My parents annoy me

[PenforPrez]

I didn't get enough sleep last night, I don't know why. I woke up in a decent mood anyway.

At breakfast this morning, my mother had her usual rural Southern mannerisms. My father had his usual pessimism about the prospects of the St. Louis Cardinals. But I found it just so highly annoying for some reason.

I just wanted my mother to shut up and my father to give the Cardinals a chance. We're playing at home tonight, for God's sake! :rolleyes:

Is it just the lack of sleep? Or is it just "growing up" to be slightly disillusioned about your parents?

Paul

[biodork]

My mom got lipo, a boob job and a tattoo all within the last year and a half. Can you say midlife crisis? Heh I think the last time my mom didn't annoy me was before I got to middle school.

[wordsmith]

It's because you need to be out on your own.

Because of this, everything is going to annoy you. In due, time, though, you will be.

Don't worry about it, it's not disillusionment to realize that your parents do annoying things. Everyone does annoying things. I'm extremely close to my parents and they do things that annoy me all the time.

[red]

ditto what wordsmith said.

is there any way you can move out sooner than a year from now?

[PenforPrez]

Not unless some nearsighted director puts me in the movies. Or something equally implausible. :huge:

[paiger81]

Let's see.

I have a mother who will admit that I lost weight, but follows it with a comment of "But I'm still smaller" ((Yeah, no shit, she's 4 feet 9; 150 on her & 150 on me are 2 different things!)

I have a father who's planning on quitting his job in December to become a boat captain to take people on fishing tours in a small town that is DYING, and complains that we don't support him on this (he has no savings to do this or live off of)

I have a brother who LIVES with me, complains I take all his money (he is charged $400 a month which is 1/4 of what it takes to pay our monthly bills) and thinks I should cut him a break.

Family is annoying as shit, but they are there for you when you need them, so you adjust to the annoying quirks.

Definitely move away when you get the opportunity.

[PenforPrez]

Does my mother have a volume switch?? Is there any way I can turn this woman DOWN??

My mother is a typically loud Southern woman, and she's just being too loud for my tolerance level this morning. Especially with the dog. Keeps repeating the same stupid phrases with the dog over and over again. :madder:

That's just really irritating me this morning.

Paul

[WorkInProgress]

I agree with the others about everyone having annoying habits/mannerisms/personality quirks and the fix being eventually (but hopefully sooner rather than later) moving out. (Thus saith the girl living with her parents.)

For example, my mother (whom I adore, and even like as a friend) sometimes annoys me to no end. Especially when she's having what I call, her "dumb days." I swear, it's almost like she sits and thinks of the stupidest, least helpful things to say, and then saves them up for when I get home. It's not her fault, and she's not stupid, but this happens. We usually just need some space (so I go out and do something, even if I hadn't planned to). When I get back, everything's better. She and I both have had time to cool off and get some perspective.

[pisces2473]

My mom got lipo, a boob job and a tattoo all within the last year and a half. Can you say midlife crisis?
What about your grandmother and HER tattoo? LOL

[Kitty]

It's probably just living at home. When I lived at home EVERYTHING about my parents bothered me..but now the same things don't bother me at all.

[vivo]

It's probably just living at home. When I lived at home EVERYTHING about my parents bothered me..but now the same things don't bother me at all.

yeah. that's what sucks about me being home

[beeblebrox]

I chose to live in Chicago instead of Milwaukee during graduate school because I had been so independent during college. Now when I go home, I can only be home for awhile because they get on my nerves easily.

[asm198]

As much as I love my mom, I am thankful that I don't live with her anymore. It's trying enough to talk to her on the phone, what with her constant 'things to be afraid of' talks.

I must know what southern phrases your mom uses, though.

[jrwilheim]

I didn't get enough sleep last night, I don't know why. I woke up in a decent mood anyway.

At breakfast this morning, my mother had her usual rural Southern mannerisms. My father had his usual pessimism about the prospects of the St. Louis Cardinals. But I found it just so highly annoying for some reason.

