Living with parents

[Calichickee9]

I just turned 22 years old, and I am still living with my mom. The thing is, I'm working on getting my Master's degree, and I have a part time job at a restaurant. So, I'm not a slacker or anything. Unfortuanately, I'm feeling ashamed of living at home. It all started a few years ago when my really abusive boyfriend used to put me down about my situation and the opportunities I had. My parents helped pay for my college, and I didn't have to pay rent. My ex didn't have these opportunities, so it could have been jealousy. Even though he's not in my life anymore, his put downs still haunt me. He told me that if I'm still living with my mom, then I'm not being a responsible adult. But, I'm working on my Master's degree at 22, and working, so I don't feel I'm being irresponsible. My parents are also more than happy with our arrangement. Also, many of the people in the Master's program are older, and already out on their own. So, I feel really immature compared to these people, and I'm afraid I'm going to be looked down on by some of them. I came on here hoping that someone could give me advice about what I'm going through. Am I a bad person for being 22 and still living at home?

[Anonymous]

Dont be so silly, no way should you feel bad about living at home at 22. Enjoy your parents while you can, and spend as much time as you can with them, as in a few years you will be off doing your own thing. Its great that you have such a good relationship with them, after all having a good family network for support is half the battle in life. Your boyfriend is just a bitter lemon, and unfortunately there are loads of people that you will meet like that during life!!!!!!! Good luck with the MSc!

[Faze]

Not at all!!!

I am 22 and I live at home. I even got a job and finished school, but I just got to pay off some loans and get my stuff together before I buy my first home.Hey your getting a MSc and you are working at the same time thats great, dont worry what others think. Everyone is different and as long as things are good at home then your good to go. As for your boyfriend..he is a idiot from the sounds of it.

[crazywillie]

You are obviously not a bad person. I always say you gotta do whats best for you. Me personally I'd rather struggle then take from my folks unless I absolutely have to. My credit for instance was and still is destroyed because I spent money foolishly in college, but I never let my folks bail me out, even though they offered.

I deal with having crappy credit all the time (can't get a lease, etc, etc). I know that as a single guy, when I meet a girl who lives at home with her folks I think twice, it just seems like the easy way out and further it often becomes a trap that most people don't get out of.

Grad school can be a differents situation though, my ex was i grad school and lived with her mom throughout, bow that she's done, she's looking for a place, and that is cool.

The idea is for it to be temporary, but they too often stay forever. This is just my honest opinion.

[x Hello Kitty x]

You shouldn't feel like a slacker. You're working on your Master's degree and by living with your parents, you're probably saving a lot of money so that when you finally do get your degree can probably get a really great place of your own and not have to worry about paying off a mountain of student loans first. You're lucky that you have a good enough relationship with your parents that you can live with them while you go to school. A lot of people's parents drive them crazy and they can't wait to get away and move out into their own places. The only people who should be worried about living with their parents are the unemployed 30 or 40-somethings (the type of guys that most people think of as going to Star Trek conventions, spending way too much time on the computer, and having no social skills...) who will probably never move out.

Good luck with your degree! /phpBB/images/smiles/icon_smile.gif

[lioness524]

It's really hard to make it on your own these days, that's what I can tell you. I'mm 22, work full time, and still live with my folks, and even with working at $6 an hour I still cannot afford my own place. I'm headed back to school in August to study computer science, so hopefully I won't be in the hole for too long I think.