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bondgirl007
03-23-2006, 12:48 AM
Hi everyone. I am so happy to have found this website. After reading some of the posts I am already starting to feel better about life. I seriously almost started crying reading some of them because I have felt so alone and hopeless lately and it is a relief to know I'm not the only one out there who is struggling right now with all of this.
Just a quick summary I guess - I have graduated with a degree in political science and am now suffering from of huge expectation hangover. I guess I thought for sure I'd walk out of my last final and into some great and successful career. Boy was I wrong. After all of the time, effort and money, I feel I have nothing to show for it. So now I find myself living with my parents against my will because I cannot afford to move out and my sanity cannot afford roommates.
I currently have the dead-end of all dead-end jobs where I am at the bottom of the food chain and make, well, not very much. I pretty much have no social life, no love life, no friends (they all have gone off and apparently done something with their lives like get married or whatever - that's known as having arrived around here - I'm considered an old maid cause I'm 23 and haven't married yet - anywhoo...), and I feel like the clock is ticking and I have already wasted so much time and blown any chance at having a successful life.
I come from a incredibly religious family and well, lets just say my parents would rather see me serisously injured than stray from the flock. This is the source of much conflict and grief between us. The comments never end! But religion is a whole other can to open up and it's bursting at the seams.
So anyway, thanks for letting my vent about and share my current situation. I guess I could have real problems like most people in this world but this whole quarter-life crisis thing has really taken its toll on me.
I wish you all the best in dealing with this and I look forward to talking to you about all of the problems we are going through.
You guys are awesome!




The first thing was, I learned to forgive myself. Then I said, "go ahead and do whatever you want, it's okay by me!" - Jack Handy

wastingyears
03-23-2006, 10:03 AM
Oh dear. You're me. I did the same thing. Poli Sci degree - thought I'd waltz right into something - fell flat instead - seemed like everyone else moved on and up - basically all of it but the religion. I will say this though - I know how it is to feel like you've blown it and have missed the train to the rest of your life. It feels like you had one chance and now you'll be perpetually behind. But it doesn't work like that.

It doesn't feel like it, but you really do have plenty of time. Your 20's are going to be about wiggling around and getting settled into your new role as an independent adult with a life to craft. You won't figure it all out tomorrow or next year or 5 or 10. But things will take shape gradually. The trick is to let go a little bit and let the process happen without watching the clock. It's always hard to do, and I sometimes wonder whether it's only possible to get this idea in hindsight, but it seems to be the trick.

I promise you you have plenty of time. You just have to let go of what have turned out to be uninformed expectations. Get out there and live a little bit and you'll develop new ones. You feel like you can see a bleak path extending out to the horizon, but what you'll find is that things will change in ways you didn't expect, and life will unfold, and the time spent waiting for it will seem small in retrospect.

I do hear you though. I know what it feels like. So good luck.

RealChic1999
03-23-2006, 11:01 AM
My aunt got a poli sci degree from Columbia...and I usually thought that people used those degrees as a steppingstone to get into law. However, she ended up moving to LA and worked for the music industry for a few years...then she moved to London and now works for TV. She is also getting her Master's in linguistics.

Don't let your degrees limit you...finding the right fit involves taking risks. I have a theater degree and there are times when I wish I had gotten a more "substantial" degree...but that's in the past and I am working towards bettering the future.