Spinoff: Which Archetype are you?

[dengeist]

So we've named the archetypes that give us the willies. Sometimes a little self-examination is good too. So what archetype are you?

Me? I can be the loud, borderline obnoxious/smarmy guy who does spontaneous things like suddenly jump into a fountain because it's 95 degrees out or say, "Hey, you wanna go skinny dipping?" at 2 am.

Flaws we've all got 'em.

[SunDevil]

I just read that other post, and I will post some that I think would describe me:


5. Marrying guy. The mid-twentysomething that has bought a fixer-upper house that he's meticulously restoring. He's attractive and nice, has a good relationship with his family, and has a steady job and a nice car. He's outgrown going to parties and bars all the time, has thirtysomething friends, and is a great cook. He wants to be your serious boyfriend by the second date, and just doesn't understand why he can't seem to get a serious girlfriend.

Marrying guy talks about kids before he knows your last name - which doesn't really matter to him, because you'll be changing it anyway.

That last line from Cole is the funniest thing I've read in a long time. I don't want to get married right away though, not for 5-10 years, but I do want a girlfriend to act like a wife. And be in a stable long term relationship after the first date. I would probably be clingy, but at the same time too busy to be clingy.


9. The technophile. He's smart, well-dressed, drives a nice car, and makes a lot of money. But don't try to get between him and his laptop/tivo [mac G5].

Socially inept computer dudes*

*I am working on this, but holding conversations 1-on-1 with girls would still be hard for me.


Mr. Frugal (a.k.a. Mr. Cheap)

Money will definitely be an issue. I need to feel in control of my money, and I don’t waste money. I would walk 2 miles instead of getting a cab, for example.


How about the cute, sweet caring, somewhat motivated guy, from a good family who wants a gf but without putting-in-the effort guy.

I wouldn’t mind a girl asking me out and finding things to do, but I also don’t want to be doing everything and making all of the plans. (And getting criticized for doing activities that she doesn’t like)

I also would be the random business trip type of guy. I’ll give you 2 weeks notice that I might be gone for a month or two. If she doesn’t have anything to do, she could come along, but would have to find stuff to do.

Even though people would think I am conservative, I also want to be in a relationship where it would be ok to say, "Hey, you wanna go skinny dipping?" at 2 am.


mr. "if you don't have sex with me at least once every time we see each other then you don't really love me and are probably cheating on me" ugh.

I will have a hard time telling if a girl really likes me if she isn’t affectionate towards me, it doesn’t have to be sex though.

So why hasn’t anybody else posted yet? (Some did in the other thread, but not too many)

[inuts]

My archetype--

The guy you're initially attracted to, but who subtly lets you know he's just not attracted to you.

Also:

The guy who you like a lot only to find he hasn't got over his ex.
The guy who seems really nice, excpet he's really nice to everybody.
The guy who seems really nice, but for some reason you're just not attracted to him.
The guy who you'd love to go out with except he takes forever to make a move, and by the time he does you're just not that into him anymore.

[wordsmith]

Who can I be? Both negative and positive archetypes, I suppose. In fact, depending on whether you've decided you like me or not so much, you can put either spin on some of my attributes...they can either charm you, or make you say, "Um, next..." :

-The girl who's smart, interesting, and well-versed in a lot of different areas (and if you're looking to find the negative, you might call this the know-it-all girl)

-The girl who's highly devoted and passionate about those people and things she cares about (and if you're looking to find the negative, you might call this the clingy and overly intense girl)

-Super analytical girl (and if you're looking to find the negative, you might call this the...uhhh...super analytical girl :redface: )

- The girl who has all the qualities of a great friend (and if you're looking to find the negative in this, you might call this the girl who has all the qualities of a great friend, because as we know, many find this a limitation)

- The girl who doesn't care a whole lot about trendiness (and if you're looking to find the negative in this, you might call this the girl who's not that stylish)

- The girl who's got a decent amount of self-confidence (and if you're looking to find the negative in this, you might call this the girl who's not as pretty/smart/talented/accomplished/etc. as she seems to think she is)

- The girl who's not interested in being intimate with you unless there's something more than hormones there (and if you're looking to find the negative in this, you might call this the girl who's not interested in being intimate with you unless there's something more than hormones there)

[jdt141]

lol. words, you kill me. :D

Me? I'm most probably the marrying/technophile type. I exude this "i want a serious relationship now" vibe, and I'm not even trying! :redface:

[wordsmith]

Oh, yeah? We should prob. date.

[jdt141]

Oh, yeah? We should prob. date.

lol. I dunno if I like the idea of midwestern corn surrounding me :p

[ledzeppelinfan1]

I'm just that poor artsy musician guy...soon to be that airforce guy...then to be that military vet hippie combo guy...then i die. :neutral:

[jdt141]

I'm just that poor artsy musician guy...soon to be that airforce guy...then to be that military vet hippie combo guy...then i die. :neutral:

Dude - thanks for signing up. We need more guys like you. I'm too much of a chicken shit to do it myself. By the way, they call it the "chair force" for a reason. You should be ok.

[RudeGirl]

*I am definitely the "Cocktease Type." That's because I'm not actually as into sex as I think I am.

*I definitely still exhibit symptoms of the "Avoidant Type." I have some family problems, and intimacy is sometimes difficult for me, and I get in moods where I'm convinced I don't need people and feel compelled to be completely alone.

*I am still the "Super-Cheap Type," that is, "Honey, you have no money, and neither do I, so it's a Burger King and Blockbuster night."

*I used to be the "Nice Girl Type," by dating jerks who had no control over their emotions or their lives, and letting them abuse me as they wished, only to leave me for the "Bad Boy/Girl Type."

*I have been considered to be the "Fem-Nazi Type" by those "Bad Types," too. What this means, I've deduced, is that I am offensive for wanting a full-time career, and no kids, and for expecting that one can pick up after oneself now and then, regardless of gender.

*I have also been referred to as the "Pretentious Type;" I earned that badge by dissing emo, and by not wanting to go to college bars, and by being unable to carry on lengthy conversations with "Stillers fans" at the "Dahntahn Primanni's n'at" and by professing my irritation towards idiots and random acts of stupidity of all stripes.

[K-man]

I'm one of those guys who like to turn on the charm and flirt, but when it's time to actually make the move he can't because he turns into a total wuss. Explains why I have all these girl friends but no girlfriend...

I'm working on changing this though. There's a girl that I had my eyes on for couple weeks, and two days ago I finally got the guts to ask her out for a coffee. She smiled and said yes, so I gave her my card. Even if nothing comes out of it, I'll still be happy that I actually too some action :)

[ledzeppelinfan1]

I'm one of those guys who like to turn on the charm and flirt, but when it's time to actually make the move he can't because he turns into a total wuss. Explains why I have all these girl friends but no girlfriend...

I'm working on changing this though. There's a girl that I had my eyes on for couple weeks, and two days ago I finally got the guts to ask her out for a coffee. She smiled and said yes, so I gave her my card. Even if nothing comes out of it, I'll still be happy that I actually too some action :)

Think of it this way, it may help. When you're struggling to make that move, try not to be afraid become odds are the girl is dying for you to make the move...cause girls want it to, and unfortunately the only way they think they can get it is if the guy makes the move. So odds are...if the date has gone well, you wont be denied...even on a less than perfect attempt.

Don't wuss out, be afraid NOT to make a move.

[steamroller]

Previously known as "Ugly Girl Who Never Went To the Prom" , "The poetic chainsmoker who has some Daddy issues, needs medication, and two years of therapy"

Been told I was...

"The bitch who acted like she had a great time on the first date, then never returned my calls"

"The slut who claimed she was a nice catholic girl, then rocked my world on the first date"

"The cool girl who seems very chill, then dumps you for smoking pot and going out every night."


And a few more that I noted from other posts....

The "OMG I'm so drunk" girl after drinking half of a beer

The "dying for attention" girl that will do whatever it takes to be at the center of attention. Getting naked..kissing other girls whatever!

The "you better not even look at another girl or I'm going to go ape shit" girl.

The "my parents control every facet of my life and therefore I can't do anything without their approval" girl.

The "I'm a c*ck tease, but don't call me out on it" girl.

And then there's Mr./Ms. Interested in the chase: "I'm really into you only until you like me back." Then you're not interestesting anymore.

[lilyflower]

I'm the type that refuses to categorize herself in a neat little package :p

[steamroller]

I'm the type that refuses to categorize herself in a neat little package :p

You're the CHICKEN Sh**! :p j/k j/k

[dreams82]

Hm...
I am:
*The girl who is so non-commital, to the point where I think I will be alone for the rest of my life.
*The girl who would love nothing more than to meet a guy I'm compatible with, yet can't seem to find someone who fits.
*The girl who tries so hard to please everyone, that I lose track of what's important to me, and what I want out of life.
*The girl who is blinded by thinking I am a good friend, that I get termed 'a bad influence' on someone I thought I was close to.
That's all I got right now.

[shimmer728]

In another lifetime, I was the spoiled chick who would use you for money and drinks and free meals, refuse to do you and probably puke on your shoes. I was so much fun back then! :D

[MetFanL]

LOL, shim...

I think it's really hard to say I'm one thing or another. I'd actually be more interested in how others see me than how I would describe myself.

[WeirdBrake]

I'm the "guy who's super affectionate and super sweet and super sensitive and seems like a great bf until you realize he's one of those morbid ex-philosophy majors who makes you think about creepy stuff and also happens to be more neurotic than you thought was possible even for Jewish men."

[shimmer728]

I'm the "guy who's super affectionate and super sweet and super sensitive and seems like a great bf until you realize he's one of those morbid ex-philosophy majors who makes you think about creepy stuff and also happens to be more neurotic than you thought was possible even for Jewish men."

All so true! :D

[WeirdBrake]

Aww, so I only SEEM like a great bf? ;)

[shimmer728]

Aww, so I only SEEM like a great bf? ;)

No, you really are! ;)

[WeirdBrake]

Bet your butt!

[SmilesSoSweet]

Hmmm let's see . . . I have a couple . . .

I'm the "you're such a great girl, I'm glad we're just friends" type.
Also I'm the "I'm so independent I don't need a man, but as soon as I have one I'm clingy to them" girl. <---- I'm working on that one.
I can also be the "even though we just started talking, in my mind I'm already thinking about a future" girl. <----- I'm working on that one too.

Yeah, I have issues.

[lilyflower]

You're the CHICKEN Sh**! :p j/k j/k

I defy category. :)

[wordsmith]

I'm the "you're such a great girl, I'm glad we're just friends" type.

Yeah, this was me from way back, too. I think of it as the "Wow, you're going to make somebody an awesome girlfriend...just not me" girl.

[K-man]

When you're struggling to make that move, try not to be afraid become odds are the girl is dying for you to make the move...
Thanks -- will keep that in mind next time I'm at the crossroad of dating/friendsville.

[bridgetjones]

Kman - this is Bridget "Is frustrated by nice guys who do not have the cojones to CALL while harrassed by a**holes who do have the cojones to CALL" Jones. Take the girls number and CALL HER! The grand majority of girls like to be wooed... So woo them! Sorry I sound frustrated but hey it is the story of my life.

Yes I am the "girl who like to be pursued who is turned off by guys who do not put up enough effort at the beginning" :)

Then again I have been the "will you please stop being sensitive and just do me girl but do not be an a**hole" :)

Oh yeah I am the "hot tomboy who is a barrel of monkeys and has been known to scare men but men have actually pissed her off to get a beating" :p Hence I am sick of ppl saying I need a sensitive, girly man to balance me out. What? So I have to let the feminine girly girls get all the hot macho men. Gah! I need the hot macho man to make me feel more girly. Ok not macho idiots but you know...

I am the "Blah! I have a sensitive side too. However I am turned off if I am so obviously the more physically stronger and macho person in the relationship. Would like someone to make me feel like a woman..." girl.

Yeah I have also been the cocktease. :p Shim I now use men for free meals and drinks - if they are a**holes that have the balls to call me. Date them? Hell no!

[Tayl405]

And then there's Mr./Ms. Interested in the chase: "I'm really into you only until you like me back." Then you're not interestesting anymore.

Definitely me! I get bored too easily.

[K-man]

Bridget -- you sound just like a latina I knew in college! This girl knew exactly the type of guys she wanted, and she'd let them know pretty clearly that she was into them. But she was always frustrated that most guys never made a move...even though it was clear they were into her as well.

I think it was especially tough for her because she had mad yellow fever...and many of us Asian guys tend to be shy/quiet type. :p

[tina1979]

I am the "always for the wrong guy" girl
I want a relationship, but when I am in one I feel smothered girl
The I did a horrible thing in the past and still think about it and feel like I am gonna be judged on it by guys in the future girl
The insecure but tries to act like I'm not girl

[wordsmith]

I am slowly but surely becoming the Untrusting Because of Past Experiences, Intensely Skeptical of Sincere Intentions Girl, unfortunately.

