BecJo13
07-25-2003, 12:51 AM
In terms of meeting new people and taking my life in a more positive direction, I'm just as guilty as anyone of complaining that there's no one to meet because I can't get any of my few friends here to GO DO anything where new people can be met, and, as was mentioned in another post, there are "no guys to meet" b/c they're all in a relationship, immature jerks, etc. Even in a convo w/my younger brother tonight, when talking about my situation, he said "Bec, I really think you need to get out more at night and meet new people." I had to explain to him that that comment is a lot easier to make if you're looking in from the outside. But this quote from geteup got me thinking...
If you go to a social function, a bar, a store, whatever, with the attitude that there is nobody for you, you will NOT find anyone for you. I guarantee it. You've already talked yourself out of any chance to open up your eyes to a possible catch. When you go out with no preconceived notions, you have a lot more fun and, magically, good things start happening to you. Don't be a defeatist. This applies to your entire life.
I think I am guilty myself of having this exact same thought process...it's a vicious cycle. Even when I feel I'm talented, smart, funny, and attractive enough - I still wonder, am I REALLY doing all that I could be to improve my situation? I just don't know.
One of my favorite quotes is "The one thing you can control in a difficult situation is your reaction to it." As emotionally challenging as this time in our lives is, I wonder, is my reaction to it really what I want it to be? what it has to be? Just a thought.
If you go to a social function, a bar, a store, whatever, with the attitude that there is nobody for you, you will NOT find anyone for you. I guarantee it. You've already talked yourself out of any chance to open up your eyes to a possible catch. When you go out with no preconceived notions, you have a lot more fun and, magically, good things start happening to you. Don't be a defeatist. This applies to your entire life.
I think I am guilty myself of having this exact same thought process...it's a vicious cycle. Even when I feel I'm talented, smart, funny, and attractive enough - I still wonder, am I REALLY doing all that I could be to improve my situation? I just don't know.
One of my favorite quotes is "The one thing you can control in a difficult situation is your reaction to it." As emotionally challenging as this time in our lives is, I wonder, is my reaction to it really what I want it to be? what it has to be? Just a thought.