Super Single!

[talkative1]

Is it me or does it seem that more single people exist today versus 5-10 years ago? Are we getting too picky, too busy, or too populated?

My friends and I are group of girls who do not get "dating." Was it always this difficult? Our parents seemed to have it easier. I am 27 and have difficulty dating. Many of friends are good-looking and successful. I am a teacher working on a Master's and do not have much time to date. Wasn't I supposed to meet a cute guy at school or something - like in the movies :) Just kidding - but seriously... I do not want to be in my mid-30's having kids. They say when you're not looking, you'll find it, But I am afraid that with all this "not looking" I will miss my opportunity.

Anyone else experiencing this?

[TranquilSkye]

dating is harder now and some of that is due to the different types of relationships now. more and more of my single friends are only seeking friends with benefits. i know very few people that actually want to date and get to know someone with the possibility of it getting serious.

[pisces2473]

I agree with you there, TranquilSkye.

And Talkative1, at least you have a group of single girl friends. Most of us who are chronically single don't have other single friends and are thus subjected to the world of Smug Marrieds and Smug Coupleds. It's very tough at times to want to be social and go to parties and things when it's all of your friends, their SO's and YOU.

[talkative1]

It is nice to know that there are others out there expereincing this dating dilemna.

Pisces2473, I also have a group of friends that consists of couples and sometimes I feel left out-like geez, I wanna boyfriend. But no sooner is there drama and I become instantly grateful to be single. I figure I am going through a phase where I just do know what the hell I want.

[pisces2473]

Originally posted by talkative1
It is nice to know that there are others out there expereincing this dating dilemna.

Pisces2473, I also have a group of friends that consists of couples and sometimes I feel left out-like geez, I wanna boyfriend. But no sooner is there drama and I become instantly grateful to be single. I figure I am going through a phase where I just do know what the hell I want.

Oh I agree with you on that one! :D

But still, sometimes it would be nice not to have to go ALONE AGAIN to a party...and then be the subject of "Who should we fix Jen up with? Oh wait, we don't know anyone." Great game :mad:

[collegedazed]

Originally posted by pisces2473


But still, sometimes it would be nice not to have to go ALONE AGAIN to a party...and then be the subject of "Who should we fix Jen up with? Oh wait, we don't know anyone." Great game :mad:

I am at point in my life where it's been a while since I had any friends. Sometimes I think it isn't so bad..........

[talkative1]

Pisces2473-you had me laughing out loud-in a good way! The "great game" remark hit the nail on the head. You are so right. Somethimes it is worse when you do get set up. I was set up with one of my roomates friends and he wasn't interested and now I feel so awkward around him. I think - gee he didn't like me and that's always good for the ole' self-esteem..

And collegedazed...I agree with you. The older I get the less friends I have and I think that's normal. When youre in high school your life consists of friends because that is what high school is all about. But when you get older you have so many other things going on that your "friends" become acquintances. I feel that I only have two real friends; the rest of my "friends" are like acquintances-I talk to them every-so-often but nothing consistant. Why has it been so long since you had friends? Did you move, lose touch etc?

[pisces2473]

Glad I could make everyone laugh :D

As for the dwindling amount of friends, yes, when you get older, you have so much stuff to do that you become so busy and tend to only see those people who make time for you. But, it seems to me that everyone is becoming busy because they have SO's...and when you don't, you suddenly find yourself with lots of time and no one to hang out with.

I know I'm not the only one who has this issue. But it just seems like everyone I know that's in this predicament is on this board!

[TosaGirl]

talkative- you hit the nail on the head, people say dont look and you'll find, but you feel if you dont look you wont find!! And the funny thing is realistically when I go out I dont really look, i see cute guys, but I dont go hitting on them!! (a problem of mine I have to remedy) but I know the feel well. A friend of mine just wanted to set me up with this guy from her spin class...yeah he was gay. That just isnt going to work now is it??? haha. I have the same problem of most of my friends being in some sort of relationship and then there is me. I hate it,but have learned to deal with it to the best of my abilities. I wish I could tell you good places to meet people, but I havent found any yet either!! Maybe if/when I do I'll let cha know :) I also feel the same about having kids when I am in my 30's....why is life so very different than it was when our parents were young??? my mom was married with 2 kids by the time she was my age!! And here I am with neither, and it looks like I wont have that any time soon either!! I guess I will just go on living life and hope I meet Mr. Wonderful somewhere at some point in time! ;)

[klo1335]

Most of us who are chronically single don't have other single friends and are thus subjected to the world of Smug Marrieds and Smug Coupleds. It's very tough at times to want to be social and go to parties and things when it's all of your friends, their SO's and YOU.

This is the worst of them all, I think. How do you deal when it seems like you are the last single person? Are all the good guys already taken? I too don't want to be single when I am 30 but at the rate I am going, its what might happen. And if I am told one more time "it will happen when you aren't looking" and "don't worry it will happen" I think I am going to scream and run far far away :)

[doctor_kaz]

Ugh. I know how y'all feel.

I'm running out of excuses to skip weddings and Christmas parties because I don't have a date. :p

[pisces2473]

At least you get "and date" invitations...everyone has given up on me, so I never get the option of bringing a date. :(

[wrbroadpro]

AMEN! Glad to know that I am not the only one feeling the frustration of singledom. To make it worse, my gma has a "family tree" of all the kids and grandkids wedding pics. Yep, you guessed it, my pic grad pic is up there until it is replaced. Quoth the grandmother (age 83), "I just hope God brings you a nice girl and you get married before I die." No pressure there.

[Jayaic]

broadpro, that hurts. With every female in my family ( all three sisters, mother, grandmother, ect..)the first question I get everytime is "are you dating anyone", "when will I get a sister-in-law?", "anyone special we should know about?".....ARGGGG!!!!!
I hate family gatherings because of that.

talkative, I'm glad to see I'm not the only one caught in between that rock and hard place out here. Growing up with my parents, I hated the idea of not being married by 30, but at 27 I don't have much time either.

Working full time makes dating hard, and the few I can find a chance to go on really just don't work. Great people, but nothing more.

-Jay

[wrbroadpro]

Jay,

Although I know it isn't true, I despise holidays and gatherings for the same reasons. I feel that if I don't bring a girl to meet the family, that somehow I am less of a man. That everytime I am failing them because I am single. The struggle is between the emotion and the truth. The truth is that it is greater to wait your entire life only to spend one day with her than a lifetime with the wrong one.

[seren1411]

Am 26.
Female.
Single.
If you add in the pressure of having parents who work in childcare (CONSTANT petitions for grandsprogs!), you have my life!

[talkative1]

wrbroadpro! You said something that really struck me! I LOVED that last line; so much so that I wrote down for myself. Except I am a girl, so I changed "her" to him. Thank you! You are so right I know of several miserable couples, cheating spouse etc

"The truth is that it is greater to wait your entire life only to spend one day with her than a lifetime with the wrong one."

Good things come to those who wait, right??????? Who made up that dumb line anyway:)

[TosaGirl]

Ya know its so funny that we all experience the same pressures from our family. I recently had a family wedding. ONe of my cousins brought a gay guy as her date (only her family and my sister and myself knew!) just so she did not have to hear from the family "oh poor girl, why arent you dating??" One of my cousins went up to my sister and said "So we figured out who the OLDEST cousin is, and thats you, so when are you getting married??" They pressure us all the time. I told my sister if anyone asked me, I was going to go gay, just to see how they would react to that because I am sick to death of being asked!!! That would drive them crazy! (I didnt do it) It is annoying isnt it!? Its good to hear that guys experience the same pressures from your families. My parents have started to "adopt" grandkids because they want ones so bad and we are slacking...I always tell them first things first!!!

