Anonymous
09-11-2001, 12:17 PM
I am now a 42-year-old white, divorced female. I wish now that I'd had access to the company of other "quarterlifers" back when I was 25, because it was definitely the most difficult year or so of my life. Casual observers would say that I had no reason to be miserable, but I was.
Unlike many of the profiles I've seen on this site, when I was 25 I was seven years into a stable marriage, raising two wonderful stepsons, had just started college without taking on debt to get my degree, working part time and, obviously, keeping very, very busy. (BYW, the marriage lasted for another eight years and we parted good friends.)
To this day I cannot pinpoint the cause of the depression I felt back then. I just kept thinking "I'm a quarter-century old...now what? Where had that first 25 years gone, and what would the next 25 bring?" Somehow, these ever-present thoughts did not help me look forward to the future, but made me dwell on a past that had escaped me.
The only hope I can offer anyone experiencing similar feelings now, is that change is constant, and as long as you're open to it and all its possibilities, you will get through this time. Just keep your eyes and heart open. You have my best wishes!
Unlike many of the profiles I've seen on this site, when I was 25 I was seven years into a stable marriage, raising two wonderful stepsons, had just started college without taking on debt to get my degree, working part time and, obviously, keeping very, very busy. (BYW, the marriage lasted for another eight years and we parted good friends.)
To this day I cannot pinpoint the cause of the depression I felt back then. I just kept thinking "I'm a quarter-century old...now what? Where had that first 25 years gone, and what would the next 25 bring?" Somehow, these ever-present thoughts did not help me look forward to the future, but made me dwell on a past that had escaped me.
The only hope I can offer anyone experiencing similar feelings now, is that change is constant, and as long as you're open to it and all its possibilities, you will get through this time. Just keep your eyes and heart open. You have my best wishes!