Dry Spells?

[blue_monday]

How do you all deal with dry spells?

I’m not necessarily talking about sex, but how do deal with need to be intimate with somebody when you are going through a dry spell.

Recently I find myself longing to cuddle, hold hands with, and bury my head into the neck of somebody. I work in a small office and moved to a new town so I haven’t met anybody new in a really long time. Going to bars isn’t really my scene and since I’m new to town I don’t have any opportunities to meet friends of friends etc.

[careerstudent]

Take a trip to New Orleans and go to Bourbon Street. There is no shortage of people there looking for the same thing. If you go out there after 11:00, you're sure get picked up with no problem :huge:

[wordsmith]

Suck it up and live with it if you're not into one-nighters and flings for the sake of "blowing off steam." If of the moment, gratification sex is something you're cool with...it's not tough to find. In fact, I'd say it's exponentially easier, from a female perspective, to find somebody to have sex with you than it is to find somebody who will cuddle and snuggle with you.

[blue_monday]

i'm a male, i should have clarified that.

[wordsmith]

I wondered. That also makes a diff.

It's a gross generalization, but I've noticed that women tend to be MUCH more tolerant of dry spells than most men.

[Chameleon]

There's always Cuddle Parties (http://www.cuddleparty.com) :razz:

Partner dancing is also an option, as long as you aren't creepy and gropey.

[Umbra]

Take up the art of video gaming or just read a book.

[Kitty]

Be more pro-active about ending the dry spell?

[TheBeve]

Go to the gym and max out your workout routine, or just work out until you are out of steam. It will do three things:
1) Get your mind off of it
2) Release some of that tension
3) Get you in better shape for when your dry spell ends! ;):

[wordsmith]

Beve! Speaking of dry spells, IM me!

(Hah, bet THAT got your attention! :huge: )

[SmilesSoSweet]

How do you all deal with dry spells?

I’m not necessarily talking about sex, but how do deal with need to be intimate with somebody when you are going through a dry spell.

Recently I find myself longing to cuddle, hold hands with, and bury my head into the neck of somebody. I work in a small office and moved to a new town so I haven’t met anybody new in a really long time. Going to bars isn’t really my scene and since I’m new to town I don’t have any opportunities to meet friends of friends etc.

This sounds exactly like me, except I'm female. I moved to a new state last year and work with just three (soon to be five) people in this office, so I don't get many opportunities to meet people and stuff.

Every once in awhile I'll long to be in a relationship and stuff, but I know that if a relationship isn't in the near future then I'm not about to just hook up with someone either. I try and do other things to not think about my dry spell.

[blue_monday]

Yea, I did other things and didn’t really think about my dry spell until my ex-girlfriend moved into town. I moved to where I am now because I used to live with her and really needed distance to heal because she broke up with me after 2.5 years together. She and I have similar interests and I keep running into her and her new boyfriend constantly, I think that amplifies my whole dry spell situation.

[lonestar]

New Order fan?

[blue_monday]

yep, new order fan.

[Lesrain]

What did you do to meet your ex-girlfriend? Would you do the same things again to meet some one new? What would you change? I know it can be hard to "find time", but I really think you should invest concentrated time in meeting new people you want to have longer term relationships with - female and male. Have you tried attending a local church etc.?