Internet Dating question

[kipper]

I'm sorry if this question has been asked a million times before, but at what point do you tell a person that you want him/her to take down his/her profile on a dating website? (Situation: You meet from a dating website - hit things off and wonder can we take our profiles off now?)

Is it rude to ask this? Is it okay to keep profiles up? What's the verdict on this?

[embrassezla]

I'd say when you're exclusive.

[CTGirl]

I'd say when you're exclusive.

Agreed, once things are serious, it's totally fine to be letting the other person know that it's making you uncomfortable to have it up there. Keep in mind though, before you get accusatory, that this person may not even be thinking about the fact that it's still up.

[wordsmith]

Once you both agree you're done dating around.

[zz4guy]

I have a different take on this...

If you are both secure enough in your relationship then it shouldn't bother you that you each have a profile up there. Because you are commited to one another.

Otherwise what is the difference between a dating site and walking down the street and having some guy ask you out while you are presnetly dating?

PS - glad to hear the online dating thing worked for you. I've had no luck. Well I've had luck meeting people but they were real psychos :eek: Oh well.

[veniqe]

Otherwise what is the difference between a dating site and walking down the street and having some guy ask you out while you are presnetly dating?

PS - glad to hear the online dating thing worked for you. I've had no luck. Well I've had luck meeting people but they were real psychos :eek: Oh well.

Well, that's a bit different. When your profile is still on a dating site, it means you're advertising the fact that you're available. Walking down a street doesn't mean you're available!! how can you compare the two??

If I send someone a mail through a dating site, I'm expecting them to be single and not taken. It's a different thing if I see a hot guy on the street and he's in a relationship.

[kipper]

I think it's true that if you are confident in a relationship you don't really care if a profile is up because I know I've put my profile up on sites that I can't even remember so the chance of me getting those down are not good. :) I hope to at some point be confident in the relationship. I've been internet dating for over a year and this is only the 2nd guy I've fallen for, but this guy well I've fallen and I kind of hate the vulnerability!

[yaddayadda99]

You don't tell them to take it down. If they are that serious about you, they will stop using the site and/or take the profile down on their own accord.

[WorkInProgress]

To answer your question, zz4guy, I totally agree with this.

Well, that's a bit different. When your profile is still on a dating site, it means you're advertising the fact that you're available. Walking down a street doesn't mean you're available!! how can you compare the two??

If I send someone a mail through a dating site, I'm expecting them to be single and not taken. It's a different thing if I see a hot guy on the street and he's in a relationship.

OP, to answer your question, I agree with embrassezla, wordsmith and CTGirl, if you're taking votes.

[wordsmith]

I agree. Choosing to leave an online dating profile active means you're still on the market. Walking down the street and thus enabling yourself to be hit on doesn't.

If you're still on the market and seeing somebody casually, that's cool. But if you talking like you're officially off the market, you need to take your profiles down (at the very least, inactive if it's an option), or it just looks like you're leaving them up "just in case," which is pretty weak.