I just wanted my mother to shut up and my father to give the Cardinals a chance. We're playing at home tonight, for God's sake! :rolleyes:

Is it just the lack of sleep? Or is it just "growing up" to be slightly disillusioned about your parents?

Paul

I feel the same way every time I tell my mother about how my career search is going, and she says something like, "Well, Wichita's always here if you need it." Umm...thanks, Mom. And haven't you been telling me all these years about how being in the Midwest, no one understands the value of your Princeton degree? I'll stick to Brooklyn, thanks.

She does this over and over...sounds like the same way your father talks about the Cardinals.

[LaFille]

I feel the same way every time I tell my mother about how my career search is going, and she says something like, "Well, Wichita's always here if you need it." Umm...thanks, Mom. And haven't you been telling me all these years about how being in the Midwest, no one understands the value of your Princeton degree? I'll stick to Brooklyn, thanks.

She does this over and over...sounds like the same way your father talks about the Cardinals.


parental career advice is the WORST!

[brightestblack]

Does my mother have a volume switch?? Is there any way I can turn this woman DOWN??

My mother is a typically loud Southern woman, and she's just being too loud for my tolerance level this morning. Especially with the dog. Keeps repeating the same stupid phrases with the dog over and over again. :madder:

That's just really irritating me this morning.

Paul

Lol... my mom sings to her dogs all the time, does the "baby talk" thing... very loud, very annoying.

[PenforPrez]

Lol... my mom sings to her dogs all the time, does the "baby talk" thing... very loud, very annoying.

Is your Mom from a small town in north Louisiana? If so, I think we may have the same mother. :huge:

[rocket333d]

My mom sometimes drives me nuts. If I'm upset about something, she'll grill me until I tell her, then tell me, "Oh, don't be upset about that! That's nothing."

Then she'll ask me if I've done something yet that she had advised me. If I haven't done this for a good reason, I'll start to explain, then she'll explode and shout at me before I tell her the reason. Ten minutes later, I'll get out the explanation and she says, "Why didn't you say so?" I've taken to just lying and saying yes in these situations.

[MollyMe]

My mom started to annoy me after I moved out.

[iamkarma]

I think everybodys parents "annoy" them to a certain degree but everyones parents have there own quirks about them. My mom is a total control/neat freak, she drives me out of my mind. I came home for a lunch break today and I was like I'm stopping by my friends house and she was like don't you have phy thearpy for your shoulder, and I was like yeah I went earlier, and she was like well i didnt know that, then she was like dont you have to go back to work, I was like jesus I know this you don't have to tell me what I have to do I know my own schedule. Ah the woman drives me nuts. I am a very responsible person and having someone question your every move and tell you things you already know drives me crazy ah !

[PenforPrez]

I think everybodys parents "annoy" them to a certain degree but everyones parents have there own quirks about them.

My therapist recently told me that I'm going through that rebellious stage I never went through as a teenager.

To which I replied: "Well, better late than never." :huge:

Paul

[shimma]

My mom got lipo, a boob job and a tattoo all within the last year and a half. Can you say midlife crisis? Heh I think the last time my mom didn't annoy me was before I got to middle school.

Hold up... Your mom got a tattoo?!?! :eek: :lol:

[Fashionista]

i find my mother highly annoying. probably the things that she does now that pisses me off the most is always offer me some diet to try and then when she talks on the phone she can never get her thoughts together so she is calling, hanging up and then calling me again within 3seconds. by the time i hang up the phone she is calling AGAIN. and she will do this about 3 or 4 times. :mad:

[PenforPrez]

What I'm worried about is being stuck here and being forced to take care of them till they die. I want to get out on my own and start my own life. I want to explore my potential. Can't do it here. Been worried about that lately with Mom's knee replacement. :sad:

Paul

[zen_mistress]

Im sorry you are feeling bad. If it helps I think it is normal to feel annoyed at parents when living with them in adulthood.

