I'm back and in need of help

[RenChick]

Hi everyone! I don't know who here remembers me, but I was posting for a while and then my life took a turn for the worse. But I'm back now and in need of some emotional peer support and help.

I'm moving back to NJ (where I grew up) from CT (where I moved for my (now ex) boyfriend and (now ex) job) because I cannot find a job here. I've been looking for a place with a few friends of mine, but anyone who lives in North Jersey knows that it's almost impossible for 3 young 20's "kids" to find a place they can afford. So now I'm forced to move back into my parents house till I find something. I think I'm going through depression right now, too... which is not good. Oh yeah, and I don't know what to do with my Queen size (practically brand new) bed that I have here in CT. Is anyone going through the same thing and can anyone help me out? Thanx!

[Calichickee9]

Hi Rachel! I'm brand new to this site, so I don't really know your whole story. It must have been hard to break up with your ex and lose a job at the same time, and then to have to move on top of all that. The thing that I can really relate to is living in my mom's house and prices being so high where I live (Stockton,CA). Lately I've been feeling really bad about living at home, like I'm not being a responsible adult. Of course, most of this is stuff that my abusive ex boyfriend put into my head. I want to be independent so bad. I so want to live on my own. I feel that I'm ready in every way except financially. It's so hard because I'm working on my Masters degree, so I can't work full time and do internships and classes at the same time. My parents are totally cool with the arrangement, but I get concerned about what other people think about it. I personally think that it is good that you are moving back in with them so that you can get back on your feet. How do they feel about you coming back? Are they happy? Hope everything goes well with you!
Christy

[RenChick]

Hi, and welcome. /phpBB/images/smiles/icon_smile.gif
The background of my story is a bit long and drawn out, but if you care to hear it, feel free to email me. I'm excited about moving back home because I miss my friends, but at the same time I feel as if I've been kicked back a few steps. I never went away to school, so when I moved out I felt a big sigh of independent relief and now, moving back in, i feel like I'm losing my independence. My parents feel the same way ~ they got used to having an empty house (my brother is away @ college) and they said that things will not be the same as they were b4 I left. They don't want me to be a freeloader ~ and I told them that I plan on working (no matter where) and I plan on paying them rent. So while they're happy to see me come back, at the same time, they don't want me to think that I can just go running home to mommy when something goes wrong. So there ya have it.. that's how my parents feel.
Talk to you soon