Halloween Costumes!

[Ciderhillnh]

Alright the other thread about the Halloween costume got me thinking....

What is everyone going as for Halloween?

[CityGal]

LOVE Halloween. I'm going to be the 'ring' master.

[mishl982]

I said it in the other thread, but I'm going to be a sexy barista!

It's a blank mini dress with a green apron and hat that say "Caution: Contents are hot!" and a cup that says "Thanks a Latte." For work instead of the dress I'm going to wear tan pants and a black top. I just hope my coworkers don't expect me to get them coffee!!

This is it: http://www.buycostumes.com/ProductDetail.aspx?ProductID=19551&PCatID=Search+Results&ccatid=barista

[Winter Storm]

I'd love to go as a Victoria's Secret angel but I haven't heard of any parties as of yet.

[tina1979]

I am going as an angel (http://www.buycostumes.com/ProductDetail.aspx?ProductID=18716&PCatID=Search+Results&ccatid=angel). I need to hurry up and order my dress, but I don't get paid until friday. :neutral:

[Kitty]

I'm going as a wal-mart goth.

[mishl982]

I'd love to go as a Victoria's Secret angel but I haven't heard of any parties as of yet.
Just go out!

My friends and I haven't been invited to any parties but we've already decided we're going to Georgetown and going to rent a hotel.

[tina1979]

I'm going as a wal-mart goth.
I gotta see pics. I used to be a goth-girl.

[Kitty]

I gotta see pics. I used to be a goth-girl.

I was bordering on goth in HS. I wore a shitload of black eyeliner and all-black outfits. Plus, I had the knee-high lace-up docs.

[tina1979]

I was bordering on goth in HS. I wore a shitload of black eyeliner and all-black outfits. Plus, I had the knee-high lace-up docs.
me too. :)

[tina1979]

A friend of mine is going as Little Dead Riding Hood (http://www.buycostumes.com/ProductDetail.aspx?ProductID=21115&PCatID=Search+Results&ccatid=little%20dead%20riding%20hood).

[SmilesSoSweet]

I don't have any plans for Halloween. I never really did much until a couple years ago when a former co-worker of mine throw the best Halloween parties. But out here, I haven't gone to one yet. And I'm just trying my best not to buy any Halloween candy either! LOL

[Ciderhillnh]

Im going as this (I have no clue how to post a link)

http://www.frightcatalog.com/Halloween-Costumes/Funny+Costumes/Cosmo+Pink-1103032/

[Krishna]

I'm going as a broken down QLCer. i.e.- sweatpants, sweatshirt, quart of ice cream and the classified section of the local paper.

[pisces2473]

Am I the only one who doesn't go out for Halloween?

[SmilesSoSweet]

Am I the only one who doesn't go out for Halloween?

That would be me too. With the exception of two back-to-back Halloween parties, I never did anything for Halloween as an adult.

[pisces2473]

Yup, nothing since HS for me.

When you don't drink, you don't do anything in college...and when you don't have friends, you don't do anything post-college.

[SmilesSoSweet]

The two parties I went to, I didn't drink because I drove. It was just that I actually knew someone that knew how to throw a great party and I couldn't pass up going to it. In college I didn't make a big deal out of Halloween either. I think I may have gone out, but not to an actual party. I did enjoy the Halloween candy though.

[MetFanL]

I love dressing up, but I haven't been to a proper party in a few years. If I was gonna dress up this year, I'd make my friends dress up as the Fantanas. Or Jem and the Holograms.

[Ciderhillnh]

Halloween was a BIG deal at my college. People dressed up and went to class, and there were always costume parties at the bars and clubs.

Since graduating college, my friends and I usually hit up the club for the costume party (and have met some really interesting people this way) and we also hit the house party circuit.....usually 5 - 10 parties all month, 3 usually being the Saturday before Halloween.

Last year I think I dressed up a total of 6 seperate times.

We also usually go to Salem, MA on Halloween to wander around dressed up, go through the silly attractions and grab a beer. That entire city gets close to 100,000 people that night, and the bars are FILLED with people in costume, its really entertaining just to go and walk and look at people.