THis is because you are an individual who is capable of independent thought,. and inevitably a child's thought processes may diverge from their parent's thought processes...

yes i know this is all pretty obvious fact, but it is something I am going through as well, as I live with my parents.

I am right now trying to think about what I want out of life, and it is not an easy decision to make...

C
~

[sondra_finchley]

Yeah my parents are driving me up the wall. Ive been living at home the last month and a half while I sort out a new job (should get that sorted out end of this week I hope!). Currently my father is in Nevada and my mom is here in Wisconsin ( and yes, they are still married) so its just me and mom. They just moved to this house in WI and I wanted to help mom get some things settled and with the holidays as she has a bad shoulder and cant lift much.

Weve always had a good relationship but I knew I would reach a point where she would get on my nerves. I think its mostly the not understanding what life requires these days- having to use a computer and all. She doesnt understand "what Im doing in the basement' (the only place I could find quiet and sanity! at least its finished and nice down here) day after day or that no, i dont want a factory job. She freaked out about a little bit of snow the other day, despite having been born in this state and lived in Alaska for 10 years. Then she mutters to herself when shes cooking, or starts talking to me (in the basement) while shes in the living room. Or we get into the food thing. I wanted hot dogs so bad yesterday I went and bought my own and a small bag of Fritos- definitely NOT things i buy all the time, and it was a PMSy day. Mom got all upset over what I was eating and I got some lecture about gaining weight. Thankfully today shes visiting relatives for the WHOLE DAY so I can have some space and turn up some music loudly!

My father is psycho, I swear- trying to explain that man something is impossible. I know he cares but christ, between him and my mother sometimes NEITHER of them understand ANYTHING about the world today!

[PenforPrez]

Yes, Mom, I know there's bad weather coming. Yes, Mom, I know freezing rain is hard to drive in. Yes, I know St. Louis is a long way from here. Yes, I know, take my cell phone in case of a problem. Yes, I will be careful driving home.

But Mom, has it occurred to you that I'm almost 27 years old and I AM PERFECTLY CAPABLE OF TAKING CARE OF MYSELF??!! I've driven in freezing rain before. Have you forgotten the time I drove home from Wichita, and I had to drive through an ice storm the last 200 miles? I was fine, the car was fine. Just took me three more hours to get home, is all.

So Mom, I love you, and I appreciate your concern, but I'm a big boy now. I can do things fine on my own. I'll be home safe and sound before you know it. So don't worry. Please. :)

Paul

[GoogleGirl]

Even though my mom drives me nutz with her need to keep this house spiffy clean, I really can't complain too much. She has sat down with me every night this past week and worked with me on my lesson plans. I probably could not have made it through the week without her help. There may be a chance we'll be moving soon, so that is something to look forward to. I'm crossing my fingers. Living at home is a nightmare for me in many ways right now, but as long as I manage to keep my job, I won't have a problem moving out of my mom's house in the summer.

[PenforPrez]

Not yet 8 A.M. and I already want to yell at my mother to shut up. :redface: Thank goodness I'm going out today. :)

Paul

[Four Seasons]

It is normal to get annoyed with your parents when you're living with them as an adult. Basically, you've got middle-aged roomates.

Roomates your own age can be annoying at times, so you certainly can't expect to get along with roomates with generational differences.

Plus, when you add to that the fact that, when you grow up, you see your parents as adults from an adult perspective. You judge them the same as you judge anyone else. But parents, no matter how hard they try, can never see you as just another person, they'll always see you as their child.
I once asked my mum to give me her opinion on something, imagining that I was just a friend of hers, and not her child that she feels responsible for, and she said she couldn't do it. She just couldn't imagine it.

They've been adults the whole time you've known them. They probably haven't even changed all that much. You've gone from a baby to the adult you are now in the time that they've known you. And they've been responsible for you that whole time.

