July 4

[Deavan]

Its July 4th and it is 9pm and I am sitting here in my PJS since ALL my plans fell through (love being single in a group of people who are all spoken for and their SOs come up with a better idea or they don't want to go out so they blow off me the single girl) so I am watching the show at the Hatchshell on TV since I am THAT cool... :sad:

And I just realized that every July 4th where I was single I always end up staying in because I have no plans...wow this holiday sucks!

Hope everyone else had far better plans then myself...

[wordsmith]

I'm hanging with the fam, as I do on most holidays...getting ready to go to the fireworks.

I just don't usually spend holidays with friends/dates, etc. It's typically fam.

[Deavan]

I'm hanging with the fam, as I do on most holidays...getting ready to go to the fireworks.

I just don't usually spend holidays with friends/dates, etc. It's typically fam.


Thats awesome that you have that...frankly I would be thrilled to do that too but sadly we all my know my situation which is I don't have that either...

Although the step witch I belive hosted a BBQ today which i was not invited too but that is a completly different thread and something that will never change

[SmilesSoSweet]

Its July 4th and it is 9pm and I am sitting here in my PJS since ALL my plans fell through (love being single in a group of people who are all spoken for and their SOs come up with a better idea or they don't want to go out so they blow off me the single girl) so I am watching the show at the Hatchshell on TV since I am THAT cool... :sad:

And I just realized that every July 4th where I was single I always end up staying in because I have no plans...wow this holiday sucks!

Hope everyone else had far better plans then myself...

I really don't remember the last time I did anything for the 4th. I'm at home in my apartment. I haven't even gone outside other than step out onto my balcony. I have to be at the office at 7am tomorrow, so even if I wanted to go out, I need to be back early enough to get to sleep.

It also sucks having a national holiday in the middle of the week. I worked yesterday and the boss in the main office said that we can leave at noon because it was just one slow day. Had they have just given us the entire day off Monday and today, I wouldn't have flown back from my weekend trip on Sunday. I would have came back either last night or this morning!

[wordsmith]

I didn't say it to make you feel badly, Deavan. Sorry. :(

[Kitty]

This is the reason I hate most holidays. They make you feel like you're obligated to be doing something cool/exciting/fun etc. and if you're not you feel like shit.

I feel weird about this holiday because it was the day my ex-bf and I had our first date and our first kiss. I dunno...its just odd for me.

[winneythepooh7]

Holidays suck in general for a lot of people, single or taken. Often they conjure up a sense of loss for oh so many reasons. I know in my "field" we are always in crisis mode around holidays waiting for something to happen with someone we work with. That issue aside, I just think as we get older, holidays especially lose their appeal for whatever reason. I had a jam-packed weekend, and our friends just left, and frankly, now I'm pooped and have no energy or interest to watch the fireworks which amazingly we can see from our window from all the way from Manhattan to the North Shore of Long Island. Since I have to be up bright and early for work tommorrow anyways, I am not in the mood to hear stuff going off all night long which also is making the dog bark non-stop. :rolleyes:

[yankeeyosh]

{{{hugs}}}

I didn't do much either this holiday...no fireworks except for the odd display driving on I-95. I drove the whole evening, so I missed everything.

[pisces2473]

I don't really associate the 4th of July with doing anything special.

[vxmike]

Yeah holidays are lame for single people usually. I live 2500 miles from any family, so I never do anything for ANY holidays. I always choose to work, so I'm pretty content to be making time and a half instead of being home alone. I worked today just like any other day. No difference.

[spiritedaway]

(((((Hugs))))))))) Sorry to hear it, Deavan. It really sucks when plans fall through, whether it's a holiday or not. :googly:

I am the same with wordsmith. I grew up in a pretty tight knit family, so I usually spend all major holidays with family (not friends).

I didn't do much either. I spent this weekend out shopping with my grandmother and didn't really do much today. BBQ plans fell through because of the weather.

