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old_school_soul

10-09-2006, 09:40 AM

I was thinking of a fun idea for speed dating. Try going (secretely) with someone you are already dating or are comfortable with.. When the time comes for your 2 minute date, the two of you lean across the table and start making out passionately to the shock of everyone else (since they don't know you). After the 2 minutes are up, leave in a hussle.

KCboy

10-09-2006, 10:59 AM

I've been a couple of times and really like it.

It gets very repetetive by the end, answering the same questions over and over, but you get a better feel for the person than just reading something they wrote about themself and seeing a picture online.

And I think it gives you a chance to talk to people you might not in another environment.

Most of the companies are local, so recommendations aren't very valid, unless you live in KC.

One downfall is that they sometimes don't get enough people and have to cancel last minute. But they always gave a credit for another 'party'.

Chameleon

10-09-2006, 11:51 AM

I've gone on speed dates with 8minutedating.com and hurrydate.com. With 8minute, you get 8 8 minute dates with a break in the middle to "mingle". With hurrydate, you get up to 20 3 minute dates (depending on the number of people that show).

With 8minute, you have time to actually have a conversation, and the time still goes pretty quickly, with hurrydate, you get a chance at a first impression and if you don't jut down your thoughts (yay, nay, identifying attribute) immediately after the date, you won't remember who you talked to or how you felt about him or her. You also get really, really tired of smiling by about the 12th person.

It's an interesting way to meet a lot of people in a short space of time. There's no guarantee that you'll click with anyone though.

SereneMayhem

10-18-2006, 11:25 PM

Thanks for sharing your experiences. I definitely want to try it out. I signed up to Fastlife and they send me upcoming events and I just sign up to the ones that interest me. Is it better to go solo or with a friend?

PenforPrez

10-18-2006, 11:34 PM

I'm going to a speed dating event next Tuesday myself. :) We'll have to compare experiences.

Paul

SereneMayhem

10-18-2006, 11:46 PM

I'm going to a speed dating event next Tuesday myself. :) We'll have to compare experiences. Paul

Cool, let me know how it goes. Will it be your first time? Mine is not until Nov. 7 and I havn't signed up yet. I will, but I'm still deciding whether I want to ask a friend to come with me (moral support? heehee). This event is age specific, guys will be between 25-36 yrs old.

There was an Asian Speed dating event this coming Saturday but I made plans already. Plus, there is no age restriction so I guess I could potentially be meeting guys from 18 - 45?

PenforPrez

10-19-2006, 12:13 AM

Cool, let me know how it goes. Will it be your first time? Mine is not until Nov. 7 and I havn't signed up yet. I will, but I'm still deciding whether I want to ask a friend to come with me (moral support? heehee). This event is age specific, guys will be between 25-36 yrs old.

There was an Asian Speed dating event this coming Saturday but I made plans already. Plus, there is no age restriction so I guess I could potentially be meeting guys from 18 - 45?

It's my first time, yes. Mine is for "young professionals" ages 22-32. I'm going on my own; I'll have too much to think about and prepare for to be much fun to be around. :rolleyes:

Yeah, I guess you could have a pretty wide age range there. That's my thing; I like older people. :)

Why don't they have a speed dating event for nerdy white rednecks?? Oh, wait. . . . :huge:

Paul

Chameleon

10-19-2006, 12:48 PM

Is it better to go solo or with a friend?
It depends on your personality types. It's nice to have someone to wait for things to start with and to compare notes with at the end of night, but you could fall into the trap of only talking to each other and not really meeting people or even competing for dates.

If you think you'll do a better job yourself of talking to the guys at the event once the structured part is over, you consider going alone.

kjs77

10-21-2006, 02:15 AM

I went to one last Wednesday night by 15 First Dates in Scottsdale. Basically talked to 9-10 girls for 3 minutes each and then had a score card where we marked yes or no next to the names. Was fun but didn't get any matches. Might do it again next month depending of if I meet anyone between now and then.

PenforPrez

10-21-2006, 08:36 AM

Basically talked to 9-10 girls for 3 minutes each and then had a score card where we marked yes or no next to the names. Was fun but didn't get any matches.