[WorkInProgress]

Am I the only one who doesn't go out for Halloween?
Naw...I haven't done anything for Halloween since I was quite young...I think maybe 5th grade? But I can understand how it is fun for others.

EDIT: untrue. My sorority had a philanthropy event "Trick or treating for change" around the campus for loose change to support our philathropy. It was decently effective. So I dressed up for that.

[wordsmith]

I love doing something for Halloween...but the options have not been plentiful in the past couple of years. I could throw a party, but to be honest, it's hard work to throw a party by yourself. It was much easier when I had housemates.

[pisces2473]

I just don't get how people still find so many things to do...

I also could throw a party, but...oh yeah, no one would come.

[wordsmith]

Here, every bar has a costume party...but I've gone to some the past couple of years, and they've not been a ton of fun, so that's disappointing.

I also learned with my last Christmas party that my apt., while big, is not really big enough for a big party.

[Ciderhillnh]

pisces2473 on Halloween night why dont you and your SO dress up and go to a bar...there will probably be tons of people and you can probably meet some nice ones (maybe even couples)------you seem to be pretty down on that today, and hey every little step helps.

As for how I find so many things to do....Im in a ton of networking groups, I have friends and I ask them what they are up to and their friends are having parties so they invite me, I go talk to new people make more friends......Im on several club pages so I hear about the parties in advance and then send out mass Emails to my friends......
I started out with just having my EX as someone to hang out with when I moved home 5 years ago------in the past 2 years, Ive beefed up the going out and talking to new people which has afforded me the large group I hang out with today.
Im also a girl who goes to the bars, clubs, concerts, house parties, and hosts house parties-----and thats what these people like to do, so they are likely to come out when I call.

Like Friday night-----I held an open house movie night....15 people showed up through the night. Saturday put together a party at a bar for a friend....we had 10 people go out. Thats just typical for us.

There is no magic way to do this, no set of rules....but you do have to get involved and get out there and talk to random people. When Im at a bar or club Ill talk to anyone from the girl ahead of me in line at the ladies room, to the girl handing out fliers on the street on a Sunday afternoon.

[CTGirl]

I just don't get how people still find so many things to do...

I also could throw a party, but...oh yeah, no one would come.

Aww, I would come!

I dunno what I'm doing this year yet.....there was talk amongst alumni about crashing the grad students' party where we did our master's, but it's not looking like that's actually gonna happen, so who knows.

[Kitty]

In college there were always like a billion halloween parties, and downtown just went crazy with college students - so you could go to any bar and like 99% of people were dressed up.

since college I've gone to the Castro most years in SF - which is basically like a huge, insane, street party. Also, either my coworkers or D's coworkers throw some type of halloween party...

I honestly think i've dressed up for halloween every single year of my life. It's my favorite holiday.

[mishl982]

Last year I didn't do anything for Halloween. Every year it depends on my mood. I haven't been to a real Halloween party since college. I just go to a bar if I want to celebrate with my friends.

[pisces2473]

pisces2473 on Halloween night why dont you and your SO dress up and go to a bar...there will probably be tons of people and you can probably meet some nice ones (maybe even couples)------you seem to be pretty down on that today, and hey every little step helps.
We're not big drinkers and tend to feel awkward when we see everyone else with people they know. Like on the first day of school when you don't have a place to sit at lunch? And yes, I am down, because my SO and I are getting tired of being socially stunted. I thought your 20s are supposed to be the fun times. Ha.

As for how I find so many things to do....Im in a ton of networking groups, I have friends and I ask them what they are up to and their friends are having parties so they invite me, I go talk to new people make more friends......Im on several club pages so I hear about the parties in advance and then send out mass Emails to my friends......
My friends don't invite me to hang out with them and their friends when they do things as a group. Actually, it's only one friend with a group--mostly people her husband knows (and their SOs) so it's like 6 degrees of separation from me to those people and according to my friend, she doesn't even hang out with them very much anymore.

Like Friday night-----I held an open house movie night....15 people showed up through the night. Saturday put together a party at a bar for a friend....we had 10 people go out. Thats just typical for us.

