Hitting on GIRLS 101

[airpezman]

I have a situation in my mind.


SITUATION: I live in the suburbs as a high school teacher. Sometimes when I am out in the town, I block/avoid EVER Hitting on women. Why? I am not sure what their age is. My desired age range is OBVIOUSLY Post-High School and hopefully 21+. I am NOT able to tell the difference between a 17, 18, 21, year old girl. MY PROBLEM: I have no idea whether the gals are in high school or out of high school.

EXAMPLE: A 25 year old software programmer goes into Panera Bread. He thinks the cashier is cute. I bet he hardly thinks twice and he hits on her.

As a 25 year old teacher, I cant seem to hit on girls without much thought. I AM PARANOID that they are in high school!!!


PROBLEM: WANTING TO HIT ON GALS. NOT ABLE TO TELL the difference by looks of a 17 or 21 year old gal.

QUESTION: How can I solve my problem?


PEZ

[old_school_soul]

Go to a 21+ bar.

[allie1105]

Go to a 21+ bar.

Haha, agreed. If you think someone is cute, why not give it a shot? Wost case scenerio is you find out she is too young. At least you are getting the practice in so you can perfect you moves :)

[Krishna]

My friends used to ask to see a driver's license from any girl they were interested in, just to be certain they were of age. Granted, it wasnt fool proof (fakes, etc) but it eliminated some of the risk. :rolleyes:

[stonemonkey]

So, why can't you just directly ask her how old she is?

Alternatively, you could just ask her how school's going.

[PenforPrez]

So, why can't you just directly ask her how old she is?

The rule used to be: "You NEVER ask a woman her weight or her age." I know that first part is still true.

[stonemonkey]

The rule used to be: "You NEVER ask a woman her weight or her age." I know that first part is still true.

Yeah, but only because there's a danger of overestimating it. Maybe you're right though, and I'm just clueless. What's worse, thinking that she's 17 when she's really 21 or thinking that she's 21 when she's really 17?

[SunDevil]

EXAMPLE: A 25 year old software programmer goes into Panera Bread. He thinks the cashier is cute. I bet he hardly thinks twice and he hits on her.


Software programmers aren't really known for their skills at picking up the ladies. ;)

[NewMrs.]

One of my husband's good friends once saw this cute girl at a skating rink. He was right out of college, and he started hitting on her and asking her all kinds of questions about herself. It turned out that she was 13!

[spiritedaway]

PenforPrez is right. You never ask a woman her weight or her age. I actually don't really mind the former so much (I still wouldn't randomly tell strangers) , but I mind the latter more. I don't know, the older I get, the more reluctant I am to tell people how old I am. (Then again, I didn't like telling people who old I was when I was younger too, so it could be a personal thing).

I have the same problem with figuring out how old guys are, so I estimate. I'm usually pretty good at getting to a realistic ballpark judging based on their looks & interests and just where they are in life. Older people are "usually" over the bar scene and tends to be on the more mature side. :huge:

The rule used to be: "You NEVER ask a woman her weight or her age." I know that first part is still true.

[stonemonkey]

OK, what's he supposed to do then?

[DavidB]

I like the other poster's comment that you could just ask them, "So, how's school?" Very clever!

Look, man, if you're hanging out with people your age, I can guarantee 17-year-old aren't part of that crowd. If you're just looking to hit on girls at the pool/at the mall/at Panera, you're on your own. No-one can tell with the way the "youngin's" are all growed up these days. Try rolling with your friends who are your age, go to their parties, hang at the bars w/ them, and leave the questionable ones for your students.

Or you could always go after your students' moms - then you'd be sure they're not 17...most of 'em, at least.

David
www.BeBetterGuys.com
The Guy's Guide to Getting a Life

[Krishna]

Or you could always go after your students' moms - then you'd be sure they're not 17...most of 'em, at least.

David
www.BeBetterGuys.com
The Guy's Guide to Getting a Life

Yeah. As a high school teacher, you can be sure their moms arent 17....thought there's a real chance that the students may be 17 year old moms....if you were a kindergarten teacher, then you really DO have to watch out for 17 year old parents. So scary. :googly:

[Deadend]

Nevermind, what exactly do you say to the cute casheir at Panera Bread?

"So, um, how's the bread?"

[stonemonkey]

Nevermind, what exactly do you say to the cute casheir at Panera Bread?

"So, um, how's the bread?"

"Want another loaf in the oven?"

[PenforPrez]

If you're just looking to hit on girls at the pool/at the mall/at Panera, you're on your own. No-one can tell with the way the "youngin's" are all growed up these days.

Isn't that the sad truth? I think a lot of girls would be under 18 working at places like that; just my guess. Unless it was a college town, then the odds would be better.

I agree with hanging out with people your age or older. There's a lot of more "mature" activities out there that doesn't involve inebriation. Politics for one. Plenty of non-teenage women in politics. Unless you live in St. Louis, in which case, they're all attached. *ahem* :googly: Just a thought.

Or you could always go after your students' moms - then you'd be sure they're not 17...most of 'em, at least.

I've been looking for an upside to teaching for years. That would be about it for me. :rolleyes:

Paul

[airpezman]

Step 1: Order food at Panera.

Step 2: Girl smiles.

Step 3: "So, what college do you go to?"

Is this ok to ask to test the waters?

or should I say...

"So, how old are you?" that comes out of nowhere!! and you can't really get to this within 2 minutes of ordering your food....

so the question remains:

1. DO I NEED TO KNOW HER AGE prior to hitting on her?

PEZ

SO PARANOID she is in high school. lol/

I honestly cannot tell the difference between a 17 year old gal and a 20 year old gal. Can anyone???

[Setsail]

I'm inclined to say that you should try a little bit of flirting even if you don't know her age. That may sound weird, but here's the thing: I'm 22 years old, and everyone (girls, guys) thinks I'm 16 or 17, just because I have a young looking face. Hence, no guys flirt with me unless I'm at a bar, and that sucks.

Worse thing that could happen is that you act a little "over-friendly" and she turns out to be 17, she gives you a polite smile and says nothing, then turns around. Or, maybe she's older and responds.

[stonemonkey]

Yeah, don't come straight out with "How old are you?" or any other personally probing questions, at the very start anyway.

I don't know exactly what you should say, other than it should be natural and fit the context of where you are. If you're anxious or nervous, then you've already lost before the game has even started. You need to relax. The closest analogy I can think of is that it's like playing the drums, once you get into the rhythm of it, you won't need to read the music.

Oh yeah, and smile, don't forget to smile.

[Deadend]

"Want another loaf in the oven?"

Nice Buns!

[stonemonkey]

Nice Buns!

"You and your cute friend should come over to my place so we can make sandwiches..."

[SunDevil]

If you ask her what college she goes to, how do you know she goes to college? A large percentage of people don't go to college.

It doesn't really matter as long as you keep it friendly. Say you are throwing a party or going to a party and think she should stop by and she can bring some friends if she wants.

:evil: Or just think, she will be 18 eventually. :evil:

[stonemonkey]

Then again, every time you approach a girl, it's going to carry with it a certain level of risk that for whatever reason it's not going to work out and it's a waste of time. Usually, it's the risk that she's just not single. I don't think an age barrier is that much different.

[PenforPrez]

"You and your cute friend should come over to my place so we can make sandwiches..."

"Oops, I got some *mayonnaise* on you. . . ." :evil: