So...who wants to talk about weddings?

[pisces2473]

LMAO.

*crickets*

[wordsmith]

Lemme guess...Winney?

;) :cool: :)

[pisces2473]

Hahahahaha.

Actually, Winney--what have you gotten done so far? I know you have your dress and your place.

I have the church, the reception place...and that's about it. I did try on dresses last weekend. C and I need to start talking to photographers and DJs now. Ugh.

[and1grad]

I dunno...divorce is so much more interesting. ;)

[Krishna]

I'll talk about them, but only if I'm allowed to be obnoxiously cynical for a little bit.

[NewMrs.]

I'm going to a wedding this Saturday! The last wedding I attended was mine, and my future husband was a groomsman in the wedding I attended before that, so I am happy that I can finally attend a wedding where I can just have fun and get to be a regular guest and not have to help with anything.

Do you guys ever go on the message boards on the Knot? I have lurked there, but alot of the posts are just catty nonsense making fun of other people, in my opinion. I don't even have any desire to go onto any of the boards for the already-married, since it seems like most of the stuff on there is garbage.

[pisces2473]

Do you guys ever go on the message boards on the Knot? I have lurked there, but alot of the posts are just catty nonsense making fun of other people, in my opinion. I don't even have any desire to go onto any of the boards for the already-married, since it seems like most of the stuff on there is garbage.
I was a frequent Knottie when we first got engaged, but then I tapered off. The other day, I found myself back there...I don't know why. Primarily, I visit my local board, which for the most part, has been very supportive and friendly. I've heard some horror stories about other local boards (New Jersey being one of them).

I've also heard that the Nest is full of women with these horrible married lives. I don't know if they are real or made up.

[Kitty]

It was really weird today when our downstairs neighbor was like, "Oh, I was talking to your husband today.."

People always make the assumption when we're out in public, too. It's odd.

[asm198]

I only hang out at the local board on the Knot and I'm not there very often. I used to be on Ultimate Wedding when they were around, but now I guess I post the most on Onewed. You could say I'm a message board junkie, I guess.

Oh, and all we have done is my bridal party is asked and I have my dress. We're supposed to be getting married in June, but I'm getting concerned that it won't be happening. I actually got so frustrated with the fiance being a baby about booking stuff that I turned over wedding planning to him two months ago. And since he hasn't done anything, I'm making him go to a bridal show with me in a couple of weeks.

I'm so mean. But at least there's alcohol and food there.

[winneythepooh7]

Still haven't done anything besides those things Jen. I did get my first fitting on Monday night for my bridesmaid's dress for the future SIL's wedding. My other future SIL played a really funny joke on her: She called her up after we got fitted and told her that when I was trying on my dress, it split down the back. They are going to order another dress but it won't be in until right after Thanksgiving. With alterations and such, it should be in 5 days before the actual wedding *EVIL LAUGH*. She got all bridezilla-ish until she told her she was joking.

[winneythepooh7]

Oh yeah..........I thought of something else which was kind of weird to talk about.........my future MIL offered to watch our children P/T if we have any...........It was an odd conversation to be having. Especially coming home and telling M about that LOL.

[pisces2473]

Oh boy, that is sort of awkward...

[SmilesSoSweet]

Oh yeah..........I thought of something else which was kind of weird to talk about.........my future MIL offered to watch our children P/T if we have any...........It was an odd conversation to be having. Especially coming home and telling M about that LOL.

I'm sure she's just getting excited at the prospects of grandchildren in the future.

My mom didn't talk about grandkids at all. Then all of a sudden as soon as my brother gets married it's like, "so when am I getting my grandchildren?" My mom is in grandma mode!

[Krishna]

My dad has been in "grandpa mode" for 2 years, and I'm not even engaged. My grandpa is almost as bad...

[wordsmith]

My mom seemingly did an abrupt about-face, from "Don't make me a grandma," to "When am I gonna be a grandma??"

Fortunately, it's my brothers who bear the brunt of that, not me or my sister.

[SmilesSoSweet]

My mom seemingly did an abrupt about-face, from "Don't make me a grandma," to "When am I gonna be a grandma??"

Fortunately, it's my brothers who bear the brunt of that, not me or my sister.

Same here. Our brother is the only one married. So as soon as he has a kid, my sister and I are off the hook!

[cheshrcarol]

Jen have you decided what you're going to make your bridesmaids wear yet?

[pisces2473]

Jen have you decided what you're going to make your bridesmaids wear yet?
Carol, now that's an interesting way to WORD a question!

I do have pics from last Saturday's dress try-on...I'll email them to you ;) Coll tried on something really nice!

[cheshrcarol]

Carol, now that's an interesting way to WORD a question!;)
I do have pics from last Saturday's dress try-on...I'll email them to you ;) Coll tried on something really nice!Ooh, I love pictures. I'll check them out when class is over :).

[MetFanL]

Jen, are all your bridesmaids wearing the same dress or are you doing the same dress, different style thing? Do you know yet?

If you're looking for input, let me say that we all looked SO much better in the same color/different style stuff at my Bro's wedding b/c everyone was (1) more comfortable and (2) wearing something that was flattering on them.

Just my $.02.

[Illuminous]

hey i wanna see bridesmaid's pics!

You people are ruining me. Just so you know.

[MetFanL]

Same here. Our brother is the only one married. So as soon as he has a kid, my sister and I are off the hook!
This is why we continue to allow my mother to dress up the dog on Halloween. Anything to delay the baby-making. :)

[pisces2473]

;)
Ooh, I love pictures. I'll check them out when class is over :).
Um, they won't be there. I'm at work right now and they are saved to my home computer. LOL

Met--that's a great question. I think I'm doing the same color, diff. styles. I was in a wedding where we did that and it worked great.

Although, my MOH and Coll tried on the same dress, but MOH's was champagne and Coll's was chocolate. What I'd do for my other BM is have her wear a diff. dress in chocolate--the one that Coll had on wouldn't look good on her. It would sort of flow...but it might be too weird.

[pisces2473]

hey i wanna see bridesmaid's pics!

You people are ruining me. Just so you know.
Don't worry, I'll share them when I get home ;)

[winneythepooh7]

I want to go with chocolate and latte for the colors for my girls. I like this style dress from DB:

http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_detail.jsp?stid=2333&prodgroup=139

[pisces2473]

I want to go with chocolate and latte for the colors for my girls. I like this style dress from DB:

http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_detail.jsp?stid=2333&prodgroup=139
Dammit Winney! I want to share what I had them try on but I have to get back to work.

Coll? Do you want to show them what you tried on?

[winneythepooh7]

This is the dress I am wearing on Dec. 16th in Apple:


http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_detail.jsp?stid=2326&prodgroup=110

[pisces2473]

This is the dress I am wearing on Dec. 16th in Apple:


http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_detail.jsp?stid=2326&prodgroup=110
LOL Coll tried that on!!!!!! And so did my MOH but in chambord.

[coll214]

LOL, give me a minute and i'll find it :)

The wedding I went to this weekend they all wore same color dresses, with slightly different styles which looked nice... once I wrangle some pics from my cousin i'll show you...

And here's the dress I wore three weeks ago in peri: http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_detail.jsp?stid=1557&prodgroup=110

I think this is it but in truffle:
http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_detail.jsp?stid=1552&prodgroup=110

[SmilesSoSweet]

Jen, are all your bridesmaids wearing the same dress or are you doing the same dress, different style thing? Do you know yet?

If you're looking for input, let me say that we all looked SO much better in the same color/different style stuff at my Bro's wedding b/c everyone was (1) more comfortable and (2) wearing something that was flattering on them.

Just my $.02.

For my brother's wedding all the bridesmaid had the same dress and color but we got to pick our shoes (but all silver). The MOH had the same color and different dress.

My cousin's wedding had the same color for their dresses, but the tops were different.

I think for my friend's wedding my MOH dress will be the same color as the bridesmaid but will be a different style.

Oh and as for ring bearers and flower girls, I'd only have them in my wedding if they're related to me or if they're my god children. I wouldn't just pick any friend's kid or whatever.

[Illuminous]

I like hte dress Winney linked to!

[cheshrcarol]

Um, they won't be there. I'm at work right now and they are saved to my home computer. LOLWEll, I'm in class until 6 (I'm on a break right now) does that you give you enough time? ;)


Winney, are you having you bm's wear different colors? I like those two, btw.

[pisces2473]

I think this is it but in truffle:
http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_detail.jsp?stid=1552&prodgroup=110
Not it!

This is it. Coll wore truffle, and MOH wore champage.
http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_detail.jsp?stid=2042&prodgroup=110

Oh, Coll--the David's lady just called me to let me know the sale runs til the 9th! LOL

[workaholic?]

It was really weird today when our downstairs neighbor was like, "Oh, I was talking to your husband today.."

People always make the assumption when we're out in public, too. It's odd.

This happens to my boyfriend and I a lot, too. Back in december (we had only been together about 5 months at that point) he had shoulder surgery and the nurses and doctors kept calling me his wife and would ask me about my "husband." After a while, i got tired of correcting them and just let it be.

A funny incident was when we both went on a business trip to the same place, so we shared a hotel room...i had booked the room in my name, so when i checked in and the attendant then asked him if he needed to check in, he said, "oh, no i'm with her." so, later when he called the front desk to get me some bandaids for my blisters, they addressed him as "mr. 'workaholic?'" i laughed and laughed about that...i mean, i don't blame them for assuming we were married since we were sharing a hotel room, but the fact that they assumed MY last name was his last name was just classic. he didn't bother to correct her either, which was even better. i'm sure she was curious later though when we went out for separate business dinners and i gave him the one key they'd given us and i had to ask for a second one.

[analogman]

The linked dresses look nice!

For us, David's Bridal was a bit of a mess to work with. My wife's dress was a month later than promised and the alterations were not completed until the week of the wedding :eek: The sales people also made her buy some things that she didn't end up using (some big fluffy thing that goes under the dress). Fortunately she was able to give that away to a friend who did use it.

Make sure to order your dress with plenty of time to spare :)

[pisces2473]

The linked dresses look nice!

For us, David's Bridal was a bit of a mess to work with. My wife's dress was a month later than promised and the alterations were not completed until the week of the wedding :eek: The sales people also made her buy some things that she didn't end up using (some big fluffy thing that goes under the dress). Fortunately she was able to give that away to a friend who did use it.

Make sure to order your dress with plenty of time to spare :)
Thanks!

You know, I think all bridal shops have horror stories. I've heard things about the upscale boutiques and the small mom and pop type stores. I don't think it's a DB thing only.

LOL the big fluffy thing--I HATE THAT. Ask Coll. LOL

Oh don't worry, I'll be getting my dress ASAP. ;)

[winneythepooh7]

My dress came in in 2 weeks. They said it would take 4 months. The DB at the Source Mall in Long Island is Bridezilla-central. I went to the one near my parent's house in Upstate NY on a Friday during the day. I got a ton of attention and the salesgirl actually helped me in and out of like 12 dresses. When I was at the DB in Long Island, she just threw the dresses at me, and like everything was out of stock. I also went to the very well-known, upscale boutique, Adrienne's, out East in Long Island to look at BM dresses for my future SIL's wedding. The "designer dresses" they carried looked like shit because they were all tattered and torn. They only had like one size and most of the popular stuff advertised and in style now, they didn't have.

[asm198]

I was so lucky that I found a dress that I liked at David's and brought it home that day. It needs a bit of work (some minor re-beading) and alterations, but I'm definitely not going to use David's for that. I'm taking it to a local seamstress who is apparently amazing. And we got it for $100 off the sale price, which is awesome!

[winneythepooh7]

I ended up getting my dress at DB because I knew the more I looked, the more I would like and then not be able to make up my mind. I got something very traditional from the Monique Luo line.

[pisces2473]

I ended up getting my dress at DB because I knew the more I looked, the more I would like and then not be able to make up my mind. I got something very traditional from the Monique Luo line.
Um, yeah, can I see it? ;)

This MIGHT be mine:
(edited because I don't want C to see it)

[winneythepooh7]

I'll PM you the link.

[NewMrs.]

The linked dresses look nice!

For us, David's Bridal was a bit of a mess to work with. My wife's dress was a month later than promised and the alterations were not completed until the week of the wedding :eek: The sales people also made her buy some things that she didn't end up using (some big fluffy thing that goes under the dress). Fortunately she was able to give that away to a friend who did use it.

Make sure to order your dress with plenty of time to spare :)


Well, my dress, my sisters' bridemaids dresses, and my mom's dress all came from David's Bridal, and everything came in early. I also got much better customer service at David's than I did at the one upscale boutique at which I shopped.

