Have you ever been set up on a date by a sibling or parent?

[SunDevil]

I think my parents tried to covertly set me up with this girl in high school by having me tutor her in chemistry. But she really didn't need that much help. And, I wouldn't be surprised if her parents had something to do with it as well. They always seemed to leave soon after I got there to do some grocery shopping or something.

I just wish I had figured it out when I was 17 instead of 23.

[wordsmith]

My mom and my aunt are constantly trying to set me up. They have good taste, too. I set my little sister up with my sports editor over the summer. I figured I thought he was hot, but since he's off limits to me, somebody might as well enjoy him.

My brothers don't have any good single friends, or they'd probably try to set me up, as well.

[ebruening]

I've never been set up BY my parents or relatives, but I have lots of male friends that my mother would love to see me begin dating. Ah yes, the fun world of dating. Daily nugget o' wisdom: Some parents are pushier than others.

[Brillo25]

I've been set up once each by my mom and my sister. Bad, bad idea both times. For some odd reason, people think that because I'm relatively quiet, it's a good idea to set me up with a girl who's quiet and shy, thinking we'd therefore have this magical quiet person bond. WRONG. Just makes for an awkward blind date that goes nowhere.

[and1grad]

I cant imagine letting my parents try to set me up. I think their criteria would only be "walks upright" and "breathing."

[shimmer728]

My grandma set me up about three years ago. To this day, that was the most awkward, boring date I've ever been on. There was nothing even particularly wrong with the guy, either--there was just absolutely no chemistry and we had nothing to talk about. He never called me again, and that was totally fine with me.

[carrot3124]

Yes, it was horrible. My mom set me up with her co-worker's son. It was boring and awkward. I was sooo glad when it was over. (My mother's opinion of an attractive guy is totally different from mine...)

[steph78]

Thankfully my parents never tried anything like that, but my best friend has the mother of all setup stories. A couple years ago her brother got married and they are of Scottish descent so they did the whole kilt thing and hired a bagpiper who actually lived in Scotland to come over and play at the wedding (he was a friend of a family friend or something). This bagpiper guy had never been to the US before so he stuck around for a few weeks afterward and stayed with her parents, and they took him traveling around some...long story short, apparently her mom totally brainwashed this guy during that time into thinking my best friend was interested in him, and all of a sudden she finds herself having this really awkward, out of nowhere conversation with bagpiper dude who all of a sudden wants to enroll in college in the US in my friend's town and move here to be with her!

Wow am I glad my parents are not the meddling type.

[biodork]

If I let my mom set me up the guy would prob end up being some "nice religious boy" who is either already a dr or on his way to becoming one. And im sure it would be a bonus if the guy was a plastic surgeon. :neutral:

[temptation]

If I let my mom set me up the guy would prob end up being some "nice religious boy" who is either already a dr or on his way to becoming one. And im sure it would be a bonus if the guy was a plastic surgeon. :neutral:


I know the feeling. My moms always tries to get me to go for girls who are "her" perfect match but who totally conflict with what I am seeking. Don't get me wrong, these girls are intelligent, independant and responsible but they are missing certain intangible qualities. My parents are always looking for security/predictability while I want a fire lit under my ass.

[Winter Storm]

My mother wanted to set me up with Tiger Woods.

[labrat2111]

My mom has tried to set me up indirectly. I know for a time she was bugging me about this one lady she worked with who was my age and actually came over to our house because she was interested in horses and riding (my mom has horses). Actually I knew this girl because she went to my high school and I worked with her briefly when I was 17. I almost felt sorry for the girl because she is pretty attractive and I'm sure she would have zero interest in me plus she is 3 hours away and has a stormy on and off relationship with her long-term ex-bf (although they supposedly were done for good which is why she was trying to set me up -- yay for being a rebound)

[jdt141]

My one sister is constantly bugging me about me dating someone. Every time we get together she brings it up. Its like, where the hell did this come from?!?!?! Thankfully I live away from both my sister and my mother. Otherwise they'd be trying to set me up all the time :redface:

[wordsmith]

Evidently, I am the only one with an awesome mom with good taste who is in tune to what's cool w/ me and what's not. Lucky me!

[Jedi of Zen]

My mother wanted to set me up with Tiger Woods.

...?? lol

My mom has tried to set me up with a couple of her co-workers, but on both times it never even got to date one. I used to be embarassed about it, but god God, I'm starting to think I need all the help I can get. lol.

[wordsmith]

Why be embarrassed? Meeting people through other people is probably the most promising way of finding somebody to date.

[Jedi of Zen]

Why be embarrassed? Meeting people through other people is probably the most promising way of finding somebody to date.

Well each time my mom basically showed the girl my picture and asked for her phone number and/or email for the explicit purpose of giving it to me. And while I was impressed that each girl gave my mom a phone # or email, I still kinda felt like I was being made out to look really hopeless and desperate. Which, I kind of am, but still. I do have some level of pride to maintain. I think. lol.

[wordsmith]

IMO it falls under the same category as networking. You find the best jobs through word of mouth of people you know and trust. It stands to reason that you might be better off with somebody that someone you know thinks might be a good match than just random person you happened across by chance.

[cheshrcarol]

I cant imagine letting my parents try to set me up. I think their criteria would only be "walks upright" and "breathing."You forgot fertile :twisted: ;) .


My dad once set me up with someone he knows from Big Brothers. On our second date he took me to see Texas Chainsaw Massacre and got annoyed when I didn't like the movie :rolleyes: . He was also a little too short for my taste probably about a 1/2 inch taller than me, and had these weird puffy hands. I give props to my dad for trying, I'm sure he's a nice guy, but we just didn't have much in common. At one point he asked if I'd ever be interested in Big Sisters, and without thinking I was like "Oh no, never" lol.

[SunDevil]

Well each time my mom basically showed the girl my picture and asked for her phone number and/or email for the explicit purpose of giving it to me. And while I was impressed that each girl gave my mom a phone # or email, I still kinda felt like I was being made out to look really hopeless and desperate. Which, I kind of am, but still. I do have some level of pride to maintain. I think. lol.


I wonder what the success rate would be if we had our Moms and sisters ask girls out for us? I'm thinking they might get a lot more phone numbers, but the girls might not return the calls from guys who can't ask them out. Now, if the guy never sees the girl in their daily life then it might be ok.

[Vickilynnct]

My mother set me up once and it was a diaster. The guy and I had nothing in common adn had to sit there for a 2 hour dinner. It was the worst!

[yankeeyosh]

Yes, once. My aunt set me up with a girl. Keep in mind I was still in Florida and she was in New York, so I had my qualms, but I felt I'd give it a shot. We actually spoke (the first time I had any real conversation with a girl in about six years at that point), and she actually agreed to meet with me the next time I visited New York, which was the following month. So I was getting excited, and then when I got back to NY I gave her a call on my cell. She sounded kinda strange, but she was still talking to me. Right before I was going to ask when she wants to meet, all of a sudden I lost the connection and the call ended. I called right back, but she didn't answer...so I left a message telling her that the connection was lost. But she never called me back. That was the closest I ever got to a date.

[ebruening]

I've been set up once each by my mom and my sister. Bad, bad idea both times. For some odd reason, people think that because I'm relatively quiet, it's a good idea to set me up with a girl who's quiet and shy, thinking we'd therefore have this magical quiet person bond. WRONG. Just makes for an awkward blind date that goes nowhere.

:eek: Brillo - that is SO painful to be in a "you have the same sort of personality, so therefore you will magically fall in love" situation. I can sympathize. A friend set me up with his roomie once. His reasoning? "You both have huge stacks of magazines on your bookshelves." The roomie had many issues of "Esquire," and I had an equal amount of "Film Score Monthly" issues. Trust me, my magazine of choice is a helluva lot more obscure...and this dude wasn't looking for a chick who liked to read about in-depth analyses of film music by Erich Korngold.