Poll: Your ex's

[baby_gurl0604]

I wanted to just throw a question out to everyone: Do you ever think about your past loves?

The other day I went through some old journals, letters, and photos from my first love, and I swear I can't stop thinking about him now! Reading some of that stuff really helped me see what happened between us from a different perspective. It's like this surge of emotion hit me head-on, and now every song I hear on the radio somehow seems to apply to him. ugh!!! I feel so weird...I guess I have some regrets about how things happened between us...it was kind of a tragedy, in the end. But that is life...

Anyway, getting back to my question, I am curious about whether anyone else ever thinks about their ex's.

[AngelSam]

I had this one guy that I could not get out of my head for YEARS... and even worse was I knew he still was still in love with me. (I'm not being a snot - he truly told me!!) Anyways, I would see him once in a while but then once (the last time I saw him) he was over the top in trying to get me back. Unfortunately, it was kind of pathetic... it made me realize how much I've changed since my time with him and was so NOT meant to be with him and it really gave me closure. In fact, have barely thought of him until I saw your post!! Granted - different sitauation than yours - but you are NOT alone in having those flashback emotions.. and with the effect of time is that now you can only remember the good times! ;)

[Winter Storm]

Yes, I do, but not most of the time. Not all of them but my last boyfriend. It's hard to forget about a guy you were with for 8 years and wanted to marry. What would have been our 9th anniversary was last week and I couldn't help but think if he ever thinks of me. And this time last year we were vacationing in Georgia on a trip I enjoyed. Oh, how much can change in just one year.

But I find I only think about him when I'm feeling down or there isn't much going in with me, so it isn't often. And they are usually good thoughts.

[labrat2111]

I think about my ex's a bit. There have only really been two long term g/fs that I've had. One, Jaime, I dated for 2.5 years and lived with for about 1.5 years. Eventually we just couldn't get along and fought all the time and she ended things and moved out. I don't see her or talk to her anymore but I still think about her. For me I get a little nostalgic for relationships after awhile unless something really bad happened to end them like cheating. I tend to just remember the good times when I think about her or look at old pictures of her.

There is also my most recent ex, Crystal, who I only dated for 5 months and broke up with about 9 months ago because of distance and communication issues. We have continued to IM and have sporadic phone convos and I went up to visit her for her graduation ceremony at college and at a grad party her parents threw for her. Both times we hung out and had a really good time. I certainly still think of her and if I end up getting a job in or around pittsburgh or in northeastern Ohio I could see getting back together.

I probably am more nostalgic about things now too because I'm not seeing someone now and the good times always make me smile and feel better.

[biodork]

Yup....and I've been back with him for over 3 years :)

As for others, only fleeting thoughts really, now and then. And it's usually only the crappy things (which is probably a good thing since I'm with someone!)

[meatwad]

I haven't had a girlfriend in 8 years. She was a crazy redhead that I'd be happy to never see again in my life (which unfortunately wasn't the case cause I saw her working in a restaraunt about a month ago and just completely avoided her). The one that I always end up thinking about is the girl I wanted to date instead of the redhead.

[shimmer728]

The two relationships I had before my current BF were 2.5 months and 3 months, respectively. I don't give much thought to either of them, really. The first guy I still run into from time to time, and sometimes he's friendly....depends whether he's with his current GF or not. :rolleyes:

[dreams82]

Exes suck. It sucks knowing the person you are with was with someone else. The intimate moments they shared, and it sucks even worse if they still have contact with that person. Iv'e dated alot of guys, but have only had 2 significant relationships. I still see those 2 exes out, and it doesn't phase me one bit. The first one, from highschool, still effects me a little, just because it was mine, and his first everything, first relationship, blah blah blah.... But I guess we take and learn something from every relationship wer'e in, and we have to date around to find the right person.

[irish42]

Yeah I do find myself thinking about one ex in particular he and I are great friends now but I do think about him and I hope with all sincerity he is happy with his new gf (who is so opposite of me it is frightning!) but he has also been super supportive of me when it comes to my family issues and I enjoy talking to him or IMing with him...then their is this high school ex I cannot stop thinking about since I just found out he has been married for like a year now! It just boggles my mind! Other than that I don't really dwell on any other exes...

[Kitty]

Yes, I think about mine. I try to NEVER read old journals or look at this huge box of stuff I have from when we dated. It makes me get overly sentimental.

[blueyes]

My most recent ex (who I dated for nearly 4 years) is still one of my best friends. We hang out at least once a month, we'll go for dinner to places that my current SO does not like (he believes food should happen between two pieces of bread, with a side of fries), and it's never uncomfortable. He's not a security blanket, since I realized that he wasn't ever going to be what I was looking for or even what I needed on the most basic levels - but he is one of my dearest friends. He's my surrogate best friend/girlfriend, since I haven't had one of those since my former best chica bud bailed on me for her creepy-super-Goth-hate-the-world controlling boyfriend. He's an amazing person. We're not right for each other as partners, but this is a friendship that neither of us have any intention of 'letting go of.'

As for my other exes, I don't really think much about them - they were people I dated when I was much younger (and much sillier). They are (and most likely will remain) sources of amusement to my younger sisters.

[Bugsey34]

I just had a dream about my elementary school crush the night before last, you can imagine how I sometimes am with more recent ones, so I guess my answer would be yes... sigh... :(

[GetMeOuttaDC]

As for my other exes, I don't really think much about them - they were people I dated when I was much younger (and much sillier). They are (and most likely will remain) sources of amusement to my younger sisters.


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[blueyes]

:lol:

Kelly...you have NO idea...it is ridiculous sometimes at dinner. It's a ex-trashing fest between the three of us and I always lose. Here's a quick synopsis...

T: dated him in HS. We think he's gay now. I adore him still (wonderful friend), but my sisters harrass me and say it's my fault he now wears pastel purple.
C: his nickname was Chip. Eesh. Enough said.
B: addicted to loud obnoxious music and thought he was 'alternative'. Really just lame attempt to piss off parents (attempt was success). Now delivers pizza. Has approximately 12 visible tattoos.
S: cheated on me - had visible 'claw' marks on his chest (I had no nails @ the time). Super computer nerd with zero social skills. Marrying someone with zero social skills. Offspring should be interesting.

Whoa...okay...I'll stop there.

[coll214]

Unfortunately I still see my ex on a regular basis and if he had his way he wouldn't just be an ex anymore. I"m done and over w/ that relationship but sadly i'm not sure if he is. And any other guys i've dated hasn't been for all that long, one i'm still friends with and we get along fine. it's those what if we had dated crushes from HS and college that always leave me wondering...

[SmilesSoSweet]

The only ex I really think about is my last one. He and I still talk but we haven't seen each other in awhile. Bad timing is the main reason why we stopped dating. It was long distance to begin with, then he moved further away, then by the time he moved within 30 miles from me, I moved here to Arizona for a new job. So yeah, it sucks. We both knew that we had something real going on, but distance/timing just wasn't good. I'll be in California at the end of this month and we're supposed to hang out. He may even be my date at my brother's wedding, too.

[Cole]

Last summer I was watching a movie in which one of the lesser-known actors looked just like a bf I had in high school. We broke up when he went to college, and I never heard from him again.

After that movie I suddenly remembered how great things had been and felt like I had a crush on him all over again for three days. I finally ended up finding him on the internet and emailing him.

Actually getting in touch with him helped snap me back into reality. :)

I think about exes a lot, but that's b/c I still talk to most of them.

It can be hard to let go of the intimate moments you shared... it's weird how the most random things can trigger really strong memories sometimes. I often miss coming home after a long day and cooking dinner with my ex... living with someone makes for a lot of little daily things that pop up. I was at the ex's for a bbq awhile ago and got sentimental over the cutting board!

(I'm actually seeing him tonight for only the 2nd time since breaking up 6 months ago :eek: )

[tina1979]

I think about a couple of mine. One more so than any other, but its usually like now when I kinda miss having a relationship or if I am in a relationship and its starting to go sour

[SmilesSoSweet]

My last roommate told me the only way to get "over a guy" is to get "under a new one" haha.

[week2week]

I don't think about my ex-gf's anymore than any of my other friends. I've remained friends with all of them, and we continue to keep in touch via email...so periodic emails are about as often as I think of them.

[Tayl405]

I think sometimes that if I had met my HS sweetheart at a different time in life, we'd be together, but he's changed so much since then that I don't know. A guy I dated in college suddenly started calling me again at 3 in the morning, and I'm actually really creeped out because we haven't talked in YEARS and he isn't leaving messages or anything. I only know it's him because I called the number back and got his voicemail. I shouldn't even still be in his phone! So yeah, I recently started thinking of him again but not in any good way.

[midtwenty]

*shrug*
Quite honestly, I could give a shit about any of my exes. There's only one that ever even enters my mind, and it's only because we have a mutual friend who will talk about him from time to time. Other than that, pfffft. Whatever. I'm busy living in the now.

[shimmer728]

My last roommate told me the only way to get "over a guy" is to get "under a new one" haha.

