Opposite sex roommates

[LakeJay]

There is a good possibility that I will be moving into an apartment with a female roommate and at this point, I don't think this will be an issue. I'd like to think that since I am pretty easy going and I grew up with 2 older sisters this won't be a problem. I understand that this is a poorly-contructed assumption so I definitely would like to hear some experiences/perspectives for people have lived or currently live with a roommate of the opposite sex. What are some of the aspects of the living arrangement that stood out? Pros? Cons?

[wordsmith]

When I did my volunteer program, there were six of us in a house, five women and one guy. While most people might think "lucky guy," I'm TOTALLY confident that we drove him absolutely insane (not in a good, sexy, girls pillowfighting in lingerie kind of way, either) 99% of the time. He also came from a family of all brothers. He did NOT get us.

[steph78]

I lived with a male roommate for a summer once. It was actually a really really great experience for me, the guy was very easy to get along with, and was very neat and clean on top of that. Our situation was a little unique in that we were both subletting rooms in this apartment for the summer in a college town - he was new to the town (was starting grad school in the fall) and all my friends had taken jobs out of town for the summer while I stayed behind to work at school. Not having a whole lot of other people to hang out with (oh, and we didn't have a TV either), we were forced to get to know each other and hang out a lot - fortunately we hit it off and were great friends - he's actually one of my all-time favorite roommates.

The only problem came when the guy's long-distance girlfriend came to visit on weekends. I think she had it in the back of her head that I was trying to steal her boyfriend (which was SOOOO not the case - nothing along those lines ever ever happened, we were totally just friends) so anyway, she was super-jealous and unfriendly to me. I just found stuff to do outside of the apartment on weekends (luckily pretty easy in the summer) to avoid the situation, and everything would be back to normal on Sunday afternoon when she left.

[tina1979]

the only thing i can think of that would totally ruin the situation sexual tensions.

you may want to be sure that there are absolutely no feeling except friendship on either side. It could make for an uncomfortable situation if one was crushing on the other

[wordsmith]

the only thing i can think of that would totally ruin the situation sexual tensions.

you may want to be sure that there are absolutely no feeling except friendship on either side. It could make for an uncomfortable situation if one was crushing on the other

I concur. Having a roommate crush would SUCK (I had a girl roommate once who had a crush on me, and it got uncomf. by the end of the year).

When I had my guy roommate, we all called him "the monk," because he was quite easily the least sexual being in the world. Nothing wrong with him or his looks or anything. Just absolutely no sexual vibe, whatsoever. Which worked out just fine.

[inuts]

When I did my volunteer program, there were six of us in a house, five women and one guy. While most people might think "lucky guy," I'm TOTALLY confident that we drove him absolutely insane (not in a good, sexy, girls pillowfighting in lingerie kind of way, either) 99% of the time. He also came from a family of all brothers. He did NOT get us.

You have totally just destroyed all my daydreams and "ideas" about what large groups of females living together do when nobody's looking. :rolleyes:

[inmediasres]

I know I'm going to get attacked up the yin yang for this, but I think women are generally harder to live with than men.

[LakeJay]

I know I'm going to get attacked up the yin yang for this, but I think women are generally harder to live with than men.

I don't think you'll get it that bad if you give some reasoning/evidence behind your claim.

[wordsmith]

There are definitely general character traits that can make women hard to live with, but there is also the same thing when it comes to male counterparts.

[Krishna]

I lived with 3 guys one year. Pretty much, they left me alone and I left them alone. They were dirty and gross (which didnt shock me). I installed a good lock on my bedroom door and food cupboard. ;):

[wordsmith]

Guys can be dirty and gross...the ones I've lived with were pretty neat, though. And I've lived with some way sloppy girls.

[hoodie]

I lived with a guy last year who was friends with my sister. We got on pretty well personally, no tension between me and him....BUT one thing that was awkward was that he totally wants my sis and seemed to think that by rooming with me, she'd come over a lot. Notsomuch, I mostly visited her. So he got a little sour when that didn't pan out, but we had separate bedrooms and bathrooms and didn't see that much of each other. It was fine.

[mishl982]

The closest I had to a male roommate was my then-roommate's boyfriend. He stayed over pretty much every night so it was like he lived there. He was a good "roommate" - clean, well behaved, considerate of the rest of us, but I think if he was on the lease or paying rent (he did pitch in with utilities) then he might have let loose a bit.

[winneythepooh7]

Well, I don't count my S.O. as the same thing you are looking at LOL. But I do have a good friend who had a male roommate in college. She loved it, and they got along great. To this day, she always talks about how "roomie" and her used to have this contest going that everytime they hooked up with someone, they had to "steal" something from that person. They are still friends to this day. I do remember her saying though that the guy's girlfriends would get jealous of her.........and there was absolutely nothing going on between them.

[CityGal]

I have lived and bunked with plenty of guys and it has always been fine. I am easy going so I don't care much about a lot of stuff. Currently I am bunking room (like same room) with another guy and it's ok. I did it while I was in Italy (there were five guys and me and we all shared this big bedroom and bathroom). The new guy roommate just moved in and it seems ok for now, but like....jeez he is so goody goody...it's killing me...but lets see how things progress.

[Illuminous]

My last roommate was a guy and we were practically best friends. Neither of our SOs minded, becuase it was totally out in the open that we were JUST friends. He was pretty clean and all that. Much more drama-free than living with girls, IMO.

[weary]

i've never really done it long term, or planned. i did one time let a male friend of mine stay with me for about 6 weeks while he was between places. i had an extra bathroom, so didn't have to deal with any of that stuff and he kept it pretty clean b/c it was the hall bathroom that guests would use. he was pretty good about dishes/kitchen stuff too.

the only things that really bothered me were his noise level (which, unless he was deaf...was way too loud) and the hours he kept. for the first week i didn't have an extra key and he was going out partying in the middle of the week coming back at all hours of the night waking me up to let him in. i had to tell him to cut that shit out until i got him a spare b/c i had to get my kid to school in the A.M. and go to work. :mad:

[k.monster]

My current roomate is a guy - we've been roomies for almost two years now and it's great. My bf has no problems with it and the two of them get along really well. He doesn't have a gf, so I'm not sure how that would go over, but I'm guessing it would be fine since my bf is always hanging around.

(btw, Hi everyone! I've been lurking for months and months but haven't posted in ages!! I've missed you all!!)

[tina1979]

My current roomate is a guy - we've been roomies for almost two years now and it's great. My bf has no problems with it and the two of them get along really well. He doesn't have a gf, so I'm not sure how that would go over, but I'm guessing it would be fine since my bf is always hanging around.

(btw, Hi everyone! I've been lurking for months and months but haven't posted in ages!! I've missed you all!!)
Hey K.!! Long time...glad to see you back :razz:

[k.monster]

Hi tina!! Glad to be back! :)