Anonymous
10-19-2001, 07:37 PM
i totally get where you are coming from. when i graduated at 22 back in 1997, i was also so depressed and complained constantly about how hard it was to meet people. i had no good friends for over a year. but almost 5 years later, i have more friends than i can deal with sometimes. every weekend i am doing exciting things, like going to parties, sailing, hiking and concerts with my many groups of friends. yes, it isnt like college, where you just meet people by breathing, but what those people say about dating also applies to meeting people. it happens when you aren't really looking, and making friends takes time. i met some cool people through work-fortunately for me i live in a City with tons of people in their 20s and 30s. i also met people through friends of people i knew from before. never underestimate where you can find friends-one of my closest friends i met because my mom's friend told me has friend's friend's daughter had just moved to my city and didnt know anyone. it sounded dumb to call her, but i did and we are good friends now. also try friends of roommates, and people you meet in clubs. sometimes a person you may not connect with might lead you to someone who you do connect with. take a class-i met people in grad school classes, who introduced me to more cool people. and be patient, friendships dont happen as fast as they do in college, because you are not continually exposed to people. the thing is about your 20s-it IS harder to meet people, but because everyone knows it is harder, they are more willing to meet new people. plus there is something to networking-the more people you meet, the more people you meet. so be bold, dont put yourself down by saying you're too shy, not interesting enough or attractive enough-chances are the only thing you need is a little confidence!