I have tried that. I invited a bunch of people out to this pool hall/bar back in March but it was just weird. No one's reciprocated since then, and most people couldn't go. Everyone lives too far away to come for a night out. And it's mostly women, so my SO feels funny being the only guy. We even tried to coordinate a dinner out with my SO and my two married friends and their husbands. Everyone's like, "Oh we should do this again" but no one's done anything. After awhile, it just feels forced and fake.

I had something a few years ago when I worked at the library--again, all girls. It's just weird.

There is no magic way to do this, no set of rules....but you do have to get involved and get out there and talk to random people. When Im at a bar or club Ill talk to anyone from the girl ahead of me in line at the ladies room, to the girl handing out fliers on the street on a Sunday afternoon.
I also chat with people when I'm in places. That's just casual banter, never goes anywhere.

[pisces2473]

Aww, I would come!

I dunno what I'm doing this year yet.....there was talk amongst alumni about crashing the grad students' party where we did our master's, but it's not looking like that's actually gonna happen, so who knows.
LOL I'd never have a party. I don't like throwing them, actually, because I'm always so nervous that someone's going to have a bad time, that people won't like each other, etc. I stress too much. Also, my friends aren't friends with each other...soooo...yeah.

[Ciderhillnh]

Dont have to be a big drinker to go to a bar. Grab a coke or sprite and sip away and talk with people. I find people are much more into talking to random people on Halloween anyway, but thats just my experience.

If you approach it like its the first day of school, then you have already set yourself up to be dissapointed.

My friends never used to call me and ask me along either.....I took that out of their hands since that way wasnt working. Id call or text and ask what they were up to, if it was a bar thing or an event where anyone can go, Id ask if I could come along....if they said yes Id go.

Ive created the friends inviting friends thing.....people didnt do it at first and I hang out with lke 5 different groups....so I started having them all over at my place and people started to connect....Id ask myself along and ask if I could bring a few friends....it blossomed from there.

My networking groups have been great. People share common interests etc.

Honestly I appreciate how you want to help your SO gain more friends, but doing it in tandum could be hurting making friends....try to make some on your own, he should do the same...then bring them together......

If everyone had fun at that dinner party, then organize it at your place again....they probably arent going to do it, and waiting for them to just leaves you frustrated. Putting something together isnt forcing it....holding a gun to their head and saying we will no longer be friends if you dont come here is.....that makes it forced...but if they enjoyed themselves Im sure if you put something together again, they will come.

If you find you are just in casual banter...make it go somewhere....tell the person you enjoyed talking with them and youd like to hang out with them again...exchange numbers. Yes its like picking someone up at the bar, but its also how you make friends.

I made friends when I needed a roommate, some of them couldnt move in but we kept in touch. Work, social groups, bars, friends of friends that came to my house......friends of friends I met at their parties and started to hang out with on my own......

[pisces2473]

Dont have to be a big drinker to go to a bar. Grab a coke or sprite and sip away and talk with people. I find people are much more into talking to random people on Halloween anyway, but thats just my experience.
I'm not trying to be negative, but in my area, everyone hangs with people they already know. No one is trying to branch out.

Ive created the friends inviting friends thing.....people didnt do it at first and I hang out with lke 5 different groups....so I started having them all over at my place and people started to connect....Id ask myself along and ask if I could bring a few friends....it blossomed from there.
People are just too busy to keep wanting to hang out. Maybe it's different for you, if the people you know are all single, but once you add SO's and family and SO's family into the mix, people are so busy.

Honestly I appreciate how you want to help your SO gain more friends, but doing it in tandum could be hurting making friends....try to make some on your own, he should do the same...then bring them together......
Where do guys meet other guys? He's not typical. Neither am I.

Putting something together isnt forcing it....
No no no, that's not how I meant it...it's just like when no one's gotten together for awhile, it just feels awkward and stuff. I don't know, maybe me and these two friends have just grown apart?

If you find you are just in casual banter...make it go somewhere....tell the person you enjoyed talking with them and youd like to hang out with them again...exchange numbers. Yes its like picking someone up at the bar, but its also how you make friends.
Just chatting with someone in David's Bridal isn't going to lead anywhere. I would feel weirded out if someone was like, "It was fun chatting, want to hang out sometime?"

[pisces2473]

I'm not trying to be negative, but in my area, everyone hangs with people they already know. No one is trying to branch out.
I'm talking about when you go to the bars...everyone's in their little cliques and no one looks like they want to associate with anyone else.

[brightestblack]

I was bordering on goth in HS. I wore a shitload of black eyeliner and all-black outfits. Plus, I had the knee-high lace-up docs.


I'm still goff girl lol.

I want to be a naughty nurse for Halloween... I'm not a nurse yet but in two years I will be (hopefully!)

[CTGirl]

I want to be a naughty nurse for Halloween... I'm not a nurse yet but in two years I will be (hopefully!)

Oh, that makes a cheesy costume way less cheesy, good idea!

[Kitty]

I'm still goff girl lol.



Really? Goths are a dying breed, it seems.

[J-girl]

Just go out!

My friends and I haven't been invited to any parties but we've already decided we're going to Georgetown and going to rent a hotel.
thats what me and my friends are doing this year. We always celebrate Halloween half arsed this year we are going ALL OUT!

I am going to dress up as a slutty cop!

[meatwad]

I'm going as one Seymour "Shaggy" Shagowski.

http://scooby.imoqland.com/cocina/cocina_archivos/image004.jpg

[yankeeyosh]

This Halloween, I shall be CORPOMAN!!!!!
The most EVIL villain around...he will rob you blind, suck your blood, and take your first-born too! And you can be Corpoman too! All you have to do is put on a white shirt, suit and conservative tie, and waltz into your office. There's also Corpowoman, but I'm not too familiar with that, since Corpoman takes place in 1955, when Corpowoman is just a figment of one's imagination.

Needless to say, I don't go out that much for Halloween. Let's just say this...the last time I went trick or treating, Berlin Wall was still standing (albeit barely) and Hammertime was fortunately not part of our lexicon yet.

Meatwad, HOW did you do that? I thought QLC and pictures don't mix.

[SunDevil]

To put an image in your post, pick the icon with a mountain, yellow sky and sun. Then post the link. The link has to end with .jpg

This would be a ofensive costume to some, and others would see the irony. I'm in a much too religious area to try this. It's the second coming of Jesus (or zombie Jesus)
http://static.flickr.com/52/129465027_b1634c0a24.jpg
http://static.flickr.com/52/129465027_b1634c0a24.jpg?v=0

The only problem with pictures is that it takes up the bandwidth of the hosting site everytime a person refreshes or visits the page. It also can slow the loading time of the page.

[yankeeyosh]

To put an image in your post, pick the icon with a mountain, yellow sky and sun. Then post the link. The link has to end with .jpg

Were you always able to do that, or is that a new feature?

[SunDevil]

I think it just came back. It had been there at one time, but I couldn't find it just a few weeks ago.

[yankeeyosh]

I think it just came back. It had been there at one time, but I couldn't find it just a few weeks ago.

Okay...I just never saw it before (I saw links to images...just never images on QLC itself).

[Ciderhillnh]

Jen.....

Its your perception that no one wants to branch out. YOu cant tell me that you think you are the only person looking to meet and make new friends. With that in mind....figure that someone else at a bar or coffee shop or whatever is looking for the same. You have to be a bit brave, but most people welcome random conversation.

As for striking up a conversation at David's Bridal-----YOU might think it strange to randomly talk with someone and then have them say hey lets grab a coffee sometime...but thats how friendships start.

Not all of my friends are single. Some are, some have SO's, some are married.....BUT they dont come to every invitation, but they do make an effort to come to something once a month.

Not all of my friends are friends too, but they are starting to get that way. They hang out enough at my place and interact, they start to form friendships, and hang out on their own time.....when they do, sometimes they call me to join, sometimes they dont....but its nice to see.

As for where guys meet guys.....anywhere! Clubs, sports, work, bar, anywhere that you can strike up a conversation.

[pisces2473]

I don't think I'm the only person out there. I know that much.

See, the difference here is that you have a ton of people. I only have three good friends in the area--Coll, who I met on here, my friend K who I've known since 5th grade, and J who K and I met when we were working together in HS. If they are all busy, then there's nothing going on.

My SO really doesn't like K's husband--and I'll agree, he is rather boring and not really talkative. SO and J's husband get along well, but J's husband has a ton of friends from HS and stuff and the two of them are always out with his buddies and their wives (at things not initiated by J and husband, or I'd see what they were up to) or with J's husband's huge family. Coll also has a fairly large group of friends, a few who have made it clear that they don't like "outsiders." Coll herself will tell you that some of them are jealous that she's made a new friend.

My coworkers and I did go out for drinks last Friday after work, which was fun. Apparently no one's ever thought to go out after work before--it's a growing company and no one's been there over a year so this is the first time there was a real group.

As for my SO meeting people--there's not much going on in this area. He works with 3 guys--all of whom are older and cranky and not fun. He's not a drinker and there are no sports leagues in this area. This is not Boston.

[Ciderhillnh]

I currently have a ton of people yes….but it took me 5 YEARS to get to the point where I am. What do you think I did 5 years ago? I was in the SAME boat you're in……and I understand that you're in CT……the people Ive met, it wasn’t IN Boston, it was at town bars and town activities.

If your friend is always out at activities through her husbands large group of friends…..can you tell her hey we are looking to meet people too, could you check with the organizer and maybe we could come along?
Im sure your friend would be willing and able to bring you along……

That sucks that friends get jealous one of their own has made a new friend. Maybe it’s a thought process thing….we all get excited when someone has made a new friend….it means someone new to throw into the mix, and meeting people they know. We arent very cliquey…..and actually most nights when we go out, other random groups of people join us and talk……but maybe its about our attitude and that we welcome people to join.

(for instance….my roommate has a friend who lives up the street….she asked my roommate and I to come out for a drink last week….which was great. Not only did I get to hang out with her, but we met up with 2 of my friends and my roommate and I ended up going home leaving the girl with my 2 friends. I was hosting a movie night the next night so we exchanged phone numbers and I asked her over to the movie night….my roommate was out of town, but she came over and met all my friends…..she had a blast….)

That’s GREAT that you and your co-workers went out for drinks. If everyone had fun try to make it a regular thing….once a month or once every other month. It’s a start and something to look at positively!

Okay you seem to be stuck on the drinking thing. I have friends who arent big on drinking but come out and have soda. If he doesn’t like soda either….water?

And as for sports leagues, it was a mere suggestion of how guys meet other guys. Doesn’t mean it’s the end all be all. And you don’t have to be in BOSTON or some major city for sports leagues. In my home town there is a MAJOR ultimate frisbee league that plays in the suburbs only….there are biking groups, hiking groups, coffee groups, live music groups, pie and ice cream tasting groups, independent film watching groups…..all of these take place 10 - 15 minutes from my house, and don’t require setting foot into the city.

If you cant find something that fits your taste….START SOMETHING, post on Craigs List.

[sundaycomics]

My husband is going to be a senator and I'm going to be his page.

And yes, I can definitely identify with it being hard to meet people. I also work 2nd shift, which sucks when interesting groups and classes are at 7 pm on weeknights.

[pisces2473]

If your friend is always out at activities through her husbands large group of friends…..can you tell her hey we are looking to meet people too, could you check with the organizer and maybe we could come along? Im sure your friend would be willing and able to bring you along……
They aren't always out...but they have a lot more opportunities. I've met these people before when my friend/husband had parties. Then they moved to a tiny place and had job upheaval so no more parties. They are OK, not 100% great. Most of the time when they go out with these people, it's to their homes...nothing big. This friend also knows that I want to meet more people, but then again, I haven't talked to her in months.

but maybe its about our attitude and that we welcome people to join.
Maybe it is. Around here, it seems like everyone wants things to be just like they were in HS.

That’s GREAT that you and your co-workers went out for drinks. If everyone had fun try to make it a regular thing….once a month or once every other month. It’s a start and something to look at positively!
I was actually thinking about suggesting us going out again next week or so. And, before we went out last Friday, I had thought about sending out an email seeing if people wanted to do something. It was really organic, how it happened. Some people went out for lunch with the boss, the rest of us were hanging around, and we were like, "hey lets just get drinks later." There are a LOT of younger people here, so it's fun.

Okay you seem to be stuck on the drinking thing. I have friends who arent big on drinking but come out and have soda. If he doesn’t like soda either….water?
LOL we do drink, like 1 or 2 in a night. It's more of how other people get when they drink--they turn into assholes and are fake.

And as for sports leagues, it was a mere suggestion of how guys meet other guys. Doesn’t mean it’s the end all be all. And you don’t have to be in BOSTON or some major city for sports leagues. In my home town there is a MAJOR ultimate frisbee league that plays in the suburbs only….there are biking groups, hiking groups, coffee groups, live music groups, pie and ice cream tasting groups, independent film watching groups…..all of these take place 10 - 15 minutes from my house, and don’t require setting foot into the city.
Right, but I still think it's the Boston mentality that's gone into the suburbs. My aunt lives in Malden and she's amazed at the fact that my area doesn't have what her town does.

[Ciderhillnh]

Boston is NOTORIOUS for being totally unfriendly etc. Its about where you go and your perception and how you approach people.
I was scared to just go up to people when I was out, then I figured A) what do I have to lose? B) If they don’t want ot talk to me Ill probably NEVER see them out again and C) I could gain a friend……..C totally surpassed A and B. I wanted friends so I had to take the plunge.

If you havent talked to your friend in months and you feel like this, pick up the phone. You have to be a bit vulnerable and expose yourself a bit to gain. That’s great that it was at peoples houses or whatever-----it doesn’t matter the venue so long as you're getting out and meeting people.

Yes SOME people become jerks when they drink, but that doesn’t mean EVERYONE does….again your perception seems to be halting your even attempting to try something outside of the box of what you are currently doing that isnt working so well for you and making you unhappy.

Malden is RIGHT next to Boston. They have many activities and availablity like Boston. Im a good 25 minute ride to the city on a good day. I stick to the burbs.
Have you spent time looking for what might be offered near you? Maybe in a smaller sub-city? I go to Cambridge, Somerville, they are near Boston but easier to get to.
Craigs List again has TONS of listings of activies and events. One I saw the other day was jewlery making at some random little shop the next town over from me…….yet another was pottery painting…...

[pisces2473]

Well, I live right next to New Haven, so there's no other smaller city to go to. Unless I drive like an hour or so.

I just feel like I don't have much in common with these friends (that I haven't talked to in awhile). They are all busy busy with getting degrees, their husbands, and stuff...and nothing is really exciting to them anymore.

[Ciderhillnh]

Well Ive given you many different ways and avenues to make or meet new friends or reconnect with the old.
Its fine if you dont want to try anything new, it can be hard the first few times, but if you insist on living in your box and not trying anything new, dont complain you dont meet anyone, or that you dont have any couple friends, or that you need to help your fiancee make friends......

In all honesty, it sounds like your in this position because you are very picky and judgemental. And you are apathetic about trying something that might help to make a change.

So good luck with that.

[pisces2473]

Ha, look who's calling the kettle black!

[Ciderhillnh]

yes its been said to me.....but when in a situation its tough to sometimes see that its a matter of change-----but I do take things in stride and try to apply them if its something I havent tried before.

I have DIRECT experience with this and am telling you what I did to build my social network, some things might work for you others might not......

[CTGirl]

In all honesty, it sounds like your in this position because you are very picky and judgemental. And you are apathetic about trying something that might help to make a change.

So good luck with that.

Hey, nuthin wrong with being picky when it comes to making friends, that's how you end up with only the best ones :huge:

I'm not about to go out and make friends with craploads of people just for the sake of having friends, and as a result, it can be difficult to find new ones, as I have learned. That doesnt mean, however, that I'm going to lower my standards just because times are tough.

[pisces2473]

No I'm talking about situations with your SOs and your parents. Not your friends.

What works for one, doesn't work for all. I'm an introvert, pretty much. So it's not that I'm being apathetic. I'm just not all "HI HOW ARE YOU WANT TO BE FRIENDS!!!!!!!"


Oh, and how am I judgemental? I didn't say I wouldn't be friends with minorities or gays or anything like that...

[Ciderhillnh]

CT girl......I have great friends. I didnt lower my standards because I was lonely....I just kept giving everyone a chance. The more people you talk to....the better the odds correct?

I never said just walk up and say HI WANT TO BE FRIENDS?!

What I did suggest is starting conversation, seeing where it goes, if it goes well trying to take it to the next step.

I have friends I met at bars, clubs, bookstores, lunch at work (not from my company), random parties, in line for pizza......


You come across as judgemental about people being cliquey, or snobby or that they are going to be assholes when drinking....give people at least a chance, they might surprise you and not be ANYTHING like that, but if you already walk around thinking that its going to be sensed and it could be why people arent open to you.

[pisces2473]

CT girl......I have great friends. I didnt lower my standards because I was lonely....I just kept giving everyone a chance. The more people you talk to....the better the odds correct?
But what are the odds that you're going to meet people just randomly. I don't know ANYONE who does this...

I never said just walk up and say HI WANT TO BE FRIENDS?!
OMG, you are way too literal. I was joking around.

You come across as judgemental about people being cliquey, or snobby or that they are going to be assholes when drinking....give people at least a chance, they might surprise you and not be ANYTHING like that, but if you already walk around thinking that its going to be sensed and it could be why people arent open to you.
You don't live where I do, so you don't know. People in small towns are cliquey. That's the way it is. And anytime C and I have gone out to a bar to hang out, we end up with some drunken scumbag hanging out with us, being an ass.

[embrassezla]

Give Scumbags A Chance

[Ciderhillnh]

Maybe if you talked to more people you would know more people who met people randomly.
Most of my friends have met friends randomly….at a party where they both know someone who knows someone……or out walking around at night in their town or city, or even on vacation in a nearby state…..

You're right I don’t live in YOUR town, but YOUR town isnt the only place like it, there are other towns that are similar…….and you don’t know where I have lived or my experiences……so how do you know I don’t live somewhere cliquey as well?

I grew up in a town FILLED with them, hated it. Went to a college FILLEd with them too---hated that even more.
Moved here to a town that was filled with people my age that all seemed to have their own groups of friends……until I started TALKING to them and seeing them out and forging friendships.

Ive had the drunken scumbag sit with my group too, mostly we say things to rile them up, or get up and ditch them….or sometimes sit and listen to their life story------but there have also been other nights we have gone out and a group of cool people have sat down with us and we've talked all night.

Then again Ill also talk to anyone…..lol Im also not home most nights, so I end up talking to someone new just about every day.

[pisces2473]

Give Scumbags A Chance
What??? Are you being funny? I'm serious--the last time we went out, this guy attached himself to me and C. C thought he was going to have to physically remove the guy. He was yelling about all of this wacky stuff, etc.

[pisces2473]

Okay Cider, now you're just being mean-spirited.

[Ciderhillnh]

Im actually just being honest. I strike up conversations at the drug store, grocery store whatever…..and I have to run at least an errand a night.

And Im really never home……sometimes I sleep there, or run in to change and head right back out.

Sorry for being honest.

Again, my life wasn’t like this even 3 years ago. So Im still getting used to it myself, but I do know what I did to get to where I am and this is what I wanted….and I had to work for it.

[pisces2473]

I think you missed the point entirely, which I finally realized when I saw this in your last post:
this is what I wanted

I DO NOT WANT WHAT YOU HAVE. I do not need to go clubbing or hanging out with 50 people for my birthday or whatever. I just want a few nice, normal girls to hang out with. And some guys for my SO to be friends with. If they are couples, even better. I WANT QUALITY OVER QUANTITY.

[flesh_gordon]

and here I thought I clicked a thread about halloween costumes.

I was going to go as Han Solo, as an excuse not to get my hair cut, and then someone suggested Han in Carbonite... so now i've got to find a large box.

[meatwad]

and here I thought I clicked a thread about halloween costumes.

I was going to go as Han Solo, as an excuse not to get my hair cut, and then someone suggested Han in Carbonite... so now i've got to find a large box.

Lol. I spent about $40 on my costume, but I've saved at least $12 in not getting my hair cut in 8 weeks. :D

[mishl982]

My roommates are going as an angel and a devil (or both 1/2 angel 1/2 devil, I forget). One bought a red corset and the other bought a white corset and they're going to wear devil ears and a halo. I think their costumes are hot, and ahem, not slutty! It was definitely a creative-wouldn't-think-of-making-a-costume-out-of-a-corset-idea. Especially because they were getting discouraged with the costume choices at the Halloween stores.

