Signs He Is Interested??

[ereliz33]

I have a crush on a guy I work with and I can't tell if he is just friendly or interested in me. He is really quiet and shy, so this makes it difficult to read the situation. I worked with him previously and we never spoke. I am working with him again, and now he always makes comments to me as he passes. He teases me often. He always uses my name when he speaks to me and stopped the other day to ask hwer eI live.

Sometimes though I feel like he talks to everyone else except me and I am invisible. I know he is busy at work, as am I, but it is starting to drive me crazy.

What are some signs a guy is interested, even if he is shy???

Thanks for the assistance. I feel like I am back in middle school again instead of my mid 20s.

[LaFille]

Sometimes though I feel like he talks to everyone else except me and I am invisible. I know he is busy at work, as am I, but it is starting to drive me crazy.

What are some signs a guy is interested, even if he is shy???

Thanks for the assistance. I feel like I am back in middle school again instead of my mid 20s.

ignoring is definitely middle-school-speak for 'i like you and am too scared to acknowledge you'

[ereliz33]

haha... Indeed that is true.

[KCboy]

if a guy talks to you, he's interested.

well...goes out of his way to talk, and smiles, then most likely.

just go for it, get into a conversation and take it to a "outside work" level. see if he wants to get together.

if he says no, so what? it's not like you unzipped his pants and crabbed his junk or anything. tomorrow is another day.


When I started at my current job, this girl was always suggesting we get together outside work. After a while I got so sure it was more than friendly and I said yes. we went out on a Sat afternoon, and I tried to kiss her goodbye and she would have none of it (I am too young for her). It was awkward walking her to her car, but we've been friends ever since and have done many things outside work since then.
what's the worst that could happen?

[felix23]

dude- he could totally be into you-- if a guy works with you and likes you, it sometimes intimidates him from asking you out cause he knows he's gonna have to see you everyday- especially .. if he's shy as you say.

You're gonna have to drop some serious hint action, then you'll find out!

good luck

[dddork]

guys are morons when it comes to picking up signals from girls..

[workaholic?]

when in doubt...refer back to middle school mode...go through friends. remember? you have one of your friends ask one of his friends to find out if he likes you.

sad as it may seem...there was a little of this going on when i met my current boyfriend...everybody knew we liked each other but us...it took some serious alcohol for us to finally come out of our shells with each other.

[and1grad]

if a guy talks to you, he's interested.

well...goes out of his way to talk, and smiles, then most likely.
I agree with this part as long as you add the caveat of "he doesnt do that with all your other coworkers also." If its just SOP for him then maybe he's just being himself and not really into you. Hard to say.

[ereliz33]

He doesn't talk to any of the other girls I work with... at least not around me. I am always the one he addresses if we are standing in a group.

[LaFille]

from what i've learned, if you think he's interested, he probably is. :huge:

[ereliz33]

I guess I will feel it out and give it a try.

[ereliz33]

Do you think it is risky though to pursue someone you work with? I feel sort of nervous about even going there, because I do have to see him every day and there are so many people around all of the time.

[and1grad]

In a word, HellYes. Very risky. I think its only a good idea to pursue a coworker if its someone you dont directly work with or otherwise really see all the time.

[meatwad]

In a word, HellYes. Very risky. I think its only a good idea to pursue a coworker if its someone you dont directly work with or otherwise really see all the time.

Or if you're planning on leaving your job.