I need some good advice, please what do I do?

[webs_mvp]

I was wondering if someone could give me some advice. I've asked a few of my friends and they aren't actually giving me advice, they're telling me to do what I feel is best and that doesn't help me. I need some advice from both sides of the coin, so here's my dilema:

I recently got a new job and met a guy at my job. I thought he was somewhat attractive and he slipped me his number one day. We went out a few time over the course of a week, but after a while I figured I just wasn't feeling him and so I told him that I didn't want to date him any longer because I didn't like dating a guy I worked with. I said this because I didn't want to hurt his feelings. So then this new guy starts working at our job and he is VERY attractive, and I find myself attracted to him.

Let me start off by saying I don't know if he likes me. In some ways I think he does, for example, he brought me breakfast the other day and stood and talked to me for about 1/2 hour, we talked last week on email back and forth all day, and last Friday he came down to my desk and talked to me for about 40 mins. Anyway, he works in the same department as the guy I was talking to when I first started working here.

In a way, I want to pursue this guy, find out if he likes me, and see where we go from there, but in a way I don't want to do that because of the guy I used to see (for one week), plus I don't know if it's a good idea to date a guy I work with. We don't work on the same floor or in the same department. I'm 25 and he's 27.

Can someone give me some advice on what to do and from the actions stated above do you think he's interested? Or should I just leave it alone all together. In a way, I'm upset that I even started talking to the first guy because it seems like that has messed it up for me from this day forward. What do you think?

[Chameleon]

If you work for a large company and this is someone you rarely see without making an effort, then you might consider finding out more about the person - do you know if he has a girlfriend or wife (or boyfriend)? Would you be able to keep things casual while you are trying to find out more about him? Maybe he's trying to bond with a fellow newbie? We just had a new crop of new hires at work and one of the new girls has these two new guys that are super clingy (IM all the time, have lunch together, hang out on the weekends) even though they aren't interested in dating her.

If things end badly, will you be able to handle it? Nothing really happened with the first guy and it's already really awkward; what happens if things fizzle after a week with guy #2, after a month, after 2 months? You just started at your new job, you don't want to do something to jeopardize that. What is your company's policy on dating co-workers? Whatever you decide, you will want to proceed very carefully and make sure it doesn't affect your work environment.

You might also want to consider finding another pickup spot that doesn't potentially threaten your employment.

[cache]

By telling Guy #1 you didn't want to date someone at work, you put yourself in a difficult situation. You are left with 2 options: 1.follow that rule - no dating at work, or 2. Admit(even just to yourself) that you lied to guy #1. I;m sure it would come up with guy #2 soon enough, anyways...

[Nelzie]

I personally have never dated a coworker, and probably never would. I think it would be so awkward if we broke up that I would have a hard time doing my job. That said, it really does depend on how much you guys would see each other. If you think you could handle running into him if you broke up, then maybe it will be okay. But since things already sound awkard with the other guy it might be a little difficult.

[CityGal]

Pursue the new guy. Although what happens if the same situation with number 1 happens. Are you going to give him the same excuse? Well...I guess you could be the new guy to casually hang out. ha.

[ywt]

As others have mentioned, my policy on dating folks at work was largely dependent on how closely I worked with them. My company is on a large campus, and I'd never consider dating someone in my building, but I did date a girl in HR for a time that worked in a building half a mile a way that I never usually have any cause to enter.

All depends on how much awkwardness you can handle if things go sour.