Protection causing stamina problems! [Archive]

meatwad

03-20-2006, 11:14 AM

Who is Leeroy Jenkins? I have wanted to ask you that since I saw you sig

Google it my friend, and you will see. It's a funny video about a bunch of guys playing a video game and they spend like 5 minutes planning out their strategy. And then Leeroy comes in.

http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=1519564146138019456&q=leeroy+jenkins

inmediasres

03-20-2006, 11:15 AM

Are you using those extra sensitive ones?

If not, try those (the thin, but durable kind).

If that doesn't help, then...the pill?

lonestar

03-20-2006, 11:34 AM

Sorry to jack this thread...

That dude got them all killed! Kinda funny. I like the way he says LEEROY JENKINS...is that an XBOX game?

jdt141

03-20-2006, 12:35 PM

Are you using those extra sensitive ones?

If not, try those (the thin, but durable kind).

If that doesn't help, then...the pill?

She's already on BC. this is just for peace of mind... mine, really.

Winter Storm

03-20-2006, 12:36 PM

You sure the condom is the culprit? Have you always had this problem with condoms?

J-girl

03-20-2006, 12:39 PM

Maybe you should play the song "one minute man"

Kitty

03-20-2006, 12:55 PM

Have you had sex w/out condoms? if this is a serious relationship, and she's on BC..can you both get tested and then once everything is cleared you could ditch the condoms?

lostinjersey

03-20-2006, 12:58 PM

When using a condom, its taking me forever when I'm with my girlfriend! At least an hour.... This is becoming problematic! Help!!!!

here's an idea... take it off?

wordsmith

03-20-2006, 01:01 PM

This is still a pretty new relationship, is my understanding.

BTW, from a female standpoint, lasting too short a time is more of a stamina problem than lasting too long. Just me.

lostinjersey

03-20-2006, 01:05 PM

She's already on BC. this is just for peace of mind... mine, really.

i've never understood this.. if shes already on BC, just stick it in bro, not to be crude but seriously how much more protection do you need? if you're that worried maybe you shouldnt even be doing it..

Kitty

03-20-2006, 01:05 PM

i've never understood this.. if shes already on BC, just stick it in bro, not to be crude but seriously how much more protection do you need? if you're that worried maybe you shouldnt even be doing it..

Have you ever heard of STDs? And did you know that BC doesn't protect against those?

wordsmith

03-20-2006, 01:07 PM

Dingdingdingding, kitty, we have a winner.

The pill's only good for pregnancy.

meatwad

03-20-2006, 01:08 PM

Even with pregnancy. Why take the chance?

Winter Storm

03-20-2006, 01:08 PM

BTW, from a female standpoint, lasting too short a time is more of a stamina problem than lasting too long. Just me.

Uh, yeah! Too short a time is a lack of stamina. That isn't his problem.

I would also say don't stop using condoms just yet, accidents do happen and you'll be needing that extra protection just in case.

wordsmith

03-20-2006, 01:11 PM

Also, if you're not getting off one way, try another. If you get my drift.

jdt141

03-20-2006, 01:13 PM

Also, if you're not getting off one way, try another. If you get my drift.

I follow, and she agrees, this isn't really a problem for her... she rather enjoys it! Alas, she's said she "doesn't" go down.... I'm not about to ask her if she doesn't want to. That's just uncool, IMO.

LakeJay

03-20-2006, 01:16 PM

I follow, and she agrees, this isn't really a problem for her... she rather enjoys it! Alas, she's said she "doesn't" go down.... I'm not about to ask her if she doesn't want to. That's just uncool, IMO.

There are still other options...

Kitty

03-20-2006, 01:17 PM

biodork

03-20-2006, 01:20 PM

She doesn't go down? Holy crap. Interesting...
I knew a guy once that hated BJs.

wordsmith

03-20-2006, 01:21 PM

Yeah, I didn't necessarily just mean oral sex. Although "I don't do _____ " would be a tad red flaggish for me, personally.

Kitty

03-20-2006, 01:22 PM

I knew a guy once that hated BJs.

