Tacky? or oversensitive

[summergold]

Maybe it's me, but does anyone else thinks it's uber tacky to receive a wedding invitation via email? I want to respond, "Do you have an email address where I can send the gift?"

[biodork]

LOL i think this actually happened to someone else and they posted about it too! I definitely think its tacky...They should at least TRY to be somewhat creative.

[Bugsey34]

Yeah I have to say I think it's pretty tacky. You can do cheap invites, it shouldn't be that big of a deal.

[Kitty]

I think there was a similar post recently.

I personally don't think it is tacky...but I really don't care about any kind of wedding etiquette.

[jrwilheim]

I guess for me it would depend on how well I knew the person and what sort of wedding it was. If someone wants a very casual, low-key wedding with only a few very close friends and/or family, then I don't see the harm of an e-mail invitation, especially if the actual wedding takes place very quickly after a decision to get married, for some reason (i.e, pregnancy, or a desperate need for health benefits, etc.) Otherwise I think an e-vite to a wedding is considered very tacky.

On the other hand, maybe it's time our society changed this rule of etiquette? In some ways, I think the e-vite is actually more practical. Sometimes things have a tendency to disappear in my apartment, so the e-vite would be one less piece of paper to keep track of, and I wouldn't risk losing the RSVP, date, registry information, etc.

[shimmer728]

One of my friends actually did this. She blatantly jokes that her husband comes from white trash, though, so she wasn't too concerned with etiquette.

[wordsmith]

I think it's tacky. My thought is, "I guess if you don't find it necessary to spring for postage, why am I worrying about springing for a gift?"

[summergold]

I think it's tacky. My thought is, "I guess if you don't find it necessary to spring for postage, why am I worrying about springing for a gift?"

That's kind of how I feel. Especially after talking to a mutual friend, who is much closer to the bride. Apparently they've invited over 300 people. My thought is that if you're throwing a huge wedding like this, the last thing you should be skimping on is the invitations. On top of that she was complaining about having to send her grandparent's paper invites since they don't have a computer or email.

If it were an informal event, with a few close friends and family, I wouldn't really feel it was that tacky, but this is just ridiculous.

[wordsmith]

Yeah. If you're OBVIOUSLY doing it low-key or on the cheap, that's one thing. Or if you're a dirty hippie who recycles your toilet paper. Maybe.

[paiger81]

LOL i think this actually happened to someone else and they posted about it too! I definitely think its tacky...They should at least TRY to be somewhat creative.

Yep it was me, it was an email, with an attachment that was a scanned copy of the "real" invitation. It also had a great little PS that "If I have forgotten anyone, please feel free to forward this e-mail"

Let me just say that I forwarded it to friends and family so that we could all laugh about it.

[biodork]

Let me just say that I forwarded it to friends and family so that we could all laugh about it.
And this is how chain emails get started....

lol :p

"Forward this wedding invitation to at least 20 people or you won't be allowed into the wedding!"

[shimmer728]

Yeah. If you're OBVIOUSLY doing it low-key or on the cheap, that's one thing. Or if you're a dirty hippie who recycles your toilet paper. Maybe.

See, that's my friends.....the bride was deliberately trying to be non-traditional.

[wordsmith]

yeah, I used to live with people who feel so passionately about things like paper wastage that they would do this and not mean anything crass by it at all. They would also have a carob/soy wedding cake and such, probably.

[24forever]

I don't care for certain kinds of ettiquette, however I do like some traditional things, and I think the paper invitation is traditional and much classier than an electronic invite. I mean if you really need to save money and do it that way, then fine, but it's not my cup of tea.

[steph78]

Yep it was me, it was an email, with an attachment that was a scanned copy of the "real" invitation. It also had a great little PS that "If I have forgotten anyone, please feel free to forward this e-mail"

Let me just say that I forwarded it to friends and family so that we could all laugh about it.

Man, if it was someone you weren't the best of friends with, you should have forwarded it to everyone you knew and encouraged them to attend. :evil: How would the bride have handled all these RSVPs from people she totally didn't intend to invite?

I definitely am a big fan of written invitations. It's just more exciting to get a real invitation in the mail than to get an e-vite. For my wedding we wanted to send invitations for the rehearsal lunch to all the family and ministers/musicians - couldn't afford separate printed invitations for that, but I used my computer and inkjet printer to make my own invitations on nice textured cardstock purchased from an office supply store, they turned out great.

My newest sister-in-law has overused e-vite to the point where I kind of groan every time I see it and it makes me just not want to go to whatever the event is - for example, a couple weeks after her wedding she e-vited four of us to go to her house to look at the wedding photos. Good gravy. Is is wrong of me to be so annoyed by that?

[dazed]

sending out more invitations by regular mail isn't that much more expensive is it? i think it's kinda dumb to send it through email.

[pisces2473]

Summer...do I know this person??? I think it's hella tacky. As I said before, Hallmark makes some lovely write-in invites...and if you are gonna be SO informal as to email people, you can just CALL your grandparents.

And 300 guests, to me, isn't something you email people about...but I'm the type of person who wants 100 people TOPS at my wedding.

[summergold]

Summer...do I know this person???

No you don't know this tacky person :P. This is a high school person. What can I say about people with a lot of money and little class ;)

[tina1979]

I don't know...on one hand I think it seems a bit tacky, but on the other this is the age of the internet. I would think that if it was a small home wedding then an email would be ok. If it was a more formal wedding I better get something in the mail.