the getting to know you phase

[temptation]

So this week I got the number of two girls...in both cases we had decent conversations and they both ended up giving me thier numbers.

Also, it was the girls who approached me first and I ended up talking to them for the better part of the night. However, I've been out of the game for a while and I feel like I wasn't being coversationally stimulating enough and quite honestly I don't feel like I built great rapport. We talked about many things and they asked me lots of questions but I still feel like it was somewhat forced at times--ie..long silences.

I know some of you may be thinking...you got the numbers, what's the problem? Well, my main problem is that I'm naturally intoverted, somewhat quiet and when the girl has a similar personality it sometimes feels like pulling teeth. So I have trouble figuring out whether they like me or they are just giving me their number out of courtesy. I guess I'm just trying to figure out what goes into a women's decision when they decide to give a guy their number? Cuz i really felt my game was That bad.

Some opinions would be useful.

[Desiderata]

being an introver in this isn't all bad, just gotta muster up a few bits of strength to ask questions. and the key here, listen to what she says, and respond accordingly, and ask follow up questions. So yah being an introvert is tough to talk about yourself, so make the talks about her and her interests. At the very least you'll be talking, and hopefully make a few connections based on the intel!

[stonemonkey]

I know you're asking for female opinions, but dude, 2 numbers?! You're obviously doing SOMETHING right! They must've seen something in you that they wanted to get to know better. Whatever that was, bring it out again. In other words, just be yourself.

[and1grad]

Since when do women give out their numbers out of courtesy? I agree with Stone. You MUST be doin SOMETHING right.

[sharon]

I agree....no one gives out their number "out of courtesy", they obviously want you to call and that's a sign that they do find you interesting, despite what you might think.

[Bugsey34]

Yeah, girls don't give their numbers out of "courtesy", at least I wouldn't, so I wouldn't worry about it. Obviously they liked the conversation enough to want to continue it, so I wouldn't be nervous at all about it. Just think, they liked you enough to want to keep talking to you, even with you feeling like you weren't being Mr. Conversation!

[shimmer728]

Dude, the girls were into you. If they weren't, they wouldn't have given out their numbers. So call! :D

[AzureMoogle]

temptation: so what kind of place was it that you met them? :huge:

[nxn]

She gave you her number.. she already likes you. Just keep being urself and stay relaxed, over time as ur relationship develops so will the conversation between the two of you.

[temptation]

temptation: so what kind of place was it that you met them? :huge:


One was at a salsa/latin club and the other was at a hip hop lounge. I like places with an upbeat vibe.

[Tiean]

I'm a guy, so what the hell do I know? But... Why would they give you their number if they weren't the least bit interested (in whatever they may be interested in)? Were they thinking: "OMG this is boring... How do I get away??? I've got it, I'll give him my number and tell him that I would be nice to see him again!"

It just seems like a long way to go when they could say: "Hey... I gotta go. Nice talking to you!"

But maybe it's just me?