Does work remind you of your dating/sex life? [Archive]

PenforPrez

10-09-2006, 12:42 AM

Got to thinking of this with the sex sub-forum thread. I'm reminded of my love life (more correctly, the lack thereof) at my work all the time.

The problem, though, is that I clean rooms in a hotel. :rolleyes: Hotel rooms are notorious for steamy sexual encounters, etc., and so that might be a natural response. But I'm reminded of it all the time.

I was in a room today, and I had just made up a king-sized bed. Took a quick look at it to see how it looked, and got broody. It just reminded me how long it's been, and how much I want both romantic love and sex, deep down inside. I let out an audible, painful half-groan that I do when I'm feeling this sort of pain. Been making that noise a lot lately. :redface:

I'm just kind of feeling back on the losing end again right now. Date never called me back; been two weeks now. Oh well, I'll live. Just wondered if anybody else had this. I could see how anybody in any line of work could have the same problem. Maybe that's just me. :rolleyes:

Paul

LaFille

10-09-2006, 01:14 AM

this thread is interesting... i guess i never thought about this, but yes, it does.

waiting tables, i meet all sorts of people all the time and it does sometimes remind me of what is lacking in my own life. i met an amazing guy last spring, but we now live an ocean apart. we still talk, but things are very complicated for both of us. i seriously get jealous of older, married couples who seem to have it all together-- no loose ends, no long distance bills, no endless wondering about the future (although i know that appearances are not necessarily true to reality.)

oh and i waited on a blind date once! i'm not really into this idea for myself, but it did make me think about how fun those first couple of dates are with a new person, and all the sexual tension... so fun!

Kitty

10-09-2006, 01:34 AM

I market to engineers....and I really can't think of a single way that relates back to my love/sex life.

Brillo25

10-09-2006, 03:01 AM

I guess so, since half the people where I worked are hooked up with someone else who works there, I sort of see couples at work every day. Plus there's one girl there I went on a few dates with but it was nothing, and one girl I have a crush on who's sadly taken.

PenforPrez

10-09-2006, 08:41 AM

i seriously get jealous of older, married couples who seem to have it all together-- no loose ends, no long distance bills, no endless wondering about the future (although i know that appearances are not necessarily true to reality.)

I'm jealous of young couples I see at the hotel. I want to do that. Go away for the weekend with someone special. Only been able to do that once, and it's been a long, long time. :sad:

oh and i waited on a blind date once! i'm not really into this idea for myself, but it did make me think about how fun those first couple of dates are with a new person, and all the sexual tension... so fun!

Sexual tension?? First couple of dates?? OK, I'm doing something wrong. I spend the first date being a gentleman: Not looking at the woman's chest, not looking at other women, not telling lewd jokes, etc. Never had a second date in a normal dating sense, so I wouldn't know what to look for there.

Paul

wordsmith

10-09-2006, 08:56 AM

Not really, as far as the job specifically triggering anything...

But I often feel like finding the right job/getting the right job has a lot of personal parallels, for me, to finding the right person to date.

Fashionista

10-09-2006, 09:19 AM

at my job there seems to be a lot of steamy hookups-some which end in marriage, others which end rather badly and jumpstart divorces and stuff but i look around and wonder "geez why is it the ugly booger next to me can get solicited for a date, but i can't"

although i am not interested in the "friends with benefits" situation it would be nice to hear that someone thinks i am "do-able" or something :rolleyes:

old_school_soul

10-09-2006, 09:36 AM

I spend the first date being a gentleman: Not looking at the woman's chest, not looking at other women, not telling lewd jokes, etc. Never had a second date in a normal dating sense, so I wouldn't know what to look for there.

Paul

This is why you don't have a second date, you are being boring. Lighten up, be relaxed. You can be a gentleman with sexual overtones. Trust me. It's ok to get caught once or twice glancing at a woman's chest. That's WHY her cleavage is showing in the first place. Now drooling and staring is a whole other matter.

wordsmith

10-09-2006, 10:23 AM

I've met Paul; he's not boring.

Winter Storm

10-09-2006, 10:26 AM

I market to engineers....and I really can't think of a single way that relates back to my love/sex life.

I market to physicians so my job doesn't at all reflect my dating/sex life...which is actually a lot more exciting. :cool:

Tenshi28

10-09-2006, 12:44 PM

CityGal

10-09-2006, 01:05 PM

Well...there are times when I have to read litigation on a pedophile or an incestuous family, but when I think of sex in those instances it is usually not in a good light.

