I just need some advice

[Anonymous]

Well I can honestly say that I am in a quarterlife crisis. It has been 1 whole year since I graduated and what am I doing, nothing where am I working, nowhere. I have a BS degree and can't find a job, can't pass my board exam in which I took 3 times and I feel like such a failure. I believe I am in a mild depression. I cry alot more than I ever did in my life and I am embarrassed to attend family gatherings because I don't want any one to know that i am not being productive. Eveyone is always asking me about work and I just say "I rather not talk about it right now" I just need some comfort or advice.

[Anonymous]

I'm there with you. I live in a different state from my family. I HATE my job and I am searching for a new one but I cry a lot about the situation. I don't really have any friends in this town but I feel like I NEED to stay here to prove something to myself. My family is putting pressure on me to move back home but I don't want to go home a failure with my tail between my legs. I have visited them in a year because I'm scared of the pressure they'll put on me and I'm scared of seeing all my friends and feeling out of the loop and getting more depressed.

You're going through a normal transition I think. It's hard to find a job, especially now with this economy and no one in college really told us "If the economy is in the toilet---so is your life" That would have been a helpful way to prepare.

Just try and join some networking groups. When people ask you about your career--Be Honest! It's hard to do that to your pride but I found that the more I told people I hated my job and was looking for a new one, the more they were willing to help. Casual aquaintances have given me job leads and introduced me to people that could help me. There's nothing wrong with accepting help. That saying "it's not what you know but WHO you know" is very true. Tell people you are looking and they might help you.

Hang in there. It's not easy but in the words of the MTM theme song "You might just make it after all"

[Anonymous]

Become a Teacher and then the economy will be irrelevant to your job situation. Plus once you are tenured you will have job security, don't fool yourself that you will ever have that with a company. ANd SUmmers off That is the route I am thinking of taking. Fuck the Business world and what my father wants for me.

[Hazel Eyes]

I think that you should just try something totally new. Pick up a new hobby, try some volunteer work, listen to a radio station that plays different music....anything that you are not doing now. Trying new things can be very inspiring........to your mind and your soul.

[Anonymous]

If you have been depressed continuously for over 2 weeks then you are suffering from depression. I know because I did. The only thing is it take me 8 weeks before I got any help. I was crying everyday. I felt like a failure. I was in a new city, in grad school, no family and friends. It wasn't until one of my peers told me about her depression that I got help. Anyway, I am on Paxil and it has done wonders. When you get depressed for a long time it changes the chemistry of your brain and it becomes hard to get out of it. For me it just got worse and worse....at times I felt like I was in this pit. Anyway, I don't know if you have depression.....a family doc could better tell you. But that is my story.

GOOD LUCK and remember that your worth as a person is not based on your job..it is based on you. Screw society...people who value you for your job or see that as a sign of your value are just reflecting their low self-esteem. You are better than that. AND anyway if people give you a hard time just tell them that you are writing a book about the pressures of generation y in a materialistic and success driven world. That should shut them up.