Three minutes?? Good God. :eek: Takes me three minutes for me to get out of my s-s-stuttering phase. :frustrate

WorkInProgress

10-21-2006, 12:02 PM

Three minutes?? Good God. :eek: Takes me three minutes for me to get out of my s-s-stuttering phase. :frustrate

Awwww, you stutter?

3 minutes it's so bad, especially if you can find one or two really good topics/questions. Personally, 10 would be better, although 10 minutes in an awesomely bad conversation can seem like years.

PenforPrez

10-21-2006, 11:21 PM

Awwww, you stutter?

Off and on; right now, it's getting bad again. Sometimes, I'll sound like a broken record all day. Other times, it's not there.

3 minutes it's so bad, especially if you can find one or two really good topics/questions. Personally, 10 would be better, although 10 minutes in an awesomely bad conversation can seem like years.

True. But that's why I think they have themes for most speed dating events in the first place.

Paul

SereneMayhem

10-22-2006, 11:13 PM

I decided to bring a friend cuz i'm too shy to go alone. :googly:

PenforPrez

10-22-2006, 11:24 PM

I decided to bring a friend cuz i'm too shy to go alone. :googly:

Good luck! :) Mine's coming up pretty quickly, and I'm already worried about what I'm going to say and wear and if this zit on my face will clear up. :redface:

Paul

SereneMayhem

10-23-2006, 11:16 PM

Good luck! :) Mine's coming up pretty quickly, and I'm already worried about what I'm going to say and wear and if this zit on my face will clear up. :redface:

Paul

If you want, you can tell me what you plan to wear and I can give you my honest opinion. :)

lamer35

10-24-2006, 08:19 PM

I've done speed dating before. While me and some friends did it all as a joke first (in that we didn't want to admit we needed serious help in our personal lives), it turned out to be a lot of fun. I've done it twice and had matches both times - and it's definitely a great way to meet a lot of people in a short period of time.

ChicagoChad

10-24-2006, 08:22 PM

How hot were the girls at these events? I would imagine not very.....but then again I haven't been

PenforPrez

10-24-2006, 08:57 PM

I'm telling you folks, I'm cursed.

Just got a phone call from the organizer of tonight's event. The bar where it was going to be held got double-booked, and they kicked out my event. It's going to be postponed to NEXT WEEK sometime. :googly:

I rushed home to shave and shower and get on the road. At least they called me NOW! *sigh*

Paul

CTGirl

10-24-2006, 08:57 PM

How hot were the girls at these events? I would imagine not very.....but then again I haven't been

lol, wow, that's a really classy remark that's gonna get you a lot of friends here :googly:

dddork

10-24-2006, 09:09 PM

How hot were the girls at these events? I would imagine not very.....but then again I haven't been

no worries.. i'll be your friend.!!

SereneMayhem

10-24-2006, 11:26 PM

How hot were the girls at these events? I would imagine not very.....but then again I haven't been

Haha, that made me laugh. Wow. I guess I should be offended by that comment seeing how I'm a girl thinking of doing this speed dating thing. I would imagine that people who have tried speeding dating are those with busy lives who don't have time to date, those looking for something different from the bar/club scene, interested in serious relationships or those who are just interested in having some fun and meeting new people. I don't think it's because they are not "hot" enough to get dates otherwise, if that's what you're implying. But like I said, I havn't gone either but am curious to see what kind of guys I'll meet and if they are any different from the ones I meet elsewhere.

Chameleon

10-25-2006, 12:25 AM

dddork and ChicagoChad sitting in a tree...

You are basically going on first impressions here and I think it takes a pretty confident woman to put themselves out there like that. Some guys don't even bother to get dressed up, kinda strange to not even make an effort to put one's best foot forward.

PenforPrez

10-25-2006, 12:56 AM

dddork and ChicagoChad sitting in a tree...

I love that. :huge:

You are basically going on first impressions here and I think it takes a pretty confident woman to put themselves out there like that. Some guys don't even bother to get dressed up, kinda strange to not even make an effort to put one's best foot forward.

