How can I shut my parents up?

[PenforPrez]

I really need to find a way to get my parents off my back; I live with them. I've got a lot of bills I can't pay cause I've been overdrawn at the bank for two weeks, and they just can't stop throwing that in my face.

My job search is still a miserable failure. My parents are trying to force me into taking another crappy job; they've pretty much decided I wasted my time going to college. I've got depression and anger issues I can't get treatment for caused by my last crappy job, so I can't do that again; at least I think so.

I just really need them to shut up and leave me alone right now, and I'm lost as to how. Any suggestions? Sorry for the whine, just a more difficult day than usual today. :sad:

PEN

[MetFanL]

Your parents are probably just trying to "tough love" you and get you moving. You seem to have dug a hole for yourself. My advice? Take a deep breath, and figure out a way to tackle at least ONE of the problems you've outlined. Show your parents the plan and get moving on it. They'll back off if they know you're trying. Good luck.

[cheshrcarol]

Sorry, but if you're living with your parents and can't pay your bills you should take the crappy job. Or any job you can get. Find a temp job, or work for Starbucks - they offer benefits and have a younger atmosphere.

ETA, not that you can't keep looking for a job using your degree, but your priority should be to try and keep yourself afloat until you can find a better job.

[winneythepooh7]

Make some new friends, find some new hobbies, go to the library/park/coffee house and just read, anything to get out of the house. Go out early to do your job search and then come back late. Avoidance is probably best in this situation. Although sooner or later you will have to just deal because parents are parents and they usually don't change ;).

[lonestar]

They need to know that you are trying your hardest and that it isn't easy. Life, especially right after college, will sometimes be tough. You also need to prove to them that college wasn't wasteful. In fact, if they believe this then you might have some problems. College/Education is NEVER a waste. I don't care if you majored in underwater fanny smacking and minored in potato gun shooting. Having a degree is better than not having one. Period.

[wordsmith]

You live with your parents and are dependent upon them. You're not going to be able to shut them up or get them off your back if that's where they wanna be. That's just kinda how it works. People get off your case when you're independent of them (and if they don't, it doesn't matter so much, b/c you don't have to live with them anymore, you can get away from it).

[Adam Strange]

Other people have made some good points. I’ll add that maybe you can sit down and explain your situation to them. Many parents assume that the early twenties of this generation are basically similar to the early twenties of their generation. Also explain that, while there is a time for motherly/fatherly advice, you need some peace. Your financial and vocational problems can’t constantly hang in the air.

Some parents may understand things like this, others are obtuse. Living at home, you are indebted to them so maybe the only decent option is getting out.

[GMODC2]

May I refer you to guideline #4:

http://quarterlifecrisis.com/forums/showthread.php?t=18765