Girlie girl
03-09-2006, 08:53 AM
OK, So I am a grad of '03 with a boyfriend 2 years younger still in University - where I work now full time(and graduated from). He came here to play football and BLEW his first year away, failed courses, dropped courses, made that year worth very little overall & damaged his cummulative GPA - before we met. Here we are, he is about to finish his 6th year, he has got his act together and until last night, believed he was graduating in May. He is a Psychology Major and was very confused about which courses and how many of which he needed to graduate. His worst fear was that he mess up and not be able to graduate in May '06. So last August he started asking questions via email to both his Department Head/Academic Advisor as well as the Registrar's office to ask them to check his transcript and confirm that he was on the right track to graduate. Both sources told him he was good to go, all set. His department also indicated that he was registered in 2 advanced Psych courses that he didn't even need to be taking. He has been registered as a potential grad since September '05 - you have to apply to graduate here.. I assumed it was so that the registrar's office could check your file and ensure that you were able to graduate and there would be enough notice (A YEAR) to let you know if there were additional courses you needed to take if you were not eligible for graduation etc.
Somewhere, somehow, he was seriously misinformed. he received an email last night for the same woman at the registrar's office (who told him he was good to graduate as recently as January '06 - because he asked more questions just to be sure when entering his final semester) who told him that he was ineligible to graduate in May and can re-apply for the Fall graduation.
My boyfriend is so upset/angry/frustrated. I am too. He is short 2 courses to graduate. He doesn't have the hours. I am trying to look at this situation rationally. He is pointing fingers, and I agree that he did ask, he was begging for people to make sure he was organized and taking the right courses. At the same time, I don't understand how he could mess up and not take ENOUGH courses to graduate. That is simple math. I even helped him at the beginning of January to develop a course outline so that he could fill in the courses he had completed and see which ones were left to fill in. I offered to take his transcript and do it for him but he didn't want me to. He said he could do it himself. Now I wish I could turn back time and do it for him. I feel like I would have caught the error and he could be taking the additional courses he needs as we speak.
He was so PO'd this morning he was talking about suing the people who mis informed him. I know that that is crazy and he is partly responsible but I also feel his pain, he did ask, he did admit that he was confused and wanted help. 4 people (Head of his department, Secretary of his department, student academic advisor and the registrar's office) had the opportunity to look over his transcript in August '05 and Jan '06 and say - "Hey you need to register for 2 more courses if you intend to graduate in May" He is so angry. He says he will not give this school another dime. Tuition goes up extravagant amounts each year and is one of the most expensive Universities in Canada. He lives on student loans and this mistake could cost thousands to him if he has to pay for those additional 2 courses (that he could be taking at the moment for no extra charge had he known he needed to).
And above and beyond this, I have been waiting for him to graduate forever it seems. We've been dating for 4.5 years and I have been working full time for 2 of them. I feel like I am stuck in University life because of this and just want him to be able to have his degree and start his life with me. Selfish to think this way at a time like this but I am also frustrated. I feel so helpless because I can't see a solution to his problem.
I can't talk with anyone here about this because it's his personal problem. His brother is visiting with us this week and he doesn't even want him to know. His parents have been waiting for him to graduate forever too and everyone was planning to come down for his graduation. Even his Aunt. They are all so proud of him, I can't imagine how he is feeling about this... I'm worried he is so frustrated he might give up on University.
Somewhere, somehow, he was seriously misinformed. he received an email last night for the same woman at the registrar's office (who told him he was good to graduate as recently as January '06 - because he asked more questions just to be sure when entering his final semester) who told him that he was ineligible to graduate in May and can re-apply for the Fall graduation.
My boyfriend is so upset/angry/frustrated. I am too. He is short 2 courses to graduate. He doesn't have the hours. I am trying to look at this situation rationally. He is pointing fingers, and I agree that he did ask, he was begging for people to make sure he was organized and taking the right courses. At the same time, I don't understand how he could mess up and not take ENOUGH courses to graduate. That is simple math. I even helped him at the beginning of January to develop a course outline so that he could fill in the courses he had completed and see which ones were left to fill in. I offered to take his transcript and do it for him but he didn't want me to. He said he could do it himself. Now I wish I could turn back time and do it for him. I feel like I would have caught the error and he could be taking the additional courses he needs as we speak.
He was so PO'd this morning he was talking about suing the people who mis informed him. I know that that is crazy and he is partly responsible but I also feel his pain, he did ask, he did admit that he was confused and wanted help. 4 people (Head of his department, Secretary of his department, student academic advisor and the registrar's office) had the opportunity to look over his transcript in August '05 and Jan '06 and say - "Hey you need to register for 2 more courses if you intend to graduate in May" He is so angry. He says he will not give this school another dime. Tuition goes up extravagant amounts each year and is one of the most expensive Universities in Canada. He lives on student loans and this mistake could cost thousands to him if he has to pay for those additional 2 courses (that he could be taking at the moment for no extra charge had he known he needed to).
And above and beyond this, I have been waiting for him to graduate forever it seems. We've been dating for 4.5 years and I have been working full time for 2 of them. I feel like I am stuck in University life because of this and just want him to be able to have his degree and start his life with me. Selfish to think this way at a time like this but I am also frustrated. I feel so helpless because I can't see a solution to his problem.
I can't talk with anyone here about this because it's his personal problem. His brother is visiting with us this week and he doesn't even want him to know. His parents have been waiting for him to graduate forever too and everyone was planning to come down for his graduation. Even his Aunt. They are all so proud of him, I can't imagine how he is feeling about this... I'm worried he is so frustrated he might give up on University.