However, I have heard many horror stories about David's alterations from other Pittsburgh-area brides, as well as one bridesmaid from Erie PA. Also, despite the fact that I thought alot of the stuff posted on the Knot message boards was garbage, I did read several David's Bridal alterations stories on the Knot. I don't know if any of these stories are true or not, but it was enough to make me decide to get my alterations done someplace else.

One of the things I have heard is that David's purposely orders dresses that are too large so that you need to have more alterations done. I gained weight (alot of weight, in my opinion) between the time I ordered my dress and my actual wedding (due to stress about a whole bunch of things), but my dress still fit for my wedding. The only alterations I had done at all were to the hem. So this gossip about the dresses that come in too large might actually be true, but if so, it worked out well for me.


Also, it is my opinion that David's is really pushy about convincing you to get all of your accessories from their store, although other boutiques might be just as bad. The saleswoman had me model my dress in front of a mirror and my mother, and then she put this veil and tiara on my head, and then she started telling this monologue about my father walking me up the aisle, and when she got to the part where he pulls up the blusher, she pulled up the blusher that I was wearing. She was really trying to get me to make an emotional purchase. Luckily, I was already planning on having my mom make my veil, and I that I didn't want to wear a tiara.

[SmilesSoSweet]

I had my bridesmaids dress alter at DB's. The main reason was that I had just moved out here and I didn't know of any other places to go to without the risk of going to a bad alteration place.

The BM dress was from DBs anyway, so I figured that I'd get it altered there. The only thing that had to be altered was the top part. It was strapless and the top needed to be taken in a bit but overall the dress fit fine. I think I did gain a few pounds when I originally got fitted for the dress but I didn't gain any weight on top. LOL Overall it wasn't a bad experience, but it was a little pricy though.

I'm MOH for a friend's wedding and we're going shopping in a couple of months. I'm actually excited about it because I get to help her pick her dress and I also get to try on dresses for my MOH dress. I think she picked the "pool" color from DBs as the color for the bridal party.

[asm198]

Also, it is my opinion that David's is really pushy about convincing you to get all of your accessories from their store, although other boutiques might be just as bad. The saleswoman had me model my dress in front of a mirror and my mother, and then she put this veil and tiara on my head, and then she started telling this monologue about my father walking me up the aisle, and when she got to the part where he pulls up the blusher, she pulled up the blusher that I was wearing. She was really trying to get me to make an emotional purchase. Luckily, I was already planning on having my mom make my veil, and I that I didn't want to wear a tiara.

Man, if my salesperson had tried the dad angle on me, she would have been pretty embarassed. I wouldn't have be mean unless she pushed it, then I would have told her that my dad wouldn't get to see me in this because he died 7 years ago and thank you for reminding me of that.

Anyone ever seen the movie 'Runaway Bride'? The scene with Julia Roberts when she's getting married to Richard Gere and her veil is attacking her? That was completely me in the bridal store when the girl plopped a matching veil on my head. Without any warning. I wasn't facing a mirror and was talking to my mom and all of a sudden, there's something in my hair, so I jumped and started swatting. I looked like a moron, but she didn't do that again, thankfully.

[pisces2473]

I was attacked by the veil, but I didn't hear any speeches. I wouldn't wear a blusher, anyway.

[asm198]

Thankfully, I heard no speeches, either. I actually think I offended half of the bridal store with my rendition of the Stay Puft marshmellow man scene from Ghostbusters.

Needless to say, my bridal chick wasn't a fan. Can't imagine why.

[pisces2473]

Yeah, let me just say I am not a fan of those "drapery" looking dresses. You know, the ones with all of the puckers in the skirt. I felt like I wanted to throttle my chick at David's but finally she brought the dress I was dying to try on.

[asm198]

Yeah, let me just say I am not a fan of those "drapery" looking dresses. You know, the ones with all of the puckers in the skirt. I felt like I wanted to throttle my chick at David's but finally she brought the dress I was dying to try on.

Hahaha!! As I said, the Stay Puft marshmellow man. I tried on TWO dresses that were like that and I offended half the store with my antics. I honestly wish someone had been recording my comments.

ETA: I have to say something, so as not to offend. I have an ass. Actually a fairly substantial one. And hips, too. So, the puckered dresses? Not my best look and I knew it. So, I did what I felt I had to do, to save the mother's from grasping for nice things to say and so I could get out of the dress quickly because I felt like I was going to vomit (disclaimer: I got really, really sick at the bridal store and almost vomited three times. It's been almost two weeks and I'm just now getting better. So, it wasn't the dresses, I promise.)

[sunshine79]

I got my veil and bridesmaids dresses from David's and my dress from Demetrios:

http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_bycolor_detail.jsp?stid=1652&sid=6632&cfid=58
BM dress in Truffle (with pink shoes, it looks so cute!)


And my dress:
http://www.afairytaleweddingonline.com/images/DP9606.jpg
It has a detachable train, which I really like. My final fitting is next Tuesday!

[sunshine79]

Yeah, let me just say I am not a fan of those "drapery" looking dresses. You know, the ones with all of the puckers in the skirt. I felt like I wanted to throttle my chick at David's but finally she brought the dress I was dying to try on.

LOL, Jen, I agree about those dresses. My mom said they look like a big puff of whipped cream. I'm sure they look nice on some people, but not me!

[wordsmith]

One thing I really hope isn't the hot trend, as it is currently, by the time I get hitched is the strapless bodice (sorry, sunshine79, like yours...it's a beautiful dress, by all means, and I have no doubt that it looks lovely on you, but I can't/shan't/won't wear strapless, or I'll look like a hulking football player).

[sunshine79]

One thing I really hope isn't the hot trend, as it is currently, by the time I get hitched is the strapless bodice (sorry, sunshine79, like yours...it's a beautiful dress, by all means, and I have no doubt that it looks lovely on you, but I can't/shan't/won't wear strapless, or I'll look like a hulking football player).

No offense taken. :) It's actually surprisingly flattering! I've heard the trend is going away from strapless... when I was looking last year that was the biggest thing out there. I also really like the cap sleeves like on this one:
http://www.afairytaleweddingonline.com/images/DP9608.jpg
(don't like the bottom though).

[wordsmith]

That actually would be an ideal style for me to wear. Even moreso if the neckline were scooped rather than sweetheart. Cap sleeves are flattering on me, I wore them in the last wedding I was involved in.

[cornflakegirl]

i like cap sleeves a lot too. i'm def over the strapless dress. i'm excited for some new trends on to some new trends in dresses.

jen- i want to see your dress.

[EmberMae]

We set the date and signed the contract with the venue, which is not perfect but I got tired of looking. Our wedding is in exactly one year tomorrow (yikes). I tried on dresses once at Alfred Angelo. It was extremely embarassing because none of them fit me and we had to keep getting bigger and bigger sizes. I normally wear an 8 and the first dress that would zip up on me was 14. I'm not too fond of strapless. I HATE veils and if some lady tried to tell me some emotional story about my dad lifting up the blusher, I would laugh at her, I find that tradition icky. I don't really like trains either. I don't like white. I'm going for ivory or champagne. I haven't picked bridesmaid's dresses or bridesmaids, except my sister. The idea of asking someone to pay $100-200 or more for a dress they're going to wear once makes me feel awful. We went to a bridal show and now I'm on 100 more spam lists. Yay. Anyway...I don't know how I feel about this big wedding thing. I think I'd just have something really small if it was just up to me. All these crazy details. My mom wants me to pick a theme, and then we have to pick colors. And everything has to match that. Everything. And the style of the bridesmaid's dresses has to mesh with the style of the bride's dress (what does that even mean?) When I think about it, I start to feel like my head is going to explode.

P.S. kvetch.indiebride.com is a cool message board if places like the knot get on your nerves

[WorkInProgress]

I got my veil and bridesmaids dresses from David's and my dress from Demetrios:

http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_bycolor_detail.jsp?stid=1652&sid=6632&cfid=58
BM dress in Truffle (with pink shoes, it looks so cute!)

I LOVE those bridesmaid dresses!

[WorkInProgress]

And the style of the bridesmaid's dresses has to mesh with the style of the bride's dress (what does that even mean?)

Just that they're not supposed to look out of place, I expect.

[pisces2473]

One thing I really hope isn't the hot trend, as it is currently, by the time I get hitched is the strapless bodice (sorry, sunshine79, like yours...it's a beautiful dress, by all means, and I have no doubt that it looks lovely on you, but I can't/shan't/won't wear strapless, or I'll look like a hulking football player).
Never say never. I was TOTALLY against strapless dresses, but guess what looked BEST on me? The strappy dresses made my arms and bust look HUGE. But you guys are right, they are EVERYWHERE and they don't have a lot of sleeved options. Weird.

Sunshine--I LOVE your BM dresses!!!!!! I want mine to wear those! LOL We'll have to see what my dress looks like first. The "puffy" dresses only look good on teeny, tiny brides. I saw it all firsthand last Saturday.

Ember--aww, don't worry! You'll find what you like/want. Re: meshing--you wouldn't want a knee length sundress for a bridal gown and your BMs to wear long flowing dresses. That's what they mean.

Uh oh about Alfred Angelo--I like his stuff, but I don't want to have to order a size 100! I'm going to try some on next week.

[CTGirl]

I'm nowhere near getting married (gotta land me a man first, lol) but I like looking at pretty dresses, and I really like this one:

http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns_detail.jsp?stid=2629&prodgroup=10

Course I get to have mine custom made by my aunt, so I can have whatever I want :razz: (provided she's still alive by the time I'm ready to tie the knot, lol!)

[MollyMe]

I wore a strapless BM dress and I looked too skinny because of the shape of my collar bone.

[Illuminous]

Sunshine, those BM dresses look like the ones I wore this summer, except mine was chapagne with velvet flowers on it. They were super comfy and cute, which was a feat, seeing as we had jsut about every kind of body shape represented by the bridesmaids.

[elise9]

What does a bride wear if she doesn't want to wear a "wedding dress"??
I don't like them, never have, but I don't know what/where else to look for a suitable dress for my wedding day. Any ideas?

[WorkInProgress]

What does a bride wear if she doesn't want to wear a "wedding dress"??
I don't like them, never have, but I don't know what/where else to look for a suitable dress for my wedding day. Any ideas?

What is it about "wedding dresses" that you don't like?

You could have a dress custom made for you. Any color, any cut, etc. You can do anything you want, basically. Maybe have a theme, and then go with it. I know a couple who had a Halloween wedding, and it was a giant costume party (them and the guests).

[CTGirl]

What does a bride wear if she doesn't want to wear a "wedding dress"??
I don't like them, never have, but I don't know what/where else to look for a suitable dress for my wedding day. Any ideas?

JCrew has some pretty non-traditional wedding dresses sometimes.

It's your wedding, you can wear whatever the ehck you want, and there is tons of variety in white dresses if you want to stick with that.

[pisces2473]

A girl I went to HS with wore a pink wedding dress. It was one of those puffy, curtain-type deals, but in a very pretty pale pink.

[WorkInProgress]

A girl I went to HS with wore a pink wedding dress. It was one of those puffy, curtain-type deals, but in a very pretty pale pink.

I've seen some red wedding dresses and I think they're gorgeous. Definitely not for everyone, though.

[shimma]

me! I wanna talk about weddings...

decided saving a few G's wasn't worth breaking my mom's heart and seriously upsetting my fiance over, so onward to the big party. I'm sure I'll have fun. :)

WDYT about bridesmaides wearing different dresses? Like if I told mine to wear whatever the hell they wanted as long as it was in a certain color? or what about different colors (ie, wear whatever the hell you want as long as it is one of the three colors of our wedding)? I have loathed my BM dresses with a passion and they're too damn expensive to only wear once.

[shimma]

I've seen some red wedding dresses and I think they're gorgeous. Definitely not for everyone, though.

Hee hee, reminds me of Miranda and Steve's wedding in SATC when she's picking out wedding dresses.

"Are you listening to me?! I said NO WHITE DRESSES. I have a child! The jig is up!" :lol:

[winneythepooh7]

Shimma: I was in a wedding where we picked out our dresses in whatever style we wanted, except all the same color. It was a huge hit. We got what fit us best, and all the guests commented on this choice.

I also agree with Jen on "never saying never". Honestly, you aren't going to know what looks good on you until you actually try on the dresses. I tried on 10 dresses that I absolutely loved from their picture in the catalog. But most of them looked crappy on. The dress I went with was one I actually didn't even notice in the catalog. It was actually on the manequin in the store, and looks nothing in person what it looks like in the catalog.

