Homecoming

[mijois]

Ok, I have a question... Is there something wrong with wanting to go to your college homecoming with your friends instead of your husband? Well, my husband also went to the same college... that's how we met... our senior year we meet at a party. Anyway, I don't mind all of us riding together but I would like to hang with my girls and he can hang with his guys... as far as walking around the campus... but as far as the game, we can all sit together and of course we will all go out to a party together that night. But, I just want to walk around the campus with my girls so we can reminisce about what we did and who we had crushes on... blah, blah, blah... things that happened before I even met my husband.... and it's not like I have any wild or crazy stories but... I don't want to talk about who I had a crush on in front of my husband.

So what do you guys think?

[paiger81]

I don't get why you'd want to hide that from your hubby. I mean, yeah, ok, you want some alone time with your girls, that's cool, but I'm concerned as to why the hiding of past crushes concerns you so much.

[WeirdBrake]

Yeah, I agree with Paige. Do you really think your husband would be threatened by this? I'd think he'd be more likely to be amused. :)

[biodork]

Well if you got into guys you dated and stuff that happened, I could see how things could get awkward. I don't talk about past things I've done with guys around my bf. He doesn't really want to hear about it either. But I'm sure your husband won't care if you want to catch up with the girls! Just be upfront with him about it.

[paiger81]

I'd think he'd be more likely to be amused. :)

Yeah, Kirk's funny when he has met some of my past crushes/hears me talk about them with old friends. In the most effeminate voice he can come up with he'll say "Oh, girl, he does have a nice ass, I see why you went for him" or something like that.

[mijois]

It’s not like I want to hide anything from my husband… he actually has heard who I had crushes when I was in college… but it’s like I want to go back and relive some of those moments… you know… it’s sort of like when you want to spend time with the girls.

[carrot3124]

I don't think there's anything wrong with it. I agree it's not about hiding. My FI and I both went to the same college and we try and visit other other month. He goes out with his guys one night and I'll go out with my girls. I miss having that time. I miss being able to just go all out and crazy with my girl friends and he understands that (note, we don't get TOO crazy). Even if we go to the bar together for homecoming or something like that, we often end up hanging out with our respective groups anyway. It's not about hiding anything, he could be there or not, but there's just something about having a girls's night out that you can't get from a man.

[paiger81]

It's not about hiding anything, he could be there or not, but there's just something about having a girls's night out that you can't get from a man.

I get the wanting to have girl's night. I think that's cool & understandable. I just find it odd that the one reason for wanting a girl's night on this particular occasion is to "relive past crushes". To each his/her own, but I'd be wierded out by that.

[jrwilheim]

I could see how it would be awkward to discuss prior relationships in front of your husband. Prior crushes are a little different, IMO. But I think wanting to spend some time with your girlfriends away from your husband is totally OK, at homecoming or any other time for that matter.

[mijois]

LOL! I don't want to "relive past crushes"... I think I worded this all wrong... anyway... LOL... I'm talking about going around campus and remembering all the things my girls and I use to do... like there was a waterful that we use to make wishes at... stupid stuff like that... and when my husband goes with us... he just sort of stands there like... I don't get it.

Never mind... but thanks for your opinions... you answered my question.