Silly Boys

[Deavan]

Alrighty folks (feel free to drink to this thread) but here is the latest developments in my world in terms to boys... this is more for entertainment I would say but feedback is ALWAYS welcome!

So in the last month 4 boys have CRAWLED out of the brickwork and have expressed interest in me...

1 of them plays on my soccer team, he is a hottie BUT he also has a "player rep" and is always juggling 4 girls at once...1 of them is friends with all the soccer guys and comes to the games to watch...I am not physically attracted to him but he is REALLY fun, Really nice, and a genuine guy, AND oh yeah he happens to be independantly wealthy he has done well for himself, he is also the oldest of the guys interested in me at 33...

1 of them went to college with me and I was his RA, this one told me that he has been "in love with me since the day we met but he was 17 at the time and I was 21 so it was not a reality, now that he is 22 and I am 26 he decided that it could happen so he "put himself out there" and told me....I was flattered and surprised

The other one is also from my college but I didn't know him until after college when his best friend and my best friend got together and now are getting married...he lives in NY, and he totally expressed interest in me, ALSO a huge surprise...

So its like should I just casually date ALL of them, or should I pick one?

I am so not complaining it is just a surprising development in my life!

[Empressallie]

Wow girl, you got it going on. Well, which one (s) are you drawn to the most? Honestly I wouldnt bother with the one you arent attracted to, you cant force that and its a necessary part of any romantic relationship. And how do you feel about the younger dude? I am dating a guy only 5 months younger than me and he calls me an "older woman" as a joke (yeah, cause between feb and aug. of 1983 a hell of a lot happened...). I dont know if i could date a guy that much younger tho - due to inevitable maturity differences.

p.s. What's your secret? ;)

[Deavan]

Wow girl, you got it going on. Well, which one (s) are you drawn to the most? Honestly I wouldnt bother with the one you arent attracted to, you cant force that and its a necessary part of any romantic relationship. And how do you feel about the younger dude? I am dating a guy only 5 months younger than me and he calls me an "older woman" as a joke (yeah, cause between feb and aug. of 1983 a hell of a lot happened...). I dont know if i could date a guy that much younger tho - due to inevitable maturity differences.

p.s. What's your secret? ;)


LOL I have NO IDEA what my secret is! It came as a complete surprise as to me as well!

The younger guy is a SWEETHEART he also lives in CT (I am in MA) and he is a good guy I just need to stop seeing him as a "kid" in order for that to work, and in all honesty he is more mature then the average 22 year old, but I still see some "immature things" with him as well.

To be honest I am inexplicably drawn to the guy in NY (of course the one that is furthest away)

And the hottie from my soccer team is a nice guy but the whole "player thing" turns me off of anything serious I guess, that would be purely fun I would say...

And the one I am not physically attracted too would probably treat me the best (NOT IN A MONETARY WAY) but so would the NY guy...

So I am just confused I should probably figure out what exactly it is that I am looking for and then proceed from their...

[AI3]

poor you

Quote from Empressallie

"Honestly I wouldnt bother with the one you arent attracted to, you cant force that and its a necessary part of any romantic relationship. And how do you feel about the younger dude? I am dating a guy only 5 months younger than me and he calls me an "older woman" as a joke (yeah, cause between feb and aug. of 1983 a hell of a lot happened...). I dont know if i could date a guy that much younger tho - due to inevitable maturity differences."

Hi Shallow.....also age is just a number. :googly:


I'd pick the one who treats you best. Physical appearance does not last forever.

[RealChic1999]

I wish I had eligible suitors...the men who are older than my grandfather and the thugs that loiter on the corner who hit on me do not count. :googly:

Good for you! You could make a "Bachelor Show" game (cheesy, I know) out of it!

[Chameleon]

poor you

Quote from Empressallie

"Honestly I wouldnt bother with the one you arent attracted to, you cant force that and its a necessary part of any romantic relationship. And how do you feel about the younger dude? I am dating a guy only 5 months younger than me and he calls me an "older woman" as a joke (yeah, cause between feb and aug. of 1983 a hell of a lot happened...). I dont know if i could date a guy that much younger tho - due to inevitable maturity differences."

Hi Shallow.....also age is just a number. :googly:


I'd pick the one who treats you best. Physical appearance does not last forever.

Are you kidding? You should date someone you aren't attracted to because they are nice?! There has to be some level of physical chemistry there to begin with. And I think Empressallie was trying to encourage Deavan not to dismiss the younger dude because of his age.

[Empressallie]

AI3 - wow no one can say anything around here without getting jumped on! Holy crap having an opinion is ok! I was just responding to her situation with my personal thoughts and experiences (which i think is what she was going for here..)

And even if you dont agree with someone, just think of it as thought provoking. Don't call me shallow.

[Deavan]

AI3 - wow no one can say anything around here without getting jumped on! Holy crap having an opinion is ok! I was just responding to her situation with my personal thoughts and experiences (which i think is what she was going for here..)

And even if you dont agree with someone, just think of it as thought provoking. Don't call me shallow.

Yeah I was just looking for feedback and I totally understood your point about the age...and yeah physical chemistry is important

[AI3]

AI3 - wow no one can say anything around here without getting jumped on! Holy crap having an opinion is ok! I was just responding to her situation with my personal thoughts and experiences (which i think is what she was going for here..)

And even if you dont agree with someone, just think of it as thought provoking. Don't call me shallow.


well you shouldn't have said she shouldn't bother with the unattractive one. ;):

Besides if there was ZERO chemistry between the four guys she wouldn't have to debate about them, they probably would have been dropped out of the equation from the beginning. Am I right? Yes i have noticed this site is full of sensitive people who tend to get their panties in a bunch and I'm not one of them. I'm just sticking up for the ugly ones also. ;):

[AI3]

Yeah I was just looking for feedback and I totally understood your point about the age...and yeah physical chemistry is important

if there wasn't physical chem with the ugly guy then why include him in your list?

[Deavan]

if there wasn't physical chem with the ugly guy then why include him in your list?


Because you never know he maybe able to rock my world in bed ;) and because he expressed interest in me, which was what the original post was talking about...

[AI3]

Because you never know he maybe able to rock my world in bed ;) and because he expressed interest in me, which was what the original post was talking about...


exactly! This is why I was saying don't dismiss someone based on the outside. Many have so much to offer inside and people tend to miss out on it since they might not be a 9-10 ;):

This is coming form one of the most shallow SOB in here :0

[biodork]

well you shouldn't have said she shouldn't bother with the unattractive one. ;):
:confused:

There is a difference between thinking someone is unattractive and not being attracted to someone. Not being attracted to someone isn't shallow. Emprassallie was talking about the lack of physical chemistry. And I happen to agree with her, you shouldn't start a relationship with the thought "maybe I will learn to be attracted to him" especially if you've already hung out with the guy a lot and nothing has sparked.

[AI3]

LOL :googly: silly girls

[Empressallie]

Hhaha, I just don't see how you could even make out with (let alone wham bam) a person you dont find attractive. It just wont be pleasant. Usually (although there are always the odd couples of Hot guy/plain jane and dumpy dude/hot chick) people tend to gravitate towards people at their hotness level.

I dont think Deavan should, or would, string a rich ugly dude along, praying to one day wake up and think he's cute. WOuldn't that be more shallow?

[AI3]

Hhaha, I just don't see how you could even make out with (let alone wham bam) a person you dont find attractive. It just wont be pleasant. Usually (although there are always the odd couples of Hot guy/plain jane and dumpy dude/hot chick) people tend to gravitate towards people at their hotness level.

I dont think Deavan should, or would, string a rich ugly dude along, praying to one day wake up and think he's cute. WOuldn't that be more shallow?

I've made out with ugly girls before. The guy with money will always have girls on his nuts. So if she can't deal with that then he should be eliminated esp if she knows he can be a player. Allie i wasn't ripping on you...it was kind of a joke reaction. Why don't you girls just find a good looking rich guy to take care of you?? oh I forgot the nice rich guys only marry 10's.

[Empressallie]

haha i gotcha :)

[Deavan]

I've made out with ugly girls before. The guy with money will always have girls on his nuts. So if she can't deal with that then he should be eliminated esp if she knows he can be a player. Allie i wasn't ripping on you...it was kind of a joke reaction. Why don't you girls just find a good looking rich guy to take care of you?? oh I forgot the nice rich guys only marry 10's.

The guy with money isnt the player the HOT soccer dude is :)

[AI3]

The guy with money isnt the player the HOT soccer dude is :)

Nice edit lol I liked "millionaire" better

well I mis read it since they were in the same paragraph

[inmediasres]

Honestly I think girls are worse than guys about being shallow.

Money, power, and looks in a man, that's what you girls want.

I just want a nice, intelligent girl to grow old with. It's very simple.

[wordsmith]

Neither gender has a monopoly on shallowness. There are both males and females who aren't horribly shallow...they're just not that easy to find.

[Kitty]

poor you

Quote from Empressallie

"Honestly I wouldnt bother with the one you arent attracted to, you cant force that and its a necessary part of any romantic relationship. And how do you feel about the younger dude? I am dating a guy only 5 months younger than me and he calls me an "older woman" as a joke (yeah, cause between feb and aug. of 1983 a hell of a lot happened...). I dont know if i could date a guy that much younger tho - due to inevitable maturity differences."

Hi Shallow.....also age is just a number. :googly:


I'd pick the one who treats you best. Physical appearance does not last forever.

Aren't you also the one who said you don't like white girls because they're too pasty!?

[AI3]

Aren't you also the one who said you don't like white girls because they're too pasty!?
Definitely not since I'm seeing a white girl ;):

[Kitty]

Definitely not since I'm seeing a white girl ;):

Oops, my mistake!

[cheshrcarol]

Honestly I think girls are worse than guys about being shallow.

Money, power, and looks in a man, that's what you girls want.

I just want a nice, intelligent girl to grow old with. It's very simple.Maybe if you didn't assume that all girls want $$, power and looks, then you'd find one :rolleyes: . Can't say that I blame a smart girl for not going out with you.

[wordsmith]

I'm not looking for a rich guy. I'm pretty sure a rich guy would take one look at my low-earning ass and go, "Yeah, right." Why bother with somebody who's not gonna like the fact that I work for love and not money? I don't feel like getting flak for my job. That old priority difference will get you every time.

[Illuminous]

ah yes, internet forum posts are the best way of telling how a girl really is. It's the key to our soul. And the key to our heart? Insulting us.

[pisces2473]

Inmediares--why don't YOU give it a rest? You continuously post negative comments, both towards people and in general. If there aren't enough "cool girls" on these forums, maybe you should seek out a different venue for your depressing diatribes. I noticed that you've also managed to practically put down the entire city of Boston, which leads me to believe that maybe the problem isn't with women or where you live...maybe it's YOU.

Consider this a warning.

[inuts]

Alrighty folks (feel free to drink to this thread) but here is the latest developments in my world in terms to boys... this is more for entertainment I would say but feedback is ALWAYS welcome!

So in the last month 4 boys have CRAWLED out of the brickwork and have expressed interest in me...

1 of them plays on my soccer team, he is a hottie BUT he also has a "player rep" and is always juggling 4 girls at once...1 of them is friends with all the soccer guys and comes to the games to watch...I am not physically attracted to him but he is REALLY fun, Really nice, and a genuine guy, AND oh yeah he happens to be independantly wealthy he has done well for himself, he is also the oldest of the guys interested in me at 33...

1 of them went to college with me and I was his RA, this one told me that he has been "in love with me since the day we met but he was 17 at the time and I was 21 so it was not a reality, now that he is 22 and I am 26 he decided that it could happen so he "put himself out there" and told me....I was flattered and surprised

The other one is also from my college but I didn't know him until after college when his best friend and my best friend got together and now are getting married...he lives in NY, and he totally expressed interest in me, ALSO a huge surprise...

So its like should I just casually date ALL of them, or should I pick one?

I am so not complaining it is just a surprising development in my life!

I know it's a little late, but congratulations!

[Maverick434]

Honestly I think girls are worse than guys about being shallow.

Money, power, and looks in a man, that's what you girls want.

I just want a nice, intelligent girl to grow old with. It's very simple.

I don't like to stereotype the entire gender of women. I carry myself well, have done quite well for myself and I do not chase women or engage in random hookups. Therefore I don't want women to say "all guys are dogs" or something similar.

However, I know quite a few women who back up the whole "Money, power and looks." I know several women who love the illusion of wealth, regardless of the level of financial debt taken on by the man. My own mother and sister falling trap to this ideal and others on a similar line. Women do seem to love power, just as much as they love a man with confidence.

My advice...go with what your gut tells you. Don't casually date more than one guy at once, I'm afraid that may come back to bite you in the form of bad karma. Too many eggs in one basket is bad.

Lance