[Ciderhillnh]

I never said its what YOU wanted I posted that its what I wanted and how I went about obtaining that for myself.

You said you want friends......Ive given you ideas on how to find the ones you are looking for. I made close girlfriends, close guy friends and some not so close ones......

[embrassezla]

What??? Are you being funny? I'm serious--the last time we went out, this guy attached himself to me and C. C thought he was going to have to physically remove the guy. He was yelling about all of this wacky stuff, etc.
Yes, I was being facetious :huge:

[embrassezla]

My roommates are going as an angel and a devil. One bought a red corset and the other bought a white corset and they're going to wear devil ears and a halo. I think their costumes are hot, and ahem, not slutty!
I am SO not touching this.

[WorkInProgress]

and here I thought I clicked a thread about halloween costumes.

I was going to go as Han Solo, as an excuse not to get my hair cut, and then someone suggested Han in Carbonite... so now i've got to find a large box.

Both are nifty ideas. How are you intending to do the frozen in carbonite thing? Face & body paint with a gray box and gray clothes?

[mishl982]

I am SO not touching this.
Ok so then tell me what do you classify as slutty/whorish/sexy/etc?

I've seen my roommates in their corsets and they don't look like whores or sluts at all. It IS possible to look sexy without looking like a tramp. It's not like their ass cheeks will be hanging out or baring midriffs. Their nipples won't be on display either.

And they're wearing corsets with pants!

[embrassezla]

Ok so then tell me what do you classify as slutty/whorish/sexy/etc?
Nah, I don't want to go there. It's not important anyway - just a pet peeve of mine. You don't have to justify the non-sluttiness of your friends' costumes to me.

EDIT to clarify:
slutty/whorish/sexy
I don't find the latter synonymous with the former(s).

[mishl982]

I don't find the latter synonymous with the former(s).
Oh I didn't mean to say they are all synonyms. But in the other thread you talked about how your friend's costume was sexy. I was just curious what is sexy to you and what is whorish to you? But if you don't want to go there then that's fine.

[BlueEyedFunOne]

I'm going as an emo kid.

Tight grandpa pants, studded belt, 'My Chemical Romance' t-shirt, half-sleeve tattoo (drawn in marker by a friend), shaggy black wig, heavy eyeliner and thick black glasses.

:lol:

[J-girl]

I'm going as an emo kid.

Tight grandpa pants, studded belt, 'My Chemical Romance' t-shirt, half-sleeve tattoo (drawn in marker by a friend), shaggy black wig, heavy eyeliner and thick black glasses.

:lol:

And go nuts when they play Sexy Back by JT! :huge:

[tina1979]

Ok so then tell me what do you classify as slutty/whorish/sexy/etc?

I've seen my roommates in their corsets and they don't look like whores or sluts at all. It IS possible to look sexy without looking like a tramp. It's not like their ass cheeks will be hanging out or baring midriffs. Their nipples won't be on display either.

And they're wearing corsets with pants!
I think it sounds hot.

my friend and I are doing the angel/ devil thing. i am the angel ( i posted a pic of it in the beginning of the thread I think) and she is the devil. Her costume shows way less than any bikini, but you could still say its slutty

[meatwad]

I thought about going as John Wilkes Booth and then if there was a guy dressed up as Abraham Lincoln I could pull out a gun and shoot him in the back of the head. But then I thought it might spoil the party and I hate being that guy.

[flesh_gordon]

Both are nifty ideas. How are you intending to do the frozen in carbonite thing? Face & body paint with a gray box and gray clothes?

yeah... just a large rectangular box... maybe to my knees or something, and then cut outs for my face and hands, gray facepaint, and gray gloves. One hand hole reasonably close to my mouth so I can still drink till I pass out. Probably some colorued blocks or something for the buttons on the side.

It will go well with my girlfriends little red riding hood :D

[SunDevil]

I hope you will be walking to the party, because getting into and out of a car won't be easy.

[flesh_gordon]

Thankfully, the party is at our place :D