I'm very concerned about dressing up and looking nice. Before my event got postponed, I was fretting cause I don't have any pricey cologne.

Paul

Chameleon

10-25-2006, 01:22 AM

Before my event got postponed, I was fretting cause I don't have any pricey cologne.

Paul
During the dates, I don't think you'll be sitting close enough to take a whiff of your date's cologne/perfume - if they can smell you from across the table, you might have a little too much on :razz: I don't think I've ever smelt a man's cologne and thought "Giorgio Armani! And not the eau de toilette! Smells like $50 an ounce! Come to mama!!!" :huge:

PenforPrez

10-25-2006, 01:39 AM

During the dates, I don't think you'll be sitting close enough to take a whiff of your date's cologne/perfume - if they can smell you from across the table, you might have a little too much on :razz: I don't think I've ever smelt a man's cologne and thought "Giorgio Armani! And not the eau de toilette! Smells like $50 an ounce! Come to mama!!!" :huge:

LMAO!! I just wanted everything to be as good as I could get it, you know? With my limited wardrobe and lack of fashion sense, I worry about these things.

Paul

WorkInProgress

10-25-2006, 09:03 AM

LMAO!! I just wanted everything to be as good as I could get it, you know? With my limited wardrobe and lack of fashion sense, I worry about these things.

Paul

This is one thing that I don't think you need to worry about, as long as you smell nice. (But if you want to, worry away! :razz: )

Just be careful you don't wear too much--a lot of people are sensitive/allergic.

lamer35

10-26-2006, 09:37 PM

How hot were the girls at these events? I would imagine not very.....but then again I haven't been

at the speeddating events i've attended, i would say actually that the women were overall better looking than the men. i imagine, though, that this would vary event to event.

PenforPrez

10-26-2006, 09:40 PM

My event got rescheduled for next Wednesday. No worries there. :)

What bugs me the most was that Tuesday night (when I was supposed to go) they had a World Series game at Busch Stadium. I was hoping that would cause some of the men to cancel. Less competition! :razz: But by next Wednesday, the World Series will be over. :sad:

Paul

SereneMayhem

10-26-2006, 11:27 PM

SereneMayhem

10-26-2006, 11:28 PM

PenforPrez

10-26-2006, 11:31 PM

A friend and her boyfriend wants to set me up on a blind date around the same week I was planning on speed dating. I think I'll still go though, why not? You'll probably see a post from me soon re blind dates.

I hope so. :razz:

I've never done a blind date; none of my friends have anybody to set me up with. But they would if they could, so it's all good. :)

Paul

PenforPrez

10-30-2006, 02:14 PM

So while in St. Louis last night, I was talking to a good friend of mine. I mentioned to her that I was going to try speed dating this week, and she thought it was cool, and we got to discussing it. I said: "Want me to email you about it and let you know what happens?" She said: "Sure."

At that point, I immediately remembered that she had mentioned to someone else earlier that she had single friends and joking about matching them up with a guy she met on a recent train trip.

Am I right in having the thought I have right now??

Paul

SereneMayhem

10-30-2006, 10:57 PM

I'm not sure what you're trying to say.... she told someone else, jokingly, that she wants to hook up a single friend with a guy (you) she met on a trip?

She could be serious, you can let her know that you're up for it if she wants to set you up... but from my experience, I have friends joke about setting me up with so-and-so and it doesn't always happens. I say just go with flow. :)

PenforPrez

10-30-2006, 11:13 PM

I'm not sure what you're trying to say.... she told someone else, jokingly, that she wants to hook up a single friend with a guy (you) she met on a trip?

No. She had met some guy on a train trip, she was with a friend of hers, and they passed notes about hooking him up with single friends of theirs, semi-jokingly.

That got me to thinking (you should not allow me to think). She and her husband are good friends of mine, they know I have trouble in this department. She wants me to email her and let her know how my speed dating goes.