I know chicks who don't like having guys go down on them. But never the reverse.

jdt141

03-20-2006, 01:24 PM

There are still other options...

ok NOW i'm confused. :confused:

jdt141

03-20-2006, 01:25 PM

I know chicks who don't like having guys go down on them. But never the reverse.

I wholeheartedly agree.

old_school_soul

03-20-2006, 01:27 PM

Alas, she's said she "doesn't" go down....

And you're still dating her? Let me guess, she's more than happy for you to eat her out.

Kitty

03-20-2006, 01:27 PM

That's rough if condoms aren working, and she won't go down...hands jobs? boob sex?

I don't think I could be w/ someone who wasn't into all aspects of oral.

internut33

03-20-2006, 01:29 PM

What an interesting post to read, any funny for a monday. Good stuff. And that Leroy stuff, too funny!

How longs it take you manually? :)

wordsmith

03-20-2006, 01:33 PM

No reason you can't finish off manually, if it works for you.

lonestar

03-20-2006, 01:34 PM

How about finishing it off in the stink? :eek:
Or, as a friend of mine called it "taking the midnight train to Georgia"

Kitty

03-20-2006, 01:36 PM

How about finishing it off in the stink? :eek:
Or, as a friend of mine called it "taking the midnight train to Georgia"

Umm..but wouldn't he still have a condom on? You can get STDs from anal sex, FYI.

lonestar

03-20-2006, 01:37 PM

yeah but its tighter back there maybe it won't take as long.

wordsmith

03-20-2006, 01:38 PM

Just a GUESS...

But I suspect a girl who won't go down is likely to put the ixnay on backdoor action.

Isn't that, to paraphrase Nick Hornby, like getting turned down for a buck and asking for 50 grand? :neutral:

lonestar

03-20-2006, 01:39 PM

maybe she has discriminating tastes...

jdt141

03-20-2006, 01:41 PM

lonestar

03-20-2006, 01:45 PM

well, to the OP then I just guess you gotta take your chances and raw-dog it... :D

If you think she's got the HIV or something don't tap it.

jdt141

03-20-2006, 01:47 PM

I'm sorry I even asked. :redface:

wordsmith

03-20-2006, 01:49 PM

Don't be sorry. This stuff isn't always textbook and simple, it's a myth that stuff goes as smoothly as the movies, always. You need to figure out ways to make it work.

Kitty

03-20-2006, 01:49 PM

well, to the OP then I just guess you gotta take your chances and raw-dog it... :D

If you think she's got the HIV or something don't tap it.

I think this is absolutely horrible advice. You don't just "think someone doesn't have HIV or something" and then decide not to use protection. There are a lot of other STDs out there in addition to HIV. And you can't tell who has or doesn't have them.

Seriously, people. :rolleyes:

and1grad

03-20-2006, 01:50 PM

What are you doing, position-wise?

Winter Storm

03-20-2006, 01:51 PM

I think this is absolutely horrible advice. You don't just "think someone doesn't have HIV or something" and then decide not to use protection. There are a lot of other STDs out there in addition to HIV. And you can't tell who has or doesn't have them.

Seriously, people. :rolleyes:

Thank you! Not to mention that many men can carry HPV which can lead to cervical cancer in women and not even know it because there is no known test for detecting it in male carriers.

wordsmith

03-20-2006, 01:51 PM

If you think she's got the HIV or something don't tap it.

Um, yeah, good advice there, champ. :neutral:

jdt141

03-20-2006, 01:54 PM

Ahhh! ok... so how do I know that its the condom that's the problem? well, of course, we tried w/o. bingo! (this was stupid. i need to go get tested :redface: where the hell do I go for that?). Its been mostly me on top w/a little of her on top. That's about it. Not very creative. I'll admit I don't know what I'm doing. big time lack of experience and education.... :redface: :redface: :redface:

Kitty

03-20-2006, 01:54 PM

Ahhh! ok... so how do I know that its the condom that's the problem? well, of course, we tried w/o. bingo! (this was stupid. i need to go get tested :redface: where the hell do I go for that?). Its been mostly me on top w/a little of her on top. That's about it. Not very creative. I'll admit I don't know what I'm doing. :redface: :redface: :redface:

WTF?!?! Did you have sex inbetween posts?

jdt141

03-20-2006, 01:55 PM

WTF?!?! Did you have sex inbetween posts?