[klo1335]

I must be lucky because my parents don't pressure me about getting married. In fact all of my life i have been told to develop my career and settle myself first before even thinking about getting married. Now my grandmother doesn't understand why I don't date alot but its not like she puts any pressure on me. I feel more pressure from my peers and that they think something is wrong with me for not dating a whole lot.

[TankgirlyC]

KLO like you my family has no pressure about marriage. Hell they havent even SAID anything to me about it my whole life. They dont ask about grand kids-----its just something none of us talk about EVER.

As for those of you who are saying you dont go to family gatherings or Xmas parties or weddings because you dont have a date. That made me sad.
I have been to family gatherings, and Xmas parties sans a date. When people ask why I dont have one I tell them why....honestly. Ill say there arent any good guys in the picture right now, I wanted to come alone to have quality time with the people at this gathering, I dont want to date right now, Im too busy with my career------whatever is the reason I didnt bring a date. Sometimes its as simple as the person I was seeing at the time had their own commitments, or they werent worthy of making me SHARE that time with the people there.

I hope this helps. And I hope you are all confident in your beauty, intelligence, worthiness-------you will find that person. Look around you in this world (on the train, on the bus, walking around)-----people end up with other people. It will happen for all of you! And go to those gathering and be PROUD that you have enough self confidence to go to those alone, to be with those people and that YOU dont need someone on your arm just to attend.

[wrbroadpro]

Maybe some of the pressure is self inflicted. The way I balance the loneliness is to look at my friends who did find the right one. Who wake up at 6am to kiss their soul mate goodbye for the day, only to wait until 7 to see them again. When they do get to spend time together, they are usually so exhausted that they flip on the boob tube to avoid any conversation. They become roommates instead of husband and wives. Maybe this belongs in another thread. But, while I am waiting, I want to create an income so that I can be a stay at home husband and enjoy life together. Here is my challenge for myself and others if you will take it....this week, anytime we feel alone and start to focus on what we don't have, lets stop and focus on what we do have. And know that God will meet those 'needs' in our life when the timing is perfect.

[KyFeller]

I was born in a generation of late marryers ( is that a word? :googly: ) so I guess I was lucky I never got hounded by not having anyone. My dad married at 35 and had 30 years of marriage before my mother passed away. I guess that's where I get my optimism from. Before he married, he travelled the world via the Navy and perfected his engineering skills. If my dad had the patience to wait 35 years before finding the right person, I can do the same.

[wrbroadpro]

I am sure he is glad he waited for your mom. I am sure you are too. My family for the most part married young. My gma was 15, my mom was 18. Until the right one comes, keep working hard.

[hajime]

hey, you guys should all try www.friendster.com... it's a way of networking with your friend's friends

[Edibleautopsy]

Yeah but don't you have to already have friends signed up at Friendster? I mean you jjust can't sign up and start clicking on profiles and making them your friend. Right?

[Qismet]

See also the "Sick of being single" thread. I found out yesterday that my college drop-out directionless cousin who was born the day after me is getting married next month. I guess I have my career to show for my 25 consecutive years on the planet instead. I won't be attending.

[sunny0811]

I think dating today is much harder than 20 or 30 years ago. Back then, it seems like you met someone, went out, and if you weren't physically repulsed by them, got married, had kids, and made it work. Now we have to deal with living with someone before marriage, commitment-phobes, and trying to made a million dollars before we're 30. It's impossible, and I do think people are pickier today.

I wish I had an explanation as to why I'm still single. I'm in graduate school, and my friend is getting married. I'm so jealous that I lied to her and told her I have a big test so I don't have to go. I feel horrible. Why is it that some people have such a hard time meeting someone, where others don't even have to try?

[coll214]

sunny- I agree w/ you a 100% ! Dating is much harder today than it was 30 years ago....and don't forget that as we get older, more and more of the ppl of the opposite sex you meet have the possibility of being divorced, having kids, etc.

