No Safety Net...

[Sam]

I was wondering if anyone out there is in a similiar situation. I have no safety net, some of you have parents who would take you back and let you live at home. However, my parents kicked me out 2.5 years ago. I used to have a safety net in my school activites. I just finished 5 years of student government and even served as the student body president. Most of my friends are there for me but, I really don't feel I have a saftey net. I am off walking away from problems. I think the quote from Jerry Macguire fits me well, good at dating, bad at intimacy. I can let my friends in very easily, and have these wonderful conversations, but I never truly feel like I can be safe. I am heading off to the working world and I am really scared about the fact if i were to get laid off or some other event like that, I wouldn't have a safety net to fall into. Anyone else out there with a similiar situation?

[Anonymous]

There are many many people out there in the same situation (practicall verbatium). Anyway, about the whole safety net thing...just thing about it this way. If you were married in college and had a kid by now where would your safety net be then? Even if you had parents to go home to you really couldn't bring your wife and child in good conscious. Most people don't have the safety net that you are talking about. So we give to ourselves what others can' or won't give to us. Once you start working come up with a budget. A percentage goes to your life, a percentage to your retirement, a percentage to your safety net. So if you do get laid off (and it has happened) you will have money saved for those annoying things like rent and food. Somewhere along the line our generation was never taught the age old wisdom.."save for a rainy day" for that rainy day will never tell you when it will come.

Good Luck!
Oh, and about the intimacy. Get honest with yourself first. Ask yourself why you can't really open up to people and feel safe. THis is about you,YOU not about them. Someone (or more than one) must have hurt yo in the past..instead of running away from it finally face it (for it is affecting you more by running than facing it). Forgive them, and move on. The shadows of the past live in the future when we chose to ignore them. They are always there.

Lots of Love and Kisses
A girl whose been there and done that!

[Sam]

As we all know this job market sucked and coming out of college and going out into the real world couldn't happen at a worse time. But, I now have a new outlook on life. I try to follow a 5 word phrase, Dare, Dream, Do, Risk, Now. This has given me a sense of balance in my crazy life almost like the personal song they talk about on Ally. But more importantly it has allowed me to be who I am. I am no longer being shy and saying if only. I am trying to live life. I had previously posted about being weak and not strong. i can not tell you how exhilirating it was to read my old posts and see how far I have come. I just wish more people would reply and be registered users so we could have real conversations :-).

I just wanted to let everyone know you find your safety net in yourself and not in others. You find your purpose in yourself and not in those things you hide your self in.