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TennisPlayer
08-11-2005, 08:58 PM
Would you let your BF go to one in Las Vegas when you know they're probably going to a strip club? I don't want to tell him no he can't go, but I told him I didn't like that idea. If it was guys hanging out at a restaurant (basically anywhere no nudity) then I wouldn't have a problem.

I just don't like that idea of viewing other naked people in that way!
meatwad
08-11-2005, 09:32 PM
Would you let your BF go to one in Las Vegas when you know they're probably going to a strip club? I don't want to tell him no he can't go, but I told him I didn't like that idea. If it was guys hanging out at a restaurant (basically anywhere no nudity) then I wouldn't have a problem.

I just don't like that idea of viewing other naked people in that way!

Strip clubs are actually pretty boring. The girls get you hot and bothered and then you go home. It kind of sucks. There's really no enjoyment out of it once you leave and then you just kind of feel shitty for a couple hours.
inuts
08-11-2005, 10:11 PM
Strip clubs aren't all the same...

For one bachelor party we went to, well, it was a lot more than a strip club.
LakeJay
08-11-2005, 10:13 PM
Considering that it is Vegas, you may want him to just stay at a strip club.
pisces2473
08-11-2005, 10:17 PM
Do you trust him?
bridgetjones
08-11-2005, 10:32 PM
Hmmm... In Las Vegas you say?! Yes. You'd better call and make sure he is at the strip club and no where else! Then again in Vegas you see regular shows with half naked show girls. Lets put it this way - no freaking way my future hubby is holding his bachelor party in either Vegas or Amsterdam!

In my hometown, I would say unequivocally yes! Heck I would even expect there to be strippers at my future hubbys party. I would not marry a man I do not trust to go to a strip joint and not cheat. Isn't it practically a North American tradition to have strippers at bachelor and bachelorette parties?
Morgan81
08-12-2005, 08:23 AM
Strip clubs are actually pretty boring. The girls get you hot and bothered and then you go home. It kind of sucks. There's really no enjoyment out of it once you leave and then you just kind of feel shitty for a couple hours.
...Go to Vegas my son. Your opinion WILL change. :twisted:

But if you tell the guy he can't go to Vegas, he'll either tell you to get bent and go anyway, or hold it against you forever and probably change his opinion of you a little bit.

Strip clubs are harmless fun, hiring a stripper(s) and bringing them back to the room with an 8-ball of coke....different story. But as long as it's the run-of-the-mill bachelor party, tell him you're concerned, but don't squash his fun.
shimmer728
08-12-2005, 08:51 AM
Yeah, I'd let my BF go, and maybe I'd give him some $1s to take with him. ;) Seriously, it's a strip club--it's not like he's going to be screwing these chicks on a tabletop. I don't know--it just wouldn't bother me.
winneythepooh7
08-12-2005, 09:01 AM
It's interesting that this topic is coming up right now. My boyfriend got invited to a bachelor party for a "friend" that I never met before. I've heard of the guy, but he is just not really in his close circle of friends anymore. My boyfriend wasn't even invited to the wedding by the way, he just basically wants to go because all of his friends are going. In any event, I know that some of the people that will be there are not the most wholesomest of individuals, and I also know that there may be stuff possibly going on up the nose. In any event, if my boyfriend chooses to partake in something that would cause me to not have trust in him as a result of this party, then I think he knows the consequences that will ensue. If he wants to go, fine, I am not going to stop him. Hell, there are guys that are married that are going and their wives don't care. Basically, what it comes down to, is trust. He hasn't given me a reason not to trust him yet, and I don't see him for the majority of the week. If he wants to ruin it all by hooking up with some sleazy girl at a bachelor party (which from what I understand, is next to impossible), then he is not the one for me.
shimmer728
08-12-2005, 09:09 AM
I remember a time when I was in HS when my FATHER went to a bachelor party where there was a stripper. So did two of my uncles. My mother was furious, and my one aunt made my uncle sleep out on the couch when he came home!!!! If I bring this incident up (it had to be 10 years ago if it was a day), they still get pissed off about it.
temptation
08-12-2005, 09:49 AM
...Go to Vegas my son. Your opinion WILL change. :twisted:

But if you tell the guy he can't go to Vegas, he'll either tell you to get bent and go anyway, or hold it against you forever and probably change his opinion of you a little bit.