LOL. Noooo. This is all after the fact Kitty.

Kitty

03-20-2006, 01:56 PM

LOL. Noooo. This is all after the fact Kitty.

Okay, sorry, I thought in your OP you said you had never tried w/out the condom...

lonestar

03-20-2006, 01:57 PM

FYI condoms don't protect against all STDs either so you're taking a chance regardless. There was an article I read about how you can still get HIV because jimmy caps are not completely sealed.

Run her in for a pre-flight check(doctor)...do a visual beforehand. I think you can tell. ;)

wordsmith

03-20-2006, 01:58 PM

Dude, it sounds like it's just a practice, trial and error thing. I wouldn't worry about it...just be up for more practice. Of course, that works best if your partner is up for the practicing and experimenting and figuring out what works and what doesn't, as well.

meatwad

03-20-2006, 01:58 PM

Trojan makes a rubber now that is supposed to help out with this problem I think.

wordsmith

03-20-2006, 01:59 PM

Any doctor can run STD tests, and so can any Planned Parenthood clinic.

wordsmith

03-20-2006, 02:00 PM

Run her in for a pre-flight check(doctor)...do a visual beforehand. I think you can tell. ;)

Are you kidding? Do you have any idea the number of STDs that don't have visual symptoms at all times (in some cases, at all?) If you're counting on a visual onceover of the undercarriage keeping you safe and clean, I cringe to think of the people you've been sleeping with and what they may have been exposed to.

lonestar

03-20-2006, 02:05 PM

I think we are all entitled to our opinions, here...there's no need to get upset.

If you think she's a safety issue, don't do it. I'm just saying I think your good, bro...particularly since she's your girlfriend.

and1grad

03-20-2006, 02:07 PM

Its been mostly me on top w/a little of her on top. That's about it. Not very creative. I'll admit I don't know what I'm doing. big time lack of experience and education....
Sounds like you need to up the creativity a notch which is pretty easy. Maybe there's a position that works out better for you.

wordsmith

03-20-2006, 02:08 PM

STD status being impossible to know without a medical test isn't exactly an opinion.

And girlfriend or not, if she hasn't been checked out, then, no, he doesn't know one way or another if it's all good. Somebody being your girlfriend or boyfrined doesn't make them STD-free.

lonestar

03-20-2006, 02:09 PM

I'm assuming he looked both ways (before crossing that street) when he picked a girlfriend. Sometimes you gotta be a little bit cowboy.

and1grad

03-20-2006, 02:10 PM

Does anyone else wanna weigh in on STDs?

Winter Storm

03-20-2006, 02:10 PM

Don't stop using condoms yet!!!!!!

How aroused are you from the get-go? Is she doing anything to help, to further arouse you? Is there proper lubrication for both? If you can't finish with regular vaginal sex, what other options does she give you?

wordsmith

03-20-2006, 02:11 PM

I'm really trying to wrap my head around how you think you would know upon meeting somebody his or her sexual health history. Help?

Winter Storm

03-20-2006, 02:12 PM

I'm assuming he looked both ways (before crossing that street) when he picked a girlfriend. Sometimes you gotta be a little bit cowboy.

When you assume, you make an ass out of you! Assume nothing!

lonestar

03-20-2006, 02:13 PM

are you saying you've never went without protection on spec?

Kitty

03-20-2006, 02:15 PM

are you saying you've never went without protection on spec?

Dude, are you for REAL?

wordsmith

03-20-2006, 02:15 PM

Uhhhh, yeah... pretty much exactly what I'm saying.

