When Everything in Your Life in Transitional

[jrwilheim]

Anybody else having this kind of QLC? Since graduating from college about three years ago, I've lived in two cities (Wichita, where my family is, and New York), and two boroughs withiin the same city (Manhattan and Brooklyn), and, since leaving home, three different apartments, the longest for about 19 months. Of the 36 months since graduation, I have been unemployed 16, in stretches of 13 months and 3 months. The twenty months I've been employed have been divided between two jobs, one for eight months, one for ten and a half.

Is anyone else sick of feeling like everything in your life is jerry-built, temporary, ephemeral? Anyone else looking for a little stability and unable to find it?

[ScottyTheBody]

Anybody else having this kind of QLC? Since graduating from college about three years ago, I've lived in two cities (Wichita, where my family is, and New York), and two boroughs withiin the same city (Manhattan and Brooklyn), and, since leaving home, three different apartments, the longest for about 19 months. Of the 36 months since graduation, I have been unemployed 16, in stretches of 13 months and 3 months. The twenty months I've been employed have been divided between two jobs, one for eight months, one for ten and a half.

Is anyone else sick of feeling like everything in your life is jerry-built, temporary, ephemeral? Anyone else looking for a little stability and unable to find it?

Yeah this is a big part of my QLC. I'm in coop and move to a new place about every four months (in the past three years I have lived in 10 different houses with 20 different roomates). It makes creating meaningful relationships/great friendships very difficult to have. It's especially difficult for myself because I'm quiet and around the third month I start to turn around and start to get comfortable and then I move again. I also don't get to see my closer friends as much as I'd like to since I'm always on the go.

I guess that's just a part of life. Everything is impermanent.

[capella]

I used to feel this way. Things do sort of have a way of just fitting together when they do. It's not something you can rush. It took a while to get settled in after the post-college changes came barreling down on me. But it happens. The only constant in life is change. As settled as I am right now, I know that things can change pretty quickly. You gotta roll with the punches. Life isn't going to stop throwing them. :googly:

[wordsmith]

Life pretty much IS transition.

[Kitty]

I love transition.

[yankeeyosh]

Yup. I lived in FIVE cities since 2002, and FOUR since last July. I've had several periods of unemployment...although fortunately, the longest was only a couple of months. I've bounced around from job to job, so I know what it's like. It's almost routine now.

[Jedi of Zen]

I'm currently stuck living at home - in a town I hate - until I finish my degree. I know that I want to move as soon as I finish school, but yet I find myself feeling lonely all the time, and wanting to meet new people, etc. Yet I have nothing in common with hardly anyone I meet here. Then I wonder, if I decided to just get into that mindset of pretending that I really do like it here and would not mind staying, would I then just magically all of a sudden meet someone new? After all, they say that sort of thing is most likely to happen when you least expect it. Then I just get tired of thinking about it and decide to go play Resident Evil.

[BLK95TA]

Anybody else having this kind of QLC?

hows this, you have no job, your roommate is getting deployed in a week and you lose your housing, your prized posession, a sports car, is damaged in a car wash and is costing you a $500 deductible to get $1500 in damages repaired... and to top it off your suffereing from depression..
also have been unemployed a total of 7 minths in the last 2 and a half years, 1 month stretch in march 04, 5 month stretch from may 2005 to november 2005, and 1 month from march 23rd to present

thats me.. :mad:

[Deadend]

Is anyone else sick of feeling like everything in your life is jerry-built, temporary, ephemeral? Anyone else looking for a little stability and unable to find it?

No Sh*t.

Yo, I haven't lived in one place for more than 8 months in SEVEN YEARS (and the vast majority of that not living in one place more than 4 months). Damn right I'm sick of it. That time was speant bouncing between 4 differant cities all in southern and easter Ontario. It's like I've moved so much, and yet I've never been able to escape.

Is it any wonder why a serious relationship was really starting to appeal to me?

[bridgetjones]

Yeah I feel it. Although I cannot relate to moving around since I have not moved. However I have not held a job longer than a year and I want to stay with the company I am at for a while to let that part settle. Friends have not remained permanent and they come, go, etc... There is less than a handful of ppl outside family that have been constant or there for me. It is more about ppl and jobs for me. I do not yet want a serious relationship but I am sick of going thru ppl. Does that make sense?

[winneythepooh7]

Life pretty much IS transition.

I agree. Also I have noticed in my own life, when you start to feel settled, things usually change pretty quickly, even out of the blue. And it doesn't have to be for the "negative" either. Although positive changes also can be really stressful (like moving and promotions).