Strip clubs are harmless fun, hiring a stripper(s) and bringing them back to the room with an 8-ball of coke....different story. But as long as it's the run-of-the-mill bachelor party, tell him you're concerned, but don't squash his fun.


Haha. :evil:
spokes
08-12-2005, 09:53 AM
personally it wouldn't bother me if my s/o wanted to go to the "ballet" - whats the big deal?
embrassezla
08-12-2005, 10:34 AM
this thread makes me happy that i found the one man on earth who doesn't like strip clubs, pr0n, etc.

the last guy i dated went to strip clubs once in awhile, and i even gave him money a couple times, so obviously it didnt bother me. then again, i wasn't in love with him.
twentity
08-12-2005, 10:40 AM
Do you trust him?

I second this question. If you trust him then it shouldn't be any big deal.
I got a stripper for one of my boyfriends for his birthday once and it didn't bother me. Because I knew at the end of the night he was going home with me. But that could just be me.
SmilesSoSweet
08-12-2005, 10:50 AM
I say let him go. My brother's bachelor party was in Vegas last month and he had about 18 guys there - some married, some with girlfriends, and some single. It was really no big deal. His fiancee had her bachelorette party last weekend and it was great. They both trust each other for both of them to have the parties. At my brother's party, some of the guys even went to a spa first!

The only reason why I say to let him go is because if I'm ever dating someone where he had a bachelor party to go to, I let him go because I would want to go to the bachelorette party. ;)
Tayl405
08-12-2005, 10:52 AM
If you don't trust him, then why be with him? That's the theory I've adopted, b/c I don't want to waste my time being with someone I'm worried about. I have better things to do, and if he's going to cheat, then it's his loss. Sure, you're going to worry a little, but if he's serious about you, then you shouldn't have anything to worry about. And a day will come when you want to do something that makes him uncomfortable, and he won't be able to say anything! :bigger:
k.monster
08-12-2005, 01:01 PM
One of my best friends is a stripper (a very non-typical stripper who's in school to become a forest ranger) and they are harmless. For the most part the guys that come into the clubs are nothing more than customers and people that are going to pay their rent/buy their groceries/pay tuition.

Let him go!
wordsmith
08-12-2005, 01:14 PM
I can't imagine being in a relationship with somebody toward whom I harbored a real and legitimate fear that he'd screw a stripper. Somebody where that would actually be a worry? Not worth my time.
k.monster
08-12-2005, 01:23 PM
I can't imagine being in a relationship with somebody toward whom I harbored a real and legitimate fear that he'd screw a stripper. Somebody where that would actually be a worry? Not worth my time.

Totally agree. And the fact is, if they are willing to throw your relationship away by doing that - then your relationship wasn't that strong to begin with and he probably didn't love you as much as you thought.
preludemd
08-12-2005, 01:39 PM
Trust him, if he even touches a stripper you'll know. Bouncers don't take to kindly to it and you'll be spending time glueing him back together.
meatwad
08-12-2005, 03:32 PM
this thread makes me happy that i found the one man on earth who doesn't like strip clubs, pr0n, etc.

the last guy i dated went to strip clubs once in awhile, and i even gave him money a couple times, so obviously it didnt bother me. then again, i wasn't in love with him.

Whoa whoa whoa. I didn't say I didn't like strip clubs. Come on now. BOOBIES WOOOOOOOOOOOOO! I just said I felt unfulfilled afterwards.
RayJ1977
08-12-2005, 03:38 PM
Strip clubs suck. Hate those places. First, boobs...not even my favorite body part. Second, about half the time, you're not even getting nice boobs. Third, you typically end up blowing no less than 100 bucks on less than stellar boobs. Fourth, the boobs' owners are always nasty skanks. Fifth, I'm far more impressed by the boobs of a wholesome, nice girl.

Blah on the strip clubs.
tartytwenty
08-12-2005, 03:44 PM
When my bf goes to strip clubs or exotic dancers clubs (rarely, whew), I never think "OMG! Is he going to fuck one?" Hell no... if anything, I could see him there sipping his drink, gabbing to the boys and watching the eye candy shake their titties.

I don't LIKE it. ....but it's a temporary emotion and I just suck it up.

Can't even explain the emotion to you. It's a "I wish you wouldn't go, but it's okay that you go, have fun, but not too much fun.... " etc.