[pisces2473]

Originally posted by sunny0811
I think dating today is much harder than 20 or 30 years ago. Back then, it seems like you met someone, went out, and if you weren't physically repulsed by them, got married, had kids, and made it work. Now we have to deal with living with someone before marriage, commitment-phobes, and trying to made a million dollars before we're 30. It's impossible, and I do think people are pickier today.

I wish I had an explanation as to why I'm still single. I'm in graduate school, and my friend is getting married. I'm so jealous that I lied to her and told her I have a big test so I don't have to go. I feel horrible. Why is it that some people have such a hard time meeting someone, where others don't even have to try?

Sunny--I couldn't agree with you more. I'm in the exact same situation as you (well, not in grad school), but my friend from college is getting married and I'm in the wedding. Ho hum. Always a bridesmaid, never a bride. But it's okay, really. I've resigned myself to the fact that I will never meet anyone.

[red]

you know, some of the things in this thread kind of hit home when i read them. i just got married about a month ago. and some of my friends were weird about it. but just because i am married doesn't mean i want to stop having single friends! it doesn't mean i am any different.
most of my single friends have been totally cool. we have been friends for years, and nothing has really changed. but some people treat me differently. it sucks, bcs i never had a boyfriend that i was serious about until i met my husband. i had married friends then and it was not a big deal.
i'm not like a superwedding person either. getting married was not that big of a deal to me. the best part of the wedding was that i got to see my friends and we got to spend so much time together. but some "friends" acted badly about the wedding, and it hurt my feelings. just bcs i am married doesn't mean i have been surgically attached to my husband... i really don't know what i could have done to keep these friends' feelings from being hurt. was i supposed to not invite them? i am only talking about 3 or 4 people here but it does bother me. i feel like they are projecting stuff onto me that has nothing to do with me. and it's not like getting married has made my life perfect all of a sudden. my husband is out of work, we're poor, my job makes me really tired and stressed out... i know dating is hard, butbeing married is hard too!
anyway, i'm curious about single people's opinions of their married friends. i don't bring my husband everywhere, but like if my single friends come over my house, am i supposed to send him away? i don't like set up my friends or be like "when are YOU going to get married?" or shit like that. what am i doing wrong? i am pretty much resigned to letting these friendships go.
the sad thing is that my friends weren't even the worst. my husband's female friends (some of whom he has known for 10+ years) were even worse!

[pisces2473]

One of my friends is married already. We don't see each other a lot, because we are so busy. She is okay about her husband...he doesn't come everywhere, he does his own thing when our friends are at their house, etc. What I don't like is my friends who are in serious relationships (not married)--some of them revolve their lives around their men (or at least it seems to be the case). I feel like I will never be important to anyone, unless it's my boyfriend or my husband. Some of my friends are very important people in my life, but I often feel that I'm not important in theirs, since they have SO's. I have no one to depend on me, no one for me to depend on...my friends have that stuff and that's why I feel alone.

[coll214]

I have friends that are both single, seeing someone, and married. It just bothers me when friends are just into relationships and are already using we and our all the time and assuming that their S.O.s can come everywhere w/ them - and i'm in a relationship!! You don't have to be attached at the hip at all times!!

red- I know it's awful to say, but girl friends of guys can be really petty bitches sometimes. It's like they feel jealous of you for being w/ him even though they don't want him that way. Their loss for not getting to know you....

[Rainster]

Hey! I'm female, and I'm on good terms with my married guy friends!! :) A good friend got married this summer, I was in his wedding party, we still keep in touch, etc. The other was one of my roommates, and we still keep in touch too.

The married female friends are kind of a different story. :mad:
But then, they're kind of extreme cases. One eloped (her stunned parents threw a reception for her last month!), and the other got engaged after going out with her best friend's ex for only a month.

red --I can totally understand your point of view. Sounds like your friends *are* projecting their own issues onto you. Did they know you and your husband as a couple beforehand? Not that that's necessarily an issue in your case, but with my male friends, they took the time out to say (while dating), "Hey, my girlfriend really needs to meet you." But again, my married female friends are anomalies because they tried to hide from everybody (including their families!) that they were even dating the guys they ended up marrying.

