Mommy

[CityGal]

Does anyone else's mom lay out guilt trips almost every time you talk? My mom does. She ALWAYS suckers me into doing something. Sometimes I'll lash out and downright tell her no but eventually I keel over and she wins. :frustrate :eek: :googly:

[PenforPrez]

Does anyone else's mom lay out guilt trips almost every time you talk? My mom does. She ALWAYS suckers me into doing something. Sometimes I'll lash out and downright tell her no but eventually I keel over and she wins. :frustrate :eek: :googly:

My mother does that when I'm on the phone to somebody or when I go out somewhere. Always wants to know who I talked to or went out with. I'm 26, thank you very much. I can live my own life!

Like last night, Mom asked me who I went to dinner with. I lied and said, "Nobody." She said: "Yes you did." So I said: "It's none of your business." I hated to get that way, but I want to keep my love life to myself. My parents overreact anytime I discuss it. :sad:

Paul

[wordsmith]

Nah. My mom might be the coolest woman alive.

However, she LOVES to heat about my dating, etc. And I refuse to tell her unless something is actually promising, because she takes it harder than I do if guy turns out, as they often do, to be a jackass. Why let her get her hopes up?

[and1grad]

I usually get a small dosage of the "boy, I cant wait to have grandkids" lecture.

[wordsmith]

That ^ is one reason it rules to NOT be an only child. And to have siblings beat you to the altar. No pressure.

[WorkInProgress]

I usually get a small dosage of the "boy, I cant wait to have grandkids" lecture.
The first time my mom tried that on me I was a freshman in college. :eek: Luckily, she refrains from practically all grandmother talk now.

[CTGirl]

I usually get a small dosage of the "boy, I cant wait to have grandkids" lecture.

LOL, my mom will say things about grandkids (as she pretty much assumes I'll be the only one to give them to her) but then she'll follow it up with: "but not yet!"

[paiger81]

Hell yeah! When I get suckered into stuff, I have told her "You are such a bitch" to where she will reply "I know" and for some reason this makes us both laugh & go on with it.

On days where I lash out & say "NO" or "Leave me alone!", I swear, she will leave me alone for 24 hours, then calls back with "How about now?!" :huge:

[CityGal]

Hell yeah! When I get suckered into stuff, I have told her "You are such a bitch" to where she will reply "I know" and for some reason this makes us both laugh & go on with it.

On days where I lash out & say "NO" or "Leave me alone!", I swear, she will leave me alone for 24 hours, then calls back with "How about now?!" :huge:


Haha. That sounds like a cool relationship. My mom always guilt trips me in to calling her more. I am certain it is because the neighbors daugthers call their mom EVERY day and are practically living at home again. Jeez....whenever I go see my mom which is a fairly good amount about every other week or two weeks I always tell her I'll see her in a month. Whenever we speak on the phone in the interim she is always like so when are you coming over to which I always reply I don't know.....she always gets me to come up when she wants. jeez moms!

[SmilesSoSweet]

My mom doesn't do give the guilt trips anymore - well they're not as obvious as they used to be. As for the whole "I want grandkids" thing, she wasn't really wanting them until like the day after my brother got married. And since my brother was the one to get married first, my mom isn't worried about my not being married or having kids anytime soon.

[mishl982]

Luckily my mom is concerned with my cousin making babies so I'm off the hook for awhile :) Although she does ask about me getting married. :rolleyes:

Mom doesn't guilt trip me into anything, but sometimes she will get me frustrated to the point where I take it out on her. That makes me feel guilty.

[and1grad]

LOL, my mom will say things about grandkids (as she pretty much assumes I'll be the only one to give them to her) but then she'll follow it up with: "but not yet!"
This is what I got in college. :neutral:

[CTGirl]

This is what I got in college. :neutral:

True, she mostly said this in college to me too, but even now, I still dont yet satisfy her "requirements" before having children: 1. making enough money to support them, and 2. having a house/apartment big enough for a kid, so for now I'm still safe :)

[asm198]

When my mom does the guilt trip thing, I tell her to stop being a baby. She gets pissed and starts crying and I tell her to knock it off. It sounds really mean, but she completely overreacts about 90% of stuff and I finally got tired of feeling bad about things. The last straw was when I didn't call her for 3 days and she called every single friend of mine and my BOSS looking for me. I was used to her calling my friends at 3 am, but calling my boss crossed the line and I told her off.

[workaholic?]

When my mom does the guilt trip thing, I tell her to stop being a baby. She gets pissed and starts crying and I tell her to knock it off. It sounds really mean, but she completely overreacts about 90% of stuff and I finally got tired of feeling bad about things. The last straw was when I didn't call her for 3 days and she called every single friend of mine and my BOSS looking for me. I was used to her calling my friends at 3 am, but calling my boss crossed the line and I told her off.

This is a concern of mine as well. My mom has gotten a lot better than she used to be, but in the past if she couldn't get ahold of me on any of my phones (home, cell, work cell, and work), she would leave a million messages and then call my boyfriend's phone, which really pisses him off. and do you know how she got his number? not by my giving it to her, that's for sure. she got it off the caller id because i called her from his phone once. yeah...annoying. but so anyway, i had an incident at work last year where a creepy man who works for one of our contractors was caught taking pictures of me with his camera phone in a restaurant without my permission. i went to my boss about it and he went to HIS boss about it, and they both told me i needed to have someone who always knows where i am when i go out to the field. i told them my mom pretty much always knows my whereabouts, and they said that i should always let her or someone else know when i'm leaving the field and when i'm supposed to be back...if they don't hear from me by then, there is reason to worry. so my boss told me to give my mom his phone number because he would also know my whereabouts in the event that my mom couldn't reach me during work hours. so i gave her his phone number and she's promised me that she'll never call him unless it is an absolute emergency or under the circumstances i described...but i still worry that she's going to call him up one day when she has something she deems urgent to ask or tell me and he's gonna think she and i are both nuts.

[asm198]

How your mom got your boyfriend's number is exactly how my mom got my boss's cell number. I was a no call, no show one day, which wasn't like me. I had been sick the day before and when I got home, I took some Nyquil and ended up sleeping for 20+ hours and missed work completely the next day. Everyone was worried about me and called my house a million times and sent people over to knock on my door. Finally, my boss called my mom (my emergency contact #) to see if I was there, but he called from his cell phone and she saved the number. He was really nice about getting calls from my mom at random times and thankfully we are really good friends, but it was just the last straw for me.

Oh, and the day I was a no call, no show? My mom ended up calling the cops, saying that she thinks that I've been kidnapped. How embarrassing.

I've instructed every friend I have to NOT give my mom their number for any reason. And I only call from my cell or my fiance's cell. He's used to her calling, thankfully.

[coll214]

Wow and I thought my mom was bad with 11:10am phone calls on Saturday and Sunday. And she gets PISSED if I point out she calls at the same time to check up on what we're up to for the weekend and if I don't have something handy to reply with there's a meandering guilt trip laid. Usually I'll avoid it, but sometimes I just want to stay home!! And then i'm ungrateful. sigh.

As for the grandkids, she'll passively say it but if I joke around about having one now, it freaks her out. So i've stopped that nonesense talk. LOL

[SmilesSoSweet]

I'm supposed to call my mom every Sunday. Usually I call her in the early afternoon, but sometimes as late as after dinner time. It's my weekly check-in call. My sister does the same thing too. It keep our mom happy. :rolleyes:

[astronaut83]

I have to stay late at work at the end of the month to close the books because I'm an accountant. One time, I had to stay really late. I forgot my umbrella and it was pouring outside. The train is about a mile from where I work, so I decided to ask my parents for a ride. Luckily, I called from my cell phone instead of using my direct office line BUT I made the mistake of leaving my cell on. Anyway, I was in the middle of something and my mom and dad (taking turns) kept of calling me, asking if I was done yet.

It also seems like I can't come home a second late. If I do, my mom gives me the "We've been worried sick about you" guilt trip, and my dad follows along (she practically has him wrapped around her finger). I can't see my boyfriend after work or even work overtime (and this is necessary once a month)because I get this when I come home. This is why they don't have my work phone.

My mom not only gives me guilt trips, but loves to play mind games. If I do something that I want but she doesn't agree with, she'll give me crap about it (and this can go on for years, like she does with my brother). If I give in, do what she wants and tell her that I'm not happy, she'll tell the whole world that I am so happy about my decision, and will try to convince me that I'm happy. If something that we've done goes wrong, she'll constantly bring it up. She loves to point out other's errors.

She's in denial when I refuse to do something that she wants. Lately, I've told her so many times that I'm not moving with them to the suburbs and will find an apartment, but when she talks about moving, she always says it like I'm coming with. Then I correct her and say that I can't move because it's far from work. Then the conversation is over and the same thing starts the next time moving is mentioned. My SIL recently asked her what they were going to do with the extra bedroom. Her response was "what extra bedroom?" and acted like I haven't mentioned anything about moving out. I'm going to have a serious talk with her about this soon.

Whew! I'm done ranting. :redface: