There is truly something wrong with me!

[golfgirl827]

Heres yet another post when the guy doesnt call...

So I was out at a work reception on Wed night and was with a collegue and we were introduced to this guy and his co-worker. He and I chatted for a bit and they had somewhere to be as well as us. So he took my cell number and said that he'd call us and see where we were later. We all met up later at this other bar and he and I were having great conversation. Well he walked me to my car at like 1AM and then we talked for like 45 minutes and then kissed goodnight. He said and HE SAID not me, that hed call in the next day or two.....NOTHING and me being the idiot called just to leave a quick message on his cell to say hi...NOTHING in return. PLAIN RUDE thats what I call it....

This has been happening to me lately and I cannot understand it. Ive been asking my co-workers who are brutally honest whats wrong with me and no one seems to figure it out....

Any thoughts???

[TankgirlyC]

Sometimes saying he will call is him just being polite.
Dont give into the temptation to call....I know its hard but leave it be...
If you see him out again casually ask "hey you never called, but thats ok, we are hanging out now" and leave it at that.

[pisces2473]

Golfgirl, I've been there. It seems like I'm always there. It's like, if you DON'T want to call, DON'T say you're going to! It's so much nicer that way. I hate fake people. If you didn't like me, just say, "It was great meeting you...have a good night." One of my dates said that once and I didn't have a great time and I knew it wasn't going to work out and I didn't expect him to call. But another guy told me that he had fun, would call me, etc only for me to find out later that he didn't think it would work out.

I don't think girls say "I'll call you"--do they? Why do guys do it then?

[TankgirlyC]

I think some girls say Ill call you....but most dont because they still think its the guys job....

Take it out of his hands. Dont give him your number...ASK FOR HIS! Then its on you to call him....say Ill call you..if he smiles...call if he doesnt seem keen then dont.....then call him up at some point out of the blue just for kicks.

[coll214]

It's VERY annoying when someone says they're going to call and they don't; guy or girl. Although having a nice time w/ a guy and then having him not call is just RUDE. They shouldn't ask for your number and say it if they don't mean it. And golfgirl- i'm sure it's not anything you've done; just the guy being that- a guy. I"m actually surprised when a guy calls when he says, i just assume they aren't going to call and try not to get my hopes up...

[RedHead1420]

so the next time a guy says "ill call you" follow that up with "will you really or are you just saying that?" or something like. i prefer to just be direct and know, rather than sit around secretly hoping that the phone will ring and then getting mad when it doesnt. just my two cents.

[pisces2473]

Originally posted by RedHead1420
so the next time a guy says "ill call you" follow that up with "will you really or are you just saying that?" or something like. i prefer to just be direct and know, rather than sit around secretly hoping that the phone will ring and then getting mad when it doesnt. just my two cents.

But if you say that, won't it freak a guy out and make him change his mind (that is, if he was going to call in the first place!)???

[girlinterrupted]

Yeah I agree with pisces. That is a little too heavy handed for someone you just met. If you meet someone you like and they ask for your number, give it to them and then ask for theirs. If they really liked you enough to try to get together with you again, they will hand it right over. If they didn't, they will be a little weird about it. Just read the signs. If you aren't sure, call once and leave it at that. Then go on with your life! If he calls, great! If not, great! No big loss.

[pisces2473]

If the guy doesn't seem that interested in you calling (even though he seemed plenty interested at the bar), chances are he's a jerk.

[Sameboat]

Friends: What about if people you know before you leave say "call me". Do you think that is better than them saying I'll call? It does put the ball in your court. Phones are funny things.

[RedHead1420]

Originally posted by goodgirl
Yeah I agree with pisces. That is a little too heavy handed for someone you just met.

i see your point, but if you can pull it off in a joking/flirty manner it can work. my point was that people play way too many games when it comes to dating, it'd be much easier if people were honest and more direct. that's all.

[pisces2473]

I agree with you on that one...people need to just be honest. If you had a fun time w/ me on this ONE date, but don't want to see me again, then don't say you'll call or we should do it again. "It was fun, nice to meet you" will suffice.