Czech girlfriend

[inuts]

Normally I wouldn't choose this route. See, as some of you know, a couple months ago my SO from the Czech Republic and I broke up. Her call. The distance was hard, and she is still in school. So okay. The typical responses are to accept it and move on, or, beg to be taken back, and at some point thereafter accept it and move on. Other routes include fighting and never talking to each other, stalking, being the needy beggar, or just being friends.

I've chosen an odd route that normally I would never choose, but these are different circumstances, and so I'm looking for feedback/ideas, because I'm thinking I may have some blind spots.

So my route is this:
I know my love for her is the real thing. I know this, and I've decided to not give up. I am still pursuing her and it is completely overt. Normally I would think that would turn her off, except it isn't accompanied with the usual sorrow and self-pity. I simply love and want her. Her breaking up with me makes me sad, and it does turn my world upside down, but it doesn't turn me upside down. I am still who I am and this doesn't ruin me. My confidence isn't shaken. And my confidence isn't in me; it is in my feelings for her. I know they're the real thing, and so I am completely unafraid. If she rejects me today, I come back tomorrow. If she rejects me tomorrow, I come back the next day. Her rejections make me sad, but they don't dampen my resolve. When a man truly loves a woman, he doesn't give up when things get tough. I guess it helps because she says she misses me and wants to see me again, and she writes me every day. But I don't know. She does have an ex-ex-boyfriend who she spends some time with, and that's enough to make me think twice. But she dumped him before she met me, and when she met me she really gave him the boot.

I hope I've described this well. Thoughts or ideas? I'll answer questions, too.

[Bugsey34]

Um, don't call tomorrow, and the next day, and the next day, and the next day. She will get pissed off, trust me, especially if she doesn't want to get back together with you. Even if she does, she will be pissed off.

I would say write her an email or letter explaining your feelings. Wait and see what she does. If she does nothing or says she's not interested, try back in 4-6 months.

[mishl982]

I agree with Bugsey. Don't persist. It's going to make her annoyed and pissed off, not fall in love with you again.

I agree with you that you shouldn't give up if you truly have your heart set on something or someone, but some things aren't just meant to work out. You may love her deeply, but what if she doesn't reciprocate those feelings? Are you just going to keep calling her until she finally gives in?

I hope that didn't come off as bitchy, but that is just the way I see it.

[shimmer728]

I agree with the others. I know you love your ex a lot, but if she tells you to leave her alone and gets pissed off, then please respect her feelings. Otherwise, you're further alienating her and making a fool out of yourself.

That being said, I do hope it all works out and she comes back to you. :) Just don't pin all your hopes on it.

[mishl982]

I forgot to add, Good Luck! Who knows, maybe she'll come back to you after the first try, but going back on what I said upthread, don't keep persisting if she doesn't budge. You'll just push her farther away.

[inuts]

Maybe I left out an important detail--we talk (email) every day. And when I don't write for a day or two, she writes right back. If I don't respond to that, she writes again the next day. I have tried this. She doesn't wait for me to respond to write.

I do thank you for the responses. I think in any other situation I would not be so persistent. But when I left Finland in February she cried for hours. She says things like she misses me more and more, and some days she thinks about throwing everything away and coming to visit me.

It's a different culture and love comes before political correctness, and I have learned that. If I give up tomorrow she will feel more lonely. I know this. I don't think she really wants me to abandon her. It's hard, but I thank you for the responses.

[samender]

I definitely in the past have been a persistent person. What I recommend because it worked for me is that if you still do want to pursue it that is fine. Give it some time, give her some space and wait awhile. Then I would try. If the circumstances are right and it is meant to be that is when it will happen.

[inuts]

Actually, everyone here is right. I'm stupid for even trying. But thanks anyway.

[meatwad]

You weren't with the Czech girl that's been posting on here were you?

[mishl982]

Hehe, no that was just a freakish coincidence.