Do people ever make you feel bad..

[dazed]

...for wanting to stay in on a Friday or Saturday night? Must 20-somethings always be going out partying both nights of the weekend every weekend? I know some people that seem to look down upon people that won't go out and party hard both nights of the weekend. What the heck is wrong with wanting to stay in? It just really irks me.

[wordsmith]

I've never been somebody who MUST go out...I like going out when it suits me, but I'm not unhappy when I don't have stuff planned and stay in. I also don't always WANT to go out.

I do get annoyed with friends of mine who NEVER want to to out, though. I feel like it's as annoying to ALWAYS want to stay in as it is to ALWAYS want to go out.

[dazed]

I do get annoyed with friends of mine who NEVER want to to out, though. I feel like it's as annoying to ALWAYS want to stay in as it is to ALWAYS want to go out.

i agree. there has to be a happy medium.

i definitely do enjoy going out but i'm not someone who must be out either. staying in and not doing anything is sometimes exactly what i want. that happens on fridays sometimes when i'm tired from the work week. but some friends still seem to be in party mode from college. that ended years ago for us.

our situations are different though. if i had more friends in the area (as my friend does), maybe i'd be more likely to go out both nights. but not dancing/partying both nights. i feel too old for that.

[Winter Storm]

Actually I hear you.

I opted to have a low-key weekend and I'm in babysitting tonight and my friends were still trying to get me to come out. I like going out and all but I'd like to have a break every now and then from dressing up, driving far, drinking and spending all my cash.

[J-girl]

Same here. I had a looooong ass week. I was home everyday at around 10 pm. I know a friend of mine wanted to go out tonite so I am secretly hoping she doesnt call. Although I am craving company but I dont have any desire to dress up and drive and hang out at pretentious joints.

[PVD99]

I don't know about other people, but I used to go out every Thursday, Friday and Saturday night. I am just too tired to do that now for some reason. :redface: Now I like to only go out either on Friday and Saturday and just have one night to myself.

For instance, Friday night might be a big club/bar night and then Saturday night a quiet dinner somewhere and then call it an early night. I just don't have a need or even a desire to go out EVERY single weekend night. Sometimes it is nice to chill. I think from ages 18-22 I had more of a problem staying in because I felt like I was missing something. I guess I've just changed.

[yankeeyosh]

I've taken a lot of flak over the years by people for spending my weekends at home. It never really bothered me that I don't have a life until pretty recently...so it's been a lot tougher to deal with this. :neutral:

[quietmood80]

You know... sometimes you just wanna stay indoors. I decided not to hang out tonite because I have a cold, and they think I'm a party-pooper. well gessh, how nice of them... Even though friends are great, why are they so tough sometimes...

[wordsmith]

I actually rarely am in the mood to go out on Friday nights. I've been up since the crack of dawn, I don't have time to get ready and look nice by the time I get home from work...if I do go out on a Friday at all, I'd rather it be something super low key than anything I need to put a whole lot of effort into. Saturday night, I'm more willing, I've recovered from my work week and can primp sufficiently.

[hello_kitty83]

Yeah, I'm not one who "must" go out every single weekend either. Just depends on my mood. Last Friday I had a little St. Patrick's Day party with friends, drinking and all that, but Saturday I stayed in because I was tired from the night before. I didn't care about being a homebody that day. The point is, if I wanna go out, I do, if I don't, I don't.

[jen428]

I don't know about other people, but I used to go out every Thursday, Friday and Saturday night. I am just too tired to do that now for some reason. :redface: Now I like to only go out either on Friday and Saturday and just have one night to myself.

For instance, Friday night might be a big club/bar night and then Saturday night a quiet dinner somewhere and then call it an early night. I just don't have a need or even a desire to go out EVERY single weekend night. Sometimes it is nice to chill. I think from ages 18-22 I had more of a problem staying in because I felt like I was missing something. I guess I've just changed.


you took the words right out of my mouth! I just am too tired to go out every weekend night now. I hate wasting the days being hungover. I def agree that from 18-22 you feel like you are missing something if you dont go out. I've just changed as well. I know that my friends think i dont go out anymore because i have a boyfriend... but that is not the case. i just simply cant party like i used to!

[Q21]

I have so many hobbies/intersts/talents that require low key, I don't like wasting energy on partying.

Now, coffe shop discussion, acousitc music, hiking- I'm up for that. But I love the sun, I'd rather be out when it's up. :-)

[Kitty]

What the heck? Are these people in 3rd grade? If you want to go out, go out. If you don't, then don't. Whatever you do, don't let what other people think affect you.

[glitterchick81]

Man, I almost always spend my weekends at home. My friends are too busy for me. I'll just have to make up for it when I move out, I guess.

[BadKitty]

...I know some people that seem to look down upon people that won't go out and party hard both nights of the weekend. .


These people seem really stupid... to me.

[RealChic1999]

I get flak for not drinking..."you're uncool because you don't get wasted! Ha!"

No, I'm cool because I can wake up and remember what I did the previous night, since I'm NOT hungover.

[BadKitty]

I get flak for not drinking..."you're uncool because you don't get wasted! Ha!"

No, I'm cool because I can wake up and remember what I did the previous night, since I'm NOT hungover.


What age are these people? What's wrong with them? Granted, I drink like a fish, but it's because that customary back home in Europe. I never though that coolness is measured in how much you can drink. These people seem really immature to me...

[MetFanL]

I don't look down on people who don't go out. HOWEVER, I have a small group of single friends who don't always want to. And, quite frankly, I don't either. Yet, I feel like I SHOULD b/c there are only so many places to meet people and, as I've said on here before, boys don't get delivered to your front door. So, I put on a cute outfit and drag my a*s out of the house. At least, then, if I end up being single throughout my whole life, I can't say that I didn't try. And, yes, I remind them of this when they say they want to stay in.

Let me be clear, though. We're not talking about every night of the week, here. I'm talking about going out of your house once a week.

[BadKitty]

I don't look down on people who don't go out. HOWEVER, I have a small group of single friends who don't always want to. And, quite frankly, I don't either. Yet, I feel like I SHOULD b/c there are only so many places to meet people and, as I've said on here before, boys don't get delivered to your front door. So, I put on a cute outfit and drag my a*s out of the house. At least, then, if I end up being single throughout my whole life, I can't say that I didn't try. And, yes, I remind them of this when they say they want to stay in.

Let me be clear, though. We're not talking about every night of the week, here. I'm talking about going out of your house once a week.


Yeah, I hear you. If I lived in a decent city, I'd go out twice as much as I do now at least for a while - beacause I like going out. I like socializing and bars.

I just hate the idea of people judging someone by their frequency of going out or getting plastered. That's like saying "I won't read, bacause it's uncool".