Dinner and a movie!?

[Broadway93]

No, its not as interesting as it seems! /phpBB/images/smiles/icon_smile.gif<br>
It is, however, Friday night and once again I am reduced to ordering Chinese food and watching The American President (BY MYSELF).<br>
How sad is it that I live in New York City and every weekend I find myself bored to tears with nothing to do and no one to call?I sound pathetic don't I? I'm SO looking forward to September 6 because (although I graduated from college) I am taking classes at my school. I've decided to audit two classes, two nights a week, and take advantage of the fact that I was surrounded by people my own age for FOUR years and didn't make friends with any of them. <br>
Anyway, maybe some of you can tell me what YOU do on Friday nights....give me some ideas of things to do, alone, without going out and sitting by myself at a coffee shop and looking desperate.
Andrea

[Stillakid]

Hello Andrea and anyone else reading,
I am 25 and I don't do crap on the weekends either, accept hang out with my younger sister and her boyfriend, which makes me feel like a complete loser! /phpBB/images/smiles/icon_frown.gif
But I guess maybe I shouldn't feel this way, since it seems like there are a lot of people like me. But it still doesn't seem fair. I am going to be moving to a new town soon and I plan to join a religious group, not for the religion, of course, but so I will (hopefully) meet some people and have stuff to do over the weekend. Has anybody ever tried this? Has it ever worked?

[jenc0629]

Andrea, I can relate to you. I look forward to the weekends, then I think, geeze what am I going to do? I have a good friend I go out with sometimes, but she just moved in with her boyfriend and I feel like I'm constantly trying to beg her to do something. And if she's already busy (which she usually is) then I have the same Friday/Saturday nights in front of the TV (alone) as well.

Is there any groups that you could join? I don't know what I am talking about, I have no idea what I am going to do. I always feel like it's just me and everyone else is out having the time of their life. I live in CT and there isn't much to do here either, espically alone. Just know you aren't alone !!

[jeninmass]

I am in the same situation. I moved to a whole new part of the country a year ago now, and I still feel like I'm trying to seek out my niche, find friends and activities, etc. I tried joining a choir and taking horseback riding lessons, two things I really enjoyed. Unfortunately, they did not turn out to be filled with others my age!

I'm still searching...my next idea is a book club, but I'm having trouble finding one. Anybody have any other suggestions??

[jenc0629]

Probably the best place to meet people is at work, it's hard though because my work I'm the youngest one and there are few close to my age. What about where you work? What's the age group there? Maybe you could take a class like a continuing education class in your town in some field or hobby you are interested in, or even a college class for the fun of it if there is something you can think of you want to learn.

Maybe if you take classes at the gym or something you would meet people. I go to my gym but it seems like everyone already knows each other. Let me know how it goes.

[jameywilson]

Yeah, I'm going through the whole sitting at home on the weekends thing, but it's not because I don't have any friends here. I think it's because most of my friends are younger than me and the ones that are my age are a bunch of slack asses.
Recently I just sat down and tried to remember the things that made me happy a few years ago that I don't or can't do any more.
Some of them are simple and others more difficult and time consuming.
One thing I remember is my love of driving and my love of photography. So in a few weeks I'm going to take of a Friday and go on a road trip up the Blue Ridge Parkway. It's a long beautifull drive through the mountains of North Carolina an Virginia. It ends at the begining of the Shanandoa Valley in southern Maryland. Tons of picturesque scenery and hiking, maybe go camping.
Just take some time to sit back and remember the happiest times in your life and try to focus on what it was exactly that made you so happy. You can do it again if you look in the right place.

[mollyo]

Man oh man, does all of this sound familiar!

I have the same problem with being alone and bored all the time. Unfortunately, I haven't really found a good way to solve this problem...I've tried everything to meet some new people, but nothing really works, it's like I don't click with anyone. The best thing I've found is to *enjoy* being by myself as much as possible, and to keep very busy. I sign myself up for everything I can....and maintain hope that things will change and new opportunities will come. I think you just have to remain open, and to get out there and do something with yourself - instead of resigning yourself to loneliness and boredom....just my thoughts on it!

[crazywillie]

What i did was call up a bunch of my friend from college and see where they were living, turns out that many lived in a small section outside a metropolitan city, so I moved there, now there are about 10 of my college friends in walking distance. Friends means more than work, so I moved to philly where my friends were and assumed I'd find a job that was up my alley, everything has worked out so far. :0 Keep your head up.