The only time I've EVER gone sans condom was one time when I was with somebody with zero partners besides me and was otherwise protected. It's just not smart to do anything else.

biodork

03-20-2006, 02:16 PM

Are you kidding? Do you have any idea the number of STDs that don't have visual symptoms at all times (in some cases, at all?) If you're counting on a visual onceover of the undercarriage keeping you safe and clean, I cringe to think of the people you've been sleeping with and what they may have been exposed to.
And a lot of the time STDs that women show symptoms for men don't. And there's incubation periods where the woman is contagious but hasn't showed symptoms yet. Or STDs where there are latent stages so also no visual signs.

lonestar

03-20-2006, 02:16 PM

I'm outnumbered here...sorry. I am going to break off.

Dude, just ask yourself...does she look like a good girl?

wordsmith

03-20-2006, 02:17 PM

You've gotta be just baiting. There's no way anybody's actually that dumb.

biodork

03-20-2006, 02:18 PM

You've gotta be just baiting. There's no way anybody's actually that dumb.
I don't know, I thought STD rates were rising.

jdt141

03-20-2006, 02:18 PM

Kitty

03-20-2006, 02:19 PM

Winter Storm

03-20-2006, 02:19 PM

Dude, just ask yourself...does she look like a good girl?

*headfuckingdesk* :confused:

Bugsey34

03-20-2006, 02:22 PM

Dude, just ask yourself...does she look like a good girl?

Tee hee hee... (deep sigh) awww, Lonestar. Good times.

Winter Storm

03-20-2006, 02:23 PM

<re: std talk>
i'm such a fucking moron! :redface:

No, you are not the moron. I agree with you wanting to continue to use condoms for your own peace of mind. There is a lot of trouble that can come from not using them even when you think everything is safe. I'm just trying to find another possible conclusion as a solution.

cheshrcarol

03-20-2006, 02:26 PM

Dude, just ask yourself...does she look like a good girl?I think in your case being stupid WILL eventually hurt :rolleyes: .

wordsmith

03-20-2006, 02:27 PM

I agree. You simply cannot be that moronic.

Anyway, I don't think you should joke about this stuff on a thread where serious advice is asked for. People could read what you write and take it at face value.

Yeah, if you wanna goof around, a thread where somebody's got a problem isn't the best place for it. There's always the just for fun board for all your STD humor needs (I guess).

Since I've been critcized roundly for the STD PSA, please go back to your regularly scheduled discussion about S.O.'s who have limitations on what they'll do and not getting off. Are we all happy now? Hope so.

jdt141

03-20-2006, 02:27 PM

No, you are not the moron. I agree with you wanting to continue to use condoms for your own peace of mind. There is a lot of trouble that can come from not using them even when you think everything is safe. I'm just trying to find another possible conclusion as a solution.

How can I not be a moron? She said she "didn't have any std's", but, really how do I know? Did I ask her if she'd been tested recently? No. I knew I was fine, cuz, well, its awfully damn difficult to catch something if you're not getting any. Now? I'm not so sure. This is a quandry that I had not anticipated. Do I trust her? yes. Do I believe her? Yes. but if she's willing to sleep with me w/o, how many other guys has she w/o... what kind of risk have i put myself at????

This moment of panic would be brought to you by an overconservative upbringing and lack of frank discussion in the public school system.

and1grad

03-20-2006, 02:30 PM

cheshrcarol

03-20-2006, 02:30 PM

Dude, deep breath. If she's on BC, that means she's been to a gyn, which means she's probably been tested. Since you don't think she would like to you, I'm sure everything's fine. But it wouldn't hurt to suggest you both get tested again, just be on the safe side.

embrassezla

03-20-2006, 02:32 PM

*headfuckingdesk* :confused:
Winner.

asdasda

wordsmith

03-20-2006, 02:33 PM

Dude, there's ALWAYS gonna be some level of risk. Dont drive yourself crazy. Either way, you're gonna have a trust issue in this regard. If you dont trust her, maybe stop doing all things sexual and get checked out.

Good call.