[red]

don't get me wrong. one of my husband's female friends threw him a bachelor party and was very nice. one sent a card. but the others... not a word. sent back the RSVPs no. no note. no email. no phone call. nothing. i know they don't like me, even though i tried to be nice, had them over for dinner even! so i gave up on them, but i did feel bad when beans said "oh you know X, Y, and Z never even called me"
i am not an attached at the hip kind of person. but you know i email both of my best friends' boyfriends. they email me. my husband and my best friends really get along, and that's nice, esp. since his friends have been so crappy.
i'm not sure what to do about these single friends. if i am going somewhere with my husband, should i not invite them?
just some of the things people said here sounded like some of the things that these friends have said to me. yes, i am married, but that has nothing to do with my friend being single.
for example, my friend got a new job last week, and we went out for drinks to celebrate. my husband is out of work, i am looking for a new job, but i didn't turn around and say to her, "oh well my career sucks so i'm going to blow you off" we had a great time together.
people making these "marrieds" comments hurt my feelings as much as if the situation were reversed was the point i was trying to make i guess...

[pisces2473]

Red, when something is going wrong, do you call your husband or your friend first? Your husband, right? Exactly my point.

I'm just tired of always being second place to everyone in their lives.

I think a lot of us are feeling the way we do for one or more of the following reasons:
1) ALL of our friends are getting married around the same time.
2) our friends used to be different people before they met their SO's.
3) we are perpetually single, while all of our friends are finding someone and we just feel alone and left out.

[Rainster]

red -- I think some of the previous comments were about married couples that totally drop their single / old friends, when the nonmarrieds make the effort to keep in touch. But it sounds like it's the opposite in your case.

You're making the effort, it's their loss. That sounds cruel, but no note or anything for not coming to your wedding??? That's just plain rude!

[klo1335]

I have to agree with you there pisces.

[pisces2473]

Thanks Klo. It's really sad that there are a lot of us who feel this way. :neutral:

Rainster--I agree with what you said.

[coll214]

To be devil's advocate; i've had the opposite... now that i'm seeing someone, it seems like my single friends seem scared to invite me anywhere. I always get the excuse that oh we figured you were with your b/f. which is just as bad... sometimes i am, but often i'm not.

[pisces2473]

It's called self-defense, Coll...they are probably just preparing themselves to become detatched from you. I know you wouldn't do that, but they might think that will happen, especially if others in your circle have done that.

[red]

i don't think that's true!
if it has to do with money or my sisters in law, i call my friend. or my mom. and trust me, i am on the phone A LOT lately.
so maybe i am married, but i don't sit around ranking my friends and family!
also, i used to be a different person when i was in high school. yeah, people change. the friend i had drinks with the other night changed. but we still love each other even though we're no longer 17 and sneaking smokes in the backyard or drinking 'til we puke.
i guess my feeling is, if my single friends feel alone, why don't they want to spend time with me, or call or whatever?
pisces, i totally see your point, and i think i am sensitive to it. but i always hung out with my friends and their SOs before i met my husband. some of them turned out to be really good friends to me. i just don't see why people don't realize that it's just as mean to dog someone's wedding or blow them off... and like what can i DO to change the way these friends feel?

[pisces2473]

As a single friend of many attached people...I don't call them because it seems like they made plans w/ SO b/c "I never get to see him" (um, kinda weird when you LIVE TOGETHER or are always together), or they are hanging out with her family, his family, other couples, etc.

I can't even go to freaking Target anymore with my attached friends because they want to look at the cute nighties and PJs and undies. They are like, "Why don't you buy some stuff?" Why? So my sheets can see them? Seriously. I have no need for any of that. My Old Navy PJ pants and old college shirts will do fine. They also go to all the "adult" stores...I have no need to go there.

I can understand how you are hurt about your friends in regards to your wedding. NO one, married or single, should have to have that happen.