Suppose it doesn't work out. Suppose I crap out and meet nobody. Why not just say something like, "It didn't work. Do you know anyone you could set me up with?" That's what I was hitting at. :)

Paul

SereneMayhem

10-30-2006, 11:17 PM

No. She had met some guy on a train trip, she was with a friend of hers, and they passed notes about hooking him up with single friends of theirs, semi-jokingly.

That got me to thinking (you should not allow me to think). She and her husband are good friends of mine, they know I have trouble in this department. She wants me to email her and let her know how my speed dating goes.

Suppose it doesn't work out. Suppose I crap out and meet nobody. Why not just say something like, "It didn't work. Do you know anyone you could set me up with?" That's what I was hitting at. :)

Paul

OH.... then yes, I would definitely just casually say that in the email. It doesn't hurt. O know 3 girls who tried speed dating, one of them met her husband.

SereneMayhem

10-31-2006, 11:21 PM

Chameleon

11-01-2006, 12:34 AM

PenforPrez

11-01-2006, 12:38 AM

Um... so my friend and I looked at the details of this specific speed dating event a little bit more and we realized that $79 may be a bit pricey for the event no?

The site says

The cost to attend this event is $79.00. This includes an open bar throughout the event and gourmet hors d'oeuvres - not to mention all those dates - so it's great value

Still, I think I'd rather go get a nice facial and massage for that price.

Mine is $34, and they offer a cash bar and maybe hors d'oeuvres. As far as I'm concerned, I'm betting the $34 I can charm a girl in six minutes. I'll take that bet right now. :)

Paul

PenforPrez

11-01-2006, 05:53 PM

OK, wish me luck everybody. :)

CTGirl

11-01-2006, 05:58 PM

Good luck hun! Just go out there and have a good time, and dont worry about anything else!

And remember, call if you need moral support!

KCboy

11-01-2006, 08:53 PM

The cost to attend this event is $79.00. This includes an open bar throughout the event and gourmet hors d'oeuvres

the ones out here in KC are around $25.

I'm sure I could down $80 worth of booze, but I might not be much of a charmer after that.

"you look like my mom...with a nice rack. how old are you?" *passes out*

SereneMayhem

11-01-2006, 09:50 PM

the ones out here in KC are around $25.

I'm sure I could down $80 worth of booze, but I might not be much of a charmer after that.

"you look like my mom...with a nice rack. how old are you?" *passes out*

Haha... Yea well the event is on a Tuesday too and I'm actually not much of a drinker and when I do drink I get Asian Red. We'll see, I can always look for a cheaper one. Christmas is just around the corner and I'll need to save up for presents.

SereneMayhem

11-01-2006, 09:53 PM

That's a bit pricey, the events I've been to have been about 40 USD, though we never had an open bar or fancy appetizers. Do you think you can consume $30 worth of booze and hor d'oeurves? :) With all the mental effort you put in, you might as well go through with it.

Hmm.. True. Thaks. I think I'll leave it up to my friend, if she really wants to go, then we'll go. The excitement has kind of worn off on me now.

PenforPrez

11-02-2006, 02:20 AM

Well, my event went very well. Ten girls and nine guys in attendance. None of the girls were hideously deformed, and they were all single. I found nearly all of them fairly attractive, actually. Lot of the guys were nerdy; past me on that scale anyway.

I used several stock questions; I had to ask if they were from STL originally. My thinking there paid off; it made for good icebreaking conversation. :)

I racked my brain for an original question, but I came up with a good one: "If they wrote a book about everybody in the world, how would you stand out?" That made them think; I got complimented on that question several times.

Out of 10 girls, I circled 8 names. I get the feeling that was too many. But with the other two, it was pretty clear from the beginning. I just wasn't feeling it. Everybody else had some sort of interesting thing I wanted to pursue further.

So, I'll know about matches tomorrow sometime. Until then, the wheel's still spinning. But I had a great time; it was well worth it.

Serene, you should go. Tonight made a believer out of me. To me, it was well worth it. :)

CTGirl -- Thanks for letting me bug you. Did J. pick up that rubber ducky shower curtain, or whatever it was??

Paul

WorkInProgress

11-02-2006, 09:25 AM

Yay! Glad you had a good time. You'll have to keep us updated.