[shimma]

Shimma: I was in a wedding where we picked out our dresses in whatever style we wanted, except all the same color. It was a huge hit. We got what fit us best, and all the guests commented on this choice.

So were they all the same exact shade, or was it just like "everyone get blue dresses"?

Anyone ever see a BM wear like a nice pantsuit or something? My MOH is not a big dress person.

[winneythepooh7]

So were they all the same exact shade, or was it just like "everyone get blue dresses"?

Anyone ever see a BM wear like a nice pantsuit or something? My MOH is not a big dress person.

Same shade. Also I think DB has pantsuits.

[pisces2473]

When I was MOH for my aunt, she said, "Get long black dresses, no strapless." Me and the BM (her stepdaughter) got dresses from Victoria's Secret, just by chance. My aunt didn't care if we matched, but it just worked out that way. They were long black satin, sleeveless, with a hidden pocket in the front, to keep your hands warm. Great for a February wedding in a blizzard!

When I was a BM for my college friend, she said "You can pick from these seven dresses (she gave us the numbers) at David's Bridal, in periwinkle." Her sister had first choice--that one wasn't among our seven. We all looked great, because we had something equally flattering.

I'm debating--whether to have them all wear same color, different styles, or a very flattering style, but in different colors.

What's up with people's MOH's? Are they wearing the same as the other BMs?

[WorkInProgress]

WDYT about bridesmaides wearing different dresses? Like if I told mine to wear whatever the hell they wanted as long as it was in a certain color? or what about different colors (ie, wear whatever the hell you want as long as it is one of the three colors of our wedding)? I have loathed my BM dresses with a passion and they're too damn expensive to only wear once.

I think that it can be very cool to:

a)have the BM all pick a dress from a particular color palette
b)have the BM all pick from a set that you've already narrowed down
c)choose a color that will be versatile enough for the BM to rewear
d)choose a style (or styles) that is easily reusable (and let the BM pick which flatters them better)
e)let the BM choose from color-coordinated stuff (like if you have two-toned dresses, or something)

I would be hesitant to say, "ya'll go out and a pick a pink dress" just because you never know. (If I learned nothing else from my time in a sorority and my current choir, this is it. Somehow solid colors become patterns, sleeves become spaghetti straps, etc.)

I can easily envision myself rewearing the dress I have for a friend's upcoming wedding. It's black (yay for reusable) and two pieces (yay for versatility), I got to pick a v-neck, which is best for me (yay for flattering), and they're all from the same line, which means that they were designed to go together, and they'll all be the same shade of black (instead of different shades, which happens a lot), and it wasn't horribly expensive. Everybody wins.

[pisces2473]

FYI--Ann Taylor and JCrew have BM dresses that are easily worn again.

Oh, and I also think that a knee length or tea-length dress has more "wear again" power versus a full length dress.

[winneythepooh7]

In the wedding I am in this December, we are all wearing the same dress. I believe the MOH is carrying different flowers though. She also has to walk down the aisle all by herself, the rest of us have the man to escort us in that long red dress that drags along the floor that we could easily trip on LOL.

I am thinking of giving my sister, who is my MOH first choice on the style of dress and color she likes. I will probably put the others in the bridal party in another color. I am thinking of Latte and Truffle for my colors. But either way, we are all going to just have to go and they will have to try on a whole bunch of dresses to see what they like best.

[WorkInProgress]

Oh, and I also think that a knee length or tea-length dress has more "wear again" power versus a full length dress.

Me too. But it's not terribly difficult or expensive to get them shortened, as long as it fits with the style.

I think if I were getting married, I'd prefer to have tea-length for the BM. (I also don't want a super-formal wedding either.)

[wordsmith]

My SIL told my sister and I when she asked us to be bridesmaids that it would be a "choose your own style" thing, and then changed it up. Grrr. I guess the dresses were fine, as BM dresses go, at least, but I won't wear it for other things, because it's satin. It's here, (http://www.houseofbrides.com/product.php?productid=804&cat=441&page=2#) but with a pink ribbon instead of white.

[asm198]

When we were out shopping with the mom's, his sister was also there. I had thought about asking her to be in the wedding, but a few months ago she showed me a picture of an outfit she really liked, so I kind of decided not to ask her. But she was really excited to try on outfits at David's, so I asked her if she wanted to be in the wedding and she said yes. I told her I didn't really care what she wore, so she picked out a top and skirt that she liked. It happen to come in periwinkle and we weren't sure if we wanted blue or purple, so that's how we decided on purple for the bridesmaids.

I asked my other bridesmaid a couple of weeks later and she asked me about dresses. I told her tea length and in purple. Other than that, I don't care. I showed her a pic of the dress that the sister in law liked, but told her that she didn't have to get something like that if she didn't want to.

I'm not really big on the matchy matchy bridesmaid thing. What looks good on one person might not look good on another and I think that the bridesmaids should be comfortable and happy with what they are wearing.

The guy in my bridal party will be wearing tuxes that match my fiance's side. And as far as the tuxes go, I don't care what he picks out. The only think I have insisted on is they must have full backed vests. I don't like the look of vests without a back. And I'd rather them not wear bowties, but I'll live with it if that's what he decides.

[MollyMe]

For the wedding I was in, I got my dress on sale for $30 at a department store. I paid about $15 for alterations. I was the only BM so I didn't have to worry about matching. It really was a good find. It was a satin, tea length dress in the color picked by the bride. For that price, I don't mind that I haven't worn it again.

My bf doesn't want black dresses in the wedding.

[pisces2473]

My SIL told my sister and I when she asked us to be bridesmaids that it would be a "choose your own style" thing, and then changed it up. Grrr. I guess the dresses were fine, as BM dresses go, at least, but I won't wear it for other things, because it's satin. It's here, (http://www.houseofbrides.com/product.php?productid=804&cat=441&page=2#) but with a pink ribbon instead of white.
That's really cute! I like that, actually. Was yours in black?

I'm not big on matching...so I dont know what I wanna do. I think I might actually have the girls wear fall colors. Like one wear truffle, one wear chambord and one wear another color...in similarly styled dresses, but not identical.

[pisces2473]

I don't like the look of vests without a back. And I'd rather them not wear bowties, but I'll live with it if that's what he decides.
Ugh, me neither! No backless vests and no bowties. I like long ties better.

C is wearing a formal suit, not a tux. I guess the other guys will do the same.

[WorkInProgress]

C is wearing a formal suit, not a tux. I guess the other guys will do the same.

I prefer suits to tuxedos as well, but not enough to make a big deal about it.

[pisces2473]

C HATES tuxes. I think he'll look super sharp in a navy suit with a nice long tie. :huge:

[WorkInProgress]

C HATES tuxes. I think he'll look super sharp in a navy suit with a nice long tie. :huge:
Oooooooooooo. Nice.

[winneythepooh7]

I don't like tuxedos either. I want the boys to wear suits with chocolate vests and a nice long tie. Ugh to the bow-ties. For fun I am playing around with the idea of the boys walking in in top hats, or some kind of hats and shades/sunglasses when they are announced. Michael and the best man get driven into the ceremony in one of those old-fashioned cars from like the 40's or 50's. I'm an oddball, I know, but if you knew Michael and the guys who are probably going to be in the wedding party, you'd understand.

[pisces2473]

I might have a horse and buggy take me from my parents house to the church.

[winneythepooh7]

I might have a horse and buggy take me from my parents house to the church.

I think I'm going to end up doing limos. My parent's house is like 35 minutes from the place. With the exception of the guys, we are all getting ready there in the morning and doing a ton of pictures outside there because of the landscape outside. This is an aside too, but Michael is talking again and again about having our pug be the "ring bearer". I think it would be really cute, and I'd love to have a pic holding him, but I think it's also going to be a huge pain in the ass having to find someone to watch him and bring him somewhere during the wedding, and having to worry about him running all over the place on the day before and day of the wedding. Has anyone else ever done anything like this?

[pisces2473]

Could you hire someone to come and "sit" with Darbs? And take him back your parents' house, if need be? A neighbor? A HS kid?

My parents live less than a mile from the church and we used to have horses when we were little. So my dad just needs to pull some KON-EX-SHUNS.

[winneythepooh7]

Could you hire someone to come and "sit" with Darbs? And take him back your parents' house, if need be? A neighbor? A HS kid?

My parents live less than a mile from the church and we used to have horses when we were little. So my dad just needs to pull some KON-EX-SHUNS.

I probably could. Maybe one of my sister's friends or someone like that. She's like the Mayor and knows everyone up that way. I am so glad I am having a long-ish engagement to plan for the little "details" like this.

[pisces2473]

I probably could. Maybe one of my sister's friends or someone like that. She's like the Mayor and knows everyone up that way. I am so glad I am having a long-ish engagement to plan for the little "details" like this.
Not that long! A year from today! :razz:

[wordsmith]

[QUOTE=pisces2473]That's really cute! I like that, actually. Was yours in black?

Yeah, black tea length dresses with pink ribbons. All their stuff was black and pink. They were fine, it's just that satin makes them a little less flexible for future use.

[asm198]

I'd be totally fine if the guys wanted to wear nice suits, but I think he wants to wear a tux, so whatever he wants is fine.

And as far as transportation, he really wants some sort of sports car or something and I think that would be cool. If my dad was still alive, he would have be able to finish restoring on of his classic cars and we could have driven that.

[wordsmith]

My brothers both did antique autos.

[coll214]

I'm debating--whether to have them all wear same color, different styles, or a very flattering style, but in different colors.

What's up with people's MOH's? Are they wearing the same as the other BMs?
Sounds good to me :)

H had us all in the same dress and my cousin who just got married, they all had slightly different red dresses which were very nice....

[sunshine79]

What's up with people's MOH's? Are they wearing the same as the other BMs?
Mine is wearing the same thing as the bm. How many bm's do you have (sorry if I missed it in an earlier post). If you have a large party it might be cool to have the MOH in a different color.

[sunshine79]

Sunshine, those BM dresses look like the ones I wore this summer, except mine was chapagne with velvet flowers on it. They were super comfy and cute, which was a feat, seeing as we had jsut about every kind of body shape represented by the bridesmaids.

Thanks, yeah I almost wish I could buy one for myself! My ceremony is outside in a garden, and even though it's October it's still pretty warm in Florida, so I wanted them to be comfortable.

[sunshine79]

That's really cute! I like that, actually. Was yours in black?

I'm not big on matching...so I dont know what I wanna do. I think I might actually have the girls wear fall colors. Like one wear truffle, one wear chambord and one wear another color...in similarly styled dresses, but not identical.

One wedding we went to had a cute idea - they all had black tea length dresses, but each had a sash in a different color. I think each of their bouquets matched their sash too.

[wordsmith]

What does a bride wear if she doesn't want to wear a "wedding dress"??
I don't like them, never have, but I don't know what/where else to look for a suitable dress for my wedding day. Any ideas?

My friend wore a white silk sheath dress from J Crew, sleeveless styling with a wrap front and empire waist. Very simple, but she definitely looked bridelike. It was chic. it was an outdoor, simple summer wedding.

[sunshine79]

I think I'm going to end up doing limos. My parent's house is like 35 minutes from the place. With the exception of the guys, we are all getting ready there in the morning and doing a ton of pictures outside there because of the landscape outside. This is an aside too, but Michael is talking again and again about having our pug be the "ring bearer". I think it would be really cute, and I'd love to have a pic holding him, but I think it's also going to be a huge pain in the ass having to find someone to watch him and bring him somewhere during the wedding, and having to worry about him running all over the place on the day before and day of the wedding. Has anyone else ever done anything like this?

Last year we were at a church wedding, and at the end of the ceremony the wedding party started taking pictures and their yellow lab showed up on the altar with them. I don't know how they coordinated getting him there, but their pictures were so cute with the two of them and the dog! I couldn't believe the church allowed the dog in, but it was very cool. :) I would love to get some pictures of me getting ready with my kitties, but I'm getting dressed at a hotel.

[wordsmith]

My brother and SIL ended up getting married at a church across the street from her parents' house, pretty much b/c it was the only church in town not booked for that day. It was cool, because her parents have a beautifully landscaped back yard, and there were lots of nice pictures there, and she got to get ready in her childhood bedroom and just walk across the street for the ceremony. Afterward, they took a spin in an antique touring car that we'd decorted with ribbons and stuff and had waiting for them.

[asm198]

My brothers both did antique autos.

I totally think that's such a cool idea. I really wish I knew someone with a classic, but we might see if we can rent one from a local auto club or something.

My "MOH" is wearing something different from the rest, but I don't count. Because my "MOH" is a guy, so he's been deemed the 'dude of honor'. He's wearing whatever the rest of the guys are wearing. My two bridesmaids are wearing different dresses in the same or similar color.

We're having a fairly simple wedding, though. We're getting married outside, in a local park that has a gorgeous rose garden with a fountain in the center. The rose garden is separated from the rest of the park by a giant circle of stone pillars and in the center of the pillars is this giant fountain. And scattered around in interior of the pillars are tons of rose bushes in various colors.

So, we won't need to do hardly any decorating, because the decor will do the job. We're renting white chairs and that's pretty much it for ceremony stuff, which will be awesome.

Dress wise, mine is strapless, sheath-like, chiffon, and beaded. Very simple, but elegant. It's got kind of a gathered waist/bodice and looks really nice. I'm debating on keeping the train or not, though. It's exactly what I wanted. I didn't want something poofy, satin, or heavily beaded or elaborate. I wanted something comfortable that fit my style and I got it. I'm totally happy with my dress.

[pisces2473]

Mine is wearing the same thing as the bm. How many bm's do you have (sorry if I missed it in an earlier post). If you have a large party it might be cool to have the MOH in a different color.
Only 3--MOH and 2 BM's.

[pisces2473]

My brother and SIL ended up getting married at a church across the street from her parents' house, pretty much b/c it was the only church in town not booked for that day. It was cool, because her parents have a beautifully landscaped back yard, and there were lots of nice pictures there, and she got to get ready in her childhood bedroom and just walk across the street for the ceremony. Afterward, they took a spin in an antique touring car that we'd decorted with ribbons and stuff and had waiting for them.
If I was still living in the apartment where I live now by the time we get married (we're moving--we hope), I could walk across the street to the church.

[shimma]

My brothers both did antique autos.

We're going in SUVs.

[SmilesSoSweet]

We're going in SUVs.

My brother had one of those SUV limos. He wanted a Hummer limo, but his wife said no.

Seriously, I think my brother is the ONLY guy I know that had his ideal wedding planned out more than his wife! My SIL didn't really have an idea of what she wanted for her wedding. My brother's nickname during that weekend was Bridezilla. He wanted EVERYTHING perfect. It was a well done/put together wedding, too.

I think if I ever get married, I'll have my brother be my wedding planner. LOL

[winneythepooh7]

So for those of you with rings........how do you keep it looking all shiny and sparkly like those first few days after you got it? I've been soaking mine regularly in a solution of windex and hot water, which was suggested to me by one of my married friends. I want it shining like new though! Any suggestions? Also do you leave it on in the shower, and when you wash the dishes?

[sunshine79]

So for those of you with rings........how do you keep it looking all shiny and sparkly like those first few days after you got it? I've been soaking mine regularly in a solution of windex and hot water, which was suggested to me by one of my married friends. I want it shining like new though! Any suggestions? Also do you leave it on in the shower, and when you wash the dishes?
I have a jewelry cleaning solution that I use about every 2 weeks - my FI got it at the jewelry store where he bought the ring. Also when we go to a jewelry store in the mall to look at stuff, sometimes they offer to steam it for you while you're there (just make sure that it always stays in your sight).
I don't wear mine in the shower or to sleep and try to take it off when I do dishes or cleaning.

[shimma]

So for those of you with rings........how do you keep it looking all shiny and sparkly like those first few days after you got it? I've been soaking mine regularly in a solution of windex and hot water, which was suggested to me by one of my married friends. I want it shining like new though! Any suggestions? Also do you leave it on in the shower, and when you wash the dishes?

ammonia and an old toothbrush once a week. i use gloves when I clean the house and wash the dishes, and take it off in the shower (shh! don't tell my fiance).

[analogman]

So for those of you with rings........how do you keep it looking all shiny and sparkly like those first few days after you got it? I've been soaking mine regularly in a solution of windex and hot water, which was suggested to me by one of my married friends. I want it shining like new though! Any suggestions? Also do you leave it on in the shower, and when you wash the dishes?

My wife uses a blue solution that I got with the ring. She also takes it off before going into the shower.

I do the dishes so she doesn't have to worry about dish soap on the ring :huge:

[asm198]

I've used denture cleaners and warm water in the past. I let it soak for about 10 minutes, then rinse with warm water. It keeps it pretty sparkly.

[pisces2473]

LMAO. I shower, sleep, everything with my ring on. I find that when I do the dishes, it sparkles MORE from it. I do have that blue liquid that came with the ring, and use that on occassion.

[asm198]

I actually don't wear my ring every second of the day. I take it off to shower, wash my hands, put on lotion, clean, garden, or do anything that my crack it or bend a prong. And occasionally I take it off to sleep, but that's usually after it injures me.

[pisces2473]

Oh I don't put lotion on with it on.

[winneythepooh7]

So I don't want to spend a ton on flowers at the reception. I feel like it's wasteful. I am having a fall wedding in the middle of "apple country" and saw these centerpieces and loved them. What do you ladies think?

http://www.myjeanm.com/engine.cfm?&PageID=1038&iCatID=16252

I was also thinking we could do different color apples, maybe pears too. My mom also suggested maybe doing some tables with flowers, some with the fruit centerpieces. We could also put tealights around the table, and maybe a small ring of flowers around the fruit centerpieces?


I'm still not sure what I want to do for favors. My FSIL just ordered labels and she is going to put them on bottles of wine and give those. That seems like it could get really pricey though.

[pisces2473]

$16 for that glass thing is pricey. Not to mention what you'd put inside of it.

We got glass hurricane lamps at ACMoore on sale for $1.99 each. I think they are 8" high. We're going to put a candle inside, probably ivory, and scatter silk "fall" leaves around the bottom, on the tables. Very simple.

[winneythepooh7]

$16 for that glass thing is pricey. Not to mention what you'd put inside of it.

We got glass hurricane lamps at ACMoore on sale for $1.99 each. I think they are 8" high. We're going to put a candle inside, probably ivory, and scatter silk "fall" leaves around the bottom, on the tables. Very simple.

Oh I agree, that is pricey. I just liked the idea. I think my mom and I are going to go to this major crafts warehouse in Lancaster PA to look for the favor stuff. I am sure we can get the stuff to make the centerpieces for a helluva lot cheaper!

I also thought it would be cool because then people could take the centerpieces home with them. Maybe we could put a recipe for apple pie of something like that along with it LOL. I really like the idea as well of the fall leaves scattered around the table.

[pisces2473]

Oh I agree, that is pricey. I just liked the idea. I think my mom and I are going to go to this major crafts warehouse in Lancaster PA to look for the favor stuff. I am sure we can get the stuff to make the centerpieces for a helluva lot cheaper!

I also thought it would be cool because then people could take the centerpieces home with them. Maybe we could put a recipe for apple pie of something like that along with it LOL. I really like the idea as well of the fall leaves scattered around the table.
OHHHHH I thought you were gonna buy that stuff from the site! My bad! I was like, "if that's cheap to you...okay..."

I got the leaves by getting the fall harvest garlands of silk flowers at Michael's and cutting the leaves off. They look pretty good. I got them at the end of the season, so I spent $10 on that. The glass things ended up being like $45 with tax. Now to find cheap unscented candles!

[Winter Storm]

And I thought they'd have some rinky-dinky designs....uh....no, these look like real dresses.

http://www.cheap-chic-weddings.com/wedding-contest-2006.html

[pisces2473]

And I thought they'd have some rinky-dinky designs....uh....no, these look like real dresses.

http://www.cheap-chic-weddings.com/wedding-contest-2006.html
HA! I heard about these, but didn't see them. How'd they hold them together, hot glue?

[shimma]

HA! I heard about these, but didn't see them. How'd they hold them together, hot glue?

I'm seriously impressed, I'd have never guessed TP!

[pisces2473]

Oh wait, I know how they hold 'em together...Denture cream! hehe

[WorkInProgress]

HA! I heard about these, but didn't see them. How'd they hold them together, hot glue?

Pins? Elmer's? I'd be afraid that so much hot glue with such thin "material" would burn the model.

The two that won were incredible. It's amazing what you can do with LOTs of TP and extra time.

[winneythepooh7]

So I have most of my ducks in a row with the wedding planning. We got the minister, my parents also signed the DJ contract the other day. My FMIL was at David's the other day and they said their new line of bridesmaids dresses come out around April. I am pretty positive we are going to do apples for centerpieces (similar to what I posted up thread). Have a couple ideas on favors, but not 100% sure.....

I think we have to go back to the catering hall in January. I want to look into seeing if they can do a chocolate fountain. I don't want a viennesse table (way too expensive and I think it will go to waste), but I want to just "inquire" as to how much a chocolate fountain will cost.

I still have lots of time to book the hotel and I guess go dress shopping with my girls. K & I weren't 100% pleased with our alterations at David's for R's wedding in December, so I have to look into that stuff as well.

[shimma]

Oh wait, I know how they hold 'em together...Denture cream! hehe

Cervical mucus!

[shimma]

So I have most of my ducks in a row with the wedding planning. We got the minister, my parents also signed the DJ contract the other day. My FMIL was at David's the other day and they said their new line of bridesmaids dresses come out around April. I am pretty positive we are going to do apples for centerpieces (similar to what I posted up thread). Have a couple ideas on favors, but not 100% sure.....

I think we have to go back to the catering hall in January. I want to look into seeing if they can do a chocolate fountain. I don't want a viennesse table (way too expensive and I think it will go to waste), but I want to just "inquire" as to how much a chocolate fountain will cost.

I still have lots of time to book the hotel and I guess go dress shopping with my girls. K & I weren't 100% pleased with our alterations at David's for R's wedding in December, so I have to look into that stuff as well.

Yay! I'm glad you have your shit together... I sure don't. I don't even have a dress yet!

[pisces2473]

I still haven't done anything about a DJ yet. Plenty of names and numbers, just haven't done it.

Reception site, church, photographer, dress, centerpieces...all done. Everything else needs to get worked on! haha

Shimma, that is disgusting re: CM!!!!!

[SmilesSoSweet]

I went dress shopping with my friend on Friday. It was fun. She's just deciding between two wedding dresses. One at DB's and the other at this place where no dress is more than $350.

If she buys her dress at DB, then the bridal party gets discounts on their stuff. I told her not to make that the reason why she should buy her dress at DBs. The dress she liked there was for $549 and the one at the other place is for $350. My MOH dress at DBs is $150 which is fairly reasonable. We tried on two styles and I liked the second one I tried on and the color of it too. I dropped almost two dress sizes (I think by the wedding I'll be a full two sizes smaller!) so that was really cool. I'll post the links up later when I get a chance.

She still needs to book the photographer, DJ, etc. She's just trying to see what money she can move around to pay for the wedding since her parents aren't paying for anything! (That's another story!) Her wedding is in July.

[shimma]

Shimma, that is disgusting re: CM!!!!!


It's a gift. :razz:

[EmberMae]

So I have most of my ducks in a row with the wedding planning. We got the minister, my parents also signed the DJ contract the other day. My FMIL was at David's the other day and they said their new line of bridesmaids dresses come out around April. I am pretty positive we are going to do apples for centerpieces (similar to what I posted up thread). Have a couple ideas on favors, but not 100% sure.....

I think we have to go back to the catering hall in January. I want to look into seeing if they can do a chocolate fountain. I don't want a viennesse table (way too expensive and I think it will go to waste), but I want to just "inquire" as to how much a chocolate fountain will cost.

I still have lots of time to book the hotel and I guess go dress shopping with my girls. K & I weren't 100% pleased with our alterations at David's for R's wedding in December, so I have to look into that stuff as well.
Jeez. We're getting married the same day and I am so far behind you it's not even funny. We have the place and the caterer which comes with the place. I found an officiant, and a harpist for the ceremony music.

We've spoken with 2 photographers, one is definately out because the prices are high and we don't like the album it comes with. There's another photographer I want to give a try but she's more artistic and my mom hates that "the pictures are CROOKED." So we're probably going to end up with a really boring traditional photographer. Whatever.

Two weeks ago we had a huge fight about the reception music, and haven't discussed it since. My mom has decided that she wants a band because she had a band and my cousin jaime had a band so obviously bands are better. What really annoys me is that she doesn't want to spend money on a photographer, which puts 90% of them out of our price range, but she is willing to spend $2500-3000 for a band when you can get a dj for less than $1k. The photos are the only thing I'm going to have left of this highly extravagant day, but those, we can't spend a lot of money on. The priorities for her spending include things she will think will impress her friends/family, not things that will only benefit the bride and groom, because, as she told me after our band vs. dj fight "this wedding IS NOT ABOUT US." At least a dj can play a wide variety of music so everyone can get something they like, the band she wants mostly plays 70s music and they said they can learn ONE song for me. Whoopee.

