Guy from work

[SunnyCee]

I just returned to my old job at a bookstore to find a new guy there who has recently been hired. Since it's a store, all the employees cross paths often, so I work a lot in the same area as he does. He's been pretty friendly to me, much more so than most of the employees, some whom I knew from before, some whom I didn't. He'll hang around the desk I'm at, make conversation, smile at me as we're passing, etc. I haven't seen him interact with anyone else, so I really can't compare. So that's one problem.

Then there's the other...now, I hate to stereotype, but I can't help but wonder, casually, if he might just be a really nice gay guy. Here's why: he's very well dressed (better than me), has nice hair, and is an actor. I know, I'm horrible for being so closed-minded, but it's plausible.

He's so friendly and good-looking, and I don't want to make a fool of myself. Any advice?

[WorkInProgress]

Did you want to date him, or just get to know him better?

(Maybe hold off on the dating until you know him better? I can understand about not wanting to look like an idiot about it.)

[SunnyCee]

Yeah, I'm definitely attracted to him, and he seems really cool. I just don't want to get my hopes up (again) if he's just being a nice guy, you know?

[wordsmith]

Be friendly right back. If he's gay, you'll figure it out the better you get to know him, or he'll tell you. Most of my gay friends have been able to tell when a girl is interested and not getting the gay vibe, and are usually pretty decent about nicely cluing them in if they thought the girl was cool and good friend potential.

[KCboy]

he might just be a really nice gay guy. Here's why: he's very well dressed (better than me), has nice hair, and is an actor. I know, I'm horrible for being so closed-minded, but it's plausible.

He's so friendly and good-looking, and I don't want to make a fool of myself. Any advice?

ah, the joys of stereotyping

I'd better mess up my hair or the ladies might think I play for the other team

[shusenior2003]

I am having this same thing happen to me at work. I just started about 8 weeks ago, and the guy in the cube next to me is constantly complimenting me, flirting, bantering w/ me. He is also VERY friendly and he is good looking, well dressed and I have to wonder if he is that nice gay guy stereotype too. I am beginning to think NO cause his friend that sits diagnol to me, but next to him was talking to me about him today, asking me who in the office I think is good looking. She mentioned him to see if I thought he was cute, dont know what that was about. Ask someone at work about him, just casually inquire about him to someone that knows him well!

PS: We are twenty-somethings, not teens, I swear!!! ;)

[SunnyCee]

PS: We are twenty-somethings, not teens, I swear!!! ;)


Hahahaha!
I feel the same way.

Soooo, my guy from work isn't gay! We were talking today, and he casually mentioned an ex-girlfriend, then backed up and said "I don't know why I still call her an ex...she's just a friend now, you know?" Later, we were working together and chatting, being kind of banter-y and fun. I asked what he was up to tonight, and he told me he was meeting a girl for a couple of drinks. I then spent the next hour wondering if he told me that because:
a) he doesn't want like me and doesn't want to lead me on, so he told me he has no shortage of females
b) he likes me and he wanted to let me know he's not serious with anyone
c) he likes me and he wanted to see my reaction when he mentioned another girl
d) he just told me what his plans were for the night

It's one of those things, the more I see him and interact with him, the more I like him, and thus, the more nervous I become around him.

I think there are still games being played, no matter the age.

[winneythepooh7]

Ask him if he wants to get together for drinks or coffee. What do you have to lose? Before you said he wasn't gay, I was going to say perhaps he's just a "NYC Metrosexual". I know a guy like this who is one of my fiance's friend's. He gets his nails done and eye-brows and back waxed and wears white linen pants. He knows all the latest fashion trends. But he has a live-in girlfriend and is indeed very very straight.

[AG_47]

That happened to me! I was working with this really nice guy and I thought he was cute. We were talking about what we would do if we won the lottery and his response was "I'd find a nice guy to settle down with, buy a house in the country and start a family". I had no idea he was gay. It was funny though because I thought I heard him wrong but when I started to think about it, it made sense :rolleyes: