meal?

Just checking for clarification.

[MonaLisa]

Kill me if I'm ever so hard up for a free meal that I'll go out with a guy I don't like to get one.