We're meeting a florist tonight, I don't really see why since we haven't picked any colors or theme yet, except for the fact that the florist refused to give us any prices over the phone. At first I had said I wanted really dark, midnight blue, because that's my favorite color, but it's hard to find dresses and flowers in that color so I'm leaning towards fall colors, but my mom doesn't seem to like that idea so I don't know what we're going to do. I've barely looked at dresses and I haven't even chosen all my bridesmaids. The whole thing is just a big pain and I wish I hadn't agreed to it. I only did to appease my mother who really wanted a big wedding, little did I know she just wanted to use our wedding as an excuse to throw a big party on her terms without any input from us except to say "yes."

BTW chocolate fountains cost around $500 around here. There's a lot of freelance chocolate fountain companies that you can rent from if the caterer doesnt' do it.

[blueyes]

My friend, the bride, has pretty much delegated the selection of the bridesmaids' dresses to me, with two stipulations:

1. The dress should at least attempt to flatter all of the body types of the bridesmaids (read: don't make the FSIL look like 'large', even though she is)
2. My dress, as the MOH, should be different than the other bridesmaids'

Um, help...? I'm completely okay with this since I'm hoping that I can steer her towards something with decent chances of re-wear-ability, but her colors (red, black, white, silver) are making this into a formal-ish wedding and I've got no idea how to dress a 'large' 17-yr old girl.

(note: 'large' is how the bride is describing the FSIL; I've never met her or seen her or a picture of her, so I don't even have a CLUE as to what precisely 'large' is! So don't anyone get feisty over the adjective...)

[WorkInProgress]

My friend, the bride, has pretty much delegated the selection of the bridesmaids' dresses to me, with two stipulations:

1. The dress should at least attempt to flatter all of the body types of the bridesmaids (read: don't make the FSIL look like 'large', even though she is)
2. My dress, as the MOH, should be different than the other bridesmaids'

Um, help...? I'm completely okay with this since I'm hoping that I can steer her towards something with decent chances of re-wear-ability, but her colors (red, black, white, silver) are making this into a formal-ish wedding and I've got no idea how to dress a 'large' 17-yr old girl.

(note: 'large' is how the bride is describing the FSIL; I've never met her or seen her or a picture of her, so I don't even have a CLUE as to what precisely 'large' is! So don't anyone get feisty over the adjective...)

Several designers have a mix and match type thing where there are something like 6 different skirts and 16 or so tops to pick...you and/or your friend, the bride can narrow it down to one or two skirts and 5 or 6 tops for the BM to pick from (if yours must be different, you could pick yours first and then eliminate it from the options of the bms). My friend recently did this and it worked out great. We all got the same skirt (she gave us another option, but we all wanted the A line) and most of us had different tops, so we all matched but weren't identical. With the color and the two piece style, I expect that at least most of us will be able to rewear the dress in some permutation.

[SmilesSoSweet]

My MOH dress will be different from the BMs dresses. The BM dresses are dresses that can be reused. Mine probably can be too, but I'm not one to wear formal dresses much anyway. The bride-to-be's sister is a senior in high school and will be using her BM dress as her prom dress. The wedding is in July.

All three BMs are pretty much around the same size, whereas I'm on the bigger side, so it is a good thing that my dress is different. Both styles are strapless, but I'm wearing a wrap over my dress because I don't like exposing my arms too much (one of my flaws!) and the bride-to-be was cool with that. I also like the fact that the dresses are full length. For my brother's wedding, the length of our BM dresses were just between the calve and knees. I prefer long dresses. The MOH for this wedding had a full length dress, but same color.

One of my cousins that got married did the same skirt, but different tops for her bridesmaids and MOH too. That worked out well, too.

[cheshrcarol]

Blueyes, does the bride insist that all the bm's have the same dress? I was in a wedding last spring where we got to pick our own dresses. It was really nice being able to pick dresses that flattered each of us individually. And when you're spending $100+ on something, it's nice that it's something YOU like, as well as the bride. We also had a huge range of sizes we were working with too, probably 24/26 - 2/4.

Personally, if it was me getting married, I'd pick out a bunch of styles I like and have everyone pick whichever ones they like.

If she does insist on everyone except the MOH wearing the same dress, go with an a-line, which is the most flattering cut on everyone. Or, you could either go as a group and see what looks good on people, or have everyone go individually and make their suggestions for which ones they like.

[wordsmith]

Picking dresses is nice. I wish my sister in law had gone with that, as it was her original plan.

[coll214]

If she does insist on everyone except the MOH wearing the same dress, go with an a-line, which is the most flattering cut on everyone. Or, you could either go as a group and see what looks good on people, or have everyone go individually and make their suggestions for which ones they like.
For the wedding i was in in September, we did that; all of us went shopping together... as our sizes ranged from 4-20, and rather high height differences. We all ended up w/ the same dress which we all liked, oddly enough.

[Kitty]

I love the idea of having people pick their own BM dresses. I absolutely hate showing my arms in those tube/strapless dresses that so many people choose. Unless you have some toned ass arms those just aren't flattering.

[winneythepooh7]

I love the idea of having people pick their own BM dresses. I absolutely hate showing my arms in those tube/strapless dresses that so many people choose. Unless you have some toned ass arms those just aren't flattering.

I think I'm going with hot-pink poofy dresses for my wedding too ;).

[weary]

I think I'm going with hot-pink poofy dresses for my wedding too ;).

taffeta & satin w/ sequins? :p

[WorkInProgress]

and great big ass-bows.

[SmilesSoSweet]

I love the idea of having people pick their own BM dresses. I absolutely hate showing my arms in those tube/strapless dresses that so many people choose. Unless you have some toned ass arms those just aren't flattering.

Same here. My bro's wedding the BM dresses were strapless, but we were required to wear a wrap in the same color to cover our shoulders (that was the church's requirement) and I was totally fine with that. This was also an A-line dress, but not full length.

My MOH dress that I just picked out is another strapless, but I decided to wear a wrap as well. And this dress is full length, another plus, because I like long, A-line dresses that cover up! hehehe.

[winneythepooh7]

I'm being a buster here. Kitty, pretty pretty please, post your sexy pink dress........

[Kitty]

I actually have a photo of me in it catching the bouquet! It's on my comp at home though. I don't think I have a pic of the dress by itself..I can't remember where I posted that? wasn't it on here?

[blueyes]

Well, I've pinned her down on it needs to be l-o-n-g (her emphasis, not mine) and it needs to flatter all the girls. She's still leaning heavily towards the MOH's dress being different, but I don't know precisely HOW the girl means different (color, cut, etc blah blah blah).

What do you guys think of this plan of attack - I get her to decide on 'different' and then select a color, and then let the BMs figure out cut, size, etc, blah, blah, blah?

(I've had THE dress from Hell - there will never be a more horrid dress than what I wore at my cousin's wedding. I have no pictures - asking won't produce them - but let me just say this: multiple fabric roses in itchy itchy 'champagne' chiffon/floaty material.)

[pisces2473]

I don't think my MOH is going to be different than the others. There's only 3 girls in my party total anyway.

[stonemonkey]

You know, I was just thinking the other day that an awesome wedding song would be "First Day of My Life" by Bright Eyes.

(Yes, me posting on the wedding thread is one of the first signs of the apocalypse, better start running for the hills, people.)

[wordsmith]

I'm not a big "lalalalal my perfect wedding blah blah blah will be ____ and I've been envisioning it that way since I was 8 years old" type, but I will admit, I have given significant thought to music, and that's really all. But I'm a music person.

[SmilesSoSweet]

Well, I've pinned her down on it needs to be l-o-n-g (her emphasis, not mine) and it needs to flatter all the girls. She's still leaning heavily towards the MOH's dress being different, but I don't know precisely HOW the girl means different (color, cut, etc blah blah blah).

What do you guys think of this plan of attack - I get her to decide on 'different' and then select a color, and then let the BMs figure out cut, size, etc, blah, blah, blah?

(I've had THE dress from Hell - there will never be a more horrid dress than what I wore at my cousin's wedding. I have no pictures - asking won't produce them - but let me just say this: multiple fabric roses in itchy itchy 'champagne' chiffon/floaty material.)

She hasn't picked out a color yet? Usually the color of the BM and MOH dresses are the color(s) of the wedding (motiff).

For the wedding I'm in, there are three BMs and me as the MOH. My dress is the exact same color, but a completely different style. Both styles are from David's bridal. (Style #81026 in pool for the BM dresses and Style #8567 in pool for my MOH dress.)

I first asked my friend (bride-to-be) if she wanted my MOH dress to be different and she did. The dress I saw online on DBs turned out to be the dress I'll end up getting for this wedding.

[pisces2473]

Uh, SSS, I haven't picked a color yet either!

[SmilesSoSweet]

Uh, SSS, I haven't picked a color yet either!

Okay, I just wasn't sure. The ones I've known who were planning weddings knew the color they wanted from the get go.

Sorry! I was just asking only because of observation from friends' and relatives' weddings. That's all.

[pisces2473]

I have no idea. I know what I want, I just can't find it. A deep reddish berry pinky color. If that makes sense.

[Kitty]

I have no idea. I know what I want, I just can't find it. A deep reddish berry pinky color. If that makes sense.

That sounds pretty! I like darker jewel tones for BM dresses.

[pisces2473]

That sounds pretty! I like darker jewel tones for BM dresses.
I figured it would be great for end of Sept. Very fall. I guess you'd call it cranberry? Maybe?

I like this company's dresses...but I don't really like that cranberry swatch.
http://www.ariadress.com/ShantungSwatches.htm

[Kitty]

Why does it look striped?

[SmilesSoSweet]

I have no idea. I know what I want, I just can't find it. A deep reddish berry pinky color. If that makes sense.

That sounds like a nice color. My friend picked the pool color because she said that the color goes well with our skin tone. Her BMs, MOH and herself are Filipino and we all have tan-colored skin, so I wasn't sure about the color at first, but it did look really good with our skin tone. It's a really nice color too that will look good for a July summer wedding. Of course if she picked any other color I would have just gone with it as well, since it is HER wedding and she can pick any color she wants. :)

[coll214]

Why does it look striped?
LOL, it did for me too. Nope, no stripes for me!! :)

[wordsmith]

I actually loved having black BM dresses. They had a thin ribbon sash under the bodice (a-line) in a constrasting color, so they didn't look like random cocktail dresses.

[SmilesSoSweet]

I actually loved having black BM dresses. They had a thin ribbon sash under the bodice (a-line) in a constrasting color, so they didn't look like random cocktail dresses.

One of my other friends is getting married about a month before the wedding I'm in. Her BM and MOH dresses will all be black. I'm not sure of the style though since I haven't seen any pics of them yet.

[pisces2473]

LOL, it did for me too. Nope, no stripes for me!! :)
It is striped. I just mentioned that swatch so you didn't think THAT was the cranberry I wanted. Helllll no. I want like a berry color or something. But all of those reddish pinks are TOO bright. I might have to settle on burgundy or a brown shade, and get really colorful flowers.

[wordsmith]

I figured it would be great for end of Sept. Very fall. I guess you'd call it cranberry? Maybe?

I like this company's dresses...but I don't really like that cranberry swatch.
http://www.ariadress.com/ShantungSwatches.htm

Of those swatches, I really like the bordeaux and the midnight. But I always like deep, dramatic tones.

[pisces2473]

That sounds like a nice color. My friend picked the pool color because she said that the color goes well with our skin tone. Her BMs, MOH and herself are Filipino and we all have tan-colored skin, so I wasn't sure about the color at first, but it did look really good with our skin tone. It's a really nice color too that will look good for a July summer wedding. Of course if she picked any other color I would have just gone with it as well, since it is HER wedding and she can pick any color she wants. :)
That's a great summery color!

[pisces2473]

I actually loved having black BM dresses. They had a thin ribbon sash under the bodice (a-line) in a constrasting color, so they didn't look like random cocktail dresses.
See, that would be fine for a nighttime wedding...but not a 2pm ceremony and afternoon/evening reception. At least, not for me.

[coll214]

I actually loved having black BM dresses. They had a thin ribbon sash under the bodice (a-line) in a constrasting color, so they didn't look like random cocktail dresses.
The wedding my sister was in they wore black dresses. She ended up wearing the dress two more times after having it altered; also two more times. But still, she got her money's worth.

[pisces2473]

Of those swatches, I really like the bordeaux and the midnight. But I always like deep, dramatic tones.
Those are some of my faves, too. Along with the aubergine.

[wordsmith]

See, that would be fine for a nighttime wedding...but not a 2pm ceremony and afternoon/evening reception. At least, not for me.