[PenforPrez]

Plus, when you add to that the fact that, when you grow up, you see your parents as adults from an adult perspective. You judge them the same as you judge anyone else. But parents, no matter how hard they try, can never see you as just another person, they'll always see you as their child.

I have a special problem with that since I'm the last child at home. As they so often like to remind me. :rolleyes:

It just amazed me for me to realize how far out of touch they are. It explained a few things to me, in ways I was happier not knowing. ;)

They've been adults the whole time you've known them. They probably haven't even changed all that much. You've gone from a baby to the adult you are now in the time that they've known you. And they've been responsible for you that whole time.

Oh yeah, they've changed. Age catches up to everybody, but it's hit my mother especially hard. As my father nears 80, I start to notice him slowing down too. :(

Paul

[PenforPrez]

Mom, I'm trying to concentrate here. I'm trying to write questions and make money. You people are so obsessed with how much I'm making, so let me sit here and make it.

But how can I when you call me to do something every five freakin' minutes?? Do this, do that, let this dog in, let that dog out. Leave me alone already!

Paul

[Millenial]

be glad your parents care though. a lot of people have noone, i learned that from my job. i'd rather have annoying parents than abandoning parents. not trying to attack you, i used to feel the same way.

[DryCounty3]

I live with my parents and they annoy me too. Especially my dad. He likes to slam doors and chew very loud. He also slams the toilet seat. Which is every 5 minutes on the weekend because he's drunk. I want to move eventually but My mom is going through surgeries so I'm glad to be around to help her. I'm the youngest of 4 kids. Other 3 are married with children. My parents bug me, but I've also come to appreciate them because of my mom's illnesses. I saw a side of them I didn't know existed. And a side of myself I didn't know existed either; I'm a lot stronger than I thought I was. And when you are forced to sit around and talk to each other for long periods of time in a hospital you realize they were young once too and that every minute left with them counts. :) (Not that EVERY minute should be spent with them) Cause they drive me crazy! It's okay to be annoyed, just as long as there is love behind the annoyance. I'm sure I drive them crazy too.:rolleyes:

[PenforPrez]

My mother should be seen and not heard.

I had to drive Dad's car into work this morning; he went so he could drive it back. Mom just had to go for no given reason. She started singing along with the tape in the car, and I was just in torture; my mother couldn't carry a tune in a barrel without a bottom.

She just talks ALL THE TIME! And so many times a day, I just want to yell at her to SHUT UP!! :madder:

Am I just a horrible person? It's just, my life is vastly more pleasant when I can't hear my mother. :redface:

Paul

[GoogleGirl]

Paul...does your mom "spy" on you when you are on the phone? Mine apparently does. Seriously...I can't do anything in/on/around this house without my mom knowing. It's time for me to leave.

[PenforPrez]

Paul...does your mom "spy" on you when you are on the phone? Mine apparently does. Seriously...I can't do anything in/on/around this house without my mom knowing. It's time for me to leave.

No, but she always wants to know who I talked to. Which is just as bad, but I refuse to say. None of her business.

Paul

[PenforPrez]

OK, now my mother has gone too far. This time she wrote a check out of my checkbook without ANY permission from me or anything! :mad: Just slipped a check of her own in the amount into my checkbook, post-dated.

She knows that right now, of all times, I do not have the money. But she did it anyway! This has got to stop once and for all. What can I do?

Paul

[wordsmith]

Tell her that forgery is illegal?

Somebody CAN'T write checks off your account.

[WorkInProgress]

Tell her that forgery is illegal?

Somebody CAN'T write checks off your account.

Unless they're on it, in which case, change that immediately. Seriously, Paul, I think it might be time to confront her about stealing from you.

[PenforPrez]

Seriously, Paul, I think it might be time to confront her about stealing from you.

I don't know what to say that I haven't already. She'll just trot out that old line of "I paid your bills when you were out of work!" I've thought about making a threat to sue, but I doubt I'd carry that out. :redface:

Paul

[WorkInProgress]

Paul, you need to get out of that environment. I realize your job isn't everything you'd hoped, but you're not getting the chance to save up to move out (correct?). It might be time to consider another job or two and move out of their house.

Her support of you when you needed it is NOT a justification for her stealing. It is a justification for you helping to pay household costs, but that's about it, IMO.

[wordsmith]

Paul, seriously. Do you just leave shit lying around for her to take? The obvious answer is not live with a relative who steals from you. But, if, short of living in a box under an underpass, you must, you can at least protect your stuff better.

[WorkInProgress]

Paul, seriously. Do you just leave shit lying around for her to take?

Oh, that's an idea. If you don't already have a relatively inexpensive fireproof safe for your official documents and anything else you don't want taken, it might be a good idea to get one, lock it and don't give her a key.

[PenforPrez]

Oh, that's an idea. If you don't already have a relatively inexpensive fireproof safe for your official documents and anything else you don't want taken, it might be a good idea to get one, lock it and don't give her a key.

That's something I've thought about. Something I can lock would be an excellent idea. :)

Paul

[WorkInProgress]

office depot online has one for $32. I found a couple others for less at other websites.

[wordsmith]

I know I've seen them in WalMart for less than that. Like, under $15.

[PenforPrez]

I know I've seen them in WalMart for less than that. Like, under $15.

Yeah, I'd be buying it at Wal-Mart. Unfortunately. :rolleyes:

[PenforPrez]

So tomorrow, I'm picking up some quiz bowl friends; I'm bringing them down here for a tournament Saturday at their expense. One of them is my good gay friend I like to hang out with; we were competitors many moons ago. :rolleyes:

I had to remind Mom I would not be home tomorrow night and why. She whispers to me: "Don't tell your Dad you're picking up that gay man."

OK, I draw the line RIGHT THERE! NOBODY is going to tell me who I can associate with. Damn it to hell, this is still a free country, and I am a free adult. I have gay friends and friends of different ethnicities and races. I'm going to make friends with whomever I want, and if Dad has a problem with that, he's going to have to deal. Period. :)

Paul

[PenforPrez]

So late last night, my niece (who is staying with my sister and her boyfriend) calls up. All hell's broken loose. We have to come up and get them. Well, what did we expect? My niece is frightfully hardheaded; so is my sister's boyfriend. It was bound to happen.

So I have to drive my mother more than an hour one way up there; on the round trip, my mother had to stop THREE TIMES (:exclaim:) for scratchoff tickets! We get my niece and her son and bring them back here. I don't get to bed till 12:30, and I wake up at 6:30 feeling like crap.

Now, Mom tells me I have to take them back up there. It's 9 in the morning. I've been up since 6:30, and she tells me this now. I am exhausted and slightly upset, and I just don't want to be bothered with it.

Am I just a horrible person for just not wanting to mess with this?

Paul

[PenforPrez]

This morning while I'm getting ready for work, Mom says: "You need to start your car because you have ice on your front windows and your back windows and your side windows and your mirrors. . . ."

"Mom, shut up!" I was already annoyed. I don't need a play-by-play of frozen water accumulation on my car. Just tell me there's frost on it, and I will take care of it.

So Dad says: "You're getting too smart around here. We can't say anything to you without you getting mad."

Did it ever occur to them that maybe I have enough problems of my own without having to deal with them?

Paul

[wordsmith]

Dude, ignore it.

Your mom telling you you've got frost on your car hardly constitutes a problem to add to your list.

I know this thread is about "my parents annoy me," but that seems pretty normal and small. Every time I stay at my parents', when I go to leave, I can practicaly recite the mantra with them. "Be careful pulling out, you know there's a lot of farm machinery. And people just fly, because it's a gravel road and there are no police." EVERY time. Like clockwork. Same inflections, everthing. I could freak out and say, "God DAMN, people, I GREW UP on this road for 18+ years, do you not think I know this? And I've been driving for fourteen+ years now, and have managed to spend a lot of that time pulling out of your driveway without getting smacked by a renegade combine or speeder. Shut up!" But why? What purpose would it serve?