What hurts the most for me is that I've seemed to lose touch with everyone who's in a relationship. And I wonder why???

[Rainster]

Have you tried the direct approach? Calling or emailing one of them to say "Hey, we haven't hung out in a long time, wanna grab a drink and catch up?"

[pisces2473]

Who was that meant for, Rainster? In my case, some of my friends live out of state and are just too busy all the time. Even my friends who live close by are pretty busy as well.

[Rainster]

Oh, sorry, that was meant for red! You beat me to the post, pisces! :)

[coll214]

I guess we all have to learn the balance between SO's and friends. I always keep in my head that my friends were there for me before i met my b/f and I hope they'll be there afterwards too. I've been the alone single girl enough to know how much it sucks; w/ the friends getting married and going solo (I always try to go even though I KNOW i'd leave depressed), the third wheel feeling left out all the time, the constant how X did this that was so cute...I could go on and on...

[Rainster]

When my friend who eloped returned from her improv honeymoon, we went shopping. She wanted the lacey red stuff from Victoria's Secret and Nordstrom, and I dragged her to Old Navy. =P

So we compromised, and were still able to do stuff we always did together.

[pisces2473]

See, that would still bother me. Getting to watch a friend buy lingerie for her boyfriend/husband would make me want to be sick. I've never had a boyfriend, so it's not fun for me. I can't be a part of someone's happiness when it mirrors what I'm lacking. We hear stories about women whose babies have died and they don't want to see their pregnant friends or be around new moms--and that's totally understandable. But when I say I get uncomfortable around certain situations--like being with my friends shopping for lingerie, that's considered weird? I don't think so!

(And I'm not trying to downplay the seriousness of losing a child--friends of my parents had a baby die--I'm just trying to make some kind of comparison.)

[klo1335]

My roommate was single with me all through college. We were both sickened together on Valentines Day. Now she has a new boyfriend and she spends a significant amount of time with him. However, she realizes what it is like to be single had having all of our friends with boyfriends and the "wonderful life." So she tried not to be all kissy kissy and lovey dovey with her boyfriend when I am around. I think the biggest part about being single and having married friends is plain old jealousy. Not about who you are with but what you have with them. And there is a line and alot of married/dating couples cross that line when they spend alot of time with their SO and then when they do hang out with their single friends either 1) the SO is with them or 2) they talk about their SO.

But that is just my opinion.

[red]

i have a lot to comment on here... but as for my friends. i have only three friends who are married. one is having her first baby today. one has a brain tumor. most of my friends are single, some have bfs, some don't, some have on-again-off-again bfs, etc. some are gay... but these are the ones i was talking about.
so one of my single friends lives in LA. we have been friends since i was a toddler, we used to be best friends, but then we lived together. and we talked before the wedding, but i have left messages since then but she hasn't returned them. i know she's very busy, but yes, this kind of bothers me. she is trying to make it as an actor, but like everytime she is on tv, i tell everyone in the office to watch her, etc. when people say "oh i saw j on tv" i always email her to tell her.
two of my other guy single friends live in NYC, came to the wedding, but i have not heard from them since then even though i emailed or called them both. one of my guy friends lives in canada, but he is different since he had a crush on me in college. i told him i was getting married and i wanted to invite him and his girlfriend to the wedding. he sent back a WEIRD letter, i wrote back and then i never heard from him.
another one of my girlfriends came to the wedding, but she said some really weird stuff (my two BMs commented on it too) and so that one is my fault- i haven't called her bcs i didn't know what to say.
but i also want to respond to something col said- i don't think these people call me to just go to a movie or have lunch anymore like they used to. i still like to do these things!
hey, i have spent my share of time being single. i mean there were times that i felt lonely, but i didn't take it out on my friends who had SOs. i went to a 3 day phish show with the girlfriend i mentioned above and her BF. we like shared a tent. they invited me, and i had a great time and i was glad i went.
and i think that never having a bf is not like losing a child. pisces, i know i mentioned that i might not be able to have kids. but i am still psyched that my friend is having a baby. i DON't like my SILs harassing me about when i'm going to have kids. but i still love my new nephews.
and like, i am broke but i am still going out with friends tonight. i will get there early so i can have a drink before happy hour is over. i brought something to eat to work with me. my brokeness has nothing to do with their not-brokeness though.
i know how it feels to be single, but i think that you can look at it in a lot of different ways. i try to be positive. i'm sure you don't believe me, but i dated a lot of jerks and i met someone nice. like my job search for example... i haven't found a job, but that doesn't mean i never will.

