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Deni81
10-15-2006, 05:35 PM
Ok, so I have been seeing this guy for almost a month now. We have gone on quite a few dates, text/talk on the phone several times a week and I even met some of his friends last week.
Anyways, last time we hung out and made out. He wanted to take it further, but I declined for the time being. We talked about what each person wanted from this. We both agreed we liked each other but its too soon for the boyfriend/girlfriend label. He said he respected me.
I texted him on Friday and we texted back and forth for a while. He said he had to work all this weekend. I texted him yesterday and still have not gotten a response. Normally, he is quick to respond to text messages.
Am I being paranoid or he is avoiding me? I don't want to text him again and look needy.
winneythepooh7
10-15-2006, 05:42 PM
Pick up the phone and give him a call. I personally am not big on the text message thing. A phone call is so much more personal. You can also tell by his response there if he's interested or not.
Deni81
10-15-2006, 05:50 PM
You have a good point about the text message thing. It's like instant messages, you can't read the person's emotions.
dengeist
10-15-2006, 06:06 PM
Time out, didn't he say "I have to work ALL weekend?" Maybe he's really busy?
winneythepooh7
10-15-2006, 06:08 PM
Time out, didn't he say "I have to work ALL weekend?" Maybe he's really busy?

Yeah, good call D.
Deni81
10-15-2006, 06:27 PM
Yeah I have decided to give it another day or so. It was just odd since he has called/texted me from his work. I'm going to give him the benefit of the doubt on this.

I guess the whole not taking things further combined with not hearing from him yesterday are making me overthink. Uggh.
The X
10-16-2006, 10:10 AM
Sounds like you are a prude. A month? That's a bit much waiting.
Winter Storm
10-16-2006, 10:14 AM
I think you are being paranoid. No response after one text does not equal disaster. He may have just gotten busy. I'd try and call him later to touch base.
WorkInProgress
10-16-2006, 10:18 AM
Sounds like you are a prude. A month? That's a bit much waiting.
Not necessarily.
winneythepooh7
10-16-2006, 10:22 AM
Not necessarily.

I totally agree. That wasn't a necessary comment IMHO.
The X
10-16-2006, 10:25 AM
I totally agree. That wasn't a necessary comment IMHO.
Well I disagree I think it was a necessary one!
KCboy
10-16-2006, 11:28 AM
chill out. don't over-think things and stress yourself out, it'll more than likely make you do something dumb.



If he is avoiding you, there is little you can do without looking needy and desperate.


There's probably a good reason he didn't respond, and you won't find that reason on this message board.
nxn
10-29-2006, 06:20 AM
Iv got a simular problem.. and I should take my own advice, and thats to pick up the phone and call. Like you said, he had been working all weekend, he could be still busy at work, tired, and simply forgot to reply.
Deni81
10-29-2006, 03:50 PM
We don't talk anymore, i kind of realized that he was a fun distraction from my break up and that was all. I think it helped in my healing process though to be interested in another guy for a while.

It just showed me that i am not yet ready to be in a relationship again. And i'm ok with that.
dostoy
10-31-2006, 12:18 PM
We don't talk anymore, i kind of realized that he was a fun distraction from my break up and that was all. I think it helped in my healing process though to be interested in another guy for a while.

It just showed me that i am not yet ready to be in a relationship again. And i'm ok with that.
As an aside I just want to say that I hate "I just got out of a relationship and not ready for another one" girl. I seem to meet her a lot.
Chameleon
10-31-2006, 12:21 PM
As an aside I just want to say that I hate "I just got out of a relationship and not ready for another one" girl. I seem to meet her a lot.
I take it you prefer "I'm not over my ex yet but I'm too scared to be alone" girl?
dostoy
10-31-2006, 12:36 PM
I take it you prefer "I'm not over my ex yet but I'm too scared to be alone" girl?
Yes! :heehee:
wordsmith
10-31-2006, 01:10 PM
Sometimes the "I just got out of a relationship and not ready for another one" girl is really the "I'm not at all attracted to you, but I'm trying to be polite and diplomatic" girl.
dostoy
10-31-2006, 01:13 PM
Sometimes the "I just got out of a relationship and not ready for another one" girl is really the "I'm not at all attracted to you, but I'm trying to be polite and diplomatic" girl.
Hence my dislike of said girl: she she can't recognize when greatness is staring her in the face.
ScottyTheBody
10-31-2006, 07:44 PM
I don't like the, "I dig you and think you're the greatest guy alive, but I'm crazy as a football bat" girl.

What's a football bat?
wordsmith
10-31-2006, 07:45 PM
Something crazy...