And in agreement with Carol, it's par for the course with a reg. gyno checkup, and you said she has some gyno probs, so I'd assume that her bill of health is updated. But for future reference, don't assume. It's just not a good plan.

jdt141

03-20-2006, 02:36 PM

Yeah, if you wanna goof around, a thread where somebody's got a problem isn't the best place for it. There's always the just for fun board for all your STD humor needs (I guess).

Since I've been critcized roundly for the STD PSA, please go back to your regularly scheduled discussion about S.O.'s who have limitations on what they'll do and not getting off. Are we all happy now? Hope so.

No no, this is a much needed tangent! (at least for me!)

jdt141

03-20-2006, 02:38 PM

Good call.

And in agreement with Carol, it's par for the course with a reg. gyno checkup, and you said she has some gyno probs, so I'd assume that her bill of health is updated. But for future reference, don't assume. It's just not a good plan.

I do trust her. I guess my desire at the time to actually finish (in less than an hour) overrode my logical desire to be safe. Thank you all!!! This was very edjumikational

SO! back to the topic at hand... Any ideas???

meatwad

03-20-2006, 02:39 PM

I do trust her. I guess my desire at the time to actually finish (in less than an hour) overrode my logical desire to be safe. Thank you all!!! This was very edjumikational

SO! back to the topic at hand... Any ideas???

Again. I think Trojan makes a rubber that is supposed to help with this.

wordsmith

03-20-2006, 02:39 PM

You didn't answer earlier, as is your right, about how long you ordinarily take to "finish."

If you're somebody who requires a lot of stimulation, you're going to have to figure out some mutually agreeable way of achieving that. Because that's one reason for a delay...insufficient stimulation.

wordsmith

03-20-2006, 02:42 PM

Again. I think Trojan makes a rubber that is supposed to help with this.

Have you used 'em meat?

Cause I'd have to say, of the "shared pleasure" designed ones, the sensation is pretty negligible. That's from my end, though. Just an opinion.

meatwad

03-20-2006, 02:46 PM

Have you used 'em meat?

Cause I'd have to say, of the "shared pleasure" designed ones, the sensation is pretty negligible. That's from my end, though. Just an opinion.

No, I just saw them at the store. I think they're the orange box.

wordsmith

03-20-2006, 02:47 PM

They make a few kinds. ;)

All in all, I feel like they're kinda gimmicky. But that's just an opinion.

meatwad

03-20-2006, 02:54 PM

They make a few kinds. ;)

All in all, I feel like they're kinda gimmicky. But that's just an opinion.

Like the one that has all the little nobules on it. If they came in green, whopper jr would look like a fucking love cactus.

wordsmith

03-20-2006, 03:02 PM

I would probably laugh if "Love Cactus" showed up on a username. Just saying.

meatwad

03-20-2006, 03:06 PM

I would probably laugh if "Love Cactus" showed up on a username. Just saying.

Mwahahahahaha!. Title changed. :twisted:

Don't make me show you my love cactus. :eek:

internut33

03-20-2006, 03:07 PM

Just wack it yourself, let her watch, when yer almost there finish the last 10% with her.

I dunno if anyones gona have an answer for this.

wordsmith

03-20-2006, 03:08 PM

I really think experimenting is your best friend. And, it's fun.

StateNAurora

03-20-2006, 03:19 PM

Our school newspaper tested all of these special condoms. I was disappointed that they didn't have a methods section of their article, so can't be confident of the results. Basically they found them to be no different from regular condoms.

Do a google search for "retarded ejaculation"; seriously I think that’s the technical term for it.

jdt141

03-20-2006, 03:21 PM

I would probably laugh if "Love Cactus" showed up on a username. Just saying.

LMAO :D

xtyassdfasdfa

meatwad

03-20-2006, 03:21 PM

Do a google search for "retarded ejaculation"; seriously I think that’s the technical term for it.

Oh now you're just asking for trouble. I don't even want to know what kind of sites show up with that entry. :eek:

wordsmith

03-20-2006, 03:22 PM

Yeah, all products fall prey to gimmicks.

jdt141

03-20-2006, 03:37 PM

I really think experimenting is your best friend. And, it's fun.