And on a completely different note (maybe I should create a new thread), but it sort of saddens me when folks our age don't spend much time with family anymore. We have a lot of distractions, games, tv, internet, parties, dates, etc. Granted, I think that being independent is a wonderful thing, but it seems to me that family is usually pushed down to a lower "priority" with all the distractions out there (when I would rank it way up there...)

[yankeeyosh]

And on a completely different note (maybe I should create a new thread), but it sort of saddens me when folks our age don't spend much time with family anymore. We have a lot of distractions, games, tv, internet, parties, dates, etc. Granted, I think that being independent is a wonderful thing, but it seems to me that family is usually pushed down to a lower "priority" with all the distractions out there (when I would rank it way up there...)

All else being equal, I think people our age actually do spend quite a bit of time with family, at least compared to previous generations...we are much more family-centric than Gen 'X'. However, because of the nature of the career game these days, people are living further and further from home, and therefore aren't able to see them as much as they wish. I am just close enough to home that I can drive down there every few weeks to visit them...and it's not too bad of a trip, even though it costs me $55 in gas and tolls (It took 3 1/4 hours to drive from the western Boston suburbs to Long Island Saturday night, and 3 1/2 hours from Long Island to the southern suburbs this evening). But when I was in Florida, I only saw them twice a year for the most part. Also, a lot of us are working longer hours than previous generations, and that also affects our ability to see family....if you are working 70-80 hours a week, how are you going to find time to see your family, even if you live just a few miles from them?

[SmilesSoSweet]

(((((Hugs))))))))) Sorry to hear it, Deavan. It really sucks when plans fall through, whether it's a holiday or not. :googly:

I am the same with wordsmith. I grew up in a pretty tight knit family, so I usually spend all major holidays with family (not friends).

I didn't do much either. I spent this weekend out shopping with my grandmother and didn't really do much today. BBQ plans fell through because of the weather.

And on a completely different note (maybe I should create a new thread), but it sort of saddens me when folks our age don't spend much time with family anymore. We have a lot of distractions, games, tv, internet, parties, dates, etc. Granted, I think that being independent is a wonderful thing, but it seems to me that family is usually pushed down to a lower "priority" with all the distractions out there (when I would rank it way up there...)

I spend major holidays with my family as well, but that's just Thanksgiving and Christmas. 4th of July isn't a major holiday as to making a trip home just for the holiday.

As your last paragraph, I tend to put my time more in going out of my way for my family, yet I don't do the dating, partying, or traveling to other places, etc.

[Deavan]

I didn't say it to make you feel badly, Deavan. Sorry. :(

No worries I didn't mean to make you feel like you did

[lonestar]

4 July is always my favorite holiday because of cookouts and summer fun...and I though being in a new city (relatively - I have been here less than a year) I would probably not have a good one because I didn't know many people. However, when I was doing laundry the people next door asked if I wanted to come to their cookout and all was well! It turned out to be a fun night but I drank a little too much Shiner.

[Winter Storm]

Deavan, honey, I'm sorry your holiday sucked. I know how hard it can be to have no plans and end up sitting at home, alone when you know everybody else is out doing something fun (picture me, Christmas night at 9pm, with nothing to do).

I think it may be time to try and find more single, femaled friends in the same boat. It can seriously improve your social situation. I'd try Craigslist, Myspace or Yahoo groups to try and find more single girls friends.

(((((((hugs))))))))) And smile, you got through, this holiday. It's over. On to tomorrow, I say. :)

[ebruening]

I think it may be time to try and find more single, femaled friends in the same boat. It can seriously improve your social situation. I'd try Craigslist, Myspace or Yahoo groups to try and find more single girls friends.

I was thinking something very similar last night. I stayed in, read a book entitled Empire and Culture (or maybe it's Culture and Empire , I'm not entirely sure), and told my parents I had plans to go out and do something social, when in fact, I had no plans at all :redface: It's really bad when I have to lie to my parents, because I know they're embarassed by the fact that I have no friends and no social prospects on the horizon. Hugs to all those who had a similarly uninspiring, or just plain depressing, Fourth of July. Holidays spent alone really suck.