There's was at 3, so it was a dinner/evening reception, started about 5-5:30 after cocktail time. It was a semiformal wedding/reception. But you've seen the dresses, they were short and kicky, didn't especially scream evening black-tie fete. Tea length, sleeveless.

Edit - That one...front is symmetrical to back. http://a6.dessy.com/index.cfm?go=dresses&style=A6220-pink

[pisces2473]

There's was at 3, so it was a dinner/evening reception, started about 5-5:30 after cocktail time. It was a semiformal wedding/reception. But you've seen the dresses, they were short and kicky, didn't especially scream evening black-tie fete. Tea length, sleeveless.

Edit - That one...front is symmetrical to back. http://a6.dessy.com/index.cfm?go=dresses&style=A6220-pink
Hmmmm, since my reception is at a beach club, we have to go with some color, just to make it not look too formal.

[Kitty]

Also, with how you described your wedding before with all the fall colores/theme, I really think you need to go with a nice rich fall color.

[wordsmith]

A black one like this - I probably would find too formal for day. But it's hard for me to think of tea length as exceptionally staid. http://a6.dessy.com/index.cfm?go=dresses&style=A6202

[pisces2473]

Kitty--yeah, I agree.

Words--I don't know...there's something about a shorter black dress that screams cocktail party and winter to me.

[Kitty]

In general I think black is too harsh for a wedding..but I could get behind a navy/midnight color.

[wordsmith]

To each, her own. It worked suprisingly well for a semiformal summer evening reception. Which actually was part cocktail party.

[pisces2473]

Oh I'm sure it would look great in other places....just not where I'm having my reception.

[Josie]

Pisces, my sister went with this company.

http://www.watters.com/catalog_list_all.php?coll=watters

We were all able to get different dresses (because not all of us had model bodies), but the fabric colors were all the same, so we matched in that regard. I don't think they were outrageously expensive.

[pisces2473]

Pisces, my sister went with this company.

http://www.watters.com/catalog_list_all.php?coll=watters

We were all able to get different dresses (because not all of us had model bodies), but the fabric colors were all the same, so we matched in that regard. I don't think they were outrageously expensive.
Holy shit! Look who's back! :evil:

[shimma]

Holy shit! Look who's back! :evil:

In pog form, no less!

[Josie]

I tend to visit the bad baby name forum more....sorry!:0 Especially with being pregnant.

[shimma]

I tend to visit the bad baby name forum more....sorry!:0 Especially with being pregnant.

Aww... congratulations! What's pog form?

[pisces2473]

I tend to visit the bad baby name forum more....sorry!:0 Especially with being pregnant.
Ooooh lets talk about those here! How are you feeling? Are you going to find out what this one is?

[Josie]

Pisces- feel free to start a bad name thread!

Oh, I'm way having boy vibes this time, and it's only 7 weeks! :rolleyes:

Yeah, sicker than a dog. I have to eat all the time just so I don't feel ill. LAME with a capital L.

Hell no we are not finding out and irregardless, he/she can share a room with Jilly.

Oh, we did already see the little bean a couple days ago, heartbeating strong and measuring exactly.:D

[pisces2473]

Pisces- feel free to start a bad name thread!

Oh, I'm way having boy vibes this time, and it's only 7 weeks! :rolleyes:

Yeah, sicker than a dog. I have to eat all the time just so I don't feel ill. LAME with a capital L.

Hell no we are not finding out and irregardless, he/she can share a room with Jilly.

Oh, we did already see the little bean a couple days ago, heartbeating strong and measuring exactly.:D
Gosh "Josie" you are so IRONICAL about this stuff!

Did you have girl vibes with Jilly?

I say no to Joseph or George...too cutesy with Jillian.

[shimma]

Gosh "Josie" you are so IRONICAL about this stuff!

Did you have girl vibes with Jilly?

I say no to Joseph or George...too cutesy with Jillian.

I say Jack to go with Jillian.

[pisces2473]

I say Jack to go with Jillian.
NOOOOOO!!!!!! That is EVIL!!!!!

[Josie]

Man, I had girl vibes the second I found out I was pregnant with Jill.

Right now we are thinking Grant for a boy.

Jack is way too popular.

[Josie]

But names are too damn hard to think of. Way too hard.

[WorkInProgress]

But names are too damn hard to think of. Way too hard.

But superfun. When I was younger, I used to borrow tons of baby name books from the library and read them. So much fun! But I'm pretty sure the librarians thought I was pg and gave me funny looks.

[SmilesSoSweet]

NOOOOOO!!!!!! That is EVIL!!!!!

How is that evil? Because of the whole Jack & Jill thing?

It could be worse, it could be William and Wilma - wait that already happened. :rolleyes:

[pisces2473]

But superfun. When I was younger, I used to borrow tons of baby name books from the library and read them. So much fun! But I'm pretty sure the librarians thought I was pg and gave me funny looks.
ME TOO.

[pisces2473]

How is that evil? Because of the whole Jack & Jill thing?

It could be worse, it could be William and Wilma - wait that already happened. :rolleyes:
No, I think Fred and Wilma is worse, hahaha.

My brother and I are Jack and Jennifer. Jenny and Jack are what you call a female and male donkey (ass). :rolleyes:

[SmilesSoSweet]

No, I think Fred and Wilma is worse, hahaha.

My brother and I are Jack and Jennifer. Jenny and Jack are what you call a female and male donkey (ass). :rolleyes:

If I married a guy named Fred, I don't think anyone at the ceremony could stop themselves from laughing during the exchanging vows. LOL I'd be laughing too.

[coll214]

Hell, I get laughs for Colleen and Erin... especially when added w/ our last name :rolleyes:

and nice to see ya Josie ;)

[pisces2473]

Hell, I get laughs for Colleen and Erin... especially when added w/ our last name :rolleyes:

and nice to see ya Josie ;)
Yeah, but Coll, it's not as bad as your cat, GEORGE!

[wordsmith]

But superfun. When I was younger, I used to borrow tons of baby name books from the library and read them. So much fun! But I'm pretty sure the librarians thought I was pg and gave me funny looks.


Hahahah, shocker...me too!

I've never done the stereotypical girlie thing where I've had my wedding planned out in my head since I was a little girl, but I've always been nuts about filing away future kids' names. Don't know what that says...that I'm the maternal type, but not the marrying type?

[WorkInProgress]

Hahahah, shocker...me too!

I've never done the stereotypical girlie thing where I've had my wedding planned out in my head since I was a little girl, but I've always been nuts about filing away future kids' names. Don't know what that says...that I'm the maternal type, but not the marrying type?

Heh. I am totally not surprised. ;):

Or that the ceremony doesn't actually matter too much to you? I do like looking and talking about dresses, colors, flowers, etc., but aside from knowing stuff that I definitely won't be doing at mine, I have no idea how my fantasy wedding will be.

I think it all got started when I had to do a little name researching project for a language arts class. Loved that English class; I had a fabulous teacher. From then on, I was researching baby names...and I haven't totally given up the idea of writing a baby name book at some point, even though there are already zillions.

[wordsmith]

Heh. I am totally not surprised. ;):

Or that the ceremony doesn't actually matter too much to you? I do like looking and talking about dresses, colors, flowers, etc., but aside from knowing stuff that I definitely won't be doing at mine, I have no idea how my fantasy wedding will be.

Yeah, I have lots of interest in the music and that's pretty much it.

[shimma]

If I married a guy named Fred, I don't think anyone at the ceremony could stop themselves from laughing during the exchanging vows. LOL I'd be laughing too.

It's settled. We HAVE to find you a husband named Fred!!!!!

[wordsmith]

I've only known one guy in my life under 50 named Fred, and he was Swedish and actually a Fredrik.

[shimma]

I've only known one guy in my life under 50 named Fred, and he was Swedish and actually a Fredrik.

Is he single?

[SmilesSoSweet]

Is he single?

LOL, you're too funny, shimma!:p

[wordsmith]

Is he single?

No, nor is he straight.

[winneythepooh7]

So I went to a wedding last night. I think this must have cost the couple and their family an arm and a leg. The place where it was held was gorgeous. When we entered the cocktail hour, they had people dressed up as Old-Fashioned Christmas Carolers coming around and singing to the different groups of people.

They also had white-glove service when it was time for dinner to be served. All the waiters came out and did this special presentation to Disney's "Be Our Guest".

They didn't have a dessert table, but had cappuchino mousse and a cookie platter served. They also had this special bar rolled out onto the dance floor that served after-dinner drinks, Godiva shots in edible chocolate, etc.

The place I am having my reception is nice, but I think all of the Long Islander's heads are going to explode when they realize it's not as fancy as they are all used to.

One of my friend's there last night is from the LA area in Cali. She said surprisingly enough (even with the LA stereotype), people are more into quiet, laid-back stuff there and this was the fanciest wedding affair she's been too.

[pisces2473]

They also had white-glove service when it was time for dinner to be served. All the waiters came out and did this special presentation to Disney's "Be Our Guest".
I haaaaaate this stuff. Hello, I'm not at your wedding to see a show!

[winneythepooh7]

I haaaaaate this stuff. Hello, I'm not at your wedding to see a show!


The only negative with having this type of thing, is that everything just looks so staged. You could see the manager or whatever his title is, rushing around the whole time, making sure everything went off at exactly the right minute. I would want my wedding more relaxed.

[pisces2473]

The only negative with having this type of thing, is that everything just looks so staged. You could see the manager or whatever his title is, rushing around the whole time, making sure everything went off at exactly the right minute. I would want my wedding more relaxed.
And this is why I had to cross off a lot of venues in my area...

[winneythepooh7]

And this is why I had to cross off a lot of venues in my area...


Honestly, I think the majority of the guys coming are only going to care that the alcohol is flowing. I don't really have any prima donna brides coming, but the venue itself still dulls in comparison to the LI places. However, my parents are paying for the venue and the price per head is more than half less then it would cost in LI.

[pisces2473]

Honestly, I think the majority of the guys coming are only going to care that the alcohol is flowing. I don't really have any prima donna brides coming, but the venue itself still dulls in comparison to the LI places. However, my parents are paying for the venue and the price per head is more than half less then it would cost in LI.
It'll be lovely, Winney--don't stress!

[SmilesSoSweet]

I just ordered my MOH dress yesterday. It should be ready by mid-January. The wedding isn't until July. I'm not going to do any alterations until about March/April.

It cost me about $180 for the dress, a matching wrap (to cover my huge arms! LOL), tax and shipping (That also included a $20 off my dress). David's Bridal will mail me my dress here (I ordered it in the store where my friend bought her dress back home) so I can get it altered here.

The reason I ordered it back home is so that the other BM dresses along with mine will be ordered at the same time and the dye of the dresses will all match with that batch. I guess there are the slight chances that even though the dress is of a specific color, if they aren't all dyed at the same time they might have a slight discoloration from the rest.

[winneythepooh7]

I just ordered my MOH dress yesterday. It should be ready by mid-January. The wedding isn't until July. I'm not going to do any alterations until about March/April.

It cost me about $180 for the dress, a matching wrap (to cover my huge arms! LOL), tax and shipping (That also included a $20 off my dress). David's Bridal will mail me my dress here (I ordered it in the store where my friend bought her dress back home) so I can get it altered here.

The reason I ordered it back home is so that the other BM dresses along with mine will be ordered at the same time and the dye of the dresses will all match with that batch. I guess there are the slight chances that even though the dress is of a specific color, if they aren't all dyed at the same time they might have a slight discoloration from the rest.


Good call. That happened to a friend of mine. We did that with our BM dresses for the wedding in 2 weeks. 2 of the girls live in Atlanta so we ordered their dresses at the David's on Long Island.

[pisces2473]

My BM dress (for a friend's wedding) from DB was ordered separately than the other BM dresses--actually, I think they were all ordered separately...and they were fine. Just the luck of the draw, I guess.

Speaking of DB, my sales lady called me the other day about BM dresses for my wedding...she said they have new ones in...anyone see them?

[winneythepooh7]

My BM dress (for a friend's wedding) from DB was ordered separately than the other BM dresses--actually, I think they were all ordered separately...and they were fine. Just the luck of the draw, I guess.

Speaking of DB, my sales lady called me the other day about BM dresses for my wedding...she said they have new ones in...anyone see them?


The new ones are in? I thought it wasn't until March or April? Let me check the site!!

[SmilesSoSweet]

My BM dress (for a friend's wedding) from DB was ordered separately than the other BM dresses--actually, I think they were all ordered separately...and they were fine. Just the luck of the draw, I guess.

