My 25 year crisis

[Anonymous]

Just bought the book...I'm going through the crisis now. My so-so career is two years in the making as a teacher and my father dies from cancer, my mother almost dies of low sodium in her blood,(all within 8 months of each other) my seemingly "perfect" life has been turned upside down and now I'm the adult, the 'next-of-kin', when I still feel like an undergrad. Noone could have told me 25 would be this. I thought I'd be married with 2 kids by now. But, alas, no hubby, no kids. Have the boyfriend, that's good most days, but marriage? Someday, not now. I miss my 'old life', as I call it, and I am working my way through therapy to feel ok with my new life....thoughts?

[Anonymous]

I know exactly what you feel like. I to am 25 in grad school and wonder where my wonderful old life went. IT has been one problem after another. I became very ill, then suffered from depression,then thought of leaving school, then my mom almost died in a car accident and was in the hospital for over a month.....you get the picture. I just keep thinking that GOD has a plan for all of us. These difficulties are for everyone...the ones who say otherwise are lying or in denial. Either way they are not much better off. I think we all go through periods of time when our life is great and then the tides change. For some people it's today, for others tommorrow, and for some 10 years from now. The problems don't change, the faces just do. I really think that life is not meant to be easy...but someone in those dark moments seeds of wisdom are planted. Seeds that can change the lives of ourselves and others. We just have to hold on. I am sorry for all that has happened. Sometimes in our everyday lives we feel that we need to convey a stiff upper lip. But you never know...the person next to you may be going through the same things....just in silence. You will be in my prayers tonight.

A friend