Your lowest points in life

[jman05]

I dont know about you guys but I am almost at another of the lowest points in my life. I have never been suicidal but I wish accidental death upon myself and kid of wouldnt mind if it happened, like a car wreck or something I have no controll over. But I dont want to kill myself. Has anyone else been like this or understand?

Some stuff that is going on now is i just moved to a new city and got a new job. Was all excited and stuff. Got fired because I didnt do a good job. On top of that I have no friends up here and started talking to a girl but now she decides that she doesnt have much time for a relationship now and I dont think we will be talking anymore. Also I have no idea what kind of job to get again. When I drive back from interviews or find out I didnt get the job again I feel really depressed afterwards. Just this week I was all excited. I had 2 second interviews and though I would have at least one job offer. Nope, I must have screwed up someway in the interviews. I think the more I get turned down the more it hurts my condifence and that affects my interviews.

Please tell me im not alone. Does stuff like this happen to other people that just graduated. I feel so much better about stuff if i realize it happens alot. But it is hard to deal with right now.

[bridgetjones]

I know the feeling although I have never wished for death. I am sure that you are doing something right to get to the 2nd round. If you were not getting past the 1st round then I might say maybe you do not interview well... Perhaps you can ask them what you can do better for future reference. Good luck!

Oh yes I have been out 3 years and have been both laid off, fired and took a long time to get another job. Yup. Still do not have fab career estabilished like I thought id have at this age.

[yankeeyosh]

Jman, please don't do harm to yourself...I have been (and still am in) something similar to that. I've moved all over, been fired, been rejected from job after job even though I felt I was exactly what they were looking for (my success rate is roughly one second job interview out of 15). I've never made a good salary at any of my jobs, despite the fact I have a master's degree and an Ivy League education. Heck, I've never had a relationship or have been close to one my entire life. And this year has been ultra-tough...losing 4 relatives including my final grandparent and finding out a long-lost friend was murdered. But you've gotta go on...on too many at some point I feel like kinda like you. But then you realize that there are indeed quite a number who have it worse than you. Look, you're young, you have a degree, you have had some success with a relationship. So it's not all bad. If you need someone to talk to feel free to PM me.

[WeirdBrake]

Please tell me im not alone.

Jman, if you were alone, this message board wouldn't have over 5,000 members, and the Quarterlife Crisis book wouldn't have been a best-seller.

I do know what it's like to want to die. I've often talked on here about my adolescence, during which I was profoundly depressed. That type of despair is powerful. Please try not to get sucked into it. Rejection-- on the romantic and the professional front-- happens to everyone. It does NOT say anything about you as a person. I've known people-- on the boards and also older people (my father being one of them)-- who struggled on the job front for a while before landing a GREAT job that they loved. There's no reason that can't be you.

[jman05]

I understand that the people on this board have most likely gone through something like this. But thats because this is a qlc board. Outside this board are post college experinces like this common? The reason it is so hard on me is because failure and not suceeding and my job mean so much to me. Im not one of those people that doesnt give a shit. Im just very confused and lost right now. When I lost my job I cried for the first time in at leeast 10 years. I fogot what it was like. Tonight I felt like shit again after finding out I didnt get this promising job that seemed great for me and I had to hold back my tears. Everything bad always happens to me at once.

[ledzeppelinfan1]

I understand that the people on this board have most likely gone through something like this. But thats because this is a qlc board. Outside this board are post college experinces like this common? The reason it is so hard on me is because failure and not suceeding and my job mean so much to me. Im not one of those people that doesnt give a shit. Im just very confused and lost right now. When I lost my job I cried for the first time in at leeast 10 years. I fogot what it was like. Tonight I felt like shit again after finding out I didnt get this promising job that seemed great for me and I had to hold back my tears. Everything bad always happens to me at once.

Man, a lot of people here have lost their jobs...it's something everyone goes through. I lost mine last week. Difference is, you have a kick ass education!!! So eventually you'll find something at some point. I, on the other hand, have few options both due to location and lack of credentials.

You'll be ok.

[jman05]

AND I have no friends up here to take my mind of work and keep me sane. This is not easy either

[shimmer728]

I look at my first year of college as one of the lowest points in my life. I had no friends and was away from home for the first time. I was miserable the entire year--I actually used to hide in the library on Friday nights and write in my journal. Pretty bad, huh?

Well, things have gotten progressively better for me, and now I'm doing pretty well. :) I was convinced I was a social failure. Actually, I probably just wasn't jiving with my environment.

Once you hit bottom, there really is nowhere to go but up.

*hugs*

[Jedi of Zen]

Last year I spent about 8 months looking for a job. For about the first 4-6 months I couldn't even score an interview. Anywhere. When I finally did get a couple of interviews nailed down, I got so nervous that I chickened out at the last minute and didn't go to either of them. Then I had one that went great, and I all but knew that I for sure had the job, but then on the way back to my 2nd interview my car broke down and I had to cancel it that day. And then they never called me back.

Finally decided to change careers and go back to school. lol. There were other factors involved at that point though.



AND I have no friends up here to take my mind of work and keep me sane. This is not easy either


I totally feel your pain. I have one close friend here, and he's so weird that he often makes my own sanity seem even less certain.

[shygirl507]

I've felt like that before, not so much with accidental death but sometimes I wished for a car wreck that I would just get hurt in. With me I think it was b/c I wanted he attention and I wanted a break from everything. I have so much pressure on me in everything I do and I sometimes wish I would get in accident or get sick and people would actually start paying attention to me and maybe listen to me. I think it's just the pressure of everything. I feel like I should have this great job, live on my own, be in a relationship and be happy and I'm none of the above. I felt that if something happened nobody would expect as much from me and it would give me time to just relax and not worry so much and maybe it would even give me the strength to do the things I fear doing.

Don't feel weird that you feel like this, I think it's a common feeling that a lot of us don't want to admit we have. We feel if we tell people they may think we are just trying to get attention, but maybe we are, maybe we just want someone to understand us and listen to us and I guess guide as.

Hope this helps

[SmilesSoSweet]

I think I've hit a lot of low points in my life, most of them within the last five or six years. There were times I thought of suicide, but I knew I could never do that to myself - but I have somewhat wished accidental death on myself a couple of times too. I've stooped to my lowest about two years ago. I've never been unemployed (knock on wood), but I've battled depression for awhile. I've been depressed since my teenage years, but was truly in denial until just a little over a year ago, when my doctor finally got it out of me. I'm still dealing with it now (my prescription for my meds is about to run out so I need to find a doctor and a therapist out here soon.) It was like on paper I had it all, a job, a college degree, living on my own, yet I still wasn't happy.

Anyway, I don't really have much advice except that if you can get help in any way you can, do it. Things will get better. I never used to things would ever get better for me, but it did - slowly. There are still a couple times when I feel down, but nowadays I get back up much quicker.

[lilyflower]

My lowest point in life?

Hmm, probably came after my mother threw me out of the house at 20 and I had to live on my own and try to survive financially and finish school - even though I was so stressed/depressed/suicidal that I couldn't make it through a semester. At this time I also had difficulty holding a job down, I couldn't get myself out of bed to actually GO to said job so I probably worked oh... somewhere around 6 jobs in a year. It was so bad that I used to sell my plasma to buy ramen noodles so I wouldn't starve to death.

Life sucks sometimes, there's no such thing as fairness and sometimes you get dealt a really shitty hand. The only thing you really can do is suck it up and keep on trudging through and try to hope things will turn around.