I'm sure they'll all just be fine. But I guess because my SIL did this for her wedding, I suggested it for my friend's wedding and really I'm the only one that has to get her dress shipped. The other three BMs are local enough to pick up their dresses there. My SIL had four BMs that were out of state, so she wanted to make sure all were dyed the exact same dye, just in case.

[winneythepooh7]

I don't see anything new on their site, but maybe they are only in the store.

[pisces2473]

I don't see anything new on their site, but maybe they are only in the store.
Yeah...I don't really like their dresses that they have right now... Good thing I have time to worry about this.

[winneythepooh7]

Yeah...I don't really like their dresses that they have right now... Good thing I have time to worry about this.


Me too. I think I want to explore other options besides David's. I know a lot of weddings I've been to lately have ordered dresses from Watters and they've been beautiful. There are also a few places by my mom's house I would like to check out.

[pisces2473]

Me too. The lady at DB is so nice, but I just don't like anything right now.

[WorkInProgress]

I know a lot of weddings I've been to lately have ordered dresses from Watters and they've been beautiful.

I really like their dresses.

[NewMrs.]

I'm excited because I found out today that my little sister got engaged yesterday. She was really excited about my wedding, so now I'm excited and happy for her. We compared rings and proposal stories today.

She thinks that they will probably set a date about a year and a half from now. I was engaged about that long before my own wedding, so that's cool.

My sister-in-law will probably get engaged soon. My mother-in-law is already talking about SIL's impending engagement. My poor husband, dad, and father-in-law are all going to have to go off on their own and do a lot more guy stuff to get away from all of the wedding talk that's already been resurrected.

[spiritedaway]

Speaking of wedding, I am now a bridesmaid in my best friend's wedding. :)

I've been to a few weddings, but I have never been in the wedding party. I also don't know the other bridesmaid (on the groom's side) yet.

I want to help out my friend the best I can, but I am also hoping that bridesmaid duties go as pain-free as possible.

The wedding won't be until another year, so I'll have some time to prepare and research online (and I"m reading up on old threads for other people's experience).

The standard stuff I think I know (shower, bachelorette party). Does anyone know if if the bride picks out the bridesmaid dress/shoes/hairstyles (just so I know what to expect)? I really have no clue. Am I supposed to prepare a short speech at the wedding too? (It's just bridesmaid, no MOH). Am I supposed to go to all the rehearsal dinners? What am I supposed to DO at the wedding? For those who have been bridesmaid before, what has been YOUR experience with it?

[wordsmith]

Speaking of wedding, I am now a bridesmaid in my best friend's wedding. :)

I've been to a few weddings, but I have never been in the wedding party. I also don't know the other bridesmaid (on the groom's side) yet.

I want to help out my friend the best I can, but I am also hoping that bridesmaid duties go as pain-free as possible.

The wedding won't be until another year, so I'll have some time to prepare and research online (and I"m reading up on old threads for other people's experience).

The standard stuff I think I know (shower, bachelorette party). Does anyone know if if the bride picks out the bridesmaid dress/shoes/hairstyles (just so I know what to expect)? I really have no clue. Am I supposed to prepare a short speech at the wedding too? (It's just bridesmaid, no MOH). Am I supposed to go to all the rehearsal dinners? What am I supposed to DO at the wedding? For those who have been bridesmaid before, what has been YOUR experience with it?

It's entirely individual to the bride/wedding what all being a bridesmaid entails. My sisters in law picked the dresses, but sometimes people who are having more relaxed weddings will just pick a color...but for traditional all-alike (or similar) dresses, the bride typically chooses. Some will go so far as uniform shoes and hairstyles, others will let you do what you want. When the first of my two brothers got married, we all did updos (it was hot), but not identical updos, just whatever we wanted. Whatever shoes, too, as long as they were black with a heel.

I spoke at the reception, but I didn't have to, only the maid of honor and best man had to do speeches.

I went to all showers (there were several thrown), but I didn't host any (maid of honor did, though). I helped with the bachelorette, but didn't plan it, again a maid of honor duty.

The actual duties consisted of standing up at the front with the couple and rest of the party, and sitting at the head table. Nothing much of grave responsibility or anything. Just witnessing.

[spiritedaway]

That helps, thanks! Now I just have to figure out if I need to do the maid of honor duties with the other bridesmaid. There will be two groomsmen and two bridesmaids (there is no MOH).

Do you happen to know if the bridesmaids have to pay for the full cost of the shower (say, if it's hosted at a restuarant?) or is that cost contributed by attending guests? Speaking of which, I just realized I am not even quite sure what bachelorette party entails...all the bride's female brides?

I am excited about it because it's my best friend and I bet it'll be a good learning experience, but oh boy, I don't know what I have gotten myself into. Seems like there are a lot of etiquettes/things to figure out. :eek:


I spoke at the reception, but I didn't have to, only the maid of honor and best man had to do speeches.

I went to all showers (there were several thrown), but I didn't host any (maid of honor did, though). I helped with the bachelorette, but didn't plan it, again a maid of honor duty.

The actual duties consisted of standing up at the front with the couple and rest of the party, and sitting at the head table. Nothing much of grave responsibility or anything. Just witnessing.

[NewMrs.]

Speaking of wedding, I am now a bridesmaid in my best friend's wedding. :)

I've been to a few weddings, but I have never been in the wedding party. I also don't know the other bridesmaid (on the groom's side) yet.

I want to help out my friend the best I can, but I am also hoping that bridesmaid duties go as pain-free as possible.

The wedding won't be until another year, so I'll have some time to prepare and research online (and I"m reading up on old threads for other people's experience).

The standard stuff I think I know (shower, bachelorette party). Does anyone know if if the bride picks out the bridesmaid dress/shoes/hairstyles (just so I know what to expect)? I really have no clue. Am I supposed to prepare a short speech at the wedding too? (It's just bridesmaid, no MOH). Am I supposed to go to all the rehearsal dinners? What am I supposed to DO at the wedding? For those who have been bridesmaid before, what has been YOUR experience with it?

Make sure that you understand ahead of time how much mpney its going to cost you personally to participate.

I have four sisters - one was my MOH, 2 were my bridesmaids, and the youngest was the flower girl. Therefore, my parents helped them pay for things, so I honestly don't know how much the total cost was. I picked out the $150 dresses and they picked out their own shoes, jewelry, and hairstyles. I think it varies.

I had a Catholic ceremony, and the MOH and the best man were really the only ones who had anything to do. My MOH kept fixing the train on my dress and she and the best man came up to the alter to witness the part of the ceremoney where we said our vowes. My MOH and best man were the only ones to give speeches at my reception also.

If you were starting the research things, you may have already checked out The Knot. My biggest advise on this website is to PLEASE LURK before you post anything on their message boards. There are alot of girls on there who will completely flame a poster unless a post is worded a specific way.

[wordsmith]

We chipped in on stuff not hosted by family, as bridesmaids.

There aren't any rules...you should talk to your friend and find out what all she wants.

And, yes, it's costly to be a bridesmaid. When my second sister in law had me do music, rather than be a bridesmaid, I was actually relieved. Even at its least expensive, it's a lot of expenses, when all's said and done.

[SmilesSoSweet]

That helps, thanks! Now I just have to figure out if I need to do the maid of honor duties with the other bridesmaid. There will be two groomsmen and two bridesmaids (there is no MOH).

Do you happen to know if the bridesmaids have to pay for the full cost of the shower (say, if it's hosted at a restuarant?) or is that cost contributed by attending guests? Speaking of which, I just realized I am not even quite sure what bachelorette party entails...all the bride's female brides?

I am excited about it because it's my best friend and I bet it'll be a good learning experience, but oh boy, I don't know what I have gotten myself into. Seems like there are a lot of etiquettes/things to figure out. :eek:

I was a bridesmaid in my brother's wedding in 2005. I didn't really have any "duties" to up hold to other than just showing up and making sure my shoes were silver. My SIL already picked the dresses. I just had to go to a David's Bridal near me to get fitted and get it ordered. I also was responsible to pay for my dress and shoes (thankfully my SIL didn't pick out an expensive dress!)

My SIL had one MOH and seven BMs! Her MOH and two BMs (all three are sisters) happened to do the planning for the wedding shower (not bridal shower since it was co-ed) and bachelorette parties. I helped out a bit with the bachelorette party because the one BM that was planning asked for some money from the rest of the BMs to help out. I didn't mind. I had fun making my adult grab-bag goodies! LOL

As for the rehersal dinner and all that stuff, I think most of it was planned by my brother and SIL. My SIL's parents paid for some things as did my parents.

I'm also a MOH in my friend's wedding next summer. When she first asked me, I basically told her that she needed to understand that I may not be able to do EVERYTHING she needs my help with because I live in a different state as she. She was okay with that. She has three BMs and me as MOH so I like the fact that it's a small bridal party.

We went dress shopping over Thanksgiving and she already had the color picked out. She thought she had a dress picked out for the BMs, but when she saw it in person, she liked another dress better. And my dress is the same color, just a different style and I LOVE it.

As for shoes, she's letting us pick either white or silver since the dresses are full length and you won't see any of our shoes. (Besides, she knows that as soon as the reception starts, my shoes are off and flip-flops are on! LOL)

So basically it's up to the bride and groom as to what they want for their wedding. I'm sure your best friend will let you know what you need to do or help out with. I also emailed my friend and asked her specifically what she wanted me to be responsible to plan, etc. (The bachelorette party is all planned out already, I just need to set a date!)

Every wedding is different. Just do know that being in a wedding may be expensive and take up your time (I'm taking a week off for her wedding since I'm in another state. I'm also taking a day or two for her bachelorette party.)

[NewMrs.]

Do you happen to know if the bridesmaids have to pay for the full cost of the shower (say, if it's hosted at a restuarant?) or is that cost contributed by attending guests? Speaking of which, I just realized I am not even quite sure what bachelorette party entails...all the bride's female brides?




From what I understand of etiquette, the bride isn't allowed to politely plan and throw her own shower. Technically, her family members shouldn't throw the shower either; the shower should be hosted by a non-relative. (My mom and sisters threw my shower since I didn't have any non-relatives in my side of the wedding party.)

Anyway, the shower is planned and thrown by the shower host or hosts. This can be somebody in the wedding party. The shower host or hosts pay for the full cost of throwing a shower. The guests don't contribute to the cost of the shower. Therefore, the wedding host or hosts should make sure that the cost of the shower is within their means. If you can't afford to have it at a restaurant, then don't plan a shower at a restaurant. It would just be plain rude for the bride to expect the host or hosts to throw a shower beyond their means.

My wedding shower was in the community room of my aunt's church. It wasn't fancy, but the guests seemed to have a good time because the food was good.

[wordsmith]

Each of my SILs had multiple showers. In the case of one, her coworkers threw one, her sorority sisters threw one, her aunts on one side threw one, and the groom's aunts threw one. In the case of the other, each side threw one.

All were hosted either at somebody's house, or a rented room at a community center or church.

[SmilesSoSweet]

My brother and SIL's wedding shower was at my SIL's parents' house. The invitations were sent out by her parents and her MOH and two BMs (which are three sisters who are my SIL's first cousins) helped out with the planning.

It was also a somewhat potluck party too. Most of the food was prepared or being prepared at the house. My mom cooked some stuff at her house and we brought it there. It was also just a big family party where both the bride and groom's families can meet and get to know each other.

There were a few shower games that were fun for both guys and girls. I'm not sure if my SIL knew about any of the planning for her wedding shower. I do know that she had no idea about her bachelorette party other than it was on a certain date in Los Angeles. And it was FUN!!!!

[coll214]

Like everyone's said everyone's different... For the wedding i was in this past September, we all went shopping with the bride for the bridesmaid dresses. She knew what color she wanted, but we had a say on the dresses (there were five of us and we all wore the same dress). She just wanted us to wear silver shoes and didn't care about our hair.

For the shower (it was Jack and Jill), we all contributed to the cost of it (at a rented hall) and made the food. She didn't want a bachelorette party but me and the MOH ended up just getting her hammered the night before anyway :evil:...

[pisces2473]

If you were starting the research things, you may have already checked out The Knot. My biggest advise on this website is to PLEASE LURK before you post anything on their message boards. There are alot of girls on there who will completely flame a poster unless a post is worded a specific way.
OH. MY. GOD. Yes. Be VERY careful, and you have to post there with a thick skin. There are some really nasty people, esp. the PA and NJ knotties.

I stopped going there because they had some problems with their posting mechanisms...and I guess it's been fixed, but I really don't need much more help with things. And basically, it becomes a "My wedding is better than yours" and "My FI is the best" fest. I don't need that crap.

[mishl982]

I found out last Friday that one of my friends got engaged. I'm so excited!

[winneythepooh7]

It looks like David's has their new Spring line posted on the website. Guess what I am gonna be doing now at work ;).

[pisces2473]

It looks like David's has their new Spring line posted on the website. Guess what I am gonna be doing now at work ;).
OH THATS RIGHT! I FORGOT!!!!!

Whoo hooo...Winney, I wish we could chat about it while looking!

[winneythepooh7]

OH THATS RIGHT! I FORGOT!!!!!

Whoo hooo...Winney, I wish we could chat about it while looking!


I did a quick skim and I am not super impressed. Unless they don't have all the new stuff up yet. That green is a really pretty color though. I think that my FMIL is wearing that color.

[pisces2473]

I like some of them. Coll went through and sent me her faves. This is my fave out of her faves:
http://davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_detail.jsp?stid=2788&prodgroup=110

(For those of you who don't know, Coll is one of my maids :))

[winneythepooh7]

So my FMIL is cornering me: she wants to set a "shopping date" to go buy/order something that probably won't be on the registry, or is difficult for us to afford on our own. I have no friggin' clue. I don't really want china, as I have absolutely no place to put it, and I will probably inherit a set from someone eventually. I was planning to put "everyday china" on the registry. Since we don't have a house, I can't ask for an expensive appliance. I really want to dodge the whole thing because I feel bad, but I doubt that's gonna happen! Any thoughts of what to ask for?

[cheshrcarol]

Is there anything you want or need? New furniture like a couch or a bed? A small kitchen appliance, maybe a Kitchen-Aid mixer? That won't take up much space and at $300-500 they're not exactly cheap either.

Or, maybe if she'd go for it, have her put the money in a CD or something ear-marked to go towards buying a house in the future. That'd probably be more useful to you than fine china.

[SmilesSoSweet]

I just got my MOH dress shipped to me. The wedding's not til July so I'm not getting alter until around April. I'll probably try it on at last once though before I store it away. hehehe

Oh and my sister has managed to pull off a wedding in just 33 days. (No she's not pregnant!) Engaged on Christmas Eve, married by the end of this month. Crazy, but totally cool. It's a very small wedding (just immediate family only) which makes it even easier to plan.

[winneythepooh7]

Is there anything you want or need? New furniture like a couch or a bed? A small kitchen appliance, maybe a Kitchen-Aid mixer? That won't take up much space and at $300-500 they're not exactly cheap either.

Or, maybe if she'd go for it, have her put the money in a CD or something ear-marked to go towards buying a house in the future. That'd probably be more useful to you than fine china.

I like just putting the $$$ in an account idea. Although we are getting a generous wedding gift already, which is a lot of the "house downpayment" when the time comes.

[winneythepooh7]

So we went and looked at the hotel yesterday that we would want our guests to stay in (mainly because it has a bar (our wedding reception ends at 7PM so the bar is important) and a restaurant where we would hold a breakfast the day after the wedding).

Well, the lady in charge of booking wedding parties and events was not in, however, the front desk person did say that that will be a very busy time of year, and that they probably can only give us a block of 20 rooms (this already covers more than half the wedding party and family).


Is it totally tacky to give TWO hotels for people to stay in if this is really the case? I mean, I would push for my family and the wedding party and very close friends to book in this hotel, but anyone else would have to stay in another hotel nearby.

Oh, the other issue is that check-in is not until 2PM. Our wedding STARTS at 2PM.

I hope that it works out. The lady is not going to be in until 5PM tommorrow. I am thinking maybe people can leave their bags at the front desk and then meet the van/bus around 1pm............

[asm198]

I'm planning on blocking rooms at two hotels. One will be near the ceremony site and the other near the reception site. The reception site hotel is a bit cheaper and the ceremony site hotel is in a nice shopping district. I figure people can choose which one will work for them.

At the moment, the only wedding planning I'm doing is trying to decide what enclosures to include in the invitation. It's irritating me because I want them to look nice, but I don't want to spend a fortune so I keep having to tweak stuff.

[winneythepooh7]

I'm planning on blocking rooms at two hotels. One will be near the ceremony site and the other near the reception site. The reception site hotel is a bit cheaper and the ceremony site hotel is in a nice shopping district. I figure people can choose which one will work for them.

At the moment, the only wedding planning I'm doing is trying to decide what enclosures to include in the invitation. It's irritating me because I want them to look nice, but I don't want to spend a fortune so I keep having to tweak stuff.

I haven't even begun looking for invitations yet. That's the next thing on my list. We have most of the big stuff done, thank goodness. I want to get as much done now as I can so I am not super-stressed closer to the big day.

[asm198]

I haven't even begun looking for invitations yet. That's the next thing on my list. We have most of the big stuff done, thank goodness. I want to get as much done now as I can so I am not super-stressed closer to the big day.

I was planning on doing the invites myself, but I found a place that has invites that I like and it'll cost about the same as the ones I was going to do. That's really the only reason I've basically got the invites worked out. We are kind of behind in other planning, though. Like, we haven't even started looking for a photographer or cake person yet. We do have the rest of the vendors worked out, thankfully.

[NewMrs.]

So we went and looked at the hotel yesterday that we would want our guests to stay in (mainly because it has a bar (our wedding reception ends at 7PM so the bar is important) and a restaurant where we would hold a breakfast the day after the wedding).

Well, the lady in charge of booking wedding parties and events was not in, however, the front desk person did say that that will be a very busy time of year, and that they probably can only give us a block of 20 rooms (this already covers more than half the wedding party and family).


Is it totally tacky to give TWO hotels for people to stay in if this is really the case? I mean, I would push for my family and the wedding party and very close friends to book in this hotel, but anyone else would have to stay in another hotel nearby.

Oh, the other issue is that check-in is not until 2PM. Our wedding STARTS at 2PM.

I hope that it works out. The lady is not going to be in until 5PM tommorrow. I am thinking maybe people can leave their bags at the front desk and then meet the van/bus around 1pm............


I personally don't see a problem with blocking rooms in two different hotels. I have two different points to make on this subject:

1.) First, everybody's guest dynamic is different, but most of my OOT guests chose to drive home the night of the wedding. (Most of the OOT guests lived 1-2 hours away from our wedding.) We had a bar at our wedding, but I don't think that anybody got so drunk that they couldn't drive home. The ones who did drink had spouses or dates who didn't drink. Alot of our guests were older or had kids, so that may be why they wanted to go home right after the wedding. I think that my reception ended at 8. (I can't remember anymore.) My new sister-in-law and some of my husband's relatives did go out to a bar after my reception, but theere didn't seem to be any issues that they had to drive home or to their hotel rooms after this. Even though I did book rooms, not all of my booked rooms were actually reserved.

2.) My husband's cousin got married this past fall, and she blocked her rooms in the hotel where the wedding was. My husband and I thought the rooms were kind of expensive, and we're trying to save money, so even though we were invited to a brunch the morning after the wedding, we opted to skip the brunch and just drive home after her reception ended. We live about 2.5 hours away from where the wedding was.

My husband's parents did stay the night and atttend the brunch the next morning. However, they thought that the blocked rooms were expensive also, so they stayed in a different, less expensive hotel in the same city.

I recognize that people in Long Island might have completely different attitudes about this, though. I am so unsophisticated that I had my reception in the reception-hall section of a bar.

[winneythepooh7]

I personally don't see a problem with blocking rooms in two different hotels. I have two different points to make on this subject:

1.) First, everybody's guest dynamic is different, but most of my OOT guests chose to drive home the night of the wedding. (Most of the OOT guests lived 1-2 hours away from our wedding.) We had a bar at our wedding, but I don't think that anybody got so drunk that they couldn't drive home. The ones who did drink had spouses or dates who didn't drink. Alot of our guests were older or had kids, so that may be why they wanted to go home right after the wedding. I think that my reception ended at 8. (I can't remember anymore.) My new sister-in-law and some of my husband's relatives did go out to a bar after my reception, but theere didn't seem to be any issues that they had to drive home or to their hotel rooms after this. Even though I did book rooms, not all of my booked rooms were actually reserved.

2.) My husband's cousin got married this past fall, and she blocked her rooms in the hotel where the wedding was. My husband and I thought the rooms were kind of expensive, and we're trying to save money, so even though we were invited to a brunch the morning after the wedding, we opted to skip the brunch and just drive home after her reception ended. We live about 2.5 hours away from where the wedding was.

My husband's parents did stay the night and atttend the brunch the next morning. However, they thought that the blocked rooms were expensive also, so they stayed in a different, less expensive hotel in the same city.

I recognize that people in Long Island might have completely different attitudes about this, though. I am so unsophisticated that I had my reception in the reception-hall section of a bar.

Actually, we are thinking the exact same way. The reception itself is only about 2 hours from where most people live on Long Island. Since it does end early enough, and many people do have young children, they may in fact leave as well. Not only that but the rooms are probably going to be at least $100 a night (after a discount), which is pricey for many. My future FIL said they booked 30 rooms for my FSIL's wedding this past December, and he said only 20 rooms ended up being used. I also think some of our friends who drive up the day of the wedding may just choose to crash in someone's room if need be. My parents and his parents said not to get crazy about this. If it's THAT important for anyone to stay over, they will also book right away, or make do with another hotel. I can see though why people get crazy with all of these little details. And I am getting married in October!

[asm198]

Does anyone want to help me with my invite wording? I'm having issues with getting all the information in the same formality.

We're having an informal wedding, I guess. We're having a civil ceremony in a public park, followed by a reception in a converted movie theatre. The wedding is in the afternoon and the reception is in the evening. The gap can't be helped. I'm wanting fairly simple invites, but most of the wording I'm finding seems pretty formal. This is what I've come up with.

Please join us as we celebrate
our wedding day
My name
and
His name
January 21, 2007
3 pm
Name of Park
1st Street and South Avenue
City, State


Am I mixing my formality? Everything I'm finding either seems too cutesy or much too formal and wordy to me. Any imput?

[Krishna]

Does anyone want to help me with my invite wording? I'm having issues with getting all the information in the same formality.


Please join us as we celebrate our marriage
Your name
and
His name
Date
Time
Name of Park
1st Street and South Avenue
City, State

[pisces2473]

Yesterday was 250 days to go! Yikes!

What's done:
church
reception place
my dress
photographer
DJ
most of the centerpieces

To do:
cake
flowers
invites
favors
maids dresses
tuxes
gifts
shoes & accessories for me
choosing what we want to eat at the reception
HONEYMOON!

ASM, the wording that Krishna suggested is great! Good luck.

Winney, I wouldn't stress about the hotels. People will do all sorts of things. Good luck :)

[SmilesSoSweet]

Winney, I wouldn't stress about the hotels. People will do all sorts of things. Good luck :)

Yeah, the wedding I'm in this summer, my friend has three different hotels listed. They are all next to each other and one of the hotels is where the reception will be held.

I'm going to a wedding this weekend (my sister's!) and it's going to be a very small wedding. I hope it won't be as stressful as my brother's perfect wedding. LOL

[AshleyJordan]

I'm very excited because I just got invited to a wedding in Dublin, where I've always wanted to go! :)

[asm198]

Please join us as we celebrate our marriage
Your name
and
His name
Date
Time
Name of Park
1st Street and South Avenue
City, State


We kind of have to have two lines at the top because of the kind of invitation we're having. It's landscape instead of portrait, with the opening and closing text on opposite sides with our names centered. Having only one line at the top makes it look bottom heavy.

Also, I was meaning more like the date and time stuff. Like, we don't want to spell everything out like the very formal invites are. You know, "Monday, the twenty-second of January, Two thousand six, at half past four o'clock in the afternoon" kind of wording.

I do think we are going with:

Please join us as we celebrate
the wedding of

It seems to flow better to me that way.

[winneythepooh7]

I booked my spa yesterday and I am going to order my bridesmaid's dresses this morning. We pretty much completed the final guestlist earlier this week, as well. Next weekend we are meeting with the minister for a 5-hour "counseling and getting to know us" session.

P.S. Got the FMIL down to only 51 guests. Yay!!

[pisces2473]

Holy resurrection of an old thread, Batman! LOL

We're at 111 days to go! We need to order bands, decide on music for the ceremony, readings, etc....wow...there's still a lot to do but the big stuff is done. Yay!

[winneythepooh7]

Yeah, our big stuff is done too. We have to do the music as well, design our cake, I still need to figure out how I want to wear my hair (have my trial booked for 8/18!), order my favors (although I know what I want) and find a veil.

I am sure I am missing some minor things but these are the "biggies" I can think of off the top of my head.

I am also *considering* having a first dance choreographed.