[PenforPrez]

Dude, ignore it.

Your mom telling you you've got frost on your car hardly constitutes a problem to add to your list.

I just can't stand my mother's way of speaking anymore; it drives me up the wall. I just don't want to hear her voice; that sounds wrong, but that's the only way I can say it.

Paul

[PenforPrez]

My tax refund came in Saturday and my mother's already trying to grab some of it. :mad:

"I wish I had a good pizza." My mother shouldn't be eating it AT ALL! She's a Type-1 diabetic. And I'm not in the mood for pizza today, anyway.

"You owe me $25 on the cell phone bill."
"I will pay you TOMORROW when I get paid from work. Not today."
"No, I want it TODAY."

I've got my own plans for my refund. Half of it goes to my father for fixing my car. The other half will go to clear up a couple of small bills and savings. My mother is not getting ANY of it.

Paul

[wordsmith]

How does your mom know your refund came?

[PenforPrez]

How does your mom know your refund came?

Treasury check in the mail. I don't like using Direct Deposit.

[Winter Storm]

I don't like using Direct Deposit.
Why not?

[PenforPrez]

Why not?

I think it's some sort of old-fashioned feeling of distrust, irrational though it is. Besides that, I feel more in control of my finances when I can get a check and look at it and make out a deposit slip for it. That's easier for me anyway since I don't have credit or debit cards.

Paul

[wordsmith]

Treasury check in the mail. I don't like using Direct Deposit.

Yeah, I like getting the check, too, but why is your mom going through your mail?

[PenforPrez]

Yeah, I like getting the check, too, but why is your mom going through your mail?

It was pretty obvious that it was a Treasury check from the outside, but she had opened it anyway. My mother opens most of my mail, not that I ever get anything inherently personal or sensitive. Just bills.

Paul

[wordsmith]

You know it's not legal for your mom to open your mail, right? Does she know that?

I had HUGE fights with my dad about this when I was in college, because the college sent my grades to my parents' address, rather than to my school address, because grades were always mailed during break, so they went with the perm address. Regardless of the fact that they were addressed TO ME, my dad would always take it upon himself to open them, which was a MAJOR issue with me.

[cheshrcarol]

Paul, simple solution: get a PO box and forward all your mail.

[wordsmith]

Exactly. It's the same concept as keeping your $$$ and shit locked up in a lock box. Your mom isn't keeping her paws off your stuff, and you can't seem to enforce it any other way.

[PenforPrez]

Exactly. It's the same concept as keeping your $$$ and shit locked up in a lock box. Your mom isn't keeping her paws off your stuff, and you can't seem to enforce it any other way.

Mom's always home, so she's always there when the mail comes in. I'm guessing a P.O. box would be the way to go.

Paul

[Lizanne440]

Now that I'm home a lot more (newly single) my parents drive me absolutely nuts. It doesn't help that my dad has horrible OCD, and each day for them is EXACTLY the same as the one before, almost at the same times each day! My dad has this obsession with locking the front door at night even though he KNOWS I am going to go out and smoke right when they go to bed. My dad says all these stupid corny jokes and is always telling me to be safe and not go out at night, etc. Which is ridiculous 'cause I live in freakin' Pleasantville. We're actually #2 safest city in the US (for our pop.size). I was telling my mom that I was thinking about piercing my eyebrow again and my dad overheard and said "No, no. You're not piercing your face again. I won't tolerate it." Half joking/half serious. I am 24 years old, I can do whatever I want to my body! Sad part is, hetreated me like I was in my twenties when I was 16, and now that I'm almost 25, he treats me like I'm 12. WTF?! MY dad needs a mental health professional, I won't get into it since I already went off in another thread. I'm working my ass off to get out of here!