I agree! I'm going to suggest this. :twisted: :D :twisted:

old_school_soul

03-20-2006, 03:46 PM

I recommend Trojan's Polyurethane condoms. It's the only ones I use.. They are non-latex, instead are made from a strechable plastic. When I first started using them, it felt like I was raw dogging. Cost 2x as much, but worth the price.

J-girl

03-20-2006, 03:56 PM

I recommend Trojan's Polyurethane condoms. It's the only ones I use.. .

ROFTLMAO....aaaaaaaaaaaaahhheheh

sorry back to work

meatwad

03-20-2006, 04:16 PM

MetFanL

03-20-2006, 04:31 PM

I still don't get why going for an hour is a bad thing...

and1grad

03-20-2006, 04:34 PM

I still don't get why going for an hour is a bad thing...
LOL! Its tiring! Plus...what if the game's on? :razz:

Kitty

03-20-2006, 04:36 PM

I still don't get why going for an hour is a bad thing...

Well, I can see how it could be if it was one position..which it sounds like it is..

wordsmith

03-20-2006, 04:40 PM

Longer is preferable to shorter. Providing you don't blow out your knees. Or, say, break a headboard.

meatwad

03-20-2006, 04:51 PM

Maybe she's Orthodox Jewish and they have to do it through a hole in the sheet. :confused:

jdt141

03-20-2006, 04:52 PM

Well, I can see how it could be if it was one position..which it sounds like it is..

Yes. I don't really care. We've gone for longer... but still! I guess I could use a little variety throughout the course of the evening? Suggestions on how to bring this up to the wonderful girlfriend???? as in "say this" not "stick foot in mouth"

meatwad

03-20-2006, 04:54 PM

Yes. I don't really care. We've gone for longer... but still! I guess I could use a little variety throughout the course of the evening? Suggestions on how to bring this up to the wonderful girlfriend???? as in "say this" not "stick foot in mouth"

Hey, some guys get off sticking a girls foot in their mouth.

cheshrcarol

03-20-2006, 04:55 PM

An hour in one position? Ok, that just says uncomfortable to me, not hot. I'd say prolong the foreplay for as long as you can and see how that works out.

MetFanL

03-20-2006, 04:57 PM

Yeah, buy a copy of the Kama Sutra. Or, even, the latest issue of Cosmo. You need some variety.

inmediasres

03-20-2006, 05:00 PM

I knew a guy once that hated BJs.

I am male, and I do not enjoy receiving oral sex.

Call me crazy...

paiger81

03-20-2006, 05:02 PM

I am male, and I do not enjoy receiving oral sex.

Call me crazy...

I've heard a few guys who don't like it either. I have a theory that you just haven't had it done right :twisted:

Kitty

03-20-2006, 05:18 PM

Yes. I don't really care. We've gone for longer... but still! I guess I could use a little variety throughout the course of the evening? Suggestions on how to bring this up to the wonderful girlfriend???? as in "say this" not "stick foot in mouth"

Don't talk about it. Just do it. Flip her on her side, throw her legs in the air, etc. Take control! Women love that..at least I do.

internut33

03-20-2006, 05:23 PM

Don't talk about it. Just do it. Flip her on her side, throw her legs in the air, etc. Take control! Women love that..at least I do.

Scissor legs haha :)

wordsmith

03-20-2006, 07:00 PM

I've heard a few guys who don't like it either. I have a theory that you just haven't had it done right :twisted:

Interesting observation. :neutral:

inmediasres

03-20-2006, 07:15 PM

I've heard a few guys who don't like it either. I have a theory that you just haven't had it done right :twisted:

That's quite possible!

StateNAurora

03-20-2006, 07:29 PM

jdt141

03-20-2006, 07:35 PM

Perhaps you're not into her. I know I have to like a girl to really enjoy the sex. I've tried to do the fling thing and it wasn't that good. Or maybe you're not ready to have sex with her. Either way if you're not into her or in the mood things may not workout as you'd like.

no, i'm definetly into her. not the probelm....