That's from Friends. ;)

[SmilesSoSweet]

That's from Friends. ;)

I knew she got that quote from somewhere, I just couldn't remember. :)

[capella]

Only two exes that were major relationships.
One: Still talk with on occasion. We had so many practice breakups the final one was kinda anti-climatic. He gets weird though and can't handle the move on sometimes, but I honestly don't even think of him that way. It's been a good, I don't know, 3-4 years since we had any feelings for each other that way.
Two: Brief but traumatic relationship. He bugged out for reasons still unknown and was a total loser. I was far beyond his "league" and I doubt he'll ever get another girl. FREAK! Actually, I kind of hate his guts still and if I saw him I would cause him bodily harm. Ripping off body parts and beating him to death with them. I guess it's good I live in another state now :madder: :rolleyes:

[springhaze]

I do wonder about my ex from time to time...we were really good friends for a long time after we broke up and then just ended up drifting apart over the years... I haven't spoken to him in about 3 years, though.

[Mad Dawg]

I think about my first love at least once a day. Not in a creepy way, just wondering how she is and what she is doing. I still care about her, and I always will. Nothing will ever change that.

I think about my latest ex a lot, too. That's because we were together for 5 years. In reality I despise her for what she did to me and my family, but in 5 years you can really get involved in someone else's life.

[Cole]

My last roommate told me the only way to get "over a guy" is to get "under a new one" haha.


Is it weird that one of my exes told me that?

[inuts]

I think about my exes periodically. Not seriously, but just casually. I think about my most recent ex sometimes, but that's to be expected. Actually, for those who remember about the "Czech ex", I decided like a week and a half ago to stop talking to her until at least the summer is over. I just can't do it.
Besides, I met this new girl Karolina. She's from... Poland. :eek:

[Deadend]

More than I should. Mind you I had a horrible disgusting break up ..... jeeze almost a year ago now. And there was another *sorta* serious girlfriend back in high school who just really changed me alot. I guess I've always taken relationships too seriously, so when they end they always leave a mark.

[KeepRockin]

I'm a perpetual dreamer...daydreams are my specialty. I'm not saying I fantasize about my ex's, but I definitely think about them.

I've had 4 "serious" relationships:
The first one is long gone...only thought about him recently when his sister found me on MySpace. The next got married in Vegas this past Valentine's Day (shotgun wedding, maybe, not positive). Number three and I talk all the time. He's awesome and will always be a great friend. We spent almost 4 years together and ended it on good terms. The last guy broke up with me 3 weeks ago, so he's definitely the one I think about the most these days...wondering why the fuck he did that, what was going on in his mind, why he claims to be emotional over it but won't show it...so many questions unanswered. And the sex was amazing...I miss that!

[BsballAcctnt]

I dated a girl for 3 years before she left me for someone else, and since that happened 9 months ago I still think about her everyday. I hope a day comes where I don't think about her at all, but that seems pretty far away.

[Deadend]

I dated a girl for 3 years before she left me for someone else, and since that happened 9 months ago I still think about her everyday. I hope a day comes where I don't think about her at all, but that seems pretty far away.

Wow! What a slut! Seriously that sucks man. I had a breakup almost exactly 9 months ago now myself, but it was a little more than half of 3 years. And ya, it still hurts when I think about it, and I still think about it unvoluntarily. So don't think you're out of the usual here or anything.

There is someone better out there however, and the way to get on with it is NOT sitting around feeling sorry for yourself, that much I have figured out.

[hopeless]

The last & only boyfriend I ever had was back in high school. I broke up with him 7 yrs. ago & since then have not spoken to him or his best friend since. I don't regret breaking up with him & I'm totally over him. The first week after the breakup was really hard though I got an anxiety attack & it came at such a worst time. I had an exam few days after & failed it miserably, couldn't sleep or eat anything. The next week I started to feel better & took it one day at a time.

[wordsmith]

Sure, I think about all of them. Not in a pining way, but they were all part of my life, and had a lot do with the person I am and how I am with relationships now. I've never been one to really date too much casually, so anybody I was in a relationship with was a pretty intense part of my life. It's not like I can just act as if it didn't happen and wasn't an important thing. It's all tied up in who I am. I'm also a big journal keeper since childhood, and pretty sentimental. So it's not surprising that I keep people from my past in my heart in some way.

[Desiderata]

What she said... minus the journal part :)

[wordsmith]

Don't be knockin' the journaling...

[Desiderata]

journaling, journalism... geez, someone needs a new noun :p

[Stormshadow]

Never see them or talk to them or even run into them accidentally. It's much better that way!!!!

[joneshen]

Super computer nerd with zero social skills.

And he had the nerve to cheat on you? :mad:

Sure, I think about some of my exes (not that I've ever dated anyone too long):

-Boyfriend #1: Still not sure what happened there, but I'd do things differently (like treat him better)

-Mr. F.: the most recent. I was really into him. He stopped calling for no reason then found out a couple of months later he had a new gf and I was :mad: and :cry:. He was such an intriguing person, so not fair. Things have gotten better, but it's very difficult for me not to think of him especially when he works in the building that's the symbol of this city.

Having attended my high school reunion last week, I would like to see boyfriend #1 and #2 again; I'm curious to see what happened to them!