[Rainster]

Most of the time, new SOs of friends are able to become my new friends. I usually welcome opportunities to hang out with friends' SOs, and include them in social plans. As long as they don't engage in any PDA (they can do that when they're alone...)
I don't tend to mind friends' going on about SOs as long as it's not the only thing they talk about. There are other aspects to their lives, and to mine. And if they break up, I don't take sides.

That was the only time the lingerie-shopping thing happened! Normally buying underwear isn't a social exercise! :p

[seren1411]

Yeah but lingerie shopping is SO much scarier when you know precisely for whose benefit your friend is buying the stuff.

Totally unnecessary mental images get invoked!

[pisces2473]

Originally posted by red
pisces, i know i mentioned that i might not be able to have kids. but i am still psyched that my friend is having a baby. i DON't like my SILs harassing me about when i'm going to have kids. but i still love my new nephews.

i know how it feels to be single, but i think that you can look at it in a lot of different ways. i try to be positive. i'm sure you don't believe me, but i dated a lot of jerks and i met someone nice. like my job search for example... i haven't found a job, but that doesn't mean i never will.

Red, I remember you mentioning that...I'm sorry (if it ends up to be the case). I've been told I might never have kids either...which right now would be easier for me to do then meet a guy--you can go to a sperm bank, you can't go to a boyfriend/husband bank! If you JUST got married, why are your SILs harassing you about kids!?!?! That's EVIL! Married couples need time to be married first, regardless of their fertility status.

I remember you mentioned that your husband was the first (?) serious guy you dated. That's really great. It gives me (hopefully others too) something to look forward to. But right now, while all of my friends are paired off, I'm still alone. I have no one to share my day with, no one to ask how I'm doing. It's not like my friends call to see how I'm doing, then I ask how they are, we vent, etc. They don't need to talk to me when they've got someone in the house or their SO takes their calls right away. It's hard for me to hear my friends tell me that it's really nothing to worry about. It is when they are the people who've changed.

[klo1335]

I still think the reason single people get jealous/rude/ or whatever else you want to call it towards friends and their SO's is because they are jealous. They want to have what their friends have. I know that I am guilty of that myself. When my roommate started dating her bf I would complain about how annoying they are. Then I came to the realization that they are good for each other and it was just me being jealous of them.

On a sidenote, Red I do the same thing when I go out with my friends who have more money then me. I will bring something to work and eat it so I don't have to spend money out at a bar. I am glad I am not the only one who does that :)

[pisces2473]

Most of the jealous people are the ones who have NEVER had ANY luck in the dating scene. That? would be me.

I'm not exactly jealous...hurt is a better word.

[klo1335]

If I were a guy, I would date you :)

[Rainster]

I'm a doofus, I just realized was "SIL" was... :neutral:

[sunny0811]

Everyone,

Despite the dreary dating scene, please don't give up or think you won't meet your love. I've had some bad expereinces, but I believe that he is out there.

I think the guy should pay for the 1st date. The woman shouldn't have to take out her wallet.

Pisces,

I tried to reply to your post earlier, but my computer went crazy!

[pisces2473]

Originally posted by klo1335
If I were a guy, I would date you :)


Awwww, thanks. :lol:

[sunny0811]

Of course, I'm not always good at following my own advice.

[pisces2473]

No one ever is.