I need to practice with her... I'm not sure what to do! hell, i have trouble just making sure peg A gets into slot B half the time!! :redface: :redface: :neutral:

EmberMae

03-20-2006, 07:40 PM

Don't talk about it. Just do it. Flip her on her side, throw her legs in the air, etc. Take control! Women love that..at least I do.

Um, no. Guys who start throwing me around without warning really piss me off. I'm not gumbi and if it hurts I'm not doing it. I'm guessing that given that she already said she doesn't like giving BJs that she's not the type of woman who enjoys being dominated.

I second the Polyurethane condom suggestion. They are quite a bit thinner than latex. I'm not allergic to latex but I prefer these. I prefer Durex Avanti to Trojan because Trojan only makes them with spermacide and I find that irritating.

Also second the more foreplay recommendation. It get yourself more aroused before you start penetration and it won't take as long, I'd think. Foreplay is fun anyway.

SunDevil

03-20-2006, 07:43 PM

Are you on anti-depressants or any other drugs? Have you tried the polyurethane or female condom? There is also a psychological part to it as well.

wordsmith

03-20-2006, 08:00 PM

I wonder how often it occurs that psychological factors contribute to finishing over quickly versus the opposite.

inmediasres

03-20-2006, 08:07 PM

I don't see what the big deal is about finishing too quickly. If you finish, you just go a second time!

Kitty

03-20-2006, 08:38 PM

Um, no. Guys who start throwing me around without warning really piss me off. I'm not gumbi and if it hurts I'm not doing it. I'm guessing that given that she already said she doesn't like giving BJs that she's not the type of woman who enjoys being dominated.

All I'm saying is its a turn-off for me if a guy has to discuss every sexual act before doing it. THat kinda ruins the fun and spontaneousness of it. Maybe that's just me.

And I don't think having a guy flip flip you over or throw up your legs is exactly being "dominated."

But yeah, this chick sounds conservative to say the least, so maybe thats the way to go.

SunDevil

03-20-2006, 09:21 PM

I don't see what the big deal is about finishing too quickly. If you finish, you just go a second time!

I sometimes wonder how common this is. I can go 5,6,7 or more times. Is that normal?

jdt141

03-20-2006, 09:49 PM

Are you on anti-depressants or any other drugs? Have you tried the polyurethane or female condom? There is also a psychological part to it as well.

no drugs of any kind, only one kind of condom so far. i don't think that convincing her to try some new things is going to be difficult. more foreplay! whoo hoo!! :twisted:

Deavan

03-21-2006, 12:22 PM

I know chicks who don't like having guys go down on them. But never the reverse.
Are you kidding I HATE giving BJs but I do it since it is almost freaking expected and since I want the guy to do it to me I do it to them

dragonfire

03-21-2006, 06:19 PM

How about finishing it off in the stink? :eek:
Or, as a friend of mine called it "taking the midnight train to Georgia"

:eek: :eek: :eek: :eek:

To each his own, but here's my $.02

Anal sex is wicked dangerous. First off, you're a zillion times more likely to catch ALL kinds of bacterial/viral/etc. infections. This is why HIV and a host of other STDs are WAY more prevelant in gay men. Even if your girl has no STDs, she still has the same bacteria up there that the rest of us have. You'd be putting yourself at risk..

Plus, you can also cause major physical damage -- I won't be graphic, but the membranes are only a couple cells' thick and fragile. I've read about gay men ending up with collostomy bags because they had accidents.

I didn't read through ALL the posts, but in case nobody brought it up, how about porn? :D

jdt141

03-21-2006, 07:27 PM

:eek: :eek: :eek: :eek:
I didn't read through ALL the posts, but in case nobody brought it up, how about porn? :D

Honestly, I'm not that big on porn. I seriously doubt she is.

wordsmith

03-21-2006, 07:57 PM

If BJs are a bit beyond the comfort level for her, I'd assume porn isn't probably a vice of choice.

