Am I boring?

[dreams82]

I had lunch with a co-worker of mine today. He was asking me alot of questions, like what are you passionate about? and what are your political views? It was like an interview! I didn't know how to respond, because I don't know what I am passionate about. I also don't really stand firm behind any political views, yes I vote, but I don't get too into politics. I guess, what I am trying to say is, am I boring? I am stuck in a job I would like to get out of, but I don't know what I want to be doing. Does that make me boring? Shit, what can I do to become NOT boring?

[WorkInProgress]

Try new things until you find something you like/are good at/are passionate about/sounds good at parties ;)

[embrassezla]

i went through a mini-qlc a few years ago when i realized i wasn't passionate about anything. so, i figured out what i was passionate about, made those things my hobbies, and the crisis went away.

i think that everyone should have a passion for something, but no one should feel the need to get into politics (if you are that's okay, if you aren't that's okay).

these things have no bearing on whether or not you are boring, anyway.

[wordsmith]

The only people I find boring are those who have no particular interests or curiosity about things.

[CTGirl]

Sometimes it can be tough cuz the things we are passionate about aren't on the list of "normal" things to be passionate about. I'm certain, however, that there are things that you are passionate about. What are you doing when you are most happy? If you could be doing anything at all right now, what would you be doing?

[BlueEyedFunOne]

I also don't really stand firm behind any political views, yes I vote, but I don't get too into politics.


I'm not passionate about politics either. I'm informed enough to vote, but that's it. Honestly, it's one of those 'touchy' subjects that I really don't enjoy being in a conversation with someone about...or sharing my views on. There's always someone out there who disagrees, and frankly, I have no patience for listening to them yammer on about how I'm wrong.

[Kitty]

The only people I find boring are those who have no particular interests or curiosity about things.

Yeah. If you're just kinda "blah" about everything in life..that could be a problem.

[MetFanL]

I wouldn't say that there are many things (or any) that I'm SUPER passionate about... although, there are a lot of things that I like to try and have a good time when I do them. But, I also don't think I'm boring... I'm just all over the place.

[stonemonkey]

Then who do you find interesting? I don't think how boring or interesting a person is should be determined simply by how strong their political views are.

[Chameleon]

I would suck at political discussions; I'm more of a "doer" than a "talker". I'm very passionate about dancing, but I can't talk about who's technique is better, which move is really awesome or which teacher would be best for my swingout. I'd rather be dancing! I'd rather watch movies than discuss them and I can't tell you who the best bassist in the world is and why I think he or she is awesome. I think a lot of the things I'm interested in are like that, you show how into it you are being actually doing it rather talking about it or talking about how other people are doing that thing.

dream82, is there anything outside of work that you like doing? Even couch potatoes are usually passionate about their tv shows. I'm sure there is something you love that you could talk for hours about or do for hours but your co-workers interrogation style wasn't really conducive to expressing that interest. Having different interests doesn't make you boring. It might just seem that way if the person doesn't respect the fact that you don't have matching interests or matching ways of expressing that interest.

[starryedd]

What do you love to do? People can be passionate about anything...music...movies...sports...it is what makes you you.
Not everyone is going to be a politician or a die hard sports fan..but thats ok. :-) Find what makes you happy, what makes you smile, what you enjoy doing. Maybe compile a list of what you like...children, office work, drawing, etc, just to name a few. Im sure your not boring either!

[zen_mistress]

There is nothing wrong with being open minded about politics. You can learn a lot from not having any set opinions and just listening to different facts.

[stonemonkey]

I don't think you need to be passionate about something to be interesting. What makes someone interesting? Having quirky things about them that set them apart from the mainstream? Someone whose outlook on life is unusual? Is it necessary to have something that sets you apart? I don't know. I think that if I can spend a significant amount of time hanging out with someone and not be bored of my mind, then they're at least somewhat interesting.

[dengeist]

I had lunch with a co-worker of mine today. He was asking me alot of questions, like what are you passionate about? and what are your political views? It was like an interview! I didn't know how to respond, because I don't know what I am passionate about. I also don't really stand firm behind any political views, yes I vote, but I don't get too into politics. I guess, what I am trying to say is, am I boring? I am stuck in a job I would like to get out of, but I don't know what I want to be doing. Does that make me boring? Shit, what can I do to become NOT boring?

I wouldn't feel too bad, it sounds like he was trying to suck you into a political debate. It's not like it was a date or anything. If I'm dealing with a die-hard, balls to the wall republican, I tend to bite my tounge a lot.

[LaFille]

my guess is that you are not boring, because most people aren't, IMO.

sounds like your co-worker is just socially awkward and doesn't know how to have a conversation. how are you supposed to be answering these point-blank questions over lunch about your 'passions?' people's real passions are evident when you talk to them as people, not as subjects.

[weary]

yaaaaaaawwwn.

huh? what? oh, yeah...you are boring. i couldn't even stay awake through your post.

kidding, KIDDING!!!

this person obviously doesn't have good convo skills. i mean, who the hell asks all those questions like it's a friendship interview when it's just lunch b/w coworkers? don't worry about it.

i have an old friend who is a brainiac...super smart. got full-rides for both his undergrad and grad degrees and the schools were practially fighting over him, athletic - plays several sport, up on all the current events and politics, artsy - can draw amazing portraits, sings, writes & plays music, well read, history buff, and on and on and on. just really dynamic and interesting, and can talk about almost anything. we are great friends, but i've always found him a bit intimidating...like, what on earth does he find interesting in me? i sure as hell don't know half the stuff he does. :rolleyes:

funniest thing though...the last time we got together we were having one of those all-night catch-up convos and he shared something with me. he was always intimidated by me! go figure! said he felt like i was this "woman of the world" b/c i was a mom, had packed up and moved myself and child clear across the country, managed to juggle school, the kid, work and somewhat of a life, am self-taught in a lot of what i know, have traveled, etc. i was SO SHOCKED! i of course told him how i felt and his response? "aww, i'm just a geek who suceeded in looking cool...but a geek nonetheless." :)