PenforPrez

11-03-2006, 11:31 AM

We have a result, finally. :)

The bad news: Out of eight names that I circled, I matched only two. But I'm beginning to see that more positively on second thought.

The good news: I matched the two I was hoping for. I really felt a good click with those two. :)

So now, contacting them comes next. I'm nervous now. I talked to them for all of six minutes. :rolleyes: I had a good time, and that was the main thing.

Paul

LakeJay

11-03-2006, 11:40 AM

Nice job! Glad you had a good experience. This should be the easy part now. Just give them a call/email.

PenforPrez

11-03-2006, 01:26 PM

An added bonus. . . .

Just got an email from the website that did my speed dating event. They also have a personals site, and I get a free month's premium membership for attending the event. $30 value, they claim. So, factoring in the entry fee and the cost of Coke at the bar, I'm out exactly $6. Good deal! :cool:

Paul

SereneMayhem

11-03-2006, 03:31 PM

Very nice Paul. Glad you're having fun. I'm still gonna go for it but just not this one.. I'm gonna look for a cheaper venue.

PenforPrez

11-03-2006, 04:12 PM

Very nice Paul. Glad you're having fun. I'm still gonna go for it but just not this one.. I'm gonna look for a cheaper venue.

Let us know how it goes. :)

PenforPrez

11-04-2006, 10:03 PM

Anybody who wants my side of the story from here, PM me. :) Don't want to clog up this thread anymore than I have.

Paul

SereneMayhem

11-12-2006, 11:10 PM

I'm going speed dating tommorrow. woo hoo!

PenforPrez

11-12-2006, 11:15 PM

SereneMayhem

11-12-2006, 11:21 PM

Yay Serene!! I'll be rooting for you!! :) Let us know!

Had my date with the lady I met from the speed dating event today. Best date I ever had. Everything clicked very well, we have lots in common, she likes me, and we already made definite plans to go out again. :) :razz:

Thanks! I'll definitely post my experience. :)

Really? that's so awesome. This is exciting. I tried to PM you about it.

PenforPrez

11-12-2006, 11:26 PM

Thanks! I'll definitely post my experience. :)

Really? that's so awesome. This is exciting. I tried to PM you about it.

I'm sorry you couldn't PM me; my box has plenty of room left. :googly: Keep trying. :)

I'm excited too. Just go and be yourself; if someone likes that, then you're set. :razz:

Paul

SereneMayhem

11-18-2006, 05:10 PM

Last Monday I went speed dating. 25 dates, 3 minutues each. I was chuckling quite a bit in the beginning because I thought the whole idea of me going speed dating was a little silly.... BUT... I can honestly say to people who have never tried speed dating, that is was fun. Most of the guys were outgoing, confident guys that had professional jobs. It wasn't awkward at all.

Everyone wears a name tag and has a number. The guys rotate around the tables while the girls stay put. After the 3 minute date, you check off on a score card "yes" or "no". It was pretty tiring talking to so many people and my mouth did kind of hurt at the end from so much smiling.

I would suggest to go with a friend. For me it was a lot more fun having my friend around.

I only had one guy where I thought we really clicked... and we're going out next Wednesday.

So for those who are considering speed dating, I say do it at least once. Why not? :)

Thanks for those who shared their experiences with me.

PenforPrez

11-18-2006, 06:00 PM

Glad you had a good time, Serene! Let us know how it goes. :)

PenforPrez

05-07-2007, 10:17 PM

Decided to breathe new life into this thread. I'm wondering if I should try speed dating again. It did work for me last time, but there's a lot stacked against me too. So I'm wondering if it would be worth another $34 investment.

Paul

dave134

05-23-2007, 07:17 PM

How did your date with the lady you met at your last event end up working out?

PenforPrez

05-23-2007, 07:20 PM

How did your date with the lady you met at your last event end up working out?

We sorta saw each other for about a month. She was a very sweet lady; she just had enough issues to make me look normal. She was THE exception to the rule of the people at the event. In a very good way. :)

Paul