[Tayl405]

I am slowly but surely becoming the Untrusting Because of Past Experiences, Intensely Skeptical of Sincere Intentions Girl, unfortunately.

I find myself becoming that girl when I start to get involved with someone and have to consiciously tell myself to knock it off.

[tina1979]

I am slowly but surely becoming the Untrusting Because of Past Experiences, Intensely Skeptical of Sincere Intentions Girl, unfortunately.
I'm already there :(

[k.monster]

I don't really know what type I am. The "yes, I've got issues with my parents" type, the "no, I don't care if you stay out all nigth with your friends", the "I'm just going to stay home tonight, if you want to see me I guess you'll have to come over".
Sometimes I don't know if I'm a very good girlfriend .... hmmmmm

[and1grad]

I was called an "emotional black hole" b/c I'm able to absorb any and everyone's baggage/issues but never share any of my own. Sounds pretty accurate to me.

[bridgetjones]

I don't really know what type I am. The "yes, I've got issues with my parents" type, the "no, I don't care if you stay out all nigth with your friends", the "I'm just going to stay home tonight, if you want to see me I guess you'll have to come over".
Sometimes I don't know if I'm a very good girlfriend .... hmmmmm

Hmm... You are not clingy that is good! Although that can be a passive aggressive thing... Hey I have let guys go out with their pals and not cared. It is called having a life. Then again I might have "issues with getting close". Or I might be a cool GF that is not a ball and chain type.

[inuts]

I'va actually been giving this a lot of thought, because it's not something I've ever really considered. Do I have a type? Am I anything like the other guys?

So here is my archetype, revisited:

I'm the guy who, when you meet him, will most likely be completely indifferent to you. Unlike most guys who will try to pick you up right away, I'm the guy who makes no effort at all.

[3point1four]

I'm going to try, but I"ve deleted two posts of mine allready:

The I seem real confident and outgoing but am too self conscious to make a move

The video game NERD who thinks he still has enough street cred from playing pro football to sit around playing EverQuest for 10 hours on a sunday

The I agonize over every detail when I give a shit to a point where I freeze up when it counts

The I jump into relationships without fear and thus scare off people who are more cautious than myself (contradicts 1, doesn't it? I don't get it either)

The I am over my ex, but let me tell you a story about my ex guy


On the good side:

The loyal one who will bear the pain of others to the point he forgets about his own

The I will be honest even if it hurts people and then feel bad about it guy


bleh, I hate this post :redface:

[breathless]

I'm the ex-philosophy major (*winks* to WeirdBrake) who hops from job to job, relationship to relationship and proudly attributes it all to her "bohemian", "free-spirited" ways... yet secretly envies her more conservative, married friends with lucrative 9-to-5 lifestyles.

[Angyl]

"I'm so independent I don't need a man, but as soon as I have one I'm clingy to them" girl <--yup. exactly. I avoid a relationship until i'm roped into one then i go nutso.

I'm also the "asian girl that is super proud of her heritage but the second you mention that you like asain people she assumes you're dating her jsut to be with some tigress sex like asian chick"

However, I'm also:
"The girl that will love you no matter what you do but push you to be come a better person"
"the girl that gets along with all your friends, sometimes better than you do."
"The girl that used to be able to drink you under the table but now settles for impromptu sex as a thrill."

[The Stranger]

I am the utterly cliched and stereotypical Nice/Shy Guy who's Incapable of Making a Move.

I am also Couldn't Care Less About Money or Anything Superficial Guy.

Though I want a long-term relationship, I am Anti-Marriage Guy.

I am Confrontational Guy when there's no point in it, and I'm Passive-Aggressive Guy or Avoidance Guy when I should directly confront something.

Some know me as So Thin I Look Either Crack-Addicted or Deathy-Illl Guy. (My perpetual paleness and despondent expression don't help this.)

Though it hasn't been stylish in some time, I am Poofy-Haired Guy! (I hate short hair. I'm just saying.)

Some people interpret me as Distant/Aloof/Cerebral Guy, which does have some validity.

[shimmer728]

Formerly the Sorority Girl: will get hammered and dance on the bar and maybe even make out with you on a dare, but in the end goes home with her sisters because they either make her, or she knows they've got more alcohol in their dorm room.

I wasn't in a sorority, but yep, this was definitely me!