your opinions/insights needed....

[sharon]

hey everyone,
i just want some opinions on something that is happening with a guy (call him Brad) i dated for awhile and who is now a friend of mine. he lives in another state so we mainly email, msn and occasionally talk on the telephone. the thing is, everytime we communicate, Brad always brings up this other guy i dated before i dated him. when Brad found out that i dated this guy, he was very upset because he doesn't like him at all. he also thought that i could do much better. i agree and the guy was a total jackass. i don't know why Brad keeps mentioning him...he does it in a very joking kind of way, but i get the sense that
he is always rubbing it in my face that i made this mistake and went out with this guy. any thoughts? it's been quite a few months since i dated this person and i don't understand why Brad is always talking about him. i know, i could just ask him, and i think i will next time he mentions it...the thing is it didn't really bother me until lately when i realized that he mentions him without fail every time we talk. thanks.

[meatwad]

Maybe he's gay? Or maybe he's really jealous and insecure about himself. He might feel that he's making himself look really good by dumping on the other guy.

[Tayl405]

My thoughts would be insecure. He's probably trying to feel you out to see if you still have feelings for your ex, and needs constant reassurance that you don't. This sounds like his problem and not yours, but unfortunately you have to deal with it. Maybe you should explain to him that you care about him (Brad) and that's why your with him, and it's unnecessary to constantly bring up someone that is not longer even in the picture.

[GetMeOuttaDC]

So why are you friends with a guy who keeps throwing your mistakes in your face? :confused:

[spokes]

i am assuming that brad has nevr made a dating mistake in his life......