Winter Storm

03-21-2006, 08:03 PM

So she doen't like blowjobs or porn? Are you sure this is the type of girl you wanna get involved with?

:confused:

jdt141

03-22-2006, 08:11 AM

So she doen't like blowjobs or porn? Are you sure this is the type of girl you wanna get involved with?

:confused:

LOL. there's more to life than smut!

old_school_soul

03-22-2006, 10:24 AM

to the OP,

How long does it take you to orgasm when you spank the hank?

wordsmith

03-22-2006, 11:15 AM

Oral sex is smut?

jdt141

03-22-2006, 11:20 AM

Oral sex is smut?

as defined by merriam webster...

smut(n): 3 : obscene language or matter

So, yes... at least in my mind.

wordsmith

03-22-2006, 11:42 AM

Okay. So oral sex is obscene, yet vaginal sex is not. Interesting.

Kitty

03-22-2006, 11:45 AM

Dude, if you think oral sex is smut...I don't know what to tell you. It sounds like you both have major sex hang-ups...

Good luck.

and1grad

03-22-2006, 11:49 AM

Maybe thinking that kinda stuff is smut could make for some interesting nights tho. Like "We're gonna be dirty tonight" for you is just a normal day in the park for the rest of us. *shrug*

Cole

03-22-2006, 03:15 PM

wow, what an amusing thread.

Lasting a long time is definitely better than being too fast, but I know I had a bf who always liked to go for an hour or more and eventually it got super uncomfortable for me.

JDT my recommendation - aisde from the aforementioned experimenting with different condoms etc - would be to see if she'll let you do her from behind. (I'm not talking anal sex) It can be a little tricky, but every guy I've ever been with came way fast in that position. It makes things a lot tighter so there's more friction.

So you know... do your thing, get her off however works best for her (it's not a great position for stimulating the girl, unfortunately) and then see if she'll flip over for you. ;) I know for me I pretty much have to be on top to get enough stimulation to climax, so we usually do that first and then I do whatever the guy wants/needs. (you know, if me being on top didn't work for him, too.)

jdt141

03-23-2006, 08:45 AM

Okay. So oral sex is obscene, yet vaginal sex is not. Interesting.

I didn't say that, or mean that, either. I was just using the word "smut" in a more general term. I don't think its dirty or gross, really... if I did would I go down on her? I think not.

ebruening

03-23-2006, 06:47 PM

JDT my recommendation - aisde from the aforementioned experimenting with different condoms etc - would be to see if she'll let you do her from behind. (I'm not talking anal sex) It can be a little tricky, but every guy I've ever been with came way fast in that position. It makes things a lot tighter so there's more friction.

So you know... do your thing, get her off however works best for her (it's not a great position for stimulating the girl, unfortunately) and then see if she'll flip over for you. ;) I know for me I pretty much have to be on top to get enough stimulation to climax, so we usually do that first and then I do whatever the guy wants/needs. (you know, if me being on top didn't work for him, too.)

JDT - I second Cole's recommendation. I've found that even with condoms, every guy I have been with has preferred this position over all others. However, in my experience at least, you have to be really careful with this position if you are much bigger than she is. I have a relatively small build - 5'2"ish and weigh 102 - and my partners have always tended to be much bigger than I am - usually above 6' tall and weigh over 200 lbs. I've found that position to be EXTREMELY painful if the guy doesn't start off very slow and very gentle.

ebruening

03-23-2006, 06:50 PM

Lasting a long time is definitely better than being too fast, but I know I had a bf who always liked to go for an hour or more and eventually it got super uncomfortable for me.

I agree. I take a LONG time to climax; if a guy can last as long as I do, I'm very happy, indeed.

Winter Storm

03-23-2006, 07:26 PM

LOL. there's more to life than smut!

There is?

:)

jdt141

03-23-2006, 08:43 PM

I agree. I take a LONG time to climax; if a guy can last as long as I do, I'm very happy, indeed.

See I think she has the reverse "problem"... in that it doesn't take her very long at all to orgasm. This is good for her, I admit it.

I'm mad at her at the moment anyway. End of thread.