KCboy

10-09-2006, 01:06 PM

only when I search the web for porn

LaFille

10-09-2006, 02:37 PM

Sexual tension?? First couple of dates?? OK, I'm doing something wrong. I spend the first date being a gentleman: Not looking at the woman's chest, not looking at other women, not telling lewd jokes, etc. Never had a second date in a normal dating sense, so I wouldn't know what to look for there.

Paul

for me, if there's no sexual tension on the first date, there's no second date! what would be the point? 'sexual tension' doesn't really mean that you're staring at her boobs and making inappropriate comments... it's all about mutual attraction and just a general thinking that the other person is interesting, i guess. i think you can be a gentleman and still have sexual tension with your date...

SmilesSoSweet

10-09-2006, 02:40 PM

Work reminds me of how much I DON'T have a dating life! I'm just programmed like a robot - I wake up in the morning, get ready for work, go to work and come back home and I repeat the process the next day.

I never really did have a dating life, though I'm working on that.

wordsmith

10-09-2006, 02:40 PM

Usually, there's more sexual tension when somebody IS being a gentleman. If somebody's openly pawing at you, that kinda takes the mystery and suspense out of it.

LaFille

10-09-2006, 02:52 PM

Usually, there's more sexual tension when somebody IS being a gentleman. If somebody's openly pawing at you, that kinda takes the mystery and suspense out of it.

100% agreed. sexual tension is more about what's not happening than what is.

hoodie

10-09-2006, 04:43 PM

I'm a middle school teacher. We aren't supposed to think about sex at work.

coll214

10-09-2006, 05:20 PM

Oh yeah nothing like being the computer geek working with a bunch of menapausal women to get the juices flowing :googly:. If anything they're looking for me to tell about my dating adventures as they're all either married or firmly compounded in singledom. Or like to tell me what I should be doing :rolleyes: to get that 'perfect man'. HAHAHAHAHA.

gradgirl

10-09-2006, 06:15 PM

Yeah, I definitely am reminded of sex at work/school because sooo many people in my department hook up with each other and there's also a guy I like a lot in my department. It sucks b/c I can't date him for a ton of reasons, but it's hard to avoid him and then I keep thinking about sex and relationships....

Jedi of Zen

10-09-2006, 06:53 PM

I'm a middle school teacher. We aren't supposed to think about sex at work.

Nowadays, I'd venture to say that some of your students do.

and1grad

10-09-2006, 06:55 PM

wordsmith

10-09-2006, 06:57 PM

Depends on how we're defining "being a gentleman."

If there's attraction, and you hold off on stuff and let the tension build, HELLS yeah. Sexual tension lies in the anticipation.

and1grad

10-09-2006, 07:03 PM

Sounded like he was just talking about being polite.

wordsmith

10-09-2006, 07:08 PM

Still more anticipation at work there than somebody who lays it all out on the table, though, wouldn't you say?

and1grad

10-09-2006, 07:24 PM

Still more anticipation at work there than somebody who lays it all out on the table, though, wouldn't you say?
Not really. Just sounds like 2 opposite extremes to me.

wordsmith

10-09-2006, 07:51 PM

Sigh, never mind.

hoodie

10-09-2006, 08:20 PM

Jedi- Ick. I try not to think about that either unless I'm choosing what to wear in the morning. Gotta make sure there is not too much cleavage or panty lines etc. I have no intention of being a middle schooler's boner. naaaaasty.

Still Looking

10-09-2006, 08:27 PM

I'm an engineer in automotive manufacturing, so nothing about my job reminds me of sex. However, its seems that every plant that I have worked at is just screaming infidelity. Everyone is cheating on their husbands/wives..... I've had fun too!

PenforPrez

10-09-2006, 09:35 PM

Yeah, work really makes me think about sex. Like for example, when I am writing a paragraph on inflation in Colombia or updating some statistics about GDP in Slovakia, I can't help thinking I really wish I was having sex instead of working! ;):

*Next day at Tenshi's work. . . .*

"Hmm, Prague. . . . I've never had sex in Prague." ;) :huge:

Random thought: Where can I get your job at?! I'd be perfect for something like that! I do similar now, writing quiz bowl questions, but there's NO money in it. :rolleyes:

Tenshi28

10-10-2006, 04:48 AM

*Next day at Tenshi's work. . . .*

"Hmm, Prague. . . . I've never had sex in Prague." ;) :huge:

Random thought: Where can I get your job at?! I'd be perfect for something like that! I do similar now, writing quiz bowl questions, but there's NO money in it. :rolleyes:

Well, not to discourage you, but it's an economic researcher position so you need a strong background in macroeconomics, if you have it -given that it's clear that you can also write well- then you should be able to find something like that.

Btw, don't get me started about all the places where I have not had sex in!!! :huge: