People who never worry

[AmbrNrgy]

How do they do it? I have a friend who is very laid back, and never worries about anything. I wish I could be like that. I get so uptight and bent out of shape out of the smallest things. :googly:

[lilyflower]

How do they do it? I have a friend who is very laid back, and never worries about anything. I wish I could be like that. I get so uptight and bent out of shape out of the smallest things. :googly:

Beats me, I'm a perfectionist and a constantly stressed out worrywort. :googly:

[jcm12]

I'm like that, I don't worry about things I can't control, or insignificant daily events that "disturb" my routine.

My sister is a total control freak, and when things go wrong, she HAS to be in control of everything or she loses it. That's not a good way to be, because when a string of events or bad luck happens that you can't control, you can really lose your head.

[RayJ1977]

As most of you are familiar, I worry about EVERYTHING. But my friends and people at work don't think I do. How do they do it? Anonymously on message boards.

[AmbrNrgy]

Well, some paxil would help.... but I don't want to take drugs :googly:

[wordsmith]

I worry about everything and always have, and there isn't any preventing it. And, no, I won't take drugs for it.

[Kitty]

You know how freakin' crazy and inside my own head I am?

I actually worry that I'm not worrying enough. I also worry that I'll stop worrying and my life will fall apart.

I am a weirdo.

[and1grad]

I'm like that, I don't worry about things I can't control, or insignificant daily events that "disturb" my routine.

My sister is a total control freak, and when things go wrong, she HAS to be in control of everything or she loses it. That's not a good way to be, because when a string of events or bad luck happens that you can't control, you can really lose your head.
I'm the exact same way and whole-heartedly agree about losing your head.

[Ederratic]

What's an example of something you would worry about but your friend would shrug off.

[tartytwenty]

Had a friend who in beginning of August found out he'd have to move by beginning of Sept. Didn't worry.

Two weeks in, no house, no plans, no roomies...didn't worry.

Gets a lead from co-worker on a place he can rent, finds a roomie....it works out.

Me,

I would've paniced. Especially after two weeks went by with notta helping the situation.

[shimmer728]

I worry incessantly. I will probably have an ulcer by 30.

[Kitty]

I worry incessantly. I will probably have an ulcer by 30.

Several people have told me I am going to develop an ulcer if I don't try to relax more.

[bridgetjones]

Well I think when I get thru this period of life I will not worry much at all. Right now I am a nervous wreck over my future. However that is in only work but it is screwing up progress in other areas.

However sometimes I might appear to people as being laidback and laughing off problems to the point of not caring. Worrying does not solve anything really. It just makes you physically wear down over time. Most shit you worry about probably will never happen or solve itself.

[and1grad]

I worry incessantly. I will probably have an ulcer by 30.
Its a good thing you have a bf that is really laid-b....hold on...*puts hand to earpiece*....Weirdbrake!?!?...err, umm...never mind. Invest in Maalox. :evil: :razz:

[calixta]

You know how freakin' crazy and inside my own head I am?

I actually worry that I'm not worrying enough. I also worry that I'll stop worrying and my life will fall apart.

I am a weirdo.

I worry so much! About everything, all the time. And the minute that I'm actually relaxed, I start worrying that either I should be worrying or that something will happen to upset that sense of relaxation...

[wordsmith]

I worry incessantly. I will probably have an ulcer by 30.

I think I'm the only person at my college who drank more Maalox than beer.

I've toned down the worry immensely since those years, but it's still pretty bad.

[ebruening]

I used to worry and fret over every little thing. I thought I had to have my life planned out until I reached retirement age. (I'm not kidding about that, either.) After my job search didn't go quite as I expected, but I still ended up with a great position, I decided that things will happen in their own time. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be...that's my basic philosophy at present. I've calmed down considerably in the last year. Part of it was that I fell in love quite unexpectedly, which completely altered my perspective on life; the other part was that I finally got out of the "rat race" I entered myself into during college.

[bridgetjones]

I think if I solve my work problem, the rest of my life (love, money, friends) will fall into place bit by bit. Why I have that faith? Whatever it is just faith and that is that. It is better to believe stuff will work out and then focus on making it work bit by bit. Day by day... Granted I have a rough plan where I want to go in the next 10-15 years which does reduce stress since I have objectives to work towards.

What was my epiphany? Getting canned, taking care of sick parent and having alot of time to think about stuff. I observe people and people worry about stupid crap that does not matter in future. Then again I worry about big crap that is job related. I do not worry about other things right now.

Come to think of it I am not going anywhere this weekend so I can focus on getting applications out there en masse next week. Besides it is too bloody expensive to drive up North with gas prices at $1.35 CDN a liter! So I will type this out and shut the internet off...

[inuts]

I think some people who are worried get so deep into it that they fall into an almost unresponsive state, appearing worry-free. This is kind of how I am. I am so focused that I just don't respond to other people. I appear relaxed, but actually, I'm thinking (and worrying).

[bridgetjones]

That is true, Inuts. I might be freaking out inside but outside I look passive, even relaxed and carefree. It is almost like trying to conserve energy by reducing responses to stimuli. To some extent I do that conciously right now by sticking to my decision to not date. Perhaps some people may even think I am taking the stressors in my life so well because I do not complain or cry much about it.

Well people have noted that I might look upset or abit blank when I am actually feeling numb/ neutral/ concentrated on something. Then again some people think that people are upset/ angry if they are not smiling all the darn time - they are all "remember to smile!". Geez I was just like minding my own bloody business before you came to me with that comment! It takes energy to remember to smile sometimes.

[wordsmith]

Hah, not me. Everybody who knows me at all can read EXACTLY how stressed out I am. I do NOT hide emotion well.

[bridgetjones]

Hmm... I spend much of my life hiding my emotions believe it or not. I think my parents raised me with the idea that breaking down in public is weakness (like I was a boy or something :rolleyes: ). I got all sorts of wonderful conditioning about that in the dojo too. If you are in physical pain do not cry - wince if you must, do not cry. Or praise to the guy that broke a bone but did not cry. Is that odd for a girl?

I have been called an ice princess, reserved, strong, silent and tough. Ok that might be partly due to shyness too. Ugh... I am not cold inside, I have feelings. Just feel wierd showing them. :redface:

[AzureMoogle]

Had a friend who in beginning of August found out he'd have to move by beginning of Sept. Didn't worry.

Two weeks in, no house, no plans, no roomies...didn't worry.

Gets a lead from co-worker on a place he can rent, finds a roomie....it works out.

Me,

I would've paniced. Especially after two weeks went by with notta helping the situation.

Heh. I'm down to 2 and a half weeks myself. But I've been looking like crazy.

[samender]

I have a few friends that never seem to worry and they seem to have way more to worry about because of this. They just dont do it. I guess I am just not like it. I worry about stuff all the time. Even when I think I am